Running away because of an abusive grown sister. When to tell my brother?

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I get tired of explaining about my sister, so I'll just tell you, I am going to run away, I've made up my mind about that. I also recently decided to take my brother with me if he wants to go. I'm leaving in either July, or in the fall so it's not so hot. When do I tell my brother that I want him to come? I was thinking the day of, and just kind of prepping quickly and walking him through it, but i don't want him to feel rushed. Any ideas for when?

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Hi there,
Thanks so much for reaching out to us. We want to recognize that it took a lot of strength to do so, and we are proud of your vulnerability.

First off, you mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home from your sister or from anyone else, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.

It sounds like you're planning to leave home later this summer and you want to take your brother with you. To answer your question, it is important to make sure your brother is aware of what's going on and has a say in whether he goes with you or not. You might consider telling him now and working together to make a plan.

If you do still choose to leave, we ask that you reach out to us via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) to get personalized and confidential help and to make a plan that will keep you safe and maximize your success.

We would love to hear more about your story and give you more personalized and confidential help. Please feel free to reach out to us directly any time to talk to a real person. The NRS is here 24/7 via online chat or by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929).

Thanks again for reaching out. Good luck!
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