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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you are living in such an intense household where it sounds like nobody is very happy. It makes sense for you want to leave that kind of environment and it makes sense that you do not want to stay in a state facility.

    While we are not legal experts, we do have a great deal of experience working with runaway youths. It is our understanding that running away is NOT illegal. You will not be arrested for it or charged with anything if you do run away. However, if you choose to do so, your mom can file a runaway report with the police. This would allow the police to notify her and return you to her if you encountered them. If you stay with a friend, your mom would have the option of trying to charge them with harboring a runaway. Typically, this is considered a misdemeanor offense and treated with a fine and it requires your mom to actively pursue charges.

    If you have any other questions or need anything clarified, please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    17 in 5 months wants to run away


    Hi,im from California and am going to be 17 in 5 months, i dont think i can wait that long. Me amd my mother dont get along and it gets physical between us two on both ends as well as verbally abusive on both ends as well. My mother wont keep me home if i dont want to stay but she would put me in a state facility. A place i DO NOT want to go under any circumstances. If i do choose ro runaway it would be to Montana. So i guess my question is if i runway will i be arrested or charged in either state? And if i stay with a friend who has a place will he be charged for hardoring a runway? Hes 18.

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your dad has made your living conditions so miserable. If your dad has a substance problem and is not providing you with a safe and sanitary place to live, that could be considered neglect- a form of abuse. It might be in your best interest to file an abuse report if you would like to leave. You can learn more about that process or file such a report by calling out to the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453. We can also look for transitional living programs in your area that may be able to house you. If you would like to talk about either option or whatever other options that may exist, please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-786-2929.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    So i been living with my dad and i don't want to anymore.i can't take it. He is constantly drinkimg and we have bed bugs.now cuz of him... I hate bugs.. Please someome help me
    im 17

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension - you shouldn't be berated and treated with malice by your family. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. You mentioned that your family has told you that you need to leave and find elsewhere to stay. If they do ever kick you out of the home it can be considered neglect and you have the right to report this to Child Protective Services. If this happens and you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home without your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned to your parents.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I’m 17 and live in Tennessee. My family blames me for everything and makes me feel like I am a terrible person all around, when no one else thinks of me this way. They barade me with hate and make me feel like I’m not welcome or loved. I’m even told that I need to leave and find somewhere else to stay. I have my own job, and have had this job for almost a year. I don’t graduate for another year, but I don’t want to live with my family anymore. Would I get into any trouble for living with a friend, boyfriend, etc. without my parents permissin? Can I move out legally?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    Thank you for your message. It sounds like you’re in a very difficult situation. You don’t deserve to be abused in any way and it’s understandable that you would want to leave that situation. We’re glad that you have someone you’ll be able to stay with. You asked about leaving home once you get your diploma. We aren’t legal experts here, but very generally speaking, your mom could file a runaway report with local police if you leave. The police are generally supposed to look for you, but as an almost-18 year old in a large city, it may not be a top priority for the police to bring you home. If it comes to it, you might also consider calling CCBYS (comprehensive community-based youth services); this referral line can get you in touch with a social services agency that will send a crisis worker to meet you within two hours. That number is 1-877-870-2663. Again, thank you so much for reaching out. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to us by phone at 1-800-786-2929 if you need any support, resources, or just someone to talk to. We wish you the very best. Stay strong and stay safe!
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm currently a 17 year old senior in high school and live in Chicago, IL.

    I want to move out during the summer, but i won't be 18 till august. My mom is verbally abusive and controlling. I want to move in with my sister(24) who would be okay with it, but my mom refuses to let me leave til im 18. After I get my diploma, will i be able to move out without her being able to file me as missing person?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    Thank you for your message. It sounds like you’re in a scary situation and it takes a lot of courage to reach out for support. You do not deserve to be abused in any way—no one does. If you’d like, you have the right to file an abuse report with Child Protective Services; for more information on what that looks like and what might happen if you file a report, you can call Child Help (aka the National Child Abuse Hotline) and 1-800-422-4453. That being said, we understand if that is not an option you’re interested in.
    It sounds like you’re planning to run away and have done some of the work of figuring out a place to stay. That’s really smart of you and helps keep you safe. You ask about the possibility of the folks you’re staying with getting in trouble legally. We aren’t legal experts here, but we do have a long history of talking with young people in situations like yours. From what we know, there is a possibility of your friend’s parents (and/or your friend, if he is a legal adult) being charged with something called “harboring a runaway.” We do not hear about this charge happening very often, especially in situations where the young person is being abused. If they do get charged, harboring is typically considered a misdemeanor resulting in a fine or possibly jail time.
    As far as school, you may want to have an adult reach out to the school you’d like to attend to ask about the situation. If possible, the person to speak to would be the “homeless youth liaison” or “homeless youth advocate.” If there are youth programs around, they may also be able to guide you in the process of getting enrolled in school. Finally, there is a great resource called the National Center for Homeless Education; their helpline is 1-800-308-2145.
    Thank you again for your message. If you’d like to talk further, feel free to call 1-800-786-2929 or use our live chat at https://m2.icarol.com/ConsumerRegist...d=254&cc=en-US . We are here 24/7 to listen, provide resources, and help you think through your options. Stay safe and stay strong!
    Kindly,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    need help

    im 17 (turn 18 in january) and i live in florida with my physically and emotionally abusive mother and i plan to run away to ohio in the summer after finishing junior year. i have a place to stay lined up but i am not sure about how to enroll in school to complete my senior year of high scjool. in addition to this, i am worried about the possibility of my friend and his family being faced with legal punishment for helping me... i don't know what to do... i absolutely need to leave but i don't want to put them in any danger and i really need some straight answers... different websites say different things about the law and it's all so confusing (i want to talk to your crisis line but i cannot call and im not sure if you have a crisis line accessible via text)

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out for help.

    We are sorry to hear that things are hard at school. Moving to a new city and school can be hard. Talking to a school counselor or calling SAMHSA at 1-877-726-4727 can be helpful in many situations. Family counseling can be helpful in many situations. We also offer a conference call service where we can do a 3 way call and help advocate for you and try come to a common ground. It sounds like you have been thinking about leaving home. While we are not legal experts if you are to leave home without your legal guardians permission and a police report is filed police can bring you back home and whoever you stay with could be charged with harboring a runaway. However at 17 some states may not pursue a runaway. In some cases the police may not pursue a runaway at 17. It is best to call the local police department emergency number to find that out. If you call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) we can listen to you, explore your situation and provide any resources.

    This seems like a hard situation and you are doing great by reaching out for help. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

    Best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello, I am 17.
    I wouldn't be turning 18 until September 17 but I am really desperate to move. I can't say I am in physical danger. It is more of my schooling situation. I moved with my dad from California to Colorado in June 2018 and I can't stand the schools out here. They have been putting a lot of stress on me, plus I am in the condense state of building up anxiety until I have panic attacks that never happened before in California. Since I moved out here my mom and two little brothers moved in with me during the end of the summer. Despite my dad's bad commit issues and their fighting (only verbal as far as I know) she was gonna move back this month in Feburary 22nd when taxes came in for her but she decided against it cause my little brother in middle school is doing good. I have tried over and over again to talk her into a school like my old one but had no success. I want to move in my grandma (who will let me) but I need advice on whether it is legal to move at 17 from Colorado to California and what I should do. I need to return as soon as I can to get back to the blended-charter school I used to go to. I did so good in that school without nearly as much stress as these schools in Colorado put me under. Please help. I really need it.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live into a home with so much tension. No one deserves to be touched in a manner that they did not consent to and are not comfortable with. If you feel like you are in immediate danger we recommend calling 911 or other emergency services.

    It seems like you have a difficult situation at hand and you’re trying to decide what is best to do. If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    All the best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    want to move out roommats took id cops siding with them. I have place to go. roommat sexal tuching me cops arnt doing nothing?i have plain tickit.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We understand you can be going through a difficult time our hope is to provide you with resources and tools to help you make the right decision for yourself. To answer all your questions.. you can leave with parent consent though you should make it on paper so its legal and parents cannot revoke what they consented to. You can live with others as long as your parents explicitly have stated that it is okay for you to live with them. For more specific information on specific situations please refer to your local police non-emergency number.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS
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