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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what is going on. It seems like being home schooled and not having a way to speak to anyone can feel incredibly isolating. Identifying an unhealthy situation takes a lot of maturity and we are glad to hear that you have been able to talk to your friend about your experience at home.

    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. In order to stay with your friend and their grandmother, there is a likely chance that you will need consent from your parents. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police, your local family court, or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    For additional information on attending school while living outside of your parents’ home, it may be helpful to reach out to school personnel of the school you wish to attend in order to gain more specific information.
    Another resource that may be helpful is the National Center for Homeless Education. You can find information for your State Coordinator and access your Local Liaison Directory at https://nche.ed.gov/.
    We are here to offer as much help and support as we can. We can best help by phone or chat, as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 15 and I want to run away because my parents are basically trapping me in my house by homeschooling me and not letting me have a phone to talk to anyone. My parents also said once i'm 16 I can move out but not come back. My best friend said I can live with her and her grandmother and I want to go but I want to go to public school and finish my education so I can go to college. Can you help me?

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi, we are glad you reached out to us for help with getting into school for September. There are several resources available to help kids in your situation access school and get registered.

    You can start this process on your own or it might be easier if you contact us and we help you step through it.

    The federal program, the National Center for Homeless Education, has a website at nche.ed.gov. On this website you can find the local resource in your state and county. The government program refers to the local resource person as the McKinney Vento Liaison. This is an advocate who may be able to assist you with finishing school.

    There are other local Runaway Homeless Youth Programs that we have access to that will also be able to help. If you chat with us through our website or call our crisis hotline at (800) RUNAWAY, we can get the details on your specific situation and get you to the best RHY resource. Both the chat and crisis line are available 24/7 and both are completely confidential.

    We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi im 15 ill be 16 sept 3 im tryna finish school im in the 10 now my last grade was 9th but I ran this year in January so didn't finish im very smart I just need school plz I refuse to be dumb

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by forum to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    15 years old and want to run away but only has a few more weeks of school left

    Hey, I want to run away but I'm concerned that I might not graduate the 8th grade. I only have 4 more weeks of school eft, I can't wait that long. Also you all probably won't answer this because your all busy, but can I stay with my boyfriend if I dont want to go home? If his mom is okay with it can I stay?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there!

    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. We're sorry to hear that you're having family problems that are causing you to want to runaway--that sounds like a really tough spot to be in.

    Running away is a big move, and it's generally a good idea to spend some time thinking through a plan before making that decision. Consider where you'll go, how you'll get there, and what you'll do to survive once there. Going to school is definitely still a possibility thanks to the McKinney-Vento Act, which allows homeless children and unaccompanied youth to register for school without providing most of the normal information they'd usually have to provide to enroll, or a parent to enroll them, and they can start school immediately. What might pose a problem with giving a fake name and/or age is that from that point on, your school records will be under that name and age. If you were to finish high school under the McKinney-Vento Act, you'd likely have a tough time trying to get into college down the line because you'd have no proof that you are who you say you are. If you went back to your old name at that point, your school records wouldn't match.

    That said, enrolling in school shouldn't necessarily get you caught in itself. School officials should only contact Child Protective Services if there are suspicions of abuse, and being without a parent or guardian is generally not considered grounds for an abuse report based on neglect. It's possible that you might get caught if your parents were to file a missing persons report, which is certainly something to be aware of.

    If you have any other questions or would like to chat in more detail about your situation, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY, or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi I'm a 11 year old girl who wants to run away because of family problems first off if I change my name, my age everything about me and runaway to a different state which is Illinois, will I still be able to go to a different school but in Illinois without getting caught?
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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your dad. You do not deserve to be called names, and we are very sorry for the loss of your mother. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello I am 17 years old and I suffer from major emotional abuse from my dad after my mom died every day is a constant argument about something dumb and he calls me names and puts me down and basically just manipulates me into feeling bad and then apologizes after I leave to go to work or something. I can’t mentally take living there anymore and I feel like leaving is the best option as of right now I just don’t wanna spend my last 3 months near or around him but I still really wanna finish school but I plan on leaving to a different state in Indiana but I’m not sure if it would work out.

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what's been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. You mentioned that you were thinking about emancipation as a means to leave home. Emancipation laws vary from state to state so it may be a good idea to work with a local legal aid group for more information about emancipation in your state.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hello! my friend and i are 14 and are thinking about running away. we both dont like our living situations and we cant think of a better option. we have somewhere to stay and money that we saved up. if the police find out where we are would we have to go back to our house? we were thinking about getting emancipated too but we dont want to face our parents in court or have to live with them if it doesnt work out.

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  • ccsmod3
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. You have a right to go to school no matter where you are. It's an Act called the Mckinney-Vento Act which entitles you to an education no matter what your status (homeless, runaway, etc). What you'd need to do is talk to the Homeless Education Liasion when you get there and find out what proper steps you need to take. You can also reach out to the National Center for Homeless Educational Helpline and they can be reached at 1-800-308-2145.

    A runaway shelter will probably house you for 24-72 hours regardless of your situation but again, because you are minors, after that, they may have authorities or your family contacted. Some shelters do have 'transitional housing' that sometimes allow people to live there but those are few and far between. That would be a great topic to discuss with a social worker at the shelter to see if she can connect you with any available options and if your situation would qualify.

    Hopefully some of that stuff helps but it sounds like your situation is much more complicated than that. If you'd like to explore this some more, you can call our crisis hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We can see what else might be available to you.

    Best of luck and hope to hear from you soon.
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    15 year old

    I am fifteen years old and it is my plan to run away when I turn 16. I read over some different responses to questions posted on this site, but I still wanted to ask some questions.

    I want to complete high school and go to college afterwards. I realize I will always be entitled an education, but I don't necessarily know how to contact a high school anywhere without there being an alert and giving myself up. Could I enter a high school by myself with no identification? I also need a job to pay for college when the time comes. Living conditions is another big issue. I plan on leaving with simply a bike to avoid being tracked (maybe a car until i get a good distance away) so is it possible to stay in places each night as I get further and further? Thank you for helping me out.

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    If you leave home before the age of 18, your parents can report you as a runaway to the police. If they know where you are located, they could send the police to pick you up and bring you home. Some police stations are a little more lax when you are 17, but it may be helpful for you to call your local nonemergency police phone number. In order to transfer schools and enroll in a new school, you will most likely need your guardians' consent. This is a question better answered by the schools themselves, as we are not legal experts. You can always contact us through our phone number or chat to discuss your situation in more detail.

    Best of luck,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
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