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    hi im 13 and my parents are treating me like BS what do i do.

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    Hey there. Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad you took that step. It sounds like both you and your friend are going through a lot, and we're sorry to hear that.

    Running away is a pretty big move, and it's important to spend some time thinking about it and trying to develop a plan if you decide that's what's best for you. It definitely sounds like you've been trying to think things over, but aren't quite sure if running away is what makes the most sense for you. While we can't tell you if your reasons are good enough reasons to runaway or if you're doing the right thing, we do think it's important to be aware of a few things and thinking through others before making a decision.

    If your bff's mom lets you stay with her and drives you out of town, she could get in trouble with the law. Walking out of town for a drive that takes 4 hours is going to be a really, really long walk. If your aunt is willing to take you and your friend in, do you think that she would pick the two of you up from somewhere? If you haven't discussed this plan with her, it's probably a good idea to do that before trying to go and stay with her. It's also important for you to know that if either of you do end up staying with her and neither of your parents agree, your aunt could also get into trouble with the law for allowing you to stay there.

    That said, it sounds like you both might be open to exploring additional options other than running away. Wanting to leave home when things feel really tough is normal, but it's always a good idea to try and think about some ways that we can work through what's in front of us. In reading over what you're experiencing, it sounds like you're working through some loss and not feeling supported by your stepmom. It might be a good idea to try and talk to your dad about how you're feeling, or consider talking with a therapist or a counselor. Not only do they give you the opportunity to vent, but they can also be incredibly supportive, help facilitate any tough conversations between you and your stepmom, and otherwise just be a safe person for you to talk to. You also mentioned that your friend's brother abuses her, which must be really scary for her to have to deal with. Abuse isn't okay, and Child Protective Services (CPS) may be able to help. If she's being hurt or feels unsafe at home, she can make an abuse report with CPS. She can also disclose the abuse to someone safe at school, like a teacher or the principal, and they'll file it for her. We can also file a report with her or for her here at NRS.

    If either of you would like to chat in more detail about what's going on at home, share more on your thoughts on running away, or be connected with resources/referrals that might help, please feel free to reach out to us directly by calling 1-800-RUNAWAY or by chatting with us live at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    Hi, me and my friend want to runaway. My friend wants to cause her parents tell at her all the time, her brother abuses her, and her dad hasn’t threatened to hurts her. I want to runaway cause my mom left me when I was four, I feel like my stepmom hates me, and my grandma just died. We have a plan, our plan is to either stay a night at my bff’s and then ask her mom to drive us to a town 4 hours out of town or just walk there. My aunt lives in that town so we’d have a place to stay but is that a good enough reason to runaway? I really want to help my friend we also have 130$
    Please help us we need to know if we’re doing the right thing

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us and sharing a bit about what you're going through. It sounds like your brother is treating you very badly and this has really traumatized you. That's a rough thing to go through and it makes sense that you would want to figure a way out of that situation. Of course, suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Your safety is the utmost priority. If you ever feel suicidal you may want to call 911 or reach out to https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ online or by phone at 1-800-273-8255. Of course, you can also always call or chat with us as well.

    It also sounds like you are considering running away. That's a pretty big decision to face. Providing for your own physical and emotional needs and staying safe would be extremely complicated at 12 years old. Fortunately, there are other options besides running away for you to consider. One idea would be to talk to someone you trust about what's going on: a parent, another relative, teacher, school counselor, pastor, or pretty much any adult that you are comfortable with. You may also consider writing a letter to your parents explaining exactly how you feel about what's going on. Perhaps they can intervene in a way so that your brother doesn't bully you anymore.

    There are probably lots of other options as well. We would like to discuss these with you. The best way for us to do that is if you give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us via our website: www.1800runaway.org (just click on the "chat" feature). We are confidential, open 24/7 and welcome your call any time.

    Stay safe, stay strong,

    NRS

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    My brother is bullying me so much bu i have literary thought about sucicde but it is so scary im 12 it is cold and winter i wanna runaway i just love my parents so much i have 15 dollars alot of suppiles i would live in an old house i am taught to cook and clean i know how to take care of myself my brother makes me cry for 1 hour like 5 times a week

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey there! Thank for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can take a lot of courage to reach out for support, and we're glad that you took that step. We're sorry to hear that things have been tough at home, especially with your parents. While we can't tell you if you should run or not, we're happy to chat with you about your specific situation, try and help you come up with some options, and otherwise think of a plan. It sounds like you have done some thinking about running away already, and are currently weighing the pros and cons of doing so. That's a great decision. Having a plan that you've spent some time thinking through will definitely be helpful. Considering where you'll go when you run, how you'll get there, and how you'll survive when you get there are also useful things to think over.

    If you'd like to talk in more detail about what's going on at home and what your plan is if you decide to runaway, please feel free to reach out to us by phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY or through our live chat at www.1800runaway.org. We're available 24/7 through both, and are always happy to listen, and to help.

    Take care.

    NRS

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    Hi my name is ———— I won’t say because I don’t want my parents to see and I’m 12 btw I want to run away because my dad is quite dramatic and hurts my dog and mentally hurts me like he compares me because I’m really skinny and my mom is rude to me and is always on my sisters side I don’t have much money I wanna take my dog with me but I don’t know if it’s the right choice so please help me should I run or not?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello!

    Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It’s great that you reached out for help, and we are here to help you in any way we can. It sounds like you’re having a tough time at home. You don’t deserve to be put down or made to feel bad in your home by your family. It can also be so hard to feel like you don’t fit in and need to sell your belongings to run away and escape. These sorts of thoughts and feelings can contribute to feeling down and depressed and can make everything feel worse. A good resource that can help if you’re feeling like you may have depression and are struggling is the National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI). NAMI has a helpline you can call at 800-950-6264, or you can text “NAMI” to 741741 to get free crisis counseling services. Additionally, if you would like to discuss more about what you are experiencing at home, it could be helpful to call us at the National Runaway Safeline. You can call 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) to speak with someone directly, or you can also use the “chat” feature and chat with someone live at www.1800runaway.org. We can also help match you with resources and create a plan if needed. We are always happy to help, don’t hesitate to reach out!

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    Hi... I am 11 years old and I think I should run away but I have know where to go my mom doesn’t like me at all and my bother calls me fat and my step dad is sick in a hospital bed in are living room and every day I feel worse I have a iPad i draw maybe I cloud sell those and have a bracelet kit maybe I can make them and sell them and have nail kit so that to and I don’t fit in I think I have depression but I don’t know can someone help? Please
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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,

    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are sorry to hear that you are going through a difficult situation and we are here to help.

    It is understandable that school may be stressing you out, especially if you are doing school virtually. One option to consider would be to talk with a teacher and they may be able to help or provide extra credit. Also you may talk to a school counselor for additional support and resources.
    We are not legal experts but if you were to run away your legal guardian could file a runaway report. If the police were to find you they most likely would bring you back home.

    You can always give us a call to talk in more detail about your situation. We can offer you support and explore your options with you. We are available 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Best of luck!
    NRS

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    can you help me im 11 and i want to run away because im ugly and i have to much school that i cant do and it it winter and i just dont know where to go because i live in the contry

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that things at home are so hard right now, and we are glad you have contacted us for help.
    It sounds like you are not being treated with the respect you deserve by Mom. This must be very frustrating. From your post, it sounds like you want to run away. It is always important to consider where you will go, how you will get there, and what you will do to survive once there. Your idea to stay in a shed sounds a bit dangerous given the harsh conditions of winter. You might consider running away to a place where you can live and sleep indoors. We can connect you with a runaway shelter resource if you ever want to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. It might be important to think about whether or not your parent will call the police, as they can become involved in bringing you back home if you run away and are reported.
    You mentioned hurting yourself. We want you to know that you are not alone, and that you can talk to people about this. Friends, family members, even a school counselor might be helpful for you. There is also an amazing website called To Write Love On Her Arms at twloha.com, which contains stories from lots of people who have self-harmed and have considered and attempted suicide. Their stories are real and hopeful.
    We hope you find some of this information helpful. We are always here to help, if you ever want to call us. Stay safe and stay strong.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    I'm 12 and want to run away I live in washinton wenatchee hate it here my mom is making me feel worthless not wanted and alot more I wanna run away to texas where my dad is and I wanna go with somone like in my friends shed I would bring a jacket clothes food drinks prolly a flashlight phone if possible sleeping materials and yeah. I was told I'll go to jail n alot of police come to my house more than 1 time a week bc I have thoughts of hurting myself or other different things, thanks
    Last edited by ccsmod15; 12-15-2020, 02:39 AM.

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hey girl same , I have gone through years of depression and suicidal thoughts , my dad left me at 8 , my mom is an alcoholic and has toxic boyfriends and often she abandons me for a few days and it’s winter and I don’t know where to go when I run away with my friend and my dog , im thinking about squatting in abandoned houses or getting a tent
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    Thanks for reaching out to us here at NRS. We know that it can be difficult to share tough details about your personal life, so it's incredibly brave of you to reach out for support.

    It sounds like you're going through a lot, but you don't have to navigate through any of it alone. If you're continuing to have suicidal thoughts, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a great resource that you can call for 24/7 confidential support at 1-800-273-8255. They also have a live chat available through their website (www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org), as well as resources to help find a therapist or support groups. The National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI) is another organization that you can reach out to for support and referrals at 1-800-950-6264 or by texting NAMI to their crisis text line at 741741. These might be good options for you to utilize during those times when you're feeling depressed or having suicidal thoughts.

    You also mentioned that your mom often abandons you for a few days at a time. If you're under the age of 18, your mom should be making plans for another adult to take care of you while she's away. If that isn't happening, it might be a good idea to talk to a safe adult (a teacher, social worker, therapist, etc.) about what's going on at home. They may be able to help you figure out another place to live, or file a report with Child Protective Services (CPS). You can also give us a call at NRS to learn more about filing a report with CPS and what that might look like. In thinking about running away, developing a plan (and a backup plan) is always a good idea. If squatting or getting a tent aren't regular options, you can utilize the Homeless Shelter Directory (homelessshelterdirectory.org) to find shelters in your area.

    This is a lot of information, so if you need any additional support in going through it or thinking through any additional options, please feel free to call us anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat us through our website: www.1800runaway.org. We're confidential, available 24/7, and always ready to help.

    Take care!

    NRS

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    Hey girl same , I have gone through years of depression and suicidal thoughts , my dad left me at 8 , my mom is an alcoholic and has toxic boyfriends and often she abandons me for a few days and it’s winter and I don’t know where to go when I run away with my friend and my dog , im thinking about squatting in abandoned houses or getting a tent

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