I wanna leave my single workoaholic mom's home

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My family was The classic picture perfect family, providing father, caring mother and siblings who were being brought up well... But that was far from the truth. There was no love at all... Not between my parents, not between me or my sibling, not between us (me and my siblings) and my parents. Things only went downhill... My parents are actually cousins so there families were involved in everything. Screaming, shouting in front of us, dar hitting us and mom, a parent leaves home and goes God knows where, both families gossiping about each other and cursing each other out in front of us. Both sides hate eachother and are trying to get us to be on their sides. As a child, I never realized the severity of this on my mental health, but I am now, and I'm glad I have. Even though parents don't live together, they still manage to make my mental health trash. Arguments whenever I wanna go out with the other parent. Now, I am battling depression, trauma +ptsd (constant emotional triggers, feeling constantly unsafe and unwanted), mental abuse of parents, horrible self esteem, BDD, not having anyone to bring me up properly (I live with one parent, and they are workaholic, and the other technically isn't a parent because they don't live with me or have custody) and problems trusting people (especially the opposite gender due to the issues and the idea of being in a relationship scares me a lot). My parents are from an older generation so even if I miraculously manage to muster up the courage to talk to them, they don't understand. I am underage so living alone or with the other parent isn't an option (due to weird laws of custody and legal problems between parents and parent not allowing me to do so even if I wanted to). I love my family because they're all I've ever known, but my mental health is really bad and I'm afraid I might do something that I don't wanna do. I have absolutely no other option (in the country I live in) except living with the other parent. But doing so means changes in my life (I've thought all the changes through) and I might also lose my mom and her family forever which I REALLY don't want.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
Be safe,
NRS

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Thank you so much for your time and effort, however, I am underage and do not live in the US and I do not wish to get involved in law + I don't even think it's that big of a deal where I live, as long as I get the consent of my parent. And I can get it, but I am afraid that living with the other parent will cause problems with the parent I currently live with and their family and I might end up totally losing them and cutting contact with them. But my life and mental health right now are horrible and change is a MUST. I feel very confused and feel horrible guilt and self pity as well. I am dealing with many mental health issues and problems in general that mostly came due to problems in my family and they really couldn't care less about me. I'm afraid that I'm scarred for life. Please help me I'm drowning again and I'm afraid of harming myself, yet I can not call anyone because there are no therapists or centres or anything that can help where I live. If I live with the other parent, I'll get way more space because their house is bigger and so at least I'll have to deal with the parent but I'll also have my own space.

My main questions are:
- What do I do about my crappy mental health?
- Should I go and live with the other parent or not?

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

Be safe,
NRS