i need to get away from my parents!!!!

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i really need to know how to get emancipated. Both of my parents drive me nuts and i just want to be independent and move to a city for more opportunitys and to live with my friends mom who is amazing and helps me alot. Oh and i am 16 and i live in south dakota. I NEED this. please help me!!!!!!

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RE: i need to get away from my parents!!!!

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard. We are sorry to hear about the way things are going for you. It sounds like your parents are frustrating. Do you feel comfortable with speaking to your parents about the way they are making you feel? Have you thought about having your friend’s mom speak to your parents on your behalf?

Minors are available to file petitions for emancipation in the state of South Dakota. In general, there are criteria that minors need to meet in order to be considered for emancipation which include the following: at least sixteen years of age, willingly lives separate and apart from their parents/guardians with consent, able to manage their own financial affairs, and a source of legal income. For the most accurate information, you may contact Black Hills Legal Services at 605-342-7171. You may also contact your local courts to determine the procedure to file a petition for emancipation.

We hope the information provided helps. Remember you can always give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Our hotline is confidential, anonymous, toll-free, and available 24 hours 7 days.

Best Wishes,
~NRS

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emancipation

so your saying i need consent from my parents to get emancipated?

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Re: I need to get away from my parents

Hi,
Thanks for contacting us again here at the National Runaway Switchboard. Like it says below, you may need to have been living apart from your parents already with their consent. As much as is stated already is only as much as we can say. We are not legal experts so we don't really have too much information as far as that is concerned. It can be a case by case basis so it may be most beneficial to contact the number given. Again, it's Black Hills Legal Services at 605-342-7171.

We are sorry there isn't a ton of information that we are able to give on this matter but if you call the number given they may be able to answer any legal questions you may have. If you need anything else feel free to call us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us from 4:30-10pm CST. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

[svandran]

how do i get away from my parents

So I am 16 years onld almost 17 and I have a 7 month old daughter and me and the father would like to be a family together and my mom dosent even want me to move out. I just want to know what some options are besides emancipation because him and me want tolive together and get married.

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Re: how do i get away from my parents

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you're going through a very tough time and wanting to find some ways to properly gain some independence. We'll try and help out as best as we can.

One thing to consider is the age of majority and what that would be in your city/state. Age of majority in most states is 18 and that means that the only way to move out of your house is with emancipation or allowance from your parents. What's going on that your folks won't let you move out? What are some things that you've planned to have a stable and supportive place to live with your boyfriend?

We would like to continue to support you by exploring what options are available to you. If you'd like, please call our hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We're anonymous, confidential and available 24/7. If you were to call we could talk about what are other ways for you to get your needs me. We're glad that you decided to reach out and make things better and easier for you.

Best of luck,
NRS

[Abbysaysello]

I need help..

I am 16 and live with my dad and step mom in ky. My mom does drugs all the time and lost rights when I was little. My dad hits me all the time. I have only reported it once, I had the hair he ripped outta my head and bruises but they dropped my case. I have a dedicated fiancé in tn who's willing to help especially because he had to live with me for a month. I need help I can't do it for 2 more years please.

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Re: i need to get away from my parents!!!!

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us. It must be hard for you to share your story, but this is a great first step. You do not deserve to be hit, and if you would like to report again we can definitely help you through that process. One option would be to document your injuries from the abuse through photos so that you have the proof for child services, if you were to report it again. Do you think your parents would give you consent to live with your fiancé? Depending on his age, and who he lives with, if your parents were to find out where you were and not provide consent, he or his legal guardians could get in to legal trouble for harboring a runaway.

Also, Child Help USA is a national advocacy organization for child abuse and through them you may be able to receive help as well. Their website is www.childhelpusa.org and their hotline number is 1-800-422-4453. You do not necessarily need to file an abuse report if you call them, but they are there to help. Lastly, if you feel comfortable talking on the phone, we here at NRS have a 24/7 hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY) where we can more readily give you support and resources. Also, you can reach out to us through our chat option on our website; the hours are 4:30-11:30pm CST. Good luck.

-NRS

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i hate my parents

Hi, I live in Pennsylvania, and a sophmore in high school. My mom treats me alright but isn't a very supportive person, always keeps to herself and never has time to even talk to me. My dad is the biggest asshole I have ever met, he was a cop untill he retired right when I was turning 14, I never even saw him for more than 15 minutes at a time before I was 14 so I hardly knew him but I realized that all he does it pick on me constantly. I maintain a 3.4 gpa in school and I have plenty of friends, I've never been in trouble before I don't smoke weed or do and drugs. And yet he Hates me, I have dealt with all this bull******** for this long, but recently things have gotten worse. My parents fight and sometimes it is violent my dad has hit me and pushed me around before but if I call the cops i feel that since he was a cop I would get in trouble because it's my word against his. Him being a cop for 40 years and knowing everyone. Also my mom has no money because she stays at home and does whatever and I can't get any money for anything from my dad, I can't work, I have no transportation to get to work so I constantly have no money EVER. I really want my parents to get divorced, but I don't think that will happen. Questions: if I get emancipated can I work a full time job? Aka without restricted hours? Is there something similar to child support that they would have to pay to me? Is this even possible?

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RE: I hate my parents

Hello,

We’re glad you reached out to us at NRS. It sounds like you’ve had some pretty serious struggles at home and you could use some support and resources. It seems like your questions are legally oriented. We are not legal experts and cannot give legal advice. However, it is our understanding that, in order to qualify for emancipation, you typically have to prove that you are able to support yourself. So, in some cases, youth need to have a job before they are granted emancipation. It seems like you are looking for more legal information than we are able to provide. You can call Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453, which is a 24/7 hotline that is geared specifically toward legal issues with youth.

You mentioned that your dad has hit you and pushed you around before. We are so sorry to hear that, as nobody deserves to be treated in that way. Every child has the right to a safe and secure home and we commend you for taking the step of reaching out for support. It sounds like you are worried to report your dad for physically abusing you. The fact is that if you report it to Child Protection Services or the police, that report will be filed and documented. If things don’t change, you can always file additional reports, which will only build your case and strengthen your word. The Child Abuse Reporting number for Pennsylvania is 1-800-932-0313.

If you would like help making the report, please do not hesitate to call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we will assist you through the process. Also, give us a call if you want to talk over your options. We are confidential and anonymous. Or you can chat with us during the hours of 4:30pm-11:30pm. We wish you the best of luck and encourage you to continue to advocate for yourself and reach out to others for support.

Best,
NRS

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I hate my parents

My parents act like instead little baby won't let me do NOTHING they are telling me I can't leave when I'm 18 and that my fiance is not allowed here anymore all because he lives 20 mins away and can't afford to keep coming back and forth everyday just to pick my sisters dumb boyfriend up. I lived with my fiance about 1 1/2 months ago but they made me come back and I lived with him for 5 months how do I get emancipated quickly I'm 17 my birthday is January 4th but I need out of this hell hole immediately they constantly call me a whore Tell me I'm fat and everything else please someone Tell me the quickest way to get emancipated!!!!!!

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RE: I hate my parents

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you are in a very difficult situation right now. Nobody deserves to be mistreated at home. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can. We are not legal experts, but we might be able to point in you in the right direction. If you want to be emancipated, you might consider obtaining legal counsel. We might be able to help you find a local legal aid resource. If you have any questions, or you need resources, please contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us on www.1800RUNAWAY.org between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST. We are looking forward to hearing from you, and wish you the best of luck.

NRS

[Unregistered]

I don't know what to do....

hi I am currently 16 I love in Washington and my step dad is crazy. I am never allowed to go to friends house or anything and sometimes I can't even go to school cause I have to clean constantly. he verbally abuses me and my older sister and my 2 year old brother. he always tries threatening us saying if we ever leave him out cash the cops on him he will find is and kill us. And he is always verbally abusive and my mom is to scared to say anything to him at all . she met him 11 years ago and had a baby with him and more were trapped. And in a couple of. month's he is trying to take me. out of school and move our family to Trinidad. And all he does is smoke weed and sell it all the time and my girlfriend and her family are trying get signed over to them but he threatened to shoot everyone intheir family and told me he would light my girlfriend on fire and have me watch...

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Re: I don't know what to do...

It sounds like you are in a very scary situation and we are so glad you decided to reach out for some help and support. We appreciate you having the courage to share your story with us. You mentioned that you are 16 but you do not feel safe in your home mainly due to your step dad’s behavior. No one deserves to be abused or threatened in anyway and you have every right to feel safe in your home. Have you ever told anyone about your stepdad or reported his behavior to child services? If you did want to make an abuse report you have every right to do so and we can even help you with that. If you feel you have some people in your life that you trust, such as a teacher or a counselor, you may consider talking with them about your concerns as well. If you did want to get information on reporting you can also reach out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453.

It’s good to hear that you have support in your girlfriend and her family but it sounds like you are concerned for their safety as well. The tricky thing is that you are 16 so you are still a minor. One thing to keep in mind is that your mom may be your only guardian if your stepdad never signed actual custody paperwork for you. Have you spoken with your mom about your concerns and about her giving you permission to live with your girlfriend’s family? We are here to support you as well. There is always someone here to listen, discuss safe options, and even find helpful resources in your area. All of our services are confidential and anonymous. If you would like to talk with someone immediately you can call us at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have a live chat available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST. Feel free to reach out to us anytime. We would love to speak with you. Take care and be safe.

[Unregistered]

Help!?

I live in Indiana, and I absolutely hate my life because of my parents. They are abusive mentally/verbally/emotionally. I can't take it anymore. I cannot talk to them or any other adult. I'm 14. I have family I would possibly want to live with. How can I get out of this house?