i want live independent and am not allowed to

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am planing to run away as soon as possible... it's really stressing here i cant whatever i want to do i must have permission am 21!! and am still controlled i cant live my life and if i work it's a shame to work!!!!...

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Hi there,

Thank you for taking the time to contact us here at NRS. It sounds like you are feeling that you don't have much control over your life which has been frustrating. Not being able to take the steps that you want to in order to become independent is a very challenging spot to be in. It seems you are planning on leaving soon, but you are still working on thinking through a plan.

Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.  

Take care,
NRS
1-800-RUNAWAY; 1800runaway.org