Hi okay this might be sort of long please buckle in.
I had a sixteen year old runaway (my high school best friends niece) show up at my door today. she ran away from home because her father is in prison, and her mother is on house arrest, but she hasn’t lived with her mother since she was twelve because of abuse reasons. she has been staying with her aunt and grand parents for as long as I’ve known her. I stopped taking to the “adults,” in that house a while ago. mostly for drinking and pot smoking reasons. but I’ve had some contact with the young lady (I use to baby sit her and now she baby sits my kids) and my sister is also friends with this whole family. and lately its been really shaky, I just learned that my brother in law was having an affair with the run aways little sister (shes 14) and no one did anything about it in the house and when I called and tried to report it they said it was too far removed because I never saw it. but now the one who was involved in that situation is back at her moms and my brother in law left the city (the brother in law is almost forth) so that’s the sort of situation that goes on in that house.
now I guess a week ago they learned that they all have to move, but there’s no place for the girl who came to my house to go. Because she doesn’t want to live with the guy her mom wants her to live with because shes not comfortable since she doesn’t know him well and hes not family. and the mom wont let her live there and the aunt and grandparents are all going their separate ways.
I just returned her to her mothers, got reamed at by the cop that was there for not doing it sooner. she was here for about three hours and that whole time was spent trying to contact her family and encourage her to talk to someone and let them know where shes at because she wouldn’t give me her mothers number and threatened to leave if I called her aunt/grand mom so yeah it was a lot of stress and coaxing her to contact or allow me to contact people and I’m not really thrilled with how we were treated when I finally managed to get her home.
Now I’m really worried that the cop is just going to leave her there without listening to her or looking further into the situation. So I guess my question is, what can I do? I would take her in, provided I have the consent of her mother. and make sure she got to school and maybe even a job if she wants. I have three small kids of my own and I’m pre-med. But I don’t have any way of getting ahold of her and I doubt her mom will let me in the house (last time I saw the mother she was on drugs and wouldn’t come out of a mutual friends closet for a week) I don’t even know if she’s still going to be there or at her grandparents or what. I just want to know she’s okay, not running the streets. because I know she’s going to leave again.
I had a sixteen year old runaway (my high school best friends niece) show up at my door today. she ran away from home because her father is in prison, and her mother is on house arrest, but she hasn’t lived with her mother since she was twelve because of abuse reasons. she has been staying with her aunt and grand parents for as long as I’ve known her. I stopped taking to the “adults,” in that house a while ago. mostly for drinking and pot smoking reasons. but I’ve had some contact with the young lady (I use to baby sit her and now she baby sits my kids) and my sister is also friends with this whole family. and lately its been really shaky, I just learned that my brother in law was having an affair with the run aways little sister (shes 14) and no one did anything about it in the house and when I called and tried to report it they said it was too far removed because I never saw it. but now the one who was involved in that situation is back at her moms and my brother in law left the city (the brother in law is almost forth) so that’s the sort of situation that goes on in that house.
now I guess a week ago they learned that they all have to move, but there’s no place for the girl who came to my house to go. Because she doesn’t want to live with the guy her mom wants her to live with because shes not comfortable since she doesn’t know him well and hes not family. and the mom wont let her live there and the aunt and grandparents are all going their separate ways.
I just returned her to her mothers, got reamed at by the cop that was there for not doing it sooner. she was here for about three hours and that whole time was spent trying to contact her family and encourage her to talk to someone and let them know where shes at because she wouldn’t give me her mothers number and threatened to leave if I called her aunt/grand mom so yeah it was a lot of stress and coaxing her to contact or allow me to contact people and I’m not really thrilled with how we were treated when I finally managed to get her home.
Now I’m really worried that the cop is just going to leave her there without listening to her or looking further into the situation. So I guess my question is, what can I do? I would take her in, provided I have the consent of her mother. and make sure she got to school and maybe even a job if she wants. I have three small kids of my own and I’m pre-med. But I don’t have any way of getting ahold of her and I doubt her mom will let me in the house (last time I saw the mother she was on drugs and wouldn’t come out of a mutual friends closet for a week) I don’t even know if she’s still going to be there or at her grandparents or what. I just want to know she’s okay, not running the streets. because I know she’s going to leave again.
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