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Hello,

Thanks for contacting us again.

It's good to hear that the police are being a bit more helpful and willing to find her. Sounds like at this point you've done everything that you can to help her return home:
-Contacting thr National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC)
1800.786.2929
-Speaking with all friends and family
-Working with police

Do you feel like putting up fliers/information about your daughter around your area would be helpful? The website www.beyondmissing.com can help with other resources especially the Parent Template which will help produce a flier about your daughter. These are also good to get awareness out onto the streets.

Do you feel like you're prepared for her return? Sounds like everyone wants her to be safe and at the same time, she might not stay home if she returns. Do you have any resources or ideas as what could help her stay home?

If you'd like to explore options a bit more, please call us 24/7 at 1800.RUNAWAY (1800.786.2929) and we can talk about what else might be available for you.

Best of luck,
NRS

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thank you............just wanted to know if i had already done what I needed to do legally.......the police told us they are petiioning the court to list her as a runaway, what does that do other than us just filing a report with them............at first we could get them to do nothing other than find her and talk to her..........I have contacted all of her friends that I know of and warned them all that if they are letting her stay they may be harboring a runaway.........from what i hear they are telling her to come home but she tells them not to worry about it that she knows what she is doing............so I guess its in her ballcourt unless the police find her and bring her home............I love her and miss her but she has certainly made life almost unbearable at home and I have her younger brother to take care of and think about too and I do not think he wants her home.

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Hi,
Thanks so much for contacting us here at the National Runaway Switchboard. It sounds like your family is having a tough time right now and we are glad you have reached out to us. Unfortunately we cannot give advice but we are here to hopefully give you some helpful options in your situation.

You said that your daughter is still going to school, so at least you know she's ok and there is some way to communicate with her. It can be difficult like you stated to get time off of work to talk with her; have you thought about leaving a message with someone at school to deliver to her either verbally or written to try and work out some sort of compromise about what you both need and want right now? It may not be the quickest route but it's something you may be able to work on step-by-step with her.

Have you and your husband been able to talk to her counselor about her progress or lack thereof during this time? They may not be able to share alot of what the two of them discuss but you may be able to talk about what you are hoping to get out of the counseling now and where they stand thus far.

A far as what your legal responsibilities are right now as a parent, you are legally responsible for her actions and safety while she is a minor. If you file a runaway report with the police (as it sounds like you have) you are legally stating that the youth is out of your control and has left without your permission. But in most cases, you are still legally required to let her back in if/when she returns.

We would be more than happy to provide you with resources in your area if you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. There are legal resources and possibly some other phone numbers relating to minors being problematic we can provide to you. We are 24/7 and confidential. We also provide a service where you can leave a message for your daughter and if there is a way to let her know that it is here she can call in to retreive it and hopefully respond, therefore opening the lines of communication between you or your husband and your daughter. It also may be helpful for her to have our number just in case she needs to talk or needs a safe place to stay.

We have many resources available to help you and your family and we are looking forward to hearing from you. Again, we are sorry for what you are going through, it sounds like it is very challenging right now. But we are here to help in whatever way we can.

Good luck to you,
NRS

Hi I need advise or help or something just not sure what.........my 16 yr old daughter has run away from home several times but always calls and tells us where she is and she will be home at such and such a time or date, this time she did not just did not show up...........I have contacted her friends and their parents and the police and they did not bring her home they just told her that if we said she had to come home then she had to come home? she has been going to school but my husband and I both work and are very used to her giving us trouble and really cannot afford to miss work...........she has been in contact with her counselor as have we, she has been in counceling for along time and it hasnt helped............she is adopted and has many many issues. she is never happy she steals she drinks she smokes pot and maybe using other drugs...........we really have no control over her anymore...........im at my wits end and want to know what my legal responsibilities are with her.