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  • ccsmod2
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    Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are sorry to hear that you got into trouble while driving. We are not legal experts so you want to contact legal aid or your local juvenile court because we can only give you general information. It may be best if you contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat so that we can assist you with additional questions.

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    I don’t live with my parents and I’m 17 years old. I just got into a bit of trouble regarding backing into a gas pump and at my hearing the judge sentenced me to live with my mother again. The law in Michigan states that its legal to live on you’re own at 17 so I guess I just have questions... help???

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi, we are really glad that you contacted us with all that you are going through and feeling and experiencing, know that we are here to listen and help. Losing both of your parents and your brother, and losing your mom only 8 months ago, it is understandable that you are experiencing deep depression and suicidal feelings. Please know that we are here for you to help you talk about feeling suicidal and depression and all the losses you’ve suffered. Another resource is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255.

    Losing your father, brother, and mother and then having to live with your strict grandparents, then their friends (for pay), this is another loss for you to cope with. We can help you sort through some of this. We are so sorry for all that you are going through and can imagine how hard it’s been for you.
    Specifically to your question: in Michigan, the age of majority is 18 so until then, if your grandparents choose to, they can get the cops involved. We may be able to help there if you’d like. One way is that we could facilitate a conference call between you and one of your grandparents; we would act as your advocate in talking the matter over and perhaps gain their permission. We may also be able to locate a legal referral for you, or simply talk over the options that you do have. We are very glad that your friends want to help you. You deserve friends like that. You deserve to be treated with dignity and understanding.

    You’ve found us, and that is great. The part of you that is scared of suicidal thoughts is the part of you that wants to live, and lives in hope that you won’t always feel like this and so you have been so brave already and pushed that bravery even more to reach out for help. Please feel proud of yourself for that. You deserve to live and have your life and to be treated with kindness. We hope that you will call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are here for you by phone 24/7. We also have a chat service through the website for availability.If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

    Take care and stay strong!

    NRS

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    hi im 17 I live in michigan and lost both my parents and brother but lost my mom 8 months ago my grandparents have legal guardianship but I live with one of their friends because their too strict but I want to move out where I live now because my depression is getting a lot worst where I'm having suicidal thoughts and its even scares the ******** out of me but the people I live with are really good people except they make my pay 1k a month just for food and a small room but just living here doesnt make me happy so I have a friend whose mom will let me live there free I would just have to pay for my groceries ill be a senior next year but ill be graduating a semester early I just wanna know if i can move to my friends with no permission without the cops being able to get involved

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From your email to us here, we can see that you have very similar questions to a lot of our callers and you’re looking for some answers. It’s great that you were able to find out some information about our hotline. Hopefully we can help.

    Legally you are a minor and under your guardian’s supervision until you are 18 or are emancipated by a court of law. If you decide to leave home before then your guardians could file a runaway report on you. Running away is not a crime, but it is a status offense. We have legal aid resources in our database. While we’re not law experts, we can try to find one in your area, there may be legal ways for you to be able to move out. We’re here to try to brainstorm options with you.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. You are always welcome to call into our 24/7 crisis center, or use our chatting services via our website. However, the chatting service is not open 24/7. So the best way to tell us everything would be to just call into our hotline and talk to one of our trained liners.

    Be safe, NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm currently in Portland Oregon, I am 17 have a job. My job needs me to go to Idaho for 10 day's. Do I need my parents permission to go, because they are not letting me and it will cost me my job.

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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi there, thanks so much for reaching out! It sounds like home is really a stressful environment. You do deserve to be accepted by your family and do not deserve them mocking your weight or appearance.
    We support you and are here to help!

    As far as leaving home, 18 is the legal age in most states when you can leave home. Leaving before that, your parents may be able to file a runaway report; however, it depends on the police department and if they accept run reports for 17 year olds and how they handle the situation if they do accept the report. You can call your local police station and ask anonymously about how they handle runaway reporting. We can also conference call with you if you call us here:1-800-786-2929.

    You deserve support. We are here 24/7 to chat live online and on the phone. There are also other resources for you too: LGBT National Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743 and It Gets Better Project at itgetsbetter.org.

    We are non-judgmental and you know your situation best, however, we do have another resource you may benefit from regarding what you mentioned about some of your family's comments. If you feel it is not a good fit, you know yourself and your situation best so please do what is best for you: National Eating Disorder Association 1-800-931-2237, nationaleatingdisorders.org.

    We are here 24/7. Please call anytime: 1-800-786-2929.

    You are strong and brave for reaching out!

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    Hi, I'm 17 and I am not in a very healthy living environment. My parents make it seem like I have to earn the right to eat and make fat jokes about me non-stop. They are also homophobic, even though I am a Lesbian, and make gay jokes referencing them towards me. I no longer feel comfortable staying at "Home". It's like the moment they see my face or hear my voice something switches and all they do is yell. There are no conversations in my household, only screaming matches. I also suffer from untreated depression and anxiety. I don't believe I can hang on much longer

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    After reading your post we found that there are some similarities that you share with other users. We have attached a response that we have given to another user that we think might be useful for you as well. We care about you and want you to be safe. If you have any follow up questions please feel free to give us a call anytime. 1-800-786-2929
    [QUOTE re: I'm about to be 17 and need to know all the facts before fully move out
    Hey there,
    Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way that we can. From what you shared, it sounds like you are ready to leave your home and start your own life.
    We want you to know that we are not legal experts here, which means that we are only able to speak about your situation in general terms. In most states, you would still be considered a minor which means that if you were to leave, your parents are allowed to contact the local police department and file a runaway report. If a report is filed and you are found, typically you would be forced to return home. Another factor you may want to keep in mind is that the person allowing you to live with them could potentially be charged with harboring a runaway, the charges for that can vary from fines to jail time. As we mentioned, we are not legal experts here. If you wanted more accurate answers, we would encourage you to reach out to your local police department and ask some general questions. If you wanted to know more information about what you can do, legally, we would encourage you to reach out to us and we will be able to point you in the right direction.
    We hope that we were able to help you think a little more about your options and brainstorm some more with you, if you feel like you would still need some more support or go through some more options, please feel free to reach out to us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7. We also have a live chat service which is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do and hope to hear from you soon.
    Stay strong,
    NRS
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    My mom is a living hell im 15 she wont teach me how to drive and she always takes my money when i ask for her money she says no. She has anger issues every small thing she takes to the heart even family notices this people way older than me. i love my mom but im ready to out at 17 we just cant get along ready to move our can i?
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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like rules at home have become unreasonable for you and you would like to move in with a friend and their family. You questioned if you can legally move out without your mothers consent. We are not legal experts but generally speaking a person is not considered an adult until they are 18. This means that their guardians are legally responsible for them. So the parent is required by law to provide for the youth (food, shelter, school, etc.) If they fail to do so then they can face legal consequences. This also means that the youth cannot live anywhere else without parents’ consent. There are exceptions to this rule but those include getting the court involved such as emancipation or Child Protective Services removing the parent’s rights. If you were to leave home without her permission she does have the right to report you as a runaway to the police. But since you are 17, at this point it is up to police officers discretion if they would peruse looking for you. IF you have more questions about runaway laws in your state it would be best to contact your local non-emergency police.
    Again, thank you for reaching out. We hope this information helps. If you have any follow up questions please give us a call. 1-800-786-2929
    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think.
    Last edited by ccsmod0; 04-07-2018, 03:25 PM.

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    Guest replied
    i am 17 years old will be 18 on september 13th I need out of mu house just too much rule and junk and I wanna move in with my best friend her hubby and there kid in a good apartment in the same town, but my parents wont let me so cam i legally move out without my moms consent? Or if she called the police would I get in trouble

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hello,
    We appreciate you taking the time to contact us! It can be difficult to open up and share your story, and we are more than happy to help you in every way possible.
    We completely understand where your frustration is coming from, and applaud you for handling it responsibly and respectfully. You are taking matters into your own hands, which is a very mature thing to do. Since it does sound like you are wanting to leave home, the next steps would be to figure out where you can legally go. You are a minor, so with a parent’s or legal guardian’s permission, you are free to live elsewhere. If you are comfortable, you might want to reach out to your father either about being able to live with him instead of your mother, or for permission to live elsewhere. Remember that you can give us a call any time at 1-800-786-2929 to further discuss these options or formulate a plan that you are comfortable with.
    We want you to know that you are not alone. We hear you and your voice matters to us. It can be difficult dealing with all these emotions, especially when you are being treated unfairly at home like you described; if these feelings become too much to handle, you can also always call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. Best of luck moving forward, and we hope to hear from you soon!
    Stay strong,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 16, 17 in September and my home life is honestly terrible. My mother's boyfriend constantly talks ******** to her about me and tells her I don't deserve to do things or get things. I've heard him doing it. He keeps me fairly isolated from her because he's always, always around her and in the rare moments we're alone, he calls her on her phone and talks to her. He talks ******** to me and degrades me to the point where I want to kill myself and while I'm not going to try it. It's a bad headspace to be in. I've told my mom these things and she immediately jumps to his defense and tells me that I need to be nicer to him. I have a boyfriend who turns 17 eleven days before I do, and we've been talking about moving in together. His parents give him permission to leave at 17, and I haven't even mentioned anything of the sort to mine, because they'll shut me down immediately.
    I lived with my dad until August, where they went to court for custody of me and I chose to go with my mother, with the option to move back with him if I wanted to. And I've tried. I faxed the friend of the court a letter like they told me I had to five months ago,and never got any response. My dad finally filed some paperwork and within a month he had a court date with my mother, and got visiting right back after she didn't let me and my sister go to his house for 2 months. Which might not seem like a long time, but when you are constantly bombarded, it's an eternity. I have three younger siblings, a full sister and two half brothers, and all three of them treat me like ******** because they see my parents do it. My sister gets a lot of it too, though. She just turned 15 and has the biggest attitude problem I've ever seen. I'm quite and introverted. I don't talk back, I don't slam doors, I don't stomp or roll my eyes or anything.
    I do not know what else to do. I think I can manage another 6 months like this, but if I have to wait until I'm 18 I'm going to enter adulthood with no money, no job, which I haven't gotten because I have no transportation since we live in the middle of nowhere, and I'll have to give 3/4 of my rent to my mom and her boyfriend for rent AND buy my own food. I don't have a cell phone; they tell me they'll smash any device I bring into their house. I don't know what to do at this point and in openly considering leaving when I'm 17.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’ve been going through such a tough time, but we are here to support you and help you in any way we can. That sounds so hurtful to be treated that way by your dad. That sounds stressful to have your brothers moving out soon.

    We want you to know that no one deserves to be treated that way by your dad, and you should not have to go through that. Just so you’re aware, your dad is not actually able to kick you out of the home. He has a legal obligation to care for you until you are a legal adult. Also, if you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the things you’ve been experiencing. You mentioned that your dad works as the head of discipline at your school, but if you’re able to video or audio record the things your dad has been doing, it may be easier to prove to others what’s been going on. If you want more information about reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or you could call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online. Also, if you ever feel that you are in danger, you could call 911 for immediate help.

    You mentioned that you were concerned about being able to stay in school if you leave home. You have a right to receive schooling despite your situation through the McKinney Vento Act. If you have questions about this law, you could contact the National Center for Homeless Education Helpline at 1-800-308-2145.

    It sounds like you were considering leaving home, but that you were concerned about where to go. If you do decide to leave home, it may be helpful to think through a specific plan to make sure you stay safe. You could think about where you would go and how long you would stay away from home. You could consider how you would pay for food, clothing and other necessary supplies. You could also form a plan for how you would stay in school, how you would pay for any transportation, and what you would do if you feel that you’re in danger. If you want to talk through a plan more, you could call us or chat with us online.

    If you haven’t already, you could consider reaching out to a trusted adult, relative, worker/teacher/counselor at your school for help and support. If you haven’t, you could also consider talking to your parents about how you’ve been feeling or having someone else help you talk to them.

    There are also many resources that could help you find a safe place if you’re in need, talk through what’s been going on, or help you with anything else you may need. If you want to talk more about what’s been going on, or if you would like more information about resources, you can call us or chat with us online.

    Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.
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