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**Guest** · 09-23-2019, 11:49 PM

im 17 from Massachusetts, my bio dads been out out of the picture for quite some time and my mother has issues she hasent gotten help for and takes them out on me at the house. its become a situation i cant stay in anymore. my dad (not bio, technically step dad but hes be here since i was 4) is on board with my plan and is willing to help me talk to my mom. i have a friend in florida that has a room ready for me, im saving up money and i wanna leave at the end of the year. my moms not a very stable person when someone does domething she disagees with and im scared shes gonna call the cops to bring me back home. is there anything i can say to her when i tell her to maybe defuse the situation a little? my best case senario rn is that i leave without being hit and she doesnt bring legalities into it. is there anything i can do if she does?

**Guest** · 09-24-2019, 07:45 PM

I'm 16 soon to be 17. My family is very disfunctional. I'm the oldest of three and basically raise them. I cook, clean, and wake them up for school. Recently things have been getting worse. They keep making me feel worthless and like I'm hated. My father told his friends I can be beat like a grown woman if I can raise my voice like one. My depression causes my sleeping and eating to be horrible along side my suicidal thoughts. I want to run away but fear that if they find me they will hurt me. Please help.

**Guest** · 10-28-2019, 11:55 PM

I am still 17, but I want to move out before I turn 18. It would only be a month before I turned 18. I am struggling with financial issues because I’m working a 10 dollar an hour job and have to pay for my own food, gas, insurance, etc. Once I move out I could get a full time job which would allow me to afford the apartment, but I’m scared that the cops would try to take me back home. Honestly I have zero privacy, I share a room with my older brother who uses my bed as well as my things. I am verbally abused for wearing the clothes that I wear. My parents have not bought food for me in the past few months, and when they have it is not usually compatible, so I can’t make it into an actual meal. Due to that I have to buy my own groceries which are usually eaten by my siblings. I have to replace my own clothes because my mom spends money that should be spent on my clothing on things for her entertainment. My sister steals my clothing and very rarely is it returned, so I end up only having one outfit. I haven’t been able to see a dentist in a couple years because my parents basically abandoned me in my own home. Even worse, they made me their source for their needs to be met. I became the person who drove my sister home from school and went grocery shopping. But the second that I suggest that I can take care of myself, my parents watch my movements on LIFE360 to control what I’m doing and where I’m doing it. I am treated completely unfairly and it becomes my fault. I tried to get to my room when my mother blocked me into a corner and it nearly pushed her over, and it resulted in her punching me twice in the back causing bruising down my right shoulder, and it was my fault because my mom has bad balance. I need to find a way out of here as soon as possible without hurting myself financially, so what do I do?

**Guest** · 12-06-2019, 09:39 PM

Hi ,
Im a 17 year old who really wants to run away from home. My parents don't drop me to school and they always have conversations with me about how I'm the worst child ever and a burden. They also pause my laptop even when I need to do HW because I haven't done their chores. I feel like Cinderella and all they do is yell at me. Me and my mom are non stop fighting which affects my sister and me and my dad are too. What is a safe way to run away from home? I don't want to get sexually assaulted but I also NEED to move out

(((. Im having mental breakdowns and can't focus in school because they are so mean. I haven't had breakfast or lunch for 2 weeks now

. Could anyone give me some advice please. Anything helps really

**Guest** · 05-15-2020, 05:01 AM

I am 17 and my parents divorced a few years ago. My mom has custody of me and all three of my siblings, but she can't afford our house anymore and doesn't qualify to rent much of anything. I want to help any way I can, and I already have a job that I have been working at for about half a year. My mom can't afford to house all four of us, but I can't live with my dad because my mom needs the child support he pays her to live and feed my siblings. Is there a way I can find a place to live and move out, or maybe get emancipated, without my siblings being taken away from my mom? My job is okay, but I only make $12.50 an hour and I work about 20 hours a week. That isn't enough to move out, and I can't get a second job or take more hours once summer is over because I am starting my senior year in high school around September. I also don't know how I would get to and from school/ work of I moved since I can't practice to get my license until the pandemic is calmed down.I live in Hillsboro, Oregon if that helps.

**Guest** · 07-31-2020, 10:37 PM

I live in texas and turn 17 , on August 22nd . I have been wanting to move out the past 4 years due to how my mom treats me . Shes a single parent so i try to understand but constantly being called b****es and h**s because i lost my virginity. She will literally swing and fight me like a female off of the street . Ruins my mental state , spreads lies about me to my family and makes them look at me in certain ways . Tells me i wont make it anywhere in life and that i need to quit my extra curricular activities bc i wont make it anywhere . Buys me stuff that i dont ask for then gets mad at me because she brought it . I cry atleast once a week for the same stuff , over and over , constantly have tried cutting . I even told her and she dared me to do it again . After choking me up against the wall , and i was 14 or 15 ! Constantly compares me to my father , if i make one mistake ima. dirty f*** up “ just like him “ , I have somewhere i can move to , with my friend and her parents . I would still go to the same school and be able to go to college and my friend spoke to counselors about my situation for me because i can never get it all out because i end up crying . She said I could move out at 17 as long as i continue going to school and keeping my gpa high . I just want to know if it thats true because i plan on leaving as soon as my birthday hits.

**Guest** · 07-31-2021, 08:56 PM

Hello, this is my first time reaching out on this site, and I’m hoping to get some advice. For a bit of a backstory, I’m currently 17, turning 18 in six months, and living in northern California. I live with my single father, and am still in my last year of high school. Things at home are less than favorable, my father is incredibly controlling, verbally abusive, and occasionally violent. At 17, I have never been allowed to get a job (he refuses to sign the work permit), or even begin to work towards my driver’s license. I’m very rarely allowed to leave the house without him, with the exception of school, and he has cameras both indoors and outdoors to ensure I don’t leave. I have on many occasions told him that I am very uncomfortable with the interior cameras but he refuses to take them down or even turn them off during the day. He claims this is due to fear of a break in, which I honestly don’t believe. We live in a very small town and the worst crime I’ve seen anywhere near us is some kids setting off car alarms. I’ve expressed my want to leave several times, however unfortunately he believes I am to immature to be capable of moving out on my own, and threatened to report me as missing if I attempt to leave after I’m 18. There’s far more, but this is already getting extremely long. I know that I unfortunately cannot leave for another six months, but is there anything he can do once I am 18? I’ll still be attending high school, but I have a safe place to stay with one of my closest friends and the means to travel to and from school. I’m desperate to just have some sort of freedom and the ability to be independent from him. Is there any sort of legal trouble he could get me into after I move out?

**Guest** · 08-30-2021, 06:49 PM

My boyfriend who lives in ********** wants to move out and move in with my family in ********** once he finishes high school at the end of May (he won’t be 18 until four months later.) His father thinks that that would be good for him and wants him to get out of the house away from his very manipulative and controlling mother, but she doesn’t want him to move out until he is 18. Would he need to have both parents’ consent to move in with my family out of state, or would just his father’s consent be enough?

**Guest** · 10-21-2021, 07:56 PM

Hello, I’m 17 and have two months to make a decision. I can either wait and have my parents find out that I’m failing all my classes because of the stress that they cause where they will sell my car that I paid for and make me quit my job, or will send me to alternative school and out me to my entire family. I have the resources and money to live on my own but am too scared to leave. Is there anything that I can do?

**Guest** · 10-30-2021, 09:43 PM

Hey, I’m 17 and live in Colorado I’m living in a abusive household so I wanna run away and I could go with my boyfriend but he’s in Houston. No one in my house wants me here so really what’s keeping me here I’m just scared of what could happen if I do leave my house.

**Guest** · 10-30-2021, 09:51 PM

Hello I’m #160 and I wanted to add something else. I don’t have a phone cause they’ve taken it away and I can only access my email and/or Snapchat

**Guest** · 03-27-2022, 10:18 PM

Hello, my friend turns 17 in november and wants to move out by then! We are in Michigan.

sorry i ramble a lot!

Backstory?:
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Her family life is on and off, her stepmom gaslights, and is emotionally and mentally abusive (really only to my friend and not her siblings) Her dads really nice but goes on her stepmoms side because it calms her down and she threatens to leave otherwise

For example, my friend used to SH and when her stepmom found out, her mom was only worried on what family would think and never asked if she was okay. Only told her to hide it.

Another example is she was sexually assaulted at 14 by a 17 year old, and once she finally told her stepmom years later, Her mom called her a slut and said shes lying.

Her stepmom has hit her before and gave her bruises- and even a black eye once but it doesnt happen often enough for me to want to say shes outright physically abusive

Main part here:
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She has a job, it may not be enough to live on her own as of yet because she gets payed 9.90 an hour. But she wants to move in with me and my mom anyways.

My mom knows some of my friends at home life, and said she could move in when she turns 18 and could take the extra bedroom. My moms supportive of her leaving there to stay with us.

Her mom totally wouldnt agree to emancipation, and her dad im not too sure but he probably wouldnt either- saying that she has enough there and there isnt a reason for her to leave

She wants to leave so she can have freedom, Ive known her since we were in 5th grade now we are in 11th. Gradually ive been seeing her less and less. I only get to see her a couple times a month now, and since she can only have her phone when shes at school or work and never while at home, we barely talk and she has to email me on her laptop to even talk to me.

**Guest** · 03-28-2022, 09:38 AM

im 17 and i want to move out, im waiting for job corps to come but im just about given up on school and living at home is difficult because ive broken so many rules and my parents are constantly mad at me and i still cant get things right. Where could i go?

**Guest** · 03-28-2022, 03:53 PM

You should be careful about the 17 year old man and call someone for help

**Guest** · 05-23-2022, 11:24 PM

Hi, I'm looking for some advice. So my father has always been abusive to me and I'm currently only 12 and finally noticing this, he has anger issues and doesn't care about my opinions when I tell him he always makes excuses such as when I didn't want to move because I'd have to change schools I told him and he made the same excuse every time "It's only in a year" I was forced to agree to this and now fear that only in a month my life will be living hell. When I tell him anything about my opinions he says "You can't always get your way" or "Not everything is about you" I never say it is when I do agree it's usually after being forced. He's hit me and thrown stuff and claims it was a light hit and when he does finally apologize he says it was my fault this probably caused my anxiety and overthinking. I don't know what to do, since my parents have divorced my mom is not there when he does this. I can't runaway and stay with my mom forever he'll find me and be really mad as he always does. What should I do?

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