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  • 17.5 Girl wanting to move.
    Hi, I am 17.5 in Colorado and will be turning 18 in March. I live in a house alone with my mom. We have had troubles for the past 3 years but I always brushed it off as I was just being a dramatic teenager. She is very controlling to the point that I can't close my door. Granted there are some other things to the story, however its gotten to the point that sometimes our fights turn physical and the emotional damage its doing to both of us is exhausting. I feel claustrophobic in my own house. She calls my work and yells at my coworkers if they say I can't come to the phone. I was wondering if I would be able to move out without legal repercussions, and/or being brought back home. I want to save whatever relationship I have with her, as even therapy has not worked. I have a job, a safe place to go, and joined the National Guard to pay for college. I need to know what the laws are in Colorado are and what extent the police would go to if she called.

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      Hey there,

      Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It’s great that you are acknowledging the validity of your issues and we want to commend you for reaching out to us when times are difficult. We are sad to hear that your mother is not as trusting of you as she should be and that this results in her treating you unfairly and in a way that is frustrating and detrimental to your wellbeing. It sounds like you are an ambitious young person with the drive to pursue your aspirations. In this sort of situation, emancipation is sometimes an option but given your proximity to being 18, you would probably age out before the process even finishes. We are not legal experts, but generally it is not illegal to run away. If you ran away, your mother could file a runaway report. This would mean that if the police found you, you would not be arrested, but they would most likely take you home and notify your legal guardians. In some places, and this varies from city to city and state to state, the police do not pursue runaway reports on youth who are so close to 18. You could find out your particular location by contacting your local police non-emergency number. If you would like to ask specific legal questions, we can put you in touch with legal agencies who specialize in youth advocacy and are experts on that subject. If you are interested in doing so, please do not hesitate to reach out to us on our 24/7 hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY or on chat at 1800runaway.org.

  • Hi I am 17 and turn 18 in February. Living at home is very difficult as I have health issues that are made worse by living here. My parents do not trust me and often yell at me and blame things on me for no reason, or they are fighting between themselves constantly. I have a job and I’ve even had them yell at me at work and to my manager. There is a lot more details but I’d like to move out to another state where I know I will be safe and can get another job, friends and complete school. I’m worried though since they are very controlling that they would call the cops and since they control my bank account they would withhold all my money.

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    • Hello There,



      Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we know that reaching out can be difficult and we are glad you have taken the first steps into reaching out. It sounds like you are going through a very frustrating time right now. Ideally living at home should not be difficult, and your health should not become worse by living at home. We are sorry that living at home has been difficult and that your health has become worse from living at home. You are almost 18 and in most states the legal age to leave home is 18. So if it is possible you may want to consider waiting until you turn 18 to leave your home. We understand that waiting sometimes is not possible. Your safety is our top concern, and we want to make sure you feel safe wherever you are. Running away is not a criminal offense, it is a status offense. What that means is if your parents were to file a report and the police found you they would most likely bring you back home. We are not legal experts but in most cases the police do not pursue runaway reports for people who are 17, because they are so close to being of legal age. You could also consider withdrawing your money and setting up your own bank account, but you may want to check with your bank on age requirements for opening up a bank account. If you would like to discuss more about your situation or have any other questions feel free to give us a call, we are available 24/7. Please stay strong and know you are not alone!

      NRS
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      • I’m 17 and I am about to be 18 in 23 days. I want to move out of my parents house but they keep saying if I leave they will take custody of my child. Can they legal do that? I want to move out because I’m not in a good situation

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        • ccsmod2
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          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear you are not in a good living situation, and we will try our best to help.

          It sounds like you have given a lot of through to moving out once you turn 18. We are by no means legal experts, and everyone’s situation is different- which makes it difficult to give a detailed/specific answer to your question, but we do have a general idea we can share with you.The good news is that you shouldn’t encounter any issues once you turn 18 because you would be considered a legal adult. As long as you have legal custody of your child, your parents should not be able to take over custody.
          One thing to consider if is you and your child have a safe place to stay once you move out. You can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you would like to explore your options and chat about your situation in more details.

          Best of luck,
          NRS

      • Hi im 16 and im tired of living with my mom shes the worst person i ever met the hardest to get along with when where ok itsok but ig she has anger issues she get pysical she says bery hurtful stuff like i wish i didnt had you i never wanted to have you your a horrible person your a ********** and many more words she hits me when shes mad the worst she says shes waiting for me to be 18 so leave so she never knows of me again and its getting worst i dont want to hurt her or call the cops on her i still love her but i was wondering can i move at 17 and a half ? My dad isn’t in the picture either what can i do when is the youngest i can move ?

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        • ccsmod10
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          Hey there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear you are not in a good living situation, and we will try our best to help.

          It sounds like you have given a lot of through to moving out once you turn 18. We are by no means legal experts, and everyone’s situation is different- which makes it difficult to give a detailed/specific answer to your question, but we do have a general idea we can share with you.The good news is that you shouldn’t encounter any issues once you turn 18 because you would be considered a legal adult. As long as you have legal custody of your child, your parents should not be able to take over custody.

          One thing to consider if is you and your child have a safe place to stay once you move out. You can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you would like to explore your options and chat about your situation in more details.

          Best of luck,
          NRS

      • Hello. I am from Illinois. I am 16 years old, but will turn 17 in February. I have a tough home life. I have no relationship with my mother, and a strained one with my father. My mom and I do not agree on things. We both have different religious convictions, with her being religious and me not. Therefore, she forces me to abide by her rules and moral standards even tho i do not believe in them. We rarely if ever agree and we do not share any good memories together. Recently everything has become “just get out” for me, and I can’t stand it here anymore. If i have a safe place to stay and a family that will take care of me until I reach 18, can my parents or the police force me to return home if i was to leave now? It’s gotten so bad that i am losing my love of life and music and everything i once thought was really important to me. It’s very emotionally painful to live at home right now. Would i be able to leave now?

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hello There,
          Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time right now. Ideally home is where one feels happy, supported and loved, and it seems that is not the way you are feeling right now. You could consider talking to your school counselor about your feelings, they may be able to provide resources or help you talk through what is going on. Running away is not a criminal offense it is a status offense. We are not legal experts but what that means is if the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home. You could consider seeing if you could get permission to live with a family member and that way it would be legal for you to leave home before turning 18. You could also file for emancipation, the process depends on what state you are located in. If you would like to know more about the emancipation process you can call us at any time. We hope this information is helpful in your situation. We wish you the best of luck, and remember to stay strong.
          NRS
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