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  • ccsmod10
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    Re: 17 year old wants to move out

    Hello There,

    Thanks for reaching us at the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to finding the information and help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now being home with your family. These things can definitely can be frustrating and overwhelming. You are so strong for having gone through so much already and doing what you think is best for you. No one deserves to have to deal with such treatment. Home should be a place of safety, comfort, and support. It's great that you are in school and have a job. Those are such great things to have.

    Some things to think about for the future if you will continue your education. How long do you anticipate on being gone or being able to stay where ever you may be? How will you support yourself or whom you will be staying with be willing to support you financially with food, clothing, other personal expenses/ allow you to stay rent free? What if things do not work out here in the future, what will be your back up plan?

    Another important detail is thinking about what your parent’s reaction will be, which seems to be a great concern of yours. We are not legal experts here, but typically being under the age of what your state considers to an adult (usually 18 ), you would need permission from your parents to leave. It is not illegal to runaway or leave home without permission, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report. The police would then be required to return you home. However, being so close to 18 some districts handle these reports differently by possibly no actively searching for youth. You could find this out by calling your local police district’s non-emergency number. You would not have to give them specific information. If you feel uncomfortable doing so, you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY and we could call on your behalf.

    We hope that this information that was helpful.
    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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  • Unregistered
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    Re: 17 year old wants to move out

    I am 17 years old, and in one month I will be 18. However, my parents make it seem like I am required to stay at home even though I have graduated early and now finished my first semester of college with passing grades and also work two jobs, one part time and one full time. They are the type of parents who will call the police on me. What should I do? I cannot be in my house anymore, my mothers mental illness affects me too much and it causes me to have suicidal thoughts. She has now hit me, and it does not bother me, but the verbal abuse in my house is too much for me.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Re: 17 with child and want to move out

    Hello Johanna,

    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It's a great first step to finding the help and information that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now.
    We are not legal experts here, but typically 18 is the age where youth are considered to be an adult. This means that being under this age you would need parent's permission to be able to leave home. It's not illegal to leave without this permission, but it would that parents can file a runaway report. If located, the police would return you home. Graduating or getting a degree does not substitute this permission and the age of your boyfriend does not have any effect as to the capability of filling the runway report because it does not have any bearing to the permission that is needed. However some police districts may treat runaway reports differently when youth youth is 17. One way to know is by calling your local police district and ask hypothetically. You wouldn't have to give identifying information or specifics of your situation. Some things that may be a legal issue is that being with someone who is significantly older. It looks like the age of consent (the age that you are legally able to decide who you can be in a relationship with) is 18. This could mean parents can press other charges on him. You can get more information regarding this by visiting this website:
    http://sexetc.org/

    You mentioned having a safe place to go. This an important aspect in creating a safety plan. Having the support of someone who cares for you is very comforting. Some things to think about for the future if you will continue your education after high school or get employment, if so where? How long do you anticipate on being gone or being able to stay where ever you may be? How will you support yourself or whom you will be staying with be willing to support you financially with food, clothing, other personal expenses/ allow you to stay rent free? What if things do not work out here in the future, what will be your back up plan?

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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  • Unregistered
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    17 with child want to move out

    Hi I'm Johanna, i live in Arizona I'm going to be 17 years old in September but I'm planning to move out once I graduate high school with out parent consent can my parents interfere with this because my boyfriend is 19 he has a house and everything can my parents call the police a report me as a runaway?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Re: 17 year old wants to move out

    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting us through our online forum. First of all, you don’t deserve to be abused. No on has the right to hurt you, physically or emotionally. You are very brave for sharing these issues that you are facing.

    Have you ever told anyone about what has been happening at home or about you feeling like you don’t want to live? Maybe a relative, a family friend, school friend, a teacher, or a counselor at school? Perhaps having someone to talk to about what you have been dealing with can help reduce some of that stress you've been feeling.

    Reporting abuse is also an option. We know that this can be really intimidating and really difficult for a lot of people. Here's a little bit of information in case that's an option that you're considering. If abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it to the proper authorities. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

    Because of all that you are going through, and because you mentioned that you’ve been struggling with feeling depressed, we want to let you know that we are always here to listen and support you over the phone. In addition to us, you can also call the National Suicide Prevention Line at 1-800-273-8255.

    We hope that you reach out to us through our 24 hour crisis line or our online chat.

    NRS

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  • Unregistered
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    help me out.

    Hello, my name is ****** *******, I am a junior in Utah, 16 yrs of age. I have a father that is an illegal immigrant and that does illegal drug is it in my household. He does get angry and pushes, drags, Yanks, and throws me. He has gave me multiple bruises, and my mother doesn't do anything about it. My father physically abuses me and mentally abuses me and my mother mentally abuses me. They threaten me and my boyfriend, and just recently I have gotten depressed and have wanted not to live life anymore. And my own mother told me that I was fine. Is there any tips that could help me get out of here? If so it would be greatly appreciated if you help me. Would you kindly? Thank you so much. P. S. I will be 17 on July 4th.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Re: 17 year old wants to move out

    Hi, thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. Congratulations on being accepted into a four year University, that’s really good!
    It sounds like you are concerned about what could happen if you left home to go to school without your father’s agreement, and you will be very close to being 18. We are not legal Laws and enforcement vary from state to state, and even between counties and cities. It is possible you father could report you as a runaway, and the police may look for you and bring you home. Since you would almost be 18, and if you are attending school in a safe situation, it may be unlikely but possible. Is there another family member that may be able to help?
    You have lot to think about. How would you travel to Chicago, and would you have safe accommodations at the University when you arrive? How about financial help? The counselors at the University can be a great source of support in all these areas. There also may be other school options that come up to consider as well.
    If you would like to talk further, please feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) on our 24/7 Safeline, or you can chat with us through our website. We’re here to listen and help, we wish you the best of luck.

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  • Kg22
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    Parents won't let me attend college

    I really need help. I'm seventeen and graduating high school. I won't be 18 until November but I have recently been accepted into a four year University. It will be two months before my birthday when semester starts and my dad doesn't want me to attend for his personal religious beliefs. I live in California and the college is in Chicago. What do I do?

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you are wondering if your parents would get into any trouble for allowing you to live with a family friend while they move away. We, unfortunately, are not legal experts here at NRS and cannot give specific, legal answers. It may be best to seek legal consultation from local authorities or a legal aid office to be on the safe side. A legal document may be helpful in the event that you are either no longer allowed to live in the home or your parents change their mind. Your parents are legally responsible for you until you reach 18 years of age. Again, we are not legal experts, but if you would like to talk more about resources or where you may get some legal answers please reach out by phone or chat 1-800-786-2929 (www.1800runaway.org).

    We look forward to hearing from you soon.

    Best,

    NRS

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  • Unknown
    Guest replied
    I'm not a runaway, but my parents gave me consent to move out because they are moving. I'm 17 and a half and I'm wondering if they could get in trouble for letting me move in with a family friend. Also, do i need paperwork saying they will let me live on my own?

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  • ccsmod2
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    re: no title

    Hey there,

    It sounds like you have some questions about being independent at 18. You mentioned that you were concerned with having to come back, if you leave, but are somewhere safe. We can't really say specifically whether or not you are allowed to stay away once you leave. In most places you being 18, you would be considered an adult. So it is possible that you would be allowed to leave and support yourself on your own. Not sure who the "they" are that you are referencing, but it really depends on what they would be deciding and how they would react to you staying away.

    It may be more helpful to chat with us via our website or give us a call, so we could talk more about what you're considering with leaving home. For further support, you are welcome to contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and look forward to your call. Lastly, please note that we offer a live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST.

    Best,
    NRS

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  • Jestinmorrow
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    Im 18 have been for a week would they allow me to stay out of the house if i am somewhere safe?

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  • ccsmod5
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    re: help me please

    Hey there,

    Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way that we can. From what you shared, it sounds like you are ready to leave your home and start your own life.

    We want you to know that we are not legal experts here, which means that we are only able to speak about your situation in general terms. In most states, you would still be considered a minor which means that if you were to leave, your parents are allowed to contact the local police department and file a runaway report. If a report is filed and you are found, typically you would be forced to return home. As we mentioned, we are not legal experts here. If you wanted more accurate answers, we would encourage you to reach out to your local police department and ask some general questions. If you wanted to know more information about what you can do, legally, we would encourage you to reach out to us and we will be able to point you in the right direction.

    We hope that we were able to help you think a little more about your options and brainstorm some more with you, if you feel like you would still need some more support or go through some more options, please feel free to reach out to us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7. We also have a live chat service which is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do and hope to hear from you soon.

    Stay strong,

    NRS

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  • asap
    Guest replied
    help me please

    I'm 17 in a half I'm turning 18 in January 24 only 9 weeks left . I had trouble in the past when I was 15 can I move out now or do I have to wait I try to kill myself at the age of 15 with drugs I'm clean been sober for 2 years I need to know my right so I can move in with my sister and my family I would love to know my right

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  • ccsmod6
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    RE: 16 almost 17 and hate home can i leave when i turn 17

    Hello there,

    Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you have been dealing with depression for a while now and you have tried to reach out for help, however you feel that your parents dismiss the way you feel. We imagine this may hurt and be disappointing. A helpful resource to turn to for support with depression is by visiting http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/Page...?pagename=home. If you would like to talk on the phone or chat with someone regarding depression or suicide you may contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255(TALK) or visit www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org.

    It is very strong and courageous of you to reach out for help. You recognize that something does not feel right, and you show great responsibility by advocating for yourself. It sounds like you have some support from your boyfriend with hopes to live with him, however, because you are under 18, most state laws do not allow a minor to move out of the home without parental/guardian permission. We are not legal experts, but because of your age your boyfriend may face legal charges if you leave home to live with him especially if your parents choose to file a report and pursue legal action. Every state has specific laws, so it is often best to contact local authorities and inquire more about rights at the age of 17 as well as laws on running away. If you would like to talk more about how you are feeling and explore some resources and safe options that may help you, we are here 24/7. We can also contact resources with you or on your behalf if you would like.

    We look forward to your call or chat soon.

    Take care and be safe,

    NRS

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