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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS and we appreciate you sharing your situation with us. From what you mentioned, it sounds like the fighting and abuse between your parents has taken a toll on your mental health. You do not deserve to have to endure everything that has happened. You have a right to be safe and you deserve to feel supported. It was a really smart idea to seek out more information about leaving home before following through with a plan.

    While we are not legal experts we can speak on this generally. Once you turn 18 you will be considered a legal adult with the legal freedom to choose where you live. Your parents would not be able to force you to return home if you move out after your 18th birthday. Because you will be a legal adult when you turn 18, you can simply move out without having to give notice to parents, the court system or police.

    We hope this information helps. If you would like to talk more about situation in depth or you need any help along the way, please do not hesitate to reach out again. We are available 24/7 for immediate support by phone 1-800-786-2929 and through live chat at 1800runaway.org.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hello! I'm 17 living in Louisiana and I need verification on something:

    I'm turning 18 in two months and I need to know if I can just move out without dealing with court or the PD once I reach that age. My parents are extremely cautious with me and they told me various times not to tell anything that has happened to me with anyone, like their divorce for example. It ended up with my father being charged for domestic violence against my mother, but my mother was in an affair with someone else for five years straight. It result me sticking with a family with unhealthy relationships and her boyfriend making sexual harassment jokes on me when moving out to Oklahoma. He even forced me to view porn just before I went to go work at a job for minimum wage and I had enough with him. I went to my aunt's for a while to be in a safe place, but after my father got out of jail because my mother (who just forgives that such an incident happened), we went back to Louisiana and just told each other that it was all just a huge misunderstanding, which I don't buy it. My mom's boyfriend even bought several pistols and cheated in lottery since he distributes drugs at his time, He refuses to provide for the family either since he's extremely lazy to do so, so we were just starving. And yet my mother lets him enter our home too even after she broke up with him hggggg

    My father is just as worst as him though, even before the incident where he drank four six packs just to attack my mother. My father indocturnated the entire family to follow through Christianity, even though the pastor himself around my town is known for their homophobic and transphobic comments. He kept reinforcing me about how I should serve to the lord and thank him for helping me, when even though I can do all of that without ever thinking of any deity. I was too neglected and tired to hear the same stuff over and over again. I couldn't explore myself since I am monitored like a hawk, I couldn't be friends with several people because of their racism and every time I actually do make a friend, they scare and tell them to never set near me ever again. The cherry on top of the cake is when they just let my older brother go because "it all just happened in the past and there's nothing you can do to change that". Uhhhh he tried to groom me when I was young (both of us are three years apart when it happened, him being 12, I was 9 and then AGAIN when he's 14 and I was 11) and even told me death threats if I don't comply to his own sexual desires. He eventually did stop, but that's just another reason why I hate this family so much.

    They try to forget what happened, yet I remember every single thing that happened.

    Also my father tried to sent me to conversion therapy because I confessed to a girl that I liked.

    I'm a mixed Mexican-american demigirl lesbian with more than enough academic and extracurricular awards to place me into the Dean's list if I were to go to college, worked at five minimum wage jobs simutaniously while suffering with undiagnosed depression and even suicidal thoughts (I attempted various amount of times during school, after school, late nights, early mornings, reach for empty closets, etc.) just to put myself out of misery, yet I am treated with the most disrespect for any family. My needs were not met and my family still support each other, but not for me. I did everything with a simple mind to show these simpltons that I don't need to rely on religion to get the work done. I don't need to conform to patriarchy and conservative values just to see myself being worthy of living in a world full of grounded hate, but also potential hope. All I wanted at the end of the day, is to seek out for a better life with my girlfriend (aka girl that I confessed to) and have a better college life. Before I was thinking, even back in my elementary school years, I will live just for the living, not for myself. Now more than ever do I really need to move out because I never receive cognitive therapy before for LGBT+ and autism. Yes, I am living with a family that is also ablist and think that their comments doesn't hurt me and that I should just try more, when I am already trying the best I can to not think of any suicide methods or thoughts.

    I'm just tired of living in an idiotic household.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your mom is controlling of everything that you do and you would like more freedom with your dad. You questioned at what age are you allowed to leave home. We are not legal experts but to our knowledge you will be able to leave home without parental permission at 18. If you would like to leave before then, like your mother said your dad would have to go to court and win more rights over you. If you would like to talk more about your situation please feel free to give us a call anytime. 1-800-786-2929
    Best wishes,
    NRS

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    Im 15 about to be 16 yrs old, i want to live with my dad, my mom always fussing about my grades and checks the school website to check my grades, my fad does none if this, i can move around freely at his house, my lil brother always telling my mom about what i watch on TV. My mom fuss about i need to take care of myself better. She always take my lil brother side and make me br responsible for him when we leave home together. My dad does not fuss. My mom has hit me a couple of times because I was yelling at her. I'm sick of this house. She want let me go with my dad anymore because he started dropping me off on school nights past 10:00. My mom talking a about i need to be home at a descent hour to get ready for school. Im tired of her trying to manipulate my life. Her and my dad meet with the counselor and my school for me to stay with my dad. I would have to change schools so, my dad said, i didn't have to go to school. My mom got very upset. Now, i can't go with my dad at all nor can he come to my moms house. I'm sick of her and ready to move with my dad. At what age can i leave home in Louisiana. My mom said, i could leave but, her and my dad needs to go through the courts so, she wouldn't have to pay him childsupport. My dad don't like courthouses. So, i want to leave. What should I do.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am turning 17 in a few weeks. I need to leave my house for reason I don't want to discuss but everytime l try to find the legal age to move out I have conflicting answers. I need to know very soon what the leagal age a teen can move out in Louisiana in 2019!!! Plz help

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  • ccsmod9
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
    Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Can I leave home and go stay with a relative if my stepfather has been abusing me for years. I am 13.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Since you are so close to being 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in.
    We hope to hear from you soon.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello, I’m a 17 year old and I turn 18 in one week and 3 days. My step dad is very controlling and mentally abuses me and I’m tired of it. It stresses me and makes me feel like I’m not good enough. He’s ugly to me one minute and then acts like it never happened the next. I am a senior in high school and that stresses me enough with my AP classes. I ship out to the navy on June 24 this year. I want to move with my best friend but I’m scared to do anything. Can you give me some advice on what to do?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you’re faced with right now and you’re wanting to find a way leave.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. You questioned if you could leave and live with your older brother. We are not legal experts but generally speaking a person is not considered an adult until they are 18. This means that their guardians are legally responsible for them. So the parent is required by law to provide for the youth (food, shelter, school, etc.) If they fail to do so then they can face legal consequences. This also means that the youth cannot live anywhere else without parents’ consent. There are exceptions to this rule but those include getting the court involved such as emancipation or Child Protective Services removing the parent’s rights.
    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: We care what you think
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    We’re here to listen and to help and hope you or your friend can reach out soon.
    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 16 almost I'll be 17 may 14th. If I were to move out and with my older brother "22" and lives about 20 min away who has his own house, or my cousin who is 19 and lives 2 min away, can my parent make me come home? she makes me hate myself, she puts me down every day I have younger siblings that I have taken care of and I love them but I hate the way my mom treats me she tells my I'm a failure and that she hates me in so may words "I haven't liked you for a really long time" I'm so sick of this. I had to teach myself math, read and write, and cook. my parents go to church and are all fake.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hey,
    Thanks for reaching out. It must be difficult to move around so much and that sort of situation can definitely take a toll on your well being. It sounds like you want to go back to Texas to stay with a friend but you’re not sure what that would look like. We’re not legal experts, but we can try to help as much as we can.
    Since you are a minor, you would need your parents’ permission to leave home and stay with your friend. If you can get their permission, there would be no issue living with the friend. Similarly, if your parents can confirm with your school that it’s okay for you to be there, then there should be no issue in that respect either. If you leave without permission, your parents would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police are able to locate you they will return you home. Another option you might consider is asking your friend’s parents to reach out to your parents to invite you to stay. Sometimes adults find other adults a bit easier to talk to.
    You mention that when your parents ask you about how you’re doing, you try to stay positive. It sounds like you’re considerate of how they might feel and it can be hard to share what’s been going on in your head. While it’s certainly up to you, it might not hurt to talk to your parents about your concerns. It sounds like they do want to know how you feel since they have asked. We know it could be a tough conversation to have, so it might be helpful to have another adult there like a therapist or a guidance counselor. Here at NRS, we also offer a conference calling service and can help you have that conversation as well. Please feel free to reach out to us anytime at 1-800-786-2929.
    As you figure out your next steps, we encourage you to take care of yourself as much as you can. That looks different for everyone, but you might consider reading, journaling, making art, exercising, playing sports or games, talking with friends—whatever makes you feel most safe and comfortable. It can also be helpful to talk to a therapist or a guidance counselor about how you’ve been feeling. We are also available 24/7 to listen and help as much as we can.
    Thank you again for reaching out. It sounds like things are difficult right now, but we hope you found this helpful. Please feel free to provide your honest feedback at the link below. We wish you the best of luck!

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    Guest replied
    hello, i’m am 16 and i currently live in louisiana before the school year started i was in texas and before that i was living in louisiana, i’ve moved so much. Lately and for a while now or since i’ve moved back here i haven’t been happy i’ve been very emotional, upset and not happy. When my parents ask how i am doing i try to stay positive but i can’t act anymore i am turning 17 in may and i am interested in moving to texas and living with my best friend and her family the only problem is i don’t think my parent would agree to that and i don’t think it is legally and if it did work and i made it to texas and started school back at my old school they may not allow me to join the school know i was not living with a gardian. What should i do?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a stressful situation and feel trapped at your mother’s house. We would like to emphasize that what your mother’s boyfriend is doing to you is wrong, and he has no right to abuse you. This is not your fault, and your mother's boyfriend is clearly in the wrong.

    School counselors are often a great resource for the youth. A school counselor can report the abuse happening to you, and possibly have a social worker come for an investigation. It may also help to be able to talk about this with someone and get some support. In the meantime, if you feel unsafe, please call the police. It is understandable for you to feel hesitant and fearful about doing this, but you deserve to be in a safe place.

    As for living with your brother, we are not legal experts so we cannot advise you about what to do. However, if you leave home without permission, you might be reported as a runaway and returned home. Your brother could also be charged for harboring a runaway. On the other hand, your mother may give you permission to live with another family (i.e friend or relative), but without getting an official document from the court she would still be legally responsible for you. Which means that she can also take away that permission at any given moment and take you back home to live with her once again. So that can be an option for you if you feel like your mother might respond well to you living someplace else. If you would like to talk to her about this and feel you need additional support, we offer conference calls between youth and parents and can be on the line with both of you while you speak with her.

    Opening up about abuse takes courage, and you are clearly a brave person. We are glad you reached out to us, and we want to help in any way possible. If you would like to further talk about your situation, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are available 24/7 and are here to listen.

    Thank you,

    The National Runaway Safeline
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