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  • ccsmod7
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. While we are not legal experts, generally when someone turns 18 they are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that they can move out if they want to and they won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    i’m 17 and turning 18 next month can i move out without parental consent in nevada with no legal consequences?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello,

    We appreciate you reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS) and we recognize the courage and strength it takes to reach out and share your story. We are deeply sorry that you are having this experience at home. You deserve to be celebrated for who you are and it sounds like that has not been your experience at home.

    We regret to inform you that our services are based in the United States and we unfortunately do not have the resources to assist outside of the U.S. With that being said, we are happy to provide you with information for Kids Help Phone, which is a crisis support line for youth and young adults in Canada. Kids Help Phone advertises that they are available 24-hours per day, so you may contact them at any time that is convenient for you. Their website is https://kidshelpphone.ca/need-help-now-text-us/ and to reach them, you may call 1-800-668-6868 (toll-free) or text CONNECT to 686868.

    We hope that this helps and we apologize that we are unable to provide more assistance on our end. In the event that you need assistance looking for additional resources serving Canada, please feel welcome to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us directly through our online portal, found on our website at www.1800runaway.org

    Take care and stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    17 Alberta Canada move out??

    I’m 17 living in Alberta Canada and I need to get out of my homophobic household. My parents went through my phone and found out I’m dating a girl, they forbid me from seeing her and told me they would rather die than see me live my life with a girl. I ran away once but came back after a couple days when they promised things would change, they didn’t. They tried sending me to a boarding school in India to “cure” me. I ran away again a few days ago. At first, they called the police but I got in contact with my parents and told them I’m safe so they told the police to forget about it. My younger sister told me they changed the locks at home but they have still been calling all my friends for the past few days. Apparently they’re worried but supposedly don’t want me to ever come back. I don’t want to go back.

    I have been looking for a job so I can get my own place but my parents are keeping all my important paper work, SIN number, etc.. How can I get these without having to go through my parents? I do have my Alberta health care card and my drivers license with me. Who should I get in contact with to help me move out and begin living independently? And am I legally allowed to do all this?

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hello,

    You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

    If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
    Take care,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hi, I'm looking for some advice. So my father has always been abusive to me and I'm currently only 12 and finally noticing this, he has anger issues and doesn't care about my opinions when I tell him he always makes excuses such as when I didn't want to move because I'd have to change schools I told him and he made the same excuse every time "It's only in a year" I was forced to agree to this and now fear that only in a month my life will be living hell. When I tell him anything about my opinions he says "You can't always get your way" or "Not everything is about you" I never say it is when I do agree it's usually after being forced. He's hit me and thrown stuff and claims it was a light hit and when he does finally apologize he says it was my fault this probably caused my anxiety and overthinking. I don't know what to do, since my parents have divorced my mom is not there when he does this. I can't runaway and stay with my mom forever he'll find me and be really mad as he always does. What should I do?

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. Generally we try to be non-directive as its really hard to make a decision on the behalf of someone else and it is empowering to make their own decisions. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.
    Thank you, NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    You should be careful about the 17 year old man and call someone for help

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    im 17 and i want to move out, im waiting for job corps to come but im just about given up on school and living at home is difficult because ive broken so many rules and my parents are constantly mad at me and i still cant get things right. Where could i go?

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  • ccsmod10
    commented on Guest's reply
    Thanks for reaching out for help around this. And don't worry about rambling-- lots of info is helpful so we can help you make an informed choice.

    It sounds like your friend has been in an environment that hasn't been validating her feelings, or making her emotional safety a priority. It's fortunate she has someone like you on her side caring for her as much as you can.

    If she is 17, your friend is still technically considered a minor in Michigan and cannot legally live on her own, nor with you/your family without parental consent. Your mom could be charged with harboring a runaway if your friend stays with you before she is 18. Emancipation can be a tricky and lengthy process, and you do usually need to be able to provide you can financially support yourself.

    It might be worth seeing if your friend wants to file an abuse report about what's been going on at home-- regarding both verbal and physical abuse. A teacher or school counselor you trust could help you, or you could chat or call with us (1-800-RUNAWAY or 1800runaway.org). It might result in a check-in at home that could help her family realize the severity of what she's been experiencing.

    Lastly, here is the information for two transitional living programs (or TLPs) in the state of Michigan, where she might be able to stay for an extended period of time if she felt it would be a good fit. Note that some may require parental consent:
    www.alternativesforgirls.org/
    https://arborcircle.org/programs-services/

    You or your friend can reach out to us again by this forum, email, chat, or call for more support as you work through this.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello, my friend turns 17 in november and wants to move out by then! We are in Michigan.

    sorry i ramble a lot!

    Backstory?:
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    Her family life is on and off, her stepmom gaslights, and is emotionally and mentally abusive (really only to my friend and not her siblings) Her dads really nice but goes on her stepmoms side because it calms her down and she threatens to leave otherwise

    For example, my friend used to SH and when her stepmom found out, her mom was only worried on what family would think and never asked if she was okay. Only told her to hide it.

    Another example is she was sexually assaulted at 14 by a 17 year old, and once she finally told her stepmom years later, Her mom called her a slut and said shes lying.

    Her stepmom has hit her before and gave her bruises- and even a black eye once but it doesnt happen often enough for me to want to say shes outright physically abusive




    Main part here:
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    She has a job, it may not be enough to live on her own as of yet because she gets payed 9.90 an hour. But she wants to move in with me and my mom anyways.

    My mom knows some of my friends at home life, and said she could move in when she turns 18 and could take the extra bedroom. My moms supportive of her leaving there to stay with us.

    Her mom totally wouldnt agree to emancipation, and her dad im not too sure but he probably wouldnt either- saying that she has enough there and there isnt a reason for her to leave

    She wants to leave so she can have freedom, Ive known her since we were in 5th grade now we are in 11th. Gradually ive been seeing her less and less. I only get to see her a couple times a month now, and since she can only have her phone when shes at school or work and never while at home, we barely talk and she has to email me on her laptop to even talk to me.

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello I’m #160 and I wanted to add something else. I don’t have a phone cause they’ve taken it away and I can only access my email and/or Snapchat

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  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hey, I’m 17 and live in Colorado I’m living in a abusive household so I wanna run away and I could go with my boyfriend but he’s in Houston. No one in my house wants me here so really what’s keeping me here I’m just scared of what could happen if I do leave my house.

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello, I’m 17 and have two months to make a decision. I can either wait and have my parents find out that I’m failing all my classes because of the stress that they cause where they will sell my car that I paid for and make me quit my job, or will send me to alternative school and out me to my entire family. I have the resources and money to live on my own but am too scared to leave. Is there anything that I can do?

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