I am 14 and I want to move out, due to: Stress, PTSD, Panic Atacks, Family issues,

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Hi,
My name is Aysia and I’m 14, I came across this website and thought I probably should talk to someone about what’s been happening, especially since my parents don’t care or don’t seem to care. I believe I have been having Panic attacks more often recently, I have some type of form of PTSD from a past relationship and it usually starts with a flashback and heads into a panic attack, where I feel dizzy and can't stop moving, my chest/heart starts to hurt and I can’t focus. It’s like I am having a heart attack, or at least that’s what it seems like. I have been also having stress from my mom, she accuses me of things I never did, I tell her the truth and she just yells over the top of me. I have a boyfriend and my mom hates him though he is the nicest and sweetest guy I have ever met. My friends like him, my dad likes him, pretty much everyone I know likes him except my mom. It’s causing me and my boyfriend stress. I want to point fingers and say “this is all her fault”… and maybe it is. She refuses to let me ever hang out with him and then yesterday she came into my room asked if I was in a call with him and I said yes. She then started calling him rude names and he ended up having a panic attack. He then told me he didn’t feel welcome at my house, which I completely understand because my mom was extremely rude. My mom had been extremely selfish and only cares about herself. She is mentally abusing me and taking a huge mental toll on me. I know that I could probably move in with my boyfriend but isn't that the first place my parents would look? Otherwise, I have no other choice because I don't have many friends. Every person I have become friends with, my mom hates and tells me or them that they are a terrible person.

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your mom. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. Unfortunately, emotional abuse is often harder to provide evidence for compared to physical abuse which is often what CPS relies on when conducting an abuse investigation. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at 1-800-422-4453 or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
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