17 year old wants to move out

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f*** my life

i really dont care about anythin anymore. my mom left when i was three and dad remarried when i was six to a women that hate my guts. she always tells me im useless and not gonna amount to anything. she always tells me im lazy and that i have no life but she wont let me out of the house un less im going to school or doing chores. im turning 16 in november and i wannna leave...but i dont know where to go and what kind of trouble i can get into....my stepmom told me that if i run away than id get arrested and she wouldnt let me come back...i cant go to my bio moms cuz she doesnt want me and im terrified of her boyfriend cuz he beats my mom and my half brother....i guess im wondering what i can do...also i live in washington on the military so that to me seems like it would be harder to leave.

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Re: f*** my life

Hi there,

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are really going through a lot and we are sorry to hear about all of this. We’re glad that you reached out, we’re here to support you.

It sounds like you have really had a hard time with your mom leaving at a young age, and your dad marrying someone that it does not sound like treats you well. It’s understandable why you would want to escape this situation into a place that you feel more comfortable. We’re sorry to hear that your bio mom’s place is not safe either- no one deserves this type of abuse and we’re glad that you’re trying your best to stay safe through this.

We’re not legal experts, but generally if you leave without legal guardian’s permission before you turn 18, they would have the right to make a runaway report. If that report is made, and the police find you they typically would just bring you back home. However, anyone that you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring. Because running away is not a criminal offense, police should not be able to keep you. Again, we’re not experts and it’s possible that things are different where you are living. If you would like, you can call us and we can try to locate some legal resources near you.

We’re here to help work through your options and figure things out with you. You have support from us 24/7.

Best,
NRS

[Manama]

17 and traped

my name is A**, I'm 17 years old and i want to move out of my parents home. Things have changed a lot in the past 5 years. My mom had some difficulty with her bladder and had all kinds of surgery for it and they really messed her up so the doctors were giving her all kinds of narcotics and other addicting drugs now this all happen when i was about 12! the older i got the more i seen how these medications were effecting my mom, she has become a whole other person i don't even know who she is anymore. When i was about 14 i noticed what was going on but i was in denile..my mom at the had me going out and getting her pills from people who would sell them to her at the age of 15 most the time they were family members. Money was dispersing and i had a job so i was constantly giving her money also, she had a job that paid her pretty good her and my dad are still together so they both had stable jobs except she was using her money on her medication and my dad was paying for all our bills on his own so she blamed most her money dispersing on me and my little brother who is 14. now i could go on and on about all the terrible things she has done to me and done to my family, but now i just need help!! my mom is way protective to say the least she controls my whole life and i just want to get away from her and live on my own i know that life is not easy but i know that i can do it i have 2 places i can go i have my aunt who has been here for me this whole time while my mom was in rehab. and i have my boyfriend who i plan on marring he has helped me get through so much and honestly he is the only reason i'm still alive. I feel so stuck and i can feel my self falling into a depression i just want to get out! i need some advice, because trying to work things out and trying to stay strong is not working for me i pry a lot and i just want that extra boost of help.

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Re: 17 and traped

Hello,

We are glad you reached out to us, it sounds like you are in a difficult situation with your mom and we are here to support you. We are sorry to hear that your mom is spending money on drugs, and putting your family through a tough time. We are glad to hear that your boyfriend is supporting you during this tough time, and that your aunt is there for you as well.

How does your dad feel about the situation? Do you think he would let you stay with your aunt if you told him about how you’ve been feeling? It’s good to keep in mind that if you leave home without permission, your mom could file a runaway report with the police. Although this most likely wouldn’t go on any criminal record, the police could force you to return home. It depends on how the police in your area handle runaway cases at age 17.


We are here to help, and we want to give you two phone numbers that we think may be helpful to help you think of some options to help your mom, and yourself in this situation. The first is the Alcohol and Drug Helpline, phone number 1-206-722-3700. This would be a good number to call and see if they have any suggestions on how you can help your mom in the changes she has been going through with drugs. The second number is Families Anonymous, which is a good outlet for support for families who have family members with a drug addiction, the phone number is 1-800-736-9805. It sounds like your family is going through a lot, and hopefully these number will help with thinking of options to make things a better situation.

It sounds like you are going through a lot at home, and we are here to help you the best we can. While we hope those phone numbers will be helpful, we can always talk more in depth about your situation and see what else we can think of together. The best way to do this is to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY where everything we discuss can remain confidential.

Best,
NRS

[Unregistered]

17 want to move out

Hi my name is S****** I am 17 I want to move out but I got no were to go Me and my grandparents fight all the time and it is making to go crazy so is there any way I can move out at the age of 17.

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RE: 17 want to move out

Hi there,

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you and your grandparents tend to bump heads a lot making it a challenge to live at home with them. It sounds stressful and can oftentimes be a challenge to reach common ground on things where there may be a generational gap. Sometimes having a space to vent and talk about what's going on can help provide some insight and possible options regarding your current situation. We are here to listen and to help, ad we can be that space for you.

To answer your question generally as we are not legal experts, until an individual reaches the age of majority (tends to be 18 or older in most states), you are expected to live with your legal guardians. If you left without permission, your guardians may choose to file a runaway report which alerts the police where they may search for you and try to bring you back home.

If you would like to talk more about your situation at home with your grandparents or explore some ways that may help, please consider calling our line 1-800-786-2929 (toll free, 24/7, confidential) or chatting with us through our website www.1800runaway.org.

We look forward to your call or chat soon and wish you luck.

Take care,

NRS

[Waffles]

My boyfriend needs help.

Hello I am speaking on behalf of my boyfriend who is living with a very abusive set of parents and is scared to tell a soul about it because he thinks it is not as bad as it seems. But I'd say when a father throws his son out of the house by his throat for protecting himself I'd say it's a little bit of a problem. I'm worried and I need help. He has your number I've tried to get him to call you guys but for some reason he has yet to do that. He turns 17 on the 18th and won't have freedom for another year. And he wants more than anything to be happy and live in peace with me and our little girl. But his father refuses and is now threatening to steal him away to another state entirely. I'm scared for him and I don't want any more harm to happen to the one I care about deeply. Please help me get him out.

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Re: My boyfriend needs help.

Hello there,

Thank you for posting to our online forum. It sounds like you really care about your boyfriend and want him to be in a safe environment. We’re glad that you gave him our number and hope that he reaches out to us.

It can be difficult to leave home as a minor. We’re not legal experts, but we can speak in general terms. There are some specific areas that do not force 17 year olds to return home against their will and there are some states that actually consider parenting 17 year olds as legal adults. However, if where your boyfriend lives still considers him a minor, his parents could file a runaway report with the police if he leaves home without permission. In this case, the police would likely be able to return him home. To find out more about runaway and parenting rights for minors in your area, you could call your local police department’s nonemergency line and ask hypothetically how they handle these types of situations.

They may ask you for your name and address, but they should be able to answer your questions even if you don’t provide that information. A legal aid office should also be able to answer these questions if you don’t feel comfortable calling the police. We would be happy to look up appropriate numbers you can call if you contact us through phone or our online chat service.

Another thing your boyfriend can do is file an abuse report. You mentioned that he hasn’t told anyone except for you about what he’s going through at home so he may not feel comfortable filing a report. That decision is up to him, but if he contacts us, we would be happy to talk with him about reporting and we can also help him to make a report. If you or he want to find out more information about reporting abuse, you can contact Child Help USA: 1-800-422-4453. Here is their website: www.childhelp.org.

We hope this information is helpful. If you would like to talk to us about your situation in more detail, we hope you call our 24 hour hotline.

Best,
NRS

[Unregistered]

16 almost 17 and hate home can i leave when i turn 17

Hi I was wondering see I turn 17 in January and I was making sure that I can move out And leave my parents house with out no trouble because my parents will probably try to stop me, it's not like there is abuse any more it stopped after I got older but I can't live in a house with all the lies that I know and can't say or point out, I can't live In silence. I get almost everything I want except freedoms. I don't carre about the rest I want my freedoms. They treat me like I'm still 10.. my phone gets take away at 9 every night little do they know I have a backup phone. I'm on it right now. But when I turn 17 my 18 year old bf wants to take me. And I can honestly say he could be the man I marry . But if he fails I got my real daddy to go to. But I'm not sure what is lies and what is true there. Idk I need help and answers I'm not real sure about anything I just need away before I give up And break. I've cut before and they never notice. After years of living with depression (which I believe is a condition) I one day while my parents were divorced I asked for help cause I knew if i diddnt I would kill myself eventually. And basicaly they said oh it's just hormones it will go way. The feeling has Been there ever since I can remember. And it takes a lot to admit I needed help and they basically straight up ignore me. My brother left at 17 cause they were so strict and always arguing with themselves and us. They still do to this day and I just cannot no more my chance to finally excape, can I do it?

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RE: 16 almost 17 and hate home can i leave when i turn 17

Hello there,

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you have been dealing with depression for a while now and you have tried to reach out for help, however you feel that your parents dismiss the way you feel. We imagine this may hurt and be disappointing. A helpful resource to turn to for support with depression is by visiting http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/Page...?pagename=home. If you would like to talk on the phone or chat with someone regarding depression or suicide you may contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255(TALK) or visit www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

It is very strong and courageous of you to reach out for help. You recognize that something does not feel right, and you show great responsibility by advocating for yourself. It sounds like you have some support from your boyfriend with hopes to live with him, however, because you are under 18, most state laws do not allow a minor to move out of the home without parental/guardian permission. We are not legal experts, but because of your age your boyfriend may face legal charges if you leave home to live with him especially if your parents choose to file a report and pursue legal action. Every state has specific laws, so it is often best to contact local authorities and inquire more about rights at the age of 17 as well as laws on running away. If you would like to talk more about how you are feeling and explore some resources and safe options that may help you, we are here 24/7. We can also contact resources with you or on your behalf if you would like.

We look forward to your call or chat soon.

Take care and be safe,

NRS

[asap]

help me please

I'm 17 in a half I'm turning 18 in January 24 only 9 weeks left . I had trouble in the past when I was 15 can I move out now or do I have to wait I try to kill myself at the age of 15 with drugs I'm clean been sober for 2 years I need to know my right so I can move in with my sister and my family I would love to know my right

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re: help me please

Hey there,

Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way that we can. From what you shared, it sounds like you are ready to leave your home and start your own life.

We want you to know that we are not legal experts here, which means that we are only able to speak about your situation in general terms. In most states, you would still be considered a minor which means that if you were to leave, your parents are allowed to contact the local police department and file a runaway report. If a report is filed and you are found, typically you would be forced to return home. As we mentioned, we are not legal experts here. If you wanted more accurate answers, we would encourage you to reach out to your local police department and ask some general questions. If you wanted to know more information about what you can do, legally, we would encourage you to reach out to us and we will be able to point you in the right direction.

We hope that we were able to help you think a little more about your options and brainstorm some more with you, if you feel like you would still need some more support or go through some more options, please feel free to reach out to us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7. We also have a live chat service which is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do and hope to hear from you soon.

Stay strong,

NRS

[Jestinmorrow]

Im 18 have been for a week would they allow me to stay out of the house if i am somewhere safe?

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Hey there,

It sounds like you have some questions about being independent at 18. You mentioned that you were concerned with having to come back, if you leave, but are somewhere safe. We can't really say specifically whether or not you are allowed to stay away once you leave. In most places you being 18, you would be considered an adult. So it is possible that you would be allowed to leave and support yourself on your own. Not sure who the "they" are that you are referencing, but it really depends on what they would be deciding and how they would react to you staying away.

It may be more helpful to chat with us via our website or give us a call, so we could talk more about what you're considering with leaving home. For further support, you are welcome to contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and look forward to your call. Lastly, please note that we offer a live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST.

Best,
NRS

[Unknown]

I'm not a runaway, but my parents gave me consent to move out because they are moving. I'm 17 and a half and I'm wondering if they could get in trouble for letting me move in with a family friend. Also, do i need paperwork saying they will let me live on my own?