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  • Help, I need to get out of a home at 15

    I am 15 and the past year I've hated living at home. My mom is the main problem. Anytime there is a problem it is thrown on me and she's made me into a "pleaser" child and if I don't do what is up to her expectations, she looks at me as a "horrible kid." I have been gaslighted, manipulated, and shut down even when I am right. Recently, another argument has sparked. She has been hitting and or throwing stuff, shouting, crying, insulting me and my boyfriend over catching me and my boyfriend having sex. She has been calling him a molester when both me and him gave consent. She keeps saying about how it's illegal but in Canada, as long as the person is within 5 years of my age it is ok. He is 16 turning 17 next month. My boyfriend's parents know what's going on and his mom is willing to come get me and I would be able to stay at her place. I do not want to call CPS and I do not want to live in a foster home. I know in a year I will be able to leave freely but I need out now. I don't know if I'm just being dramatic or sensitive like she says.

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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out, we understand it can be difficult to take that step. We hope to help as best we can. It sounds like things have been pretty tough at home, what your mom does seems to be emotional/verbal abuse. Please keep in mind that you do not deserve this treatment whatsoever, you deserve to feel comfortable in your own home. Only you truly know what it is like to deal with the treatment day in and day out, we do not think you are being overly sensitive at all.
    Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help https://www.childhelplineinternational.org/ may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. Reaching out does not mean you have to report anything, you can ask questions and decide to not move forward.
    We are not sure about the laws in Canada, as our resources are limited to the U.S. If the age of majority is 16, then you should not have too much trouble being able to go live with your boyfriend’s mom if that feels like the right decision to you.
    We hope this helps. Please reach out if we can offer any further support.

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    NRS
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