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  • ccsmod16
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out to us; we are glad that you did. It sounds like things at your house are difficult and stressful for you. It isn’t fair to feel unsafe in your home, and we are sorry that you are going through this.

    Your message is very short, and we hope you will reach out again by phone or chat so that we can hear more about your situation. The plain answer to your question is that the police would probably bring you home, unless you refused and said that you are not safe there. They would then probably call social services for emergency shelter. That is one scenario of what could happen.

    The best way for us to help you is by listening to you and helping you to figure some options to help in your situation. We are here for you or the youth 24/7 either by calling 1-800-786-2929 or via live chat through www.1800runaway.org

    We are confidential and are here 24/7 to listen and help.
    Sincerely,
    NRS

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    if I run away and stay at my friend's house and it's safer than my house will the police still take me home or will they take me somewhere else?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out on our forum. It sounds like you’ve already run away from home and are wondering if the police can make you go back. We are not legal experts here; however, our general understanding is that if/when police come across a runaway/missing juvenile, they will try to reunite them with their parent/guardian/family. We’d be happy to talk to you more about this and invite you to our Live Chat so we can have a one-on-one conversation. To get started with Live Chat, please go to https://na0messaging.icarol.com/Cons...d=254&cc=en-US. We hope you’re safe and wish you the best of luck!

    -NRS

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    I run away from home can the police make me come back

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  • ccsmod4
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    Hi,
    Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

    It sounds like you are in a tough situation at home with your mom.
    Sometimes things become so frustrating it’s hard to figure out what steps to take to make change. On one hand it seems that you have a friend who says you can come stay with them but on the other hand your mom probably would not agree to let you go.

    Your friend sounds very supportive of your situation.
    Having a space to vent and explore options may often bring out a solution previously not thought of. NRS is here to listen and here to help.
    We understand how difficult it must have been to speak about what has been going on and how it makes you feel.
    You are very brave for doing so.
    NRS would like you to know we are here to support you at this difficult time.
    We can best help by phone or chat. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.


    Let us know how we might help, please contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) orwww.1800Runaway.org (live chat).


    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I'm 15 year old female, I live in a household that is only my mom and I. I want to move out because my mom verbally and mentally to the point I can't stand hearing her name or voice without it making me upset or angry. I'm not in any physical danger from her, but I don't know how much longer I can handle living with her. I have a friend that said would let me move in with them, but I can't just ask my mom to let me move out because she would say no. There are no family members I can move in with because they are just all the same as she is. I don't know what to do. My friend lives in a different state, but we are really close and have known each other for a long time.
    I really just want to get out of my house because I can't stand it. I really, really can't.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us today. We are always available to help in any way we can.

    It sounds like the situation with your mom calling the cops on you must have been really stressful and frustrating to go through. Unfortunately, since she is your legal guardian, she can take away her permission for you to be away from home. Which seems really unfair but is how the law works. We would like to talk more about your home situation with mom, so reach out if you’d like to!

    Please give us a call at (800) RUNAWAY or chat with us on our website www.1800runaway.org . We are open 24/7 so we are always available for you! Stay safe and thanks again for reaching out.

    Best, NRS

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    If my mom told me to leave so i did then she called me in for a runaway can she do that?

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and the people around you are not being supportive. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe.

    We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. You’re bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

    You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities or possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead. Should you feel like leaving home is best, it may be a good idea to think about how you will provide necessities for yourself such as food, clothing, showers, healthcare and other basic needs. You may want to also consider how your parent’s will react to you leaving without permission. We are not legal experts here, but typically as a minor (under the age of 1 you need permission from your parents to leave home. It is not illegal to runaway, but it would mean that your parents could file a runaway report with the police. This is usually done in an effort to try to return you home as the police are required to do so.

    If you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or reach out through Live Chat we can try to find some youth shelters that may be near your city and state by utilizing our database of resources. We can also try to call out to shelters with you or on your behalf to advocate for you.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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    my mom has mentally and verbally abused me for the last 6 years and threatens to beat me because i'm a lesbians and my friend don't wanna come over because of her . can she call the cops if i'm 18 ? i live in georgia.

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hey there thanks for reaching out, it seems like you have gone through so much in your life and you are totally right to say that you aren’t being evil or selfish just for wanting to be healthy emotionally and feel supported by those around you. Everyone deserves support from their family and a chance to grow up and become their best person so its understandable that you want to get out of a situation like this that can better the odds of your success since you can focus on school etc.
    In answer to your questions, we aren’t legal experts so we can’t say for sure if this meets the legal definition of emotional abuse, however your mother’s actions are clearly meant to cut you down rather than to raise you up. If you did runaway your mom would have a right to file a runaway report and contact the police. This is a status offence and if/when police find you, you can claim that there is emotional abuse at home if you wanted but that would prompt a DCF investigation before you are brought home.

    Hopefully this information is helpful, if you want to talk more in depth or have other questions you can call us at 1-800-786-2929 or start a chat with us at www.1800runaway.org. We are 24/7 and confidential.

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    im 16 years old, i think my mother has Borderline personality disorder, my mother is a single parent of 4 kids. my older sister who is a legal adult has been saying for years my mom needs mental help and so has my grandma and most people that know my mom long enough. She screams and yells, is a compulsive liar and tells me im evil. she blames me for all her problems and expects me to take care of my two little sisters and then claims i do nothing for her and that im selfish. She has destroyed all my friendships by texting them and telling them that if they ever contact me again she will file charges and has even gotten a restraining order against my best friend because she didnt like her. ive been thinking about emancipation but i do not have a job as she will not allow me to get one. my older sister has told me to move in with my grandma who has told me i am welcome to do so but my mother wont allow me to. Does this count as emotional abuse? If i were to runaway and go live with my grandma would the police arrest her? If my mother were to call the cops, which she would, could i tell them im being emotionally abused and ask that i be allowed to live with my grandma? My mom tells everyone that im the crazy one and that i have a mental and drug problem because she found out ive smoked pot before when in reality the only reason i would be insane is because she makes me feel that way. Im currently grounded and have my phone and car taken away and ive been told "im never going out of the house again and she will homeschool me if she has to". i cant do this anymore ive been putting up with it my whole life. ive watched her do this to my older sister and her own mother, my grandma, while making herself look like the victim. i dont want to have to call DCF as i know my mom will lie her way out of trouble just as she has done in the past when they have been called. im not a failure, im not evil, im not selfish, all i want is to be able to graduate and go to college and have a life and to prove to her that i do have a future, since she loves to tell me i dont, but i cannot do any of that while living with her. i have no joy in life at all, i NEED to move in with my grandma but i will not subject her to being arrested for trying to help me. plz respond

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  • ccsmod10
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    Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what's going on.

    While we’re not legal experts, we do have some basic knowledge on that area. 18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway, you will likely be returned home. One way to find out the laws in your area, is by calling your local police non-emergency number. You can anonymously ask what their policies are regarding runaway youth, and what happens if youth refuse to go home. If you’re not comfortable making that call by yourself, we do offer conference calling, so we can make that call together.

    If you want to talk more in depth about what is going on and find out what resources are available to you, do not hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or start a chat with us at www.1800runaway.org. We are 24/7 and confidential. We are here to listen and here to help.
    Best of Luck,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I am planning on running away and I am 14 years old. When I was younger my older sibling went through the same thing and my mom called the cops to search for her . So let’s say I’m out and about on the streets and there cops find me, if I run away from the cops will I go to jail.

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. That sounds really frustrating that your mom is giving you the choice to leave, but then calls you in as a runaway. Unfortunately, it is true that you can stay anywhere safe with her permission, but if she is filing you as a runaway, it is like she is taking back that permission she gave you. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

    If you are listed as a runaway at 17 years old, it is possible that police could return you home if found. It is also possible that they could take lesser actions like doing a safety check to make sure you are okay or they might not actively look for you since you are close to being a legal adult. If police find you, it could help to be upfront with them and to let them know what your mom said to you about leaving. If there is anything at home that is making you unsafe, you might also let them know about what is going on at home. How police respond to 17 year old runaway situations depends on the local department's protocols. You might reach out to your local police to learn more about how they respond.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us for additional assistance, we are always here for you.

    Best,

    NRS
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