Young age

[Guest]

Hi so I'm actually 14 and I really want to leave the household that I'm living in. Everyone thinks its lucky to live here but no one sees the behind the scenes. Everyone thinks my mom is nice and good person but she isn't. She treats me horrible mentally. She might have money but that's not what I care about. I want a mom who doesn't make me feel bad about stuff I do, who can understand me for who I am, who i can talk to about something and her not get mad. Most of all I just want a loving mom! I have 3 more years here about 5 more months and I can't do this anymore. Two nights I tried to OD it was scary and I will never do that again but this isn't the first time she has made me feel this way. I just thought it was the quicker way out lucky I didn't do anything. I've also found out recently that it is illegal to run away in Kentucky but I really don't even want to stay here another day but I guess I have too. She tries to block me from the world thinking shes protecting me when all she's doing is making it worst. I barley ever want to tell her about my friends because shes also judging and I barley tell her about my life because I know what type of person she is. I'm sick of this can someone please help me. I'm also adopted so I don't know if that makes it worst or not.

[ccsmod7]

Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

Sounds like you have been through so much with your mom and living at home. You mentioned that you attempted to OD because of how you were feeling. We are so glad you are still with us and that you are feeling safer. Nothing is more important than your life. Those feelings are significant and you should be supported during this difficult time. Please know you are not alone and there is help available to you. While it may feel like you don’t have a lot of options, your well-being and life do matter, and you deserve to make it through this. While you can call or chat us 24/7, please know that we are not the only support out there who wants to help. If you feel like you are in immediate danger of hurting yourself, call 9-1-1. For additional support contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, call1-800-273-8255, or chat https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/chat/.

You mentioned that your mom is making things worse when she thinks she's protecting you. It can be frustrating when you feel like your parents don’t understand you or are unwilling to give you a bit of independence. Another option to consider is talking to your parents about the possibility of becoming more independent. Perhaps you might want to discuss what you can do to make your parents feel that you’re able to do more on your own, and what your parents can do to support your independence. If you feel like this might be a challenging conversation, include a supportive person, like a relative, teacher or guidance counselor, to make sure everyone is being heard. Here at NRS, we have a conference call services to help mediate problems between you and your parent(s). It can be a safe place to express how you all are feeling without anyone being interrupted, disrespected, or yelled at; and to work on compromises. Please do not hesitate to call us if you are interested in using our conference call service: 1-800-RUNAWAY. Along with our conference call services, we do have a national database of counseling services. Family counseling services can help address communication issues that you might be experiencing at home.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you are interested in those resources: 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org. We are here to listen, here to help.

Best,

NRS