just need some input on my situation

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Hello!
So I’ve been considering, for about a month or two now, running away and living with my s/o. I’m 18, so it’s not technically running away, but I won’t be telling anyone in advance, and will basically be disappearing. I’ll text my mom afterwards just so I won’t be reported as a missing person, but that’s it.
My s/o lives in a different state. They own a small home, and have a steady/decent-paying job, and said I can take as much time as I need before getting a job (but they would obviously like me to eventually.) They’ve reassured me many times that even if things don’t work out, they’ll still help me out.
One of my main concerns is that I’ll basically me dropping out of school. Thing is though, my mental health is absolutely horrible here at home, and I don’t think I’ll make it through the rest of the year. If I follow through, I plan on getting my GED as soon as I possibly can.
My other concern is having to deal with my mother afterwards. 99% sure she’ll try to guilt trip me, yell at me, etc. etc. Of course it’ll be over text, but I’d like to be a little decent and not block her completely. I’m sure she’ll also be incredibly angry about me dropping out. Perhaps she should’ve been a kinder parent then.
I really just want a better environment for myself, so I can improve my mental health. As it is here, I see no future for myself.
I would love some input and/or advice on what I should do. Thanks!!

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Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like you've spent a lot of time thinking about what your next steps are, but aren't quite committed to leaving home. While we can't give you direct advice on what to do, we're happy to pose a few questions and share a few thoughts that we think could be worth exploring.

In hearing that you have a s/o that lives out of state, owns a home, and is willing to support you, we want to be sure that you'd be entering into a safe space. A lot of times when we speak with young people who have partners in different states, we find that those relationships were built online. And while there's absolutely nothing wrong with that, it does raise a couple of red flags when minors are involved (assuming your relationship began before you turned 1, and conversations centered on moving from one state to another arise. Online relationships can build strong connections, but because we're missing those in person interactions, we're missing pieces of the puzzle. We're essentially getting the parts of someone that they want us to see, which sometimes can be misleading. If we find ourselves being presented with a situation that sounds too good to be true, it's a good idea to spend some time thinking about why that might be. Moving out of state, with your s/o who you *might've* met online or while underage, who has indicated that they will take care of you, and with plans to disappear, does create some cause for concern on our end, potentially putting you in an incredibly vulnerable and isolated position. If you're open to talking through this in more detail, please reach out to us through our live chat at www.1800runaway.org, or by calling us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

Best,

NRS