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    im 17 and i want to run away. i have so many problems at home with my mother. i just cant take the verbal abuse anymore and the threats to send me to live with other relatives. i want to get out of school, get my high school diploma early like a 6 month program but i am scared she is going to try and send me away and i wont have any say since im a minor. could she call the cops on me if i ran away and have me arrested? i live in florida.

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    Re: im 17 and i want to run away, could my parents call the cops and have me arrested

    Thanks so much for contacting us and telling us a bit about your situation. It sounds like there are some issues going on at home and more specifically with your mother. How long have you been dealing with this? Does your mom have any idea how you have been feeling? We are sorry to hear that all of this is happening and no one deserves to feel like they are being verbally abused at home. You mentioned that you are at the point where you are want to leave but you are concerned for what your mom might do. In most states the age of majority, when a youth is considered an adult, is 18. However, there are many states (sometimes it depends on the city or county) that have discrepancies between the age of majority and the age a youth is considered a runaway. For example we often hear that while the legal age of majority is 18, in some states at 17 the local police no longer take runaway reports or make the youth return home if they leave without permission. A possible option may be to contact the local police in your area to find out what is the most accurate information for how they proceed with this type of situation. Some questions you may want to specifically ask are…

    *At what age is a youth no longer considered a runaway?
    *If a 17 y/o leaves home without permission, do you still take a runaway report?
    *If yes: what happens if/when that youth is found?

    It sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now and I’m so glad you reached out to us. If you would like to discuss your situation more in depth please feel free to give us a call at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). While we cannot give you specific advice, there is always someone here to listen, provide support, discuss options, and find resources. Take care and feel free to give us a call anytime.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

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    • #3
      idk

      im also 17 and i will be 18 in july and i just gout out of my parents (with promission)we had to be out of the house in a few days and now my mom wants me to come clean the whole house while she lays in bed but i got promission from my dad and mom to live where i am now but she keep badgering me and stuff but when i lived their i always did everything around the house why she laid in bed.i dont know if i can be tookin away from where i am the place i am now is stable and always has food and im well tookin care of is their is anything she can do?

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      • #4
        idk

        Hello,

        We’re glad you decided to contact us at the National Runaway Switchboard. It sounds like you are dealing with an incredibly difficult situation and that you’re handling it the best you can. We imagine it is stressful knowing your mother and dad are going to be evicted as well as being asked to clean. It sounds like you are a strong person who is trying to do everything you can to keep your environment healthy and stable.


        We’re not sure exactly what your parent’s plan is after the eviction and what your mom can do as far as you being out of their care might depend on how your city/state views 17 year-olds. One option would be to contact your local police or sheriff’s department (or have someone else call for you if it makes you more comfortable.) If you are able to contact us directly by phone or by chat, we can even make that outgoing call for you. We can be reached 24/7 by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and from 4:30 to 11:30 pm CST through our Live Chat. To chat with us, simply click on the red “Live Chat” button and it will explain what to do from there. We wish you best of luck and hope that helps!
        Last edited by ccsmod3; 02-27-2012, 12:00 AM.
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        • #5
          Im ready to move out. Can I get charged with anything for just leaving?

          I'm 17 I live in the state of Georgia. Im having problems with my mom she just yelled at the whole family at a get together. The whole family left and she is cussing me and my brothers she is always in this mood. I think she is back on drugs but I don't want to confront her. But what I'm getting at is that I have a place to go with food and clothes to put on my back.. If I just move out then can my mom press any charges? I'm 17 years old and live in ga. When I move I will only be two miles down the road.

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          • #6
            Re: Im ready to move out. Can I get charged with anything for just leaving?

            Hello,

            Thanks for reaching out to us on our bulletin boards. Sounds like there's a lot of stuff going on at home and you're trying to find a comfortable and safe place to live. That's not much to ask for but it's a complicated situation because you're still 17.

            If you were to go somewhere so you did have clothing and shelter, where would you go? You said it'd be very close to home...how would your mom feel about you going there and how long could you stay?

            In most states the legal age of adulthood is 18. That means that you can decide where to live without the police/social services getting involved. The best way to find out if you're clear of those reprocussions would be by calling your local police (non emergency) and asking at what age a youth can decide where they want to live. That might answer your question about your mom getting you arrested: it's not illegal to run from home and want safety somewhere but if your mom make a runaway report with the police, you could potentially get picked up and returned home. It's hard to say but some police do respond that way and some just take the report and don't follow up.

            Since you're feeling like you can't be at home and you just want a safe place, there are sometimes some shelters where you can live without the fear of getting arrested or returned home. You said you lived in Georgia...in what city in GA do you live? If you wanted we could provide you with some shelters where you could go and talk about what's going on at home. In some cases you migth want to speak with social services (they are the ones that decide who you are legally allowed to live with) and if they see it fit that your mom is not a safe person to be with, they might grant custody to someone else (potentially the people you want to stay with) as so long as they're safe, over 18 and stable.

            If you'd like to explore this some more and talk about shelters or issues of custody, our hotline is available 24 hours a day and you can reach us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

            Best of luck,
            NRS.
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

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            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
            Tell us what you think about your experience!
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            • #7
              run away

              my parents have been vorbaly abusing me and i ranaway from home three time i ranaway yesterday could i get arrested for running away from home

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              • #8
                Hello,

                Thanks for posting the details of your situation on the bulletin boards. Sounds like you're experiencing a lot of stuff at home and you needed to leave to get away from that.

                We're sorry to hear your parents are verbally abusing you. How long has this been going on and what kinds of things are happening when they verbally abuse you? Does anyone else know what's going on at home? How are they helpful or not?

                From what we know, running from home in most states isn't illegal. It's considered a status offense and usually you can't get arrested for that. If you're older than 17 then you should be allowed to leave home with any reprocussions.

                If you want to explore this some more and tell us what else is happening at home we can explore things that might be available to you depending on your situation. You can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We're anonymous, confidential and available 24/7.

                Hope to hear from you soon. Best of luck.
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

                National Runaway Safeline
                info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                Tell us what you think about your experience!
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                • #9
                  the impasse

                  Hello. I'm 17 and I've been having a disagreement with my mom about visiting a friend in need for a while now. I live in Virginia, but my friend lives in Texas. She does not want me to visit them because she thinks my friend's mom would try to have me arrested or put in a hospital. She only thinks this because I threatened suicide one and my friend's mom did call the police because she thought I had already overdosed. My mom doesn't trust my friend's mom, but she also refuses to get to know her. My friend needs me and I need them. I'm getting increasingly agitated at my mother for refusing to understand or let me visit. I'm at the point where I'm considering running away. I heard that in Texas once you're 17 the cops do not take you back home or try to punish you. I was wondering if that was true and how that would work since I am living in Virginia at the moment.

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                  • #10
                    re: the impasse

                    Hi,
                    Thanks for coming to us here at the National Runaway Switchboard. So sorry to hear all the things that you have been going through and that your mom is not being as supportive as you would like through all of this.
                    Do you think that your friends mom would be willing to call out to your mom to try and speak with her more about what is going on? It sounds like your mom may be scared for your own safety being that you would be traveling quite a distance. Is there a way you may be able to go with someone else that your mom approves of to get down there?
                    As far as legally being able to be in Texas at 17, since we are not legal experts we don't have the authority to give you a definite answer on that. The only way to really be sure is to talk to the local police about it. You have the option of calling out to them anonymously to ask any questions that you have. Or you can give us a call and we can help you do that. There also may be legal resources we could provide you with if you are more comfortable talking with someone like that.
                    Whatever the case may be, we would really like to be able to further help you in this situation. It sounds like you are stressed out and we're here to talk with you about all of this. If you can give us a call anytime, we're available at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our chat from 4:30-11:30pm CST every day. We hope to hear from you soon so we can continue talking with you and help you in whatever way we can.
                    Good luck to you,
                    NRS

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                    • #11
                      Help!!!

                      i WANT TO MOVE OUT WEN IM 18 TO LIV WITH FAMILY FRIENDS IM CURRENTLY 17 AND A HALF MY FOLKKS R TAKING OUT A CHILD PROTECTION SAFTEY LAN OUT AGAINST THE PPL I WANT TO MOV OUT WITH WEN IM 18 THE PLAN IS LIKE A RESTRAINT AGAINST ME SEEING OR HAVING CONTACT WITH THEM..WEN I TURN 18 WILL I STILL B UNDER THOSE RESTRICTIONS?THE PPL R BEING FALSELEY ACCUSED BECUZ THEY'VE NEVER HARMED OR NTENTED TO HARM ME AND SINCE IM 18 MY FOLKS HAVE NO GUARDENSHIP OVER ME RIGHT? I LIVE N GA AND AT HOME IM NOT N CPS(CHILD PROTECTION SERVICES) SO I THINK I SHUD JUST BE ABLE TO MOVE WITHOUT THEIR KNOWING I LIV N CANTON PLZ HELP

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                      • #12
                        RE: Help!!

                        Hello,

                        Thank you for contacting us for support. We appreciate you opening up to us about your situation. From what you wrote, it sounds like your parents are trying to restrict your interactions with your friends. Most of what you wrote seem to be leaning towards legal questions but we are not legal experts.

                        We cannot speak to the legalities on restrictions that your family may place on you. It seems you are faced with the decision to leave at 18 because you are concerned about the limits. It must not be easy since they are trying to control what you do. It sounds like a difficult situation for you.

                        In most cases, you may have the right to move out at 18. 17 and a half may seem like a long time away from now and only you may know what else you can bare as you continue to live home. However, do you see other ways you can cope until you are 18? It is good to hear that your friends have not harm you and that is not their intention. It must be nice for you to be able to rely on good friends.

                        We are a 24 hour a day hotline and we are dedicated to helping you through this difficult time. We hope you may be able to find some time to call us to discuss these matters further at 1800RUNAWAY. Good luck.

                        -NRS
                        Last edited by ccsmod8; 06-15-2012, 12:27 AM.
                        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:


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                        info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                        Tell us what you think about your experience!
                        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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                        • #13
                          Leaving at 17..

                          Im 16 years old turning 17 in 4 months. My parents are verbally abusing and emotionally crushing. I have a job and i'm still going to school, and would like to continue, but i want to leave. They are trying to charge me for gas money and making me buy all of my daily needs. Im tired of having to pay for myself and not being aloud to leave and be responsible for myself, without them controlling my life.. i want to leave on my 17th birthday, but i don't want the police to make me go back home if i leave.. is there any way at all to keep my job and continue going to school, but leave home without permision? Please i really need some kind of advice in this matter.

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                          • #14
                            Re: im 17 and i want to run away, could my parents call the cops and have me arrested

                            Hello,

                            We’re glad you decided to reach out to us at the National Runaway Switchboard. It sounds like you are dealing with an incredibly difficult situation and are trying to weigh your options. No one deserves to be abused, regardless of the type of abuse. We are very sorry to hear your parents are verbally abusive. We aren’t here to tell you what to do and we aren’t legal experts, but can provide some general answers to your question about leaving home without permission.

                            To our knowledge, running away is just a status offense (meaning you can’t do so strictly based on your age.) If you leave, your parents file a runaway report, and police do find you, most likely they will just take you back home. Sometimes police detain runaway youth temporarily, but unless youth commit another crime, they normally do not have grounds to place them in juvenile detention.

                            Some states offer emancipation which usually requires:
                            1. The minor currently has a job/a reliable & legal source of income. 2. In the process of completing high school or has obtained a GED 3. Living separate/apart from parent(s)/guardian(s) with their acquiescence.

                            Sometimes staying at a runaway shelter is an option, although they will probably need to get in touch with your parents at some point as well. If you’d like to look into this further, one place to start is National Safe Place. Not all cities offer safe place shelters, but you can check and see if your area does here: www.nationalsafeplace.org.

                            We hope that helps a bit and feel free to contact us by calling us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or by Live Chatting at www.1800runaway.org (big red button) from 4:30 to 11:30pm CST. Best of luck and stay safe!

                            -NRS
                            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:



                            National Runaway Safeline
                            info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
                            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
                            Tell us what you think about your experience!
                            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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                            • #15
                              I'm 16, and I live in Florida.

                              My parents treat me like complete s**t & I'm done with it. I have everything on track. Good grades, I'm enrolled at the community college, & I'm 16. I have friends that are to die for since they don't have any negative effects on me. I've cleaned up my life, & I feel as if they use me as someone to just boss around, Someone to clean their house because they don't want to I wanted to know If I left at 17, Would the cops do anything about me leaving, because I need out. I understand they're my parents and they can do this to me, But I'm saying it's bringing me down, It's making me want out even more. I feel like If I don't get out soon, Then I won't have any relationship with my parents at all, & my mood will be even more depressed. I'm tired of being treated like a child. I absolutely plan on moving out of range for them to come see me to go to college, If I had a choice to move out today I would, & I probably wouldn't come back depending on how they handled it. Like I said They've told me they do it because they can, and it's driving me nuts.

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