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  • Re: 17 california run away rights

    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things might be changing at home for you right now. We are here to help you explore your options.

    You mentioned that you and your friends have a plan to move out and live in a house together. It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into this and have some questions. While we are not legal experts, generally speaking if you were to run away or leave without your parent’s permission as a minor they could file a runaway report. This means if the police found you, they could make you go back home. So when considering your options of staying somewhere else, getting your parent’s permission would help you. We could also help you look up youth shelters or alternative living arrangements (ALAs) in your area. You also might want to contact your local police department to see if they would accept 17-year old runaway reports from youth that have already graduated from school.

    Some other options you could consider, if you want help discussing these plans with your parents, is our conference calling service. This is where you, your parents and someone from NRS would be on a phone call helping you and your parents have a calm and productive conversation about how you’re feeling and your plans to move out.

    If you would like further help exploring any of these options or others in more detail, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling us at 1-800- RUNAWAY or chatting with us live on our website at www.1800.runaway.org. We look forward to hearing from you.

    Take care,
    NRS
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    • Runaway

      Hi im 17 i turn 18 in 3 months i Live in california oakland . I wanna runaway bc my mom is emotionally abuse . She wont talk to me in months . Gives me the optiom to kick me out the house wen whe argue . Accuses me to be sexually active with my stepfather which is all lies . I wanna go stay at my bfs house which his 18 we been in 2 year relationship . I just wanna know if i leave and my mom calls the cops what are the consequences to my bfs parents and me and will anything happen to my brother

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      • Re: Runaway

        Hello there, thanks for reaching out today. It sounds like you are going through so much at home with your mom. It is so not okay ignored by your mom for months and accused of being sexually active with your stepdad. You deserve so much better than that. We here at NRS truly want to help you through this difficult time.

        Just so you know, you do have the right to report abuse/neglect in your house to child protective services (CPS). They would remove you if your home is investigated and found to be highly dangerous. While it can be hard to prove that verbal abuse is highly dangerous; you also mentioned that your mom won’t talk to you for months and threatens to kick you out, CPS might consider that to be neglect. To learn more about reporting you might contact the expert child advocates at www.childhelp.org. If you would like assistance filing an abuse report, please call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

        So your mom does have the right to attempt to file a runaway report for you with the police if you leave without permission. Since your mom has mentioned kicking you out in the past, you might ask her if you can leave. You can legally stay anywhere she says is okay. If your local police department does take runaway reports for 17 year olds who are close to turning 18, you would be entered into a database as a runaway. If police find you, you typically will be returned home. If your mom knows your boyfriend’s address. She can give that information to the police and they can look for you there.

        If you stay with your boyfriend without permission, he could be at risk for harboring a runaway since you mentioned he is 18. Typically, you would need to be found at his place by police, and your mom would need to attempt to press charges against him for him to be charged with harboring a runaway. You also mentioned wanting to know what would happen to your brother. We are not really sure what role he plans in this. But if he is just living at your mom’s house and she files a runaway report for you, it would not affect him at least legally.

        We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best,

        -NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

        National Runaway Safeline
        info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
        Tell us what you think about your experience!
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        • Help

          I just turned 17 years old and I hate living with my mom she drives me crazy and I always want to runaway and she is mentally abusive and makes me feel depressed. My parents are divorced and have 50/50 custody but I want to just live with my dad so I plan to refuse to go to my mom's house and just stay at my dad's and I know my mom is going to go crazy and call the cops to get me but can they force me to go with her. And will my dad get in trouble for anything ?

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          • re: help

            Hey,

            18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway. One way to find out the laws in your area is to call your local police and ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth.

            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

            National Runaway Safeline
            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

            https://www.surveymonkey.com/s/NRSOnlineServicesSurvey

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            • runaway at 17 and im in a group home

              Im 17 ran away from a group im with family and its 100% better but i dont want to get them in think he stay are the rules for that

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              • Re: runaway at 17 and im in a group home

                Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

                Glad to hear you are safe and with your family. It sounds like you are worried about what could happen if you are found with your family.

                Running away in itself is not usually considered illegal, rather a status offense. So if you are found it is possible that you would return to your group home or a different facility. If you are found at your family’s house by police, they are at risk with being charged with harboring a runaway by the state; which is a misdemeanor.

                If you are close to turning 18, you might anonymously contact your local police to see if they would take a runaway report. Most the time they do, but sometimes local police have their own protocol for 17 year olds. If you would like assistance calling out to your local police, please call 1-800-RUNAWAY.

                Again, we are really glad you are in a safe, supportive environment. Please call or chat us if you would like to have a conversation about your situation and help with trying to brainstorm additional options or locate resources.

                We wish you the best,

                NRS
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                National Runaway Safeline
                info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                Tell us what you think about your experience!
                https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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                • Hi, I am the mother of a 15 year old sophmore in california, I need advise. She usually takes walks to chill when she has some panic or anger attacks,, she is been in therapy since summenr 2016,,, ( years agowe have a family tragedy where her dad sommited suicide after we found out her older sister was being molested) I jsut want to understand what parenst can be proactive and help her to protecte her,,Yesterday seh got upset, " took a walk" someone brought it home. Iam very concern and my stress out for her choices and at risk behavior,,, should i make apolice report everytime she do that? Im desperate. thankis

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                  • ccsmod2
                    ccsmod2 commented
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                    Hi,

                    Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are extremely concerned for your daughters mental health. It sounds like even though she has been in therapy, you are feeling like it isn't working enough for her to cope with her emotions. It might be possible to talk with her and ask her what she needs during this time. Maybe you could ask her what about her walks makes her feel better and then go from there to provide assistance. Because she is a minor and leaving home without permission, you could file a runaway report for her. The police would be on alert in case they see her. However, if she does leave home a lot and you file a report every time, the police may only let you do that for so long before they may feel it is useless. But that is up to you. It might be helpful to talk with her school about what is going on to see if they have noticed any patterns as well. It is important to remember to take care of yourself during this time as well, some self care is always good for stress.

                    Best of luck,
                    NRS

                • Hi I am 18, I wanna move out of Cali to a place near around Ohio. Would it be illegal to steal some of my parents money to use to run away?

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                  • ccsmod1
                    ccsmod1 commented
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                    Hello,

                    Thanks for reaching out to us for help and support. Sounds like you are planning to move out. Since you are 18 you are considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. Your parents do not have any legal recourse to keep you from moving out on your own if that is your decision. Stealing money from your parents is illegal. We are not legal experts, however we can help give you a general sense of what consequences you may face. Stealing money is illegal and you could face misdemeanor or felony charges, depending on how much you take and how you take it. If you get caught stealing, you may have to pay big fines or spend time in jail. We could help you find resources and talk about your options for legal ways to earn and save money you will need for moving. It can also be very helpful to have a backup plan in case things don't work out how you hope with your friend. We often hear from youth who move out and end up stranded or in a dangerous situation when their plans don't work out. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving is a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It is also helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can. Please don't hesitate to give us a call or chat with us online if you need resources or want to talk!

                • Hi I am 17 in 2 months My family is physically and emotionally abusive I have bruises and cuts and scars from them I tried running away the other day and they caught me and made me go home and threatened taking me to the police then said they are taking me to a mental hospital. My best freind and her mother said I can come live with them and they will take care of me. I am going to leave soon and I was wondering if your greyhound will take me to a safe place you say it is for returning home but I don't feel safe going home. It is eight hours away I do not want to be picked up off the streets I have been raped before and I don't feel safe walking the eight hours. Is there a way I can get a ticket to her place instead of home. I have picture proof of all the abuse incase the police try to make me go back home. Thank you so much. I am already packed and have everything I need. This has been going on for the longest time and I can not take it no more. My freinds keep asking me what happend to my neck when I tell them they said I should call the police but I do not want to. Thank you.

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                  • ccsmod2
                    ccsmod2 commented
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                    Hi,

                    Thanks for reaching out to us. You seem really distressed about going home. Based on what you have shared that you've been through, that's understandable to be worried about being on the streets. Unfortunately our Home Free program through Greyhound is a family reunification program, helping youth to get back home to their families. We can't help you to run away to live with someone else. If you do feel you are in physical danger, you have a right to reach out for help. If you need support, or help with reaching out to someone to talk to, we are always here.

                    Hope to hear from you soon,
                    NRS

                • Hello I am a 17 year old female that lives in CA. I am tired with the way my father treats me and I want to get out ASAP, even if it means taking off. Which seems like my only option at this point. I was forced to move in with my father when I was 13. He didn't really want anything to do with me until my mother finally decided to divorce him, which started when I was 11, and he didn't decide not long after I turned 13 to be "in" my life. My father continues to emotionally abuse me and control me yet no one believes me. My counselor that I am court ordered to see sides with my father and says that I have been making everything up from the past. My father has physically and mentally abused me and my mother back when they were married and was constantly in and out of the house, but the court threw everything out and said that it was all made up. The judge himself even told me that I was a worthless liar. I have tried making it work, working on mine and fathers relationship and staying there these past few years, but it yet has only gotten worse. My father won't even let me contact my mother anymore and visitations are only every other weekend if he allows it. He continually considers me a troublemaker and a rebellious child, making out that I only want attention. No one even bothers listening to me anymore. He has taken everything that he possibly could take away from me and is now starting to try and take my pets things, money (which my mother gives me), and such. I have no phone or any way to contact anybody if I need it, no home phone or anything. I am not allowed to use any electronic devices. He has even threatened to put me on home study. Next thing I can see him doing is selling my snake which I bought myself and put over $600 into. I am wanting to go live back with my mother and get my life back on track and actually do something with it. If I can move, I am able to graduate early and go to college and start my career choices. Also get my permit and license which my father won't allow, and get a job so that I can save money. I also don't really care to see my father ever again. I am not sure on what I can do besides not coming back from my mom's on a visitation weekend and stay there. I am sure my dad will take it to court but I am only afraid that they will only try to arrest me again. Please I need help, or good advice of some kind. Also doesn't help that the county is small and pretty much corrupted all way around...

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                  • ccsmod10
                    ccsmod10 commented
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                    Hello,
                    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things have been really hard living with your dad. We’re sorry to hear that he is physically and emotionally hurting you. Nobody deserves to be treated that way, and you certainly don’t deserve to be ignored or called a liar.

                    It seems like your plan right now is to go stay with your mom. If your dad is your legal guardian and decided to file a runaway report, the police might return you back to him. However, how the police handle cases for runaways who are 17 does vary. Sometimes, local police might not accept a runaway report for a 17 year old, since they are so close to being an adult at 18 years old. If you were in a safe place with you mom, they may not have to return you to your dad. If you would like further information about how local police handle 17 year old runaway reports, you can call their non-emergency number and ask to speak with an officer. You can do that anonymously, too. We can also help you do this if you would like to chat us or call us to talk one on one.
                    We understand you have already been through a lot with the courts, but you can try to report how your dad abuses you again if you would like to. One resource we provide youth with to help them learn more about reporting abuse is Child Help USA (website: www.childhelp.org, phone: 1-800-422-4453). We can also help you file an abuse report if you were ever able to call our hotline. If you ever feel you are in immediate danger, you also have the right to call 9-1-1.
                    We hope this information has been helpful for you. If you would like to talk more about your situation or discuss options, please reach out through the online chat on our website or give us a call at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you’re able to get ahold of a phone.

                    Best of luck!
                    -NRS
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