Hi there,
Thank you so much for reaching out to us and being brave enough to share a bit about your story. We are sorry to hear your parents got so furious at you. Please know that the way your parents treated you is wrong: you absolutely do not deserve to be hit or dragged across the floor. That is physical abuse and you have the absolute right to file an abuse report on such awful behavior. If you want to report this incident you can do so through us, through your state's child abuse reporting agency, or through Child Help (www.childhelp.org) at 1-800-422-4453.
Nor do you deserve to be guilted for what you did. While we understand that you want to respect any reasonable rules your parents set while you live in their home, having sex is not some "unforgiveable" act. You probably have a lot of conflicting feelings about all this, but please know that no one has the right to shame you. Unfortunately, there is a lot of unnecessary shame and stigma surrounding sex in our culture and finding reasonable and healthy information is something that you deserve. With that said, we would like to share a great resource that talks about sex, STD's, pregnancy, etc. It's found at the following address and we encourage you to take a look: www.sexetc.org. Even though you are not pregnant you may want to consider seeing a medical professional about STD testing just in case. Planned Parenthood has some information on this topic as well and you may want to contact them: https://www.plannedparenthood.org/ge...tment-vaccines
As for the immediate issue of possibly running away from home: if you leave before you are 18 your parents can file a runaway report on you and, if found, the police may ask that you return home. However, the closer you are to 18 the less likely it is that the police will take serious action. In other words, they most likely won't try to track you down or use force to return you home. Of course, you may want to consider where you might stay or how leaving home might affect your family and life situation. It sounds like this incident with your boyfriend occurred recently. Could it be that your parents might calm down with some time passing? It's up to you if you feel it would be better to stay where you are or not. You certainly do not deserve to be kicked or forced out of your home for what happened. And if you do decide to leave home before 18 there is no reason why you couldn't complete high school or attend college.
If you give us a call or chat with us we can look up shelter or alternative living arrangements in your area for you. And we can talk more about how to deal with this situation. We are confidential, non-judgmental, and a safe place to talk. We will never tell you what to do, but we can discuss your options to help you figure out what you want to do. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and our chat room can be found at www.1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon!
All the best,
NRS
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I snuck my boyfriend into the house and had sex
so last night I snuck my boyfriend in the house and we had sex, we got caught and my parents were furious, and rightfully so, when I confessed to my dad he hit me 2x and dragged my across the floor, my mom stopped it before it could get too serious.After they were discussing on kicking me out when I turned 18, in November so 2 months from now, and I completely agree with them, what I did was disrespectful and unforgivable. my parents work really hard and i brought this upon myself. I want to runaway before then but I don't know how to go about it. I don't have a job or a granted place to live and plus I just started my senior year and I want to go to college. I just feel like I don't deserve to be here anymore. I if runaway 2 months before I turn 18 can they force my to come back home? can I still complete my senior year and go to college? Is there anywhere I can stay until I leave for college? and I know I'm not pregnant so Im not worried about that.
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