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    Hi, I'm 15 turning 16 in two months. I'm nonbinary raised female, and bisexual with a girlfriend. My parents would never accept me for who I am, and that's not even the beginning. I'm a pagan, they're christian, and recently my grandmother found my tarot cards and has been blackmailing me threatening to tell my parents. If she does, my parents would never forgive me and I'd be trapped in a little box of a house besides going to school. I desperately want out, but based on Pennsylvania law I don't think I can get emancipation at 16 if they aren't physically abusing me. I don't feel safe anymore and I have friends with parents who are willing to take me in, but I know if nothing's official the police can drag me back home. And my parents would never agree to make anything official because they 'care too much,' but they just care about raising the perfect christian girl. Which I'm not, and I never will be. Normally I wouldn't overreact, I'm very rational, but recently I cut my hair to test the waters and my mother wouldn't speak to me for a week. Does anyone have any advice for how to get out or what to do? I'm so sick of having my safety held against me.

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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You deserve to be your authentic self at home and feel unconditionally loved and supported. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. If your safety is in jeopardy and there is any abuse or harm you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/.

    We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, if you do opt to leave your home your parents can file a runaway report, which is essentially a missing person report. Running away is a status offense; this means that it isn’t illegal, but it’s something you can’t do while still a minor. If a runaway report is filed and you are located by the authorities you will most likely be returned home.

    It seems like your parents don't understand how their restrictions and expectations are affecting you. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you’d like, you can also call us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can set up a conference call with your parents so one of our trained crisis workers can act as a mediator.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,

    NRS

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