if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

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RE: trouble with my mom

Hi there,

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been through a lot living with your mom and that it’s really difficult for you to continue living there. We’re really glad that you reached out and we want you to know that you are not alone. So let’s see how we can help you out tonight.

It’s great that you feel your dad is a supportive person and that you have a good relationship with him. He seems like a great person in your life. Have you thought about talking to your mom about how you feel? Sometimes reaching out with open communication can be helpful.

In terms of your question, we are not legal experts, but we can talk in general as to what might happen. During the time that the court ordered for you to be at your mom’s house, the court also decided that your mom has a legal responsibility for you. If you don’t return to your mom’s house, she has the right to call the police and file a runaway report. That would mean the police would return you to your mom’s house. Now, it is not illegal to run away from home. So you will not get arrested for running away.

We understand that can be a lot of information. If you have any questions about all of that or want to talk through what options you have available to you, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) at anytime. We are completely confidential and anonymous and are here 24 hours a day. If calling isn’t your thing, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm CST. We’re looking forward to your call or chat.

Best of luck to you,

NRS

[musicmeow]

I can't take being at home anymore, I'm 14 years old, and ever since I was around 11 my mom has gotten so much worse. my parents are divorced, and I live alone with my mom and see my dad every other weekend. anyways, my mom is constantly yelling, and getting annoyed at me. since I'm the only other person she sees usually, other than her boyfriend, she takes out all her anger on me. she's always smoking pot, like 7 times a day, as soon as she wakes up, before and after meals, so on. she's been doing it her whole life, my dad knows and he I'm always complaining to him about how much I hate being there where she's constantly high. she used to hit me too, she would take a belt and whip my legs until there were bruises all over, my arms too since I tried to cover. she would never stop until I cried sorry over and over for whatever I did to deserve it. I really want to runaway, but I want to wait until I'm older, so I can get as far away as possible with all of my stuff.. I really don't plan on coming back. I hate being home. I love being with my dad, but he's so judgemental and close-minded I couldn't live with him either. I really want to live with my dad for the remainder of time I plan on being home, but I know my mom would never let me. ever. she hates him, and me too since I'm so much like him. I can't stand it. I don't even know what my question is, I just needed to get this out to someone..

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If I runaway can my mom call the cops?

Hi,
Thank you so much for contacting us at NRS.
It sounds like you’re having a pretty tough time at home. It is wonderful that you reached out for help. Our hotline operates 24 hours a day and you are always welcome to call in if you would like to speak to someone directly. We’re confidential, anonymous, and here for you.
The crisis line number is 1-800-Runaway (786-2929).
Through the hotline and our chat services at www.1800Runaway.org,
we can give you a listening ear, talk about options, provide resources, and help you sort everything out.

Divorce, drug use, and running away are some heavy things to go through. It’s wonderful that you love seeing your dad; hopefully that makes things more bearable. Running away would be a big decision and life change.
There are so many things that we can forget about when we’re unhappy at home, and when finding somewhere to run to, there are lots of things to think about.

Where to go, whether it’s somewhere safe to stay, how we will eat and earn money; it’s a lot to take in. Before making such a big move, we can do our best to look at any and all options with you.
If you’d like to talk to someone about your mom’s substance abuse, the Alcohol and Drug Helpline at 1-206-722-3700and Families Anonymous at 1-800-736-9807 may be able to help answer questions for you and provide some support.

Your safety and happiness are important, and we’re always here to listen. Call us, we’re 24/7.

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my mom said im adhd but im not helpp

my mom says im adhd but im not everytime shes says it i want to run away hellllllp!!!!!

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Re: my mom said im adhd but im not helpp

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us. Sounds like you're going through a rough time. We're try and help and support you as best as we can.

When you reached out to us today, what kind of help were you hoping to get? Sounds like you're looking for support in dealing with the way your mom treats you. What are some things you can do to see supported? Does your mom know that it hurts when she calls you certain things that you don't identify with? Is there anyone around you that can be helpful and possible be on your side about this situation?

You also said sometimes this makes you feel like running from home. Do you have a safe place to go if it came down to that? If you need a safe place to run to, we may be able to help you find something if it was an emergency. It won't be long term unless you're considered a legal adult but we can help find something.

If you'd like to explore options, please call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We're anonymous, confidential and available 24/7. And if using a phone isn't possible, you're welcome to contact us through our live chat program from 430p-1130p everyday.

Hope to hear from you soon,
NRS

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i wan to run away..

Well i got in a fight with one of my best friends & i didn't want to go to school today. i ended up going but after school somebody called my house & said "f**k you" my mom is in cuba & i have a babysitter. my babysitter called my mom & told her like always. My mom blamed me for it! she said my phone is taken away & im in "time out" until she gets back. i thought i should ride home with my friend on the bus after school & stay there. well im gonna either go tomorrow or now. could my mom sue my friends mom? my mom said she was gonna smash my phone & im scared when she gets back she might abuse me. she never has abused me but im scared she will. what should i take to my friends house? Please answer quickly im tired of being in this hell hole.

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Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

Hello there,

We’re glad you decided to reach out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are having a rough time with your mom, although she is currently in Cuba. You mentioned thinking you should stay with a friend, but it seems like you are concerned about your friend’s mom getting in trouble. That is understandable since most cities/states recognize harboring a runaway a crime. We are not legal experts here, so we would not know for sure what would happen, but there can be risks. Since you are seriously considering leaving and are asking what you should take, you might find this link helpful: http://www.1800runaway.org/Should-I-Run-Away/. We go over common things to consider to running on that webpage.

If you would like to continue discussing your situation, we offer a Live Chat every day from 4:30 to 11:30pm CST. All you have to do is click on the red “Live Chat” button. If you have trouble chatting, you are also welcome to give us a call on our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Hopefully that helps and best of luck!

-NRS

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Can I "runaway" to live with my aunt

My mom and I argue all the time and it makes me so exhausted and I just want to cry. I don't cry because she hurts my feelings but I cry because she makes me so mad and frustrated! She refuses to see things from my point of view and when she knows I make a point she just tries to insult me in a way or continue to yell at me!! Not too long ago, I told her I thought she was being selfish and rude to me and she told me that she'll hit me and I told her to do it. She basically pushed my head. And a minute or two later when I stopped arguing with her she tried to throw a plastic cup at me while I was sitting at the table doing my homework. She also said "I can kill your right now" to me. I told her why don't she but she sat there and continued to yell at me. I'm so sick and tired of her. One time she was yelling at me and she got in my face and everything. Like right in front of my face and not giving me any space. She gets offended when I just want to stay in my room and not talk to her. She doesn't understand that I am a very private person and I do need my privacy. I hate being home because she always tries to make me do all these things for her just because she doesn't want to and I can just never get along with her. She never lets me do anything and she tells me I have to stay home all the time. I feel like a prisoner/slave in my own home. She overreacts about the silliest things like me not wanting to go somewhere or me not wanting to put a screwdriver in the closet to unlock my door?! It's like she tries to find the littlest reasons for her to argue and yell at me. I am thinking about asking my aunt if I could live with her because she offered my cousin to live with her. I want her approval first. If I lived with her I could walk to school and everything. I'm just tired of living in this home. Please help?

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RE: Can I "runaway" to live with my aunt

Hi there,

Thanks for posting here today. Wow, it sounds like you’re dealing with so much with your mom right now. First of all, no matter what you do, you don’t deserve to be treated that way by your mom. You have every right to feel safe and respected in your home. It’s got to be so exhausting dealing with all of this every day. You’re really smart for reaching out for some support because it seems like there are so many things for you to think about. So let’s see how we can help you out.

It sounds like you’ve taken some good steps to try and make things better with your mom. You said that you had tried to talk to her. We’re sorry that didn’t work out. Sometimes having another person in the room to help mediate a conversation can be helpful. Can you think of someone who both you and your mom trust (like a sibling, relative)? That might be one option for you.

In terms of going to your aunt’s home…It sounds like it might be a really good place for you. She seems like a great support for you during this time. It also seems like you have a good plan of talking to her to see if you have her approval. There is something else that you might want to think about. If you are under 18, you would also need your mom’s permission to go (or your dad’s permission if he is your legal guardian as well).

If you want to talk through any of these options or want to talk more about what’s going on, you can call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are completely confidential and anonymous. If you can’t call in, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Time. We look forward to talking or chatting with you.

Best of luck to you,

NRS

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So, my I am 15, and I live with both of my parents. I have always have had thoughts of running away, because after my brother got sent away, I have been in charge of babysitting my siblings. My mom is my main problem on why I want to runaway. She puts me down so much. It's the stupidest things that trigger her the most, or how I text my boyfriend. She puts me down all the time. She told me one time if I wanted to runaway "Don't let the door hit you in the ass while you go." The thing is my dad is a sheriff, and he doesn't want me to leave, but he is also always tired of me and my mom fighting, and he threatens to leave my mom all the time, and said he will take me with him. I am my dad's favorite child, I of what I think, because he doesn't like my older brother cause he threatened to kill me many times. I came clean with my parents about how I wanted to runaway to live with my boyfriend, or how I have had sex, and they don't ever let me do anything anymore. I am an honor roll student, that is very active in the FFA and all kinda of sports just so I can stay outta my house, so I don't have to deal with my mom. EVER. I just don't know what to do with her anymore, we have tried therapy, talking it out(which always ends in yelling and screaming), going to my dad( he doesn't like when we do). I just don't know what to do anymore.

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Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are feeling very frustrated in your current situation. We are sorry to hear you don’t feel safe in your own home; nobody deserves to be verbally abused or made to feel unwelcome in their own family. It also sounds like you have already explored many options and none of them seem to be working for you.

We think it’s great that you are doing well in school and are involved with sports and the FFA. It can be important to have social connections when things at home are difficult. Just to let you know, we are not legal experts but we can try and explain what we know about the runaway laws.

Technically, it’s not against the law for you to run away from home. In most places it’s considered a status offense. However, anyone you’re caught staying with could possibly be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’. If you wanted to talk about what other options you have, we would be more than happy to explore these with you at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We can also be reached at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

- NRS

[marcus651]

my mom said I can go

Me and my mom was argueing one night, she said all I do around the house is be in my room .. I partially agree but I mostly disagree because I go to school 7 hours a day and have a job at night .. and on the weekends my moms bf works in the yard all day .. she expects ne to go work with him . I say no ... so the other night she got mad and said she doesnt want me at her house anymore.. so the next morning I skipped work and school and I went to my friends house . When I came home later that night. She was aright .. until now she wants me to go to JDC .. what should I tell the police??

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Re: my mom said I can go

Hello,
It sounds like you and your mom are getting into some confusing discussions. We’re glad you’ve reached out to us.

From what you’ve mentioned, it appears that you feel like it’s ok for you to be out of the house because your mother stated that she didn’t want you there. And now, it sounds like she’s changed her mind. Is that correct?

If so, if you’re a minor, the complicated part is that your mom has the last word on where you’re allowed and not allowed to be. And if she’s changed her mind and has involved the police, there’s not much to change about that. Have you spoken to her about how you’d like to live with a friend if she doesn’t want you home? How do you feel about living at Job Corps?

If you’d like to talk about what are some things that you can do (depending on your age), please call our hotline. We’re anonymous, confidential and available 24/7. We can explore what your rights are and options that may be available to you. Please call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

We hope to hear from you soon,
NRS

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running away

my 16 old daughter want to run away from states to another states. she wants to live with friends and her father that is not in the country, is helping her running away. her father provide her ticket just to be away from me. can i call cops and make her father accomplishments?

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re: running away

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like the situation you are in is very difficult and you have a great question. It must be hard to have her father assisting her in running away when it sounds like you are not approving of her going to live with friends.
While we are not legal experts and can’t speak to custody issues, we can answer your question in a general way. Generally speaking in most states, if a youth leaves home without permission, their legal guardian has the right to file a runaway report. If you are her legal guardian you do have rights and responsibilities of her so if you do choose to file a report, then you also usually have the right to press charges against individuals who may be aiding in a juvenile running away or who may be harboring a runaway.

One thing that you can do is contact your local police department through the non-emergency line to find out about laws specific to your area. Additionally, you can call us 24 hours a day a 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us live from 4:30-11:30pm CST more about your situation and we can provide you with additional legal aid referral if you’d like it.

Take care,
-NRS