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  • ccsmod13
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    Hi there,
    We are glad you reached out to us for help! Home is supposed to be somewhere you feel safe and supported, and from what you mentioned that is not the case with your dad. It is not okay for him to threaten to kick you out and make you feel unsafe. It is really responsible of you to want to come up with a safety plan in case something does happen or you feel like you need to leave.

    If your dad kicks you out, the National Safe Place can help connect you with a youth shelter to stay at. All you have to do is text “safe” and your current address to 741741 for the nearest safe place.
    Parents have a legal obligation to make sure you have somewhere safe to live, and since your dad is not doing that then you have the right to report it. You can call the national child abuse hotline at 1-800-422-4453 for more information and help filing an abuse report.

    Please do not hesitate to call us at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at our website 1800runaway.org if you would like to talk more about your situation. We are here 24/7 if you need help.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    I am a 16 year old girl from brooklyn new york. Me and my dad are constently in and out of fights (both physical and verbal) and my mother lives over sea so theres nothing she can do. One time we got into a very bad fight and i ran away and slept on the trains for 2 days but ended up going back because i had nowhere else to go. He has then threatened numerous times to kick me out and im scared becase i feel like he will. The area i live in is very dangerouse and i dont no what to do. Im in the 10th grade going into 11th where can i go if he was to kick me out

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  • ccsmod13
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to NRS!

    It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. Sometimes reaching out for help or someone to talk to can be the most difficult thing to do, but it shows a sense of maturity that many 16 year-olds may not possess yet. It isn’t easy when those we care most about don’t treat us the way we deserve to be treated or acknowledge that we may face different trials than they do. It sounds like you work very hard at being a good student and when that isn’t recognized it can be challenging. When we feel like we can’t speak to our family about what is troubling us, it may be a good idea to speak to someone who is involved with similar situations such as a school counselor, spiritual leader, or professional. These are just a few options that may benefit you, but ultimately the choice is yours and what you think the most appropriate direction would be.

    We are always available here at NRS at 1800runaway.org and 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    hi ive been going through some mood swings lately and i dont know if its beacuse im 16 and going through puberty but lately i justv wanted to be alone in my room not really speak to anyyone that much just sleep and i know thats not good but i cant help it , all my life i tried to do one thing ,and that is pleasing my mother . when i was in grade 4 i left school to go and memorise my holy book and this was my choice but slowly it beccame difficult and i stared doing this for my mother , my older brother has finnished his memmorization in 3 years and i was taking a bit longer so everyday my mother would say how im getting nowhwere with my life and why cant i be like my brother and i slowly driffted away from her , we use to be so close and now i cant even hug her without it being awkward , dont get me wrong she is a good person but she is also a perfectioness not just in her school work or her cleaning nut in me she want me to be perfect at everything and i cant take it anymore , i got a 88.8% on my papper last term and do you know waht she said , you must do better and yes i agree i could do better but a 16 yr old doesnt want to hear that , they want to hear "son im so proud of you" not once did she really look at me and say that to my face and when i finished my memorization my school had like a type of ceremony where they test you anywhere out of the holy book and you have to read it out of your head , now that wa stressful , so before the thing stared she told me "dont embarrass me and you daddy by making mistakes " and that broke me and it still brakes me uptill now im crying typing this . anyways so i now go to a arabic institute where im learning the language so she wanted to do it too , i didnt really like that idea but she applied anyway , so in class she gets all the questions right and thats because she is a realy clever women , so she expects me to be clever and good in every sinle thig that i do i cant take it . she always tells me and my siblings how in school everyone wanted to be her friend and all the boys wanted her , and i dont have friends nor are the girls chasing after me , so she thinks that life is easy , anyways ... i wasnt feeling myself theese past few days and i was spending most of my time in my room and silent and now she is threatening me to kick me out of the house there is a lot more to this story but i dont have the energy to type it out , i just need someone to be there for me and just listen , you know ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you so much for reaching out to us for help. This sounds like a very painful situation for both you and your sister. You both deserve to feel safe in your own home. You might want to reach out to other friends and family to see if there is anywhere your sister can go if you haven’t already. You can also try texting 44357 and say “SAFE” and your location and it will direct you to the nearest safe place for you to go. You can also go to their website at nationalsafeplace.org. If you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or use our online chat service, we can help you find a shelter or talk through other housing alternatives. We know staying in a shelter can be intimidating, so we can also help you find answers to any questions you might have. We’re sorry to hear that CPS hasn’t been helpful in the past. It might be helpful to find out when previous reports were filed and by who. Getting help from CPS can be challenging, but from what you shared about the abuse you’ve experienced it seems like this is a situation they should take seriously. We are here 24/7 and are ready to help you in any way that we can.

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    Guest replied
    My dad is abusive and always hurts me. The other day he dragged me down the stairs and threw me outside. I still have bruises on my arms from where he was holding so tight. Three days before this my little sister who is 15 left the house without telling anyone. After he threw me outside I left. I'm at a friends house and I found my sister on the way. I have a place to stay but she doesn't. I also don't want either of us going home I don't feel like its safe. Cps was called on them multiple times but they didn't do much about it. There was like 7 witnesses in the house just watching.

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  • ccsmod15
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    It can be difficult to ask for help and we are glad you reached out to us. It sounds like you are going through a really challenging time and feeling very alone. You are not alone and we are here to help. If you have any relatives or other adults in your life that you trust, they may be able to provide support and guidance.

    In the state of IL you are a minor until your 18th birthday. There could be consequences for you and others if you choose to leave as a minor. It is helpful to think about you will keep yourself safe regardless of the decision you make. One possible resource is CCBYS (1-877-870-2663). CCBYS is a 24 hour state-wide crisis response system that provides a continuum of services to youth in high risk situations and their families when appropriate. CCBYS agencies perform frontline crisis intervention, which involves immediate assessment of the facts surrounding a crisis situation and efforts to reunify the youth with their family or make arrangements for a temporary safe shelter followed by services for the youth and the family.

    Reaching out to a non-emergency police number can be a resource for getting legal advice about leaving home. In addition to being available by chat we operate a 24/7 hotline and are always here to provide additional support and resources (1-800-786-2929). We can also walk you through any of the other resources listed above. It sounds like conversations with your parents have not be helpful in the past. We also operate a conference call feature where we can help moderate a conference call between you and your parents.

    You do not deserve to feel alone, and we are here to help. Do not hesitate to reach out.

    Good luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 16
    I've been struggling with my parents, reason being is because I feel so alone in this house I want to leave everytime my mom says you can leave but don't come back. But I have no where to go. I just want to run and never come back here I'm desperate I try talking to them about how I feel, but they don't care how I feel. I just feel so alone with no one to talk to. I live in Illinois so if you can help please respond

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re really going through a difficult time and we want you to know that we are here for you in any way we can be. If you want to talk more about your situation, we can look up youth shelters in your area as well as talk about other way for you to find a place to stay. If you are interested in doing so, please give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    What do i do if i dont wanna go home because my mom will shoot me and she kicked me out im on the streets im really hungry idk what to do

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  • ccsmod15
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    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. Your safety is always our # 1 concern. 16 means you are a minor, and you have every right to call the police and explain that your mom has kicked you our and threatened harm. Child Help (1-800-422-4453, childhelp.org) is a hotline that can help you better understand neglect, which kicking you out could be considered neglect, how to report, if you want to, and how to stay safe.
    We can also look into youth shelters in your area for the night- you can reach us at 1-800-786-2929 or through live chat through this website!

    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hi I'm 16 and I have No where to go my mom kicked me out and told me if I go on her property shell shoot me what do I do

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you and your family are really going through it with the arguing and your mom's health. That sounds incredibly stressful and it is understandable that you are needing something to change.

    If you need somewhere to go, if you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us at www.1800runaway.org we can look for local youth shelters you can go to. If you haven't already, you might ask your mom if you can stay with a family member or friend at least temporarily until things can settle down at home some.

    If you are looking to address the issues at home, you might try to talk to your mom about how you are feeling alienated and how you are feeling like you are in a hard place because it is clear that you do care about her. If you have any supportive adults in your life like grandparents, other extended family members, or counselors you might try to include them in on that conversation. Sometimes having those trusted adults present can help parents hear where their kids are coming from. Here at NRS, we have a conference calling service and family counseling resources if you would like any intervention at home. Please call or chat us for those resources. It sounds like your family is going through so much right now and you all deserve some help.

    We hope this information is helpful, please call or chat if you would like to talk more about your situation.

    Best,

    NRS

  • ccsmod9
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    You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your parents. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.
    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.
    Be safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m a 16 year old teenager who has been working to help my stepdad keep the house and had to drop out because my mom ruined that for me but I want to go back to school and I stopped paying my step father for the bills and he got really mad and the other day he wanted to lift his hands on me and I didn’t let that happened I got mad and we had a argument and it’s not the first time everyone here is always fighting in the house and I just can’t live like this I want to graduate school and everything so I can have a better future but my mom and step father told me that they are kicking me out and now my mom said if I leave she is going to call the authorities to say I’m a runaway but then she says I have to leave what do I do please help me

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