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19 years old and about to run away but not sure where to go

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  • 19 years old and about to run away but not sure where to go

    I've wanted to move out for a while but honestly I have no idea how to do that. I've had enough of the toxic dynamic within my family's household.
    I had gotten into a not-so-mature argument with my sister yesterday which resulted in her slamming my head into the car door and then ditching me on the side of the road. Our mother had to pick me up and did not bother to ask for my side of the situation at all but rather guilted me for my side and nagged me the whole car ride home about other things. I understand their side, but I'm tired of being around individuals who aren't capable of being considerate and lack empathy towards me,
    That situation honestly has pushed me past my limit. That's how they always respond to issues, it's always my fault and no one even cares to apologize to me at all , not genuinely or without a "but" in it at least. I've packed a backpack full of some essential belongings (and some snacks just in case) and I'm most likely taking the train in the afternoon to a different state but I have no idea where to go or what to actually do and it horrifies me. But I'd rather initiate some sort of change than deal with this situation that feels emotionally and mentally crippling.
    I don't really have any friends or know anyone who could help me out, but even if I did I don't know if I'd feel comfortable just suddenly asking if I can stay over and crash for a while when I don't know what I can even contribute to this world in the first place. I don't have much of a skill set or much money but I just want to finally get a move on with my life, even if it means putting myself in this sort of dangerous situation.

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    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
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