Emotional Abuse and Anxiety Pent Up, I Need To Get Out

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Hi. For the past 7 years of my 18 year life, I have been subjected to terrible emotional abuse from my mother. It's been anywhere from calling me names unprovoked, to stopping me from doing activities i love, to cutting off my connection to other support groups, to undermining my feelings when i confront her, to threatening to evict me, or just outright leave me etc. My dad is in touch with me, but continents away, theres no use asking him for help because he will recommend leaving america. I cannot do that, i am in my senior year of highschool, just 4 months left, and after the summer, i am gone for good, to university where i will feel so so so much better without waking up every morning to wonder if i am going to be beratted again or not. I guess i am here because I have been feeling like i need to leave, for good, since about the last year. I turned 18 recently, I have nothing, no money, no support, many friends, but none that can afford to support me for the next 4 months at least, and i have to get out of here. What do i do? Where do i go? How do i go? I can legally leave, without telling her too, and she cant do anything about it.

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Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It definitely sounds like things with your mom have been pretty tough, and we're sorry to hear that. Leaving home is a big step, but it seems like you've spent a lot of time thinking it over. While we can't tell you exactly what to do, we do tend to explore the following options with young people when they reach out in similar situations: trying to find a family member or friend to stay with. You mentioned that this IS possible, but that your friends could't support you. Finding a job might be helpful in that instance, even if it's just to tide you over until you're off to college. You could also pursue staying in an emergency shelter, or finding a transitional living program. A transitional living program is usually geared toward young adults who are experiencing homelessness, providing them with a safe and stable place to live for a certain period of time. Usually accommodations are included within these programs, so all of your basic needs are met.

If any of these are options that you're interested in and want to learn more about, or find referrals to, please feel free to reach out to us directly and we can discuss in more detail. We're available 24/7 by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through our live chat at www.1800runaway.org, and we're always happy to listen, and to help.

Take care.

NRS