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  • Im 17 and I want to move out of my house without parents consent

    I'm 17 and i want to know can i leave home and move in with my boyfriend an his family.I'm jut a few weeks pregnant and his parents know it they want me to live with them.and we plan on getting married as soon as possible.i know I'll be safe there.i want to know if I can choose where I want to live at 17 in Georgia without may parents permission.i haven't told my mother I'm pregnate yet because she never lets me go anywhere or even see him she's very controlling please I need help

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    re:Im 17 and I want to move out of my house without parents consent

    Hello,
    Thanks for reaching out to us during this difficult time, it sounds very scary and overwhelming. We cannot tell you what you should or shouldn’t do but can provide you with support and resources. Have you come up with a plan to talk to your Mom?
    There are agencies that can help you through this life change. Planned Parenthood at 1-800-230-7526 can put you in touch with a local clinic. It sounds like your boyfriend and his family are very involved in your life. We are glad you have a safe place to go. Keep in mind that your mom is still technically your legal guardian and if you left without permission she may make a runaway report, and police may be able to bring you back home. This is made a bit more complicated because you are pregnant. Have you thought about how that would go?
    You are more than welcome to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) to discuss your situation. We are confidential, anonymous and available 24/7. We can also be reached by chat from 4:30 to 11:30 pm CST by visiting www.1800runaway.org and clicking on the red “Live Chat” button. Good luck, we look forward to hearing from you!

    NRS

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    Last edited by ccsmod4; 09-24-2014, 06:50 AM.

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    • #3
      Hi, I'm 17 and want to move out to. My parents are divorced and my dads in another state so I live with my mom who just recently got married. Since then me and her constantly fight. Like fight after fight. Nothing physical just screaming matches. And I'm done getting treated that way. My boyfriend has his own place and said I could go there. What do I do?

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      • #4
        Re: Im 17 and I want to move out of my house without parents consent

        It sounds like you are going through a lot right now and we are glad you reached out to tell us a bit about it. You mentioned that you and your mom have recently been fighting a lot and it’s gotten to the point that you are thinking of leaving. Do you think there is anything that would help you and your mom’s relationship get back to a good place? You said that you are able to stay with your boyfriend if you did leave. It’s good that you are thinking of a safe plan if you did decide to leave home.

        Now you mentioned that you are 17 but concerned with what would happen if you left home. In most states the age of majority, when a youth is no longer considered a minor, is 18. But sometimes we hear that at 17 some local police may not take a runaway report or make a youth return back home. It’s often times best to call your local police to see how they would deal with that situation in your area. Even if you don’t want to tell them about your situation you can just call and ask a few general questions. You may want to ask questions such as…

        *at what age is a youth no longer considered a runaway?
        *If a 17 y/o leaves home without permission, do you still take a runaway report?
        *If yes: what happens if/when that youth is found?

        Please keep in mind if you would like to discuss your situation more in depth you can always contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Our hotline is available 24 hours a day. You can also reach out to us through our live chat that is available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST. All of our services are completely confidential and anonymous. While we can’t tell you what to do there is always someone available to provide support, discuss options, and even find helpful resources in your area. Please feel free to reach out to us anytime. Take care.
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

        National Runaway Safeline
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        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
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        • #5
          im 15

          I want to move out asap, so im hoping I can at the age 17. My mother and I are always argueing, over my dads side of the family and it drives me crazy!

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          • #6
            Re: im 15

            Hello,

            Thanks for reaching out to us. Sounds like things are very intense for you right now so we’re glad that you’re trying to find some options.

            It sounds like you’re trying to find options for when you turn 17. Do you think that a lot will change between now and then and maybe you’ll have a better idea of what you want then? Also, the legal age of adulthood in most states is 18, which means you can’t really decide where you get to live just yet. Do you think your mom will let you live somewhere else at that point?

            If you’d like to explore options for how to handle this situation now or when you’re 17, we’re here to help. Please call out hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and speak with someone about your situation. That way we can explore everything that might be available to you. We’re anonymous, confidential and available 24/7. If the phone doesn’t work, you can try our live chat from our website from 430p-1130p (central standard time).

            Hope to hear from you soon.
            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

            National Runaway Safeline
            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
            Tell us what you think about your experience!
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            • #7
              17 and cant stay home

              hi, im 17 and i basically take care of myself. my mom and dad dont like my attitude and we argue almost everyday. and when we dont argue we are avoiding each other. its very stressful for me to go to school, go to work and come home to no peace. i reall need/want to move out asap. are there any options for me?

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              • #8
                17 and can't stay home

                First, thanks for your question! That sounds very difficult, and we can imagine that it's very hard for you to try and juggle so much.

                It's understandable that you would like to move out. Depending on your location, however, there may be some laws that prevent minors from leaving home without being reported as a runaway or a missing youth. In some states at the age of 17 police may not take a runaway report or make a youth return home. Sometimes the best way to get the most accurate information is to contact the local police in your area on a non emergency line and just ask some questions about age of majority and how they would deal with a 17 year old in your area if they left home.

                Other options that might be helpful are counseling or family support services. Our hotline (24/7, confidential, and anonymous) is always available with well-trained volunteers who can help you work through whatever you're dealing with, so please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you would like to discuss your situation more in depth. There is always someone here to listen.
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                National Runaway Safeline
                info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                Tell us what you think about your experience!
                https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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                • #9
                  im 17 years old and 5 months!!!

                  I want to to to florida and look at college oppertonities before I move there in febuary my mom said yes but my dad said no there for I couldn't to.. What can I do to legaly be able to to visit florida before I'm 18? I have a job.. I graduate from high school next month What can I do..

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                  • #10
                    RE: im 17 years old and 5 months!!!

                    Hello,

                    Thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you are concerned about being able to visit Florida legally without your father’s permission. Just to let you know, we are not lawyers and cannot give legal advice. Technically, it is not against the law to run away. In most places it’s considered a status offence. However, anyone that you are caught staying with could be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’ should your dad decide to press charges.

                    It sounds like you are going to look at colleges, and not to run away from home. Have you tried talking to your dad about how important this opportunity is to you? Sometimes it can be helpful to have a third party talk to your legal guardian about what is going on. Here at the National Runaway Safeline we offer conference calls with your legal guardians to help keep the lines of communication open.

                    We are available for you 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or by live chat at www.1800ruanway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck!
                    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                    National Runaway Safeline
                    info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                    https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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                    • #11
                      I'm 17 and wanna move out

                      My living condition isn't physically abusive but it is mentally to the point where I feel like I'm just no good to anyone and I wanna just end everything. As a child I had a pretty bad childhood. My grandma has been trying to get it where I can live with her when i was littler. My mom has already had child protective services called on her before, my grandma said I am more then welcome to live with her. Do you think that's possible if I went to the police and explained it to them? My grandma would even let them keep all the money that she would get for me.I live in michigan and I just wanna leave, I'm 17 I should be happy, not crying myself to sleep every night.

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                      • #12
                        Thank you for reaching out to us and telling your story. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now and it was very brave of you to contact us. Now, we aren’t legally trained here so we wouldn’t be able to tell you specifically what would happen but we can definitely give you some ideas of what might happen.

                        It sounds like you are currently living with your mom and she is mentally abusive towards you. We are sorry to hear that; nobody deserves to feel unsafe or sad at home. You also mentioned that CPS had already been involved; what happened with them?

                        Again, we aren’t legally trained here so we wouldn’t know for sure what would happen if you called the police. In most states, once you turn 18, you are considered a legal adult but some states recognize that if a youth is very close to 18. That means that the police may tell you it’s ok to live with your grandma but they may also say that you have to stay home until you turn 18. Also, if you leave before you are 18, your mom may have the option to file a runaway report with the police.

                        We are sorry if this all seems confusing or frustrating but we want you to have as much information as possible before you make a decision. We are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week if you would like to call and talk more about what’s going on. We can also help you make conference calls to agencies or the police if you would like. Our hotline number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); we also have online chat services that are available from 4:30 PM-11:30 PM (CST) if you would like to contact us that way instead.

                        We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

                        ~NRS
                        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                        National Runaway Safeline
                        info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                        https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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                        • #13
                          Hi , I'm 17 and I want to move out without my parents consent.

                          I'm having to many problems at home and my parents are very over protective and they also treat me like if I'm worthless and invisible. My parents always call me names and treat me like crap and so on .. I'm tired of living here. I've ran away like 4 times this year and my mom chose my father over me so I got sent to Houston, Texas with my aunt for almost 3 months. I came back about a month ago and the same things I was getting put through is coming back again. I don't want to live with any family relatives , I just want to move in with my boyfriend and his family . I already talked to them and they said that they support me and that I can live with them. I just need to leave legally but I know my parents won't let me leave so , what can I do?

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                          • #14
                            Re: Im 17 and I want to move out of my house without parents consent

                            Thank you for reaching out to us, we're glad that you did. It sounds like you’ve been going through a tough time and you’re frustrated. Since you mentioned your parents won't let you legally leave home right now, there may be other options that you can try to make the situation a bit better, for now. There are services available that can provide family counseling for you and your parents, if that’s something you’d like to try. There is also the Kinder Emergency shelter in Houston if you feel that is an option. They provide a variety of services in addition to shelter which you can find out more about here: http://www.hc-ps.org/services_provided.htm

                            If you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we can help locate additional resources in your area. We’re available 24/7 to listen talk through any concerns you may have; please feel free to call us anytime. You can also reach us by Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30 to 11:30 pm CST. Simply visit our main page, www.1800runaway.org and click on the red "Live Chat" button.
                            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:



                            National Runaway Safeline
                            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                            Tell us what you think about your experience!
                            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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                            • #15
                              Need to leave

                              hello..i have just recently turned 17 and im ready to move out..sense i was four i have been taking care of my two brothers and my very sick mother. i have been struggling with depression for a few years now and this school im attend isnt helping any with me being bullied. in the past few months i have attempted suicide and every time my brother has found me before i have died. my mother is always telling me i need to grow up and stop being a thorn in her side. i feel as if im not wanted here anymore and to be honest i cant take it!!!!. a few weeks ago i went and stayed about a month with my boyfriend in indiana and i found a job, a car, and he has his own house. i feel as if me moving in with him would be the best thing for everyone, but my mom just now decided to be a real mother and she wont let me leave. i have tryed to explain to her that things will be better but she doesnt want to listen. i have read somewhere that me being 17 if i was to leave they could not report me as a runaway, my mom told me if i leave she will call the cops saying i have ran away and if that doesnt bring me home she will call saying my 20 year old boyfriend has kidnapped me....i dont know what to do i can not continue being unhappy and wishing for death.. i need to prove to her that she raised a hard working young women and that i can take care of myself...how do i go about this without hurting everyone i love? and dont think im doing this for the boy...ive been wanting to do this for years hes just helping

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