if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

[Infinity95001]

Help!!!!!!!

Okay, so i'm 11 years old. I as you already ready the title, I NEED HELP. At this point my mom is cursing, screaming, and hitting me just because i either got a bad grade, i got hurt, or i talked back. I want to run away, but all my relatives are far away (i live in Maryland) either they're in California or in China. I Need Help please reply as fast as possible. BTW I have at least 27 dollars cuz i don't get allowance so i can't go on planes.

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re: Help!!!!!!!

Thanks so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you feel unsafe at home because of how your mom is treating you. Is there a place where you can go to find safety? No one ever deserves to be hit or to feel unsafe within their own home. Have you ever told anyone about how your mom hits you? You are very brave for reaching out to us and telling us what is going on. Just so you know, one option that you have is to file an abuse report. In the state of Maryland you can call and file a report at 1-800-332-6347. You can also call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY and we can talk with you and file together if that is something you are more comfortable with.

You shared that you are thinking about running away to your relatives but that they live far away. Do you think you could call them and talk to them for support even if you didn’t go there physically? If you do decide to leave, we have many options for shelters and safe places that we could help connect you with. In addition to calling us, you can also chat with us from 4:30-11:30pm CST about other options you might have. We want to be here to support you and help you come up with a plan that you are comfortable with. We hope you will call us so we can continue connecting you to support. Best wishes,

-NRS

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Hello

Well i have alot to say i mean way more than anyone but imma sum it up and try to hit the main points.
My parents are really strict they are really strong christian people and i try my hardest to be a good child because i want to respect that about them. Btw im 16 (just putting that out there) and i have a step dad which ever since i was super young range of 4 i never have liked him. EVER! He is extremely rude and defantily how he was. Raised is exactly why he is , like he is. his mom used to abuse him but he liked it which makes ABSOLUTELY NO SINCE! And my mom was a rich spoiled brat. Shes my real mom and about 1 and a 1/2 ago i moved back in with my parents from my grandparents because of my dad and he used to abuse me really badly . And i forgive him but he seriously hasnt stopped his yelling and his aggressive side. The only thing that has stopped is his hands touching me. As in abuse and my parents always say EXTREMELY RUDE THINGS TO ME like im a slut my friends are sluts and junk and they just said this like 30 min ago just because i said that they were being mean because they wont let me go to my BEST friends bday party and then i said something i shouldnt i said i want different parents and after i said that all hell broke loose and now my mom is bringing up the past and saying stuff about me and shes not going to support me anymore shes not going to do nothing for me . And im still thinking .. How r u guys christians .. Seriously. Amd right now im over hearing them talk about me .. Can i run away without getting in trouble with the cops . Because i think if i told them my life story it would be acceptable . Im only telling u something that just happened to today and its not even everything that happened today thats just the start... Trust me.. And i have had my electroics taken away since december and they constantly take away my stuf so thats why i said just take them way until u feel like giving them back . And i only have a ipod right now because i bought it from my best friend and they still dont no about this thing. I seriously could go on forever. But i just want to no if i could get in trouble plus btw i have ran away before so could i go to jail or something.

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re: Hello

Hi there,

Thanks for contacting us tonight. It really sounds like you’re going through a lot right now. We’re sorry that your family is treating you that way. It’s absolutely true that you do not deserve to be yelled at or abused in anyway. You have every right to feel safe in your own home. It’s very brave that you have reached out to us and it sounds like you have asked for help in the past as well. You seem very strong to have been able to forgive your dad for the past but it must be so difficult to continue to live with his yelling and verbal aggression as well as hurtful comments and name calling from others in your family. Is there anyone that you feel supports you right now? It sounds like things feel unfair at home, too and that you are struggling with your mom taking things away and being unfair. That must be so frustrating.

You shared with us that you want to runaway and that you have done so before. Because we are not legal experts, we can’t tell you exactly what will happen if you were to runaway again. In most places at the age of 16, running away is considered a status offense which means that if your guardian filed a runaway report on you, you would be returned to them if you were found by the police. You mentioned that if you told the police your story, they might understand your situation. Have you ever told anyone else your story? We have many resources for counseling or therapy if you are interested in finding support or someone to talk to if you are interested. We are completely confidential and anonymous and you can call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat with us from 4:30-11:30pm CST for additional support and resources. Thanks again for reaching out- stay safe.

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how can i get back to my mum in stoke-on-trent if my dad has custody in london?

hey im 14 and am staying at my uncles until my mum picks me up tomorrow after school if i get to my mums contact social services trying to do it the proper way can my dad manage to force me home my dad has soul custody over me and my brother who is ten and has a partner who is evil and is a witch i dislike her very much. she has 2 daughters who are 16 and 21 and hate my guts i also think of them as a pair of witches and i feel bullied by them in my own home. as they love my brother my brother has grown to hate me as well which is disappointing. im planning to get back to my mum and baby brother who is 2 tomorrow but need advice on how to do it properly but at the same time without risk of me landing up back with my monster of a dad! thank you very much

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Re: how can I get back to my mum in stoke-on-trent if my dad has custody in london?

Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a tough time right now and mentioned that you would like to stay with your mum but your dad currently has sole custody. It sounds like things with your dad are difficult and you mentioned that he has a partner and other children in the home that are very mean. It’s not fair that you are feeling bullied in your own home and we are sorry to hear you are going through this. It sounds like your mum is picking you up tomorrow and you are thinking about contacting social services and trying to get some assistance through them. Do you know if your mum has tried to go to court to get physical custody of you? Custody can be tricky and we are not lawyers here by any means but that could be an option to look into. At 14 you are most likely considered a minor so your dad may have the right to file a report and make you return back home. Unfortunately our hotline only operates within the United States so we are unsure of the specific laws in your area. One resource you could reach out to if you need any further assistance is the Childline UK. There phone number is 0800 1111 and there website is www.childline.org.uk. Hopefully some of this information will help and we appreciate you contacting us. Take care.

[Wonderman]

I want to run away

If I runaway what would happen? I have a plan and a partner to go with and we are the only ones that know where we are going. We aren't staying with any relatives we just are going to camp in the woods. What are the chances of us getting caught? Can they taze us? When we come back when I'm 18 can we be put in custody? If the cops try to taze us can we defend ourselves? Should we run if the cops see us? Can the police look at this website and see where we are going? When we do run away what supplies should we bring? The first night we run should we run hard or walk? Before we runaway should we get body built? Should we travel during the night? Should we make smoke bombs before we leave? Can we throw smoke bombs at the police and run away? Sorry for all of the questions but I'm making sure that we can do those things. The only reason we are running away is because we don't have the freedom as other people do. And I have pressure on me because my dad wants me to live with him, but I don't want to hurt my moms feelings. This is the only way it's fair and they put this on themselves.

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RE: I want to run away

Hello,

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are having a hard time right now. You mentioned that you were having a hard time with your parents and that you didn’t feel like you have freedom. That must be pretty rough. If you need someone to talk to about these issues, our hotline is open 24/7. All of our services are completely confidential and anonymous, so no one can use this website or any calls to find out where you are.

We aren’t legal experts, and I am not able to answer all of your questions about the police. However, you should know that running away is not a crime. Running away is what’s called a "status offence." This means that the police can look for you and escort you home, but you won’t be charged with a criminal offence. If you would like to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we could help answer some of your questions and try to help you make a plan of action.

Wishing you the best of luck,

NRS

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problems at home:'(

I am 13 years old,i have a problem at home i get tired of being called names i dont really like to play around with my sisters. I just need someone that i can trust on,i need somebody to talk to,my sisters bug me alot. I just yell out at them and start crying. I start having anger issues. I dont know what to do,help me please!

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Thank you for reaching out to us and telling us a little bit about what is going on. It sounds like you are having a difficult time right now and it was very brave of you to contact us.

You mentioned that you don’t like being at home because you don’t like to be called names. We are sorry to hear that people are calling you names; nobody deserves to feel unsafe or scared when at home. Can you tell us a little more about what home is like for you? It also sounds like you don’t have a very good relationship with your sisters and you are looking for someone that you can talk to. That is definitely something that we may be able to help you out with; here at the National Runaway Safeline, we have a database of different resources, including counseling.

Again, we think it’s great that you have reached out to us and we hope to be able to help you out. You can reach us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you would like to talk or explore what options may be available to you; we are completely confidential and anonymous. We also have online chat services available from 4:30 PM-11:30 PM (CST) if you would like to talk with us that way instead.

We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

~NRS

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I am 15 will be 16 in a month. What can I do?

My mom recently got a new boyfriend ( they've been together about 7 months now) and he doesn't like that my mom spoils me. So he has been controlling her and manipulating her to act differently toward me. That was the first conflict. I lived with them for a little over a week.
My mom and I used to be extremely open with eachother and in this week, I found out that I could have had an STD. I told my mom, begging her not to inform her boyfriend (as we do not get along and it frankly is none of his business). He came home and we got into an argument about me having my phone (I needed to be able to get calls from my doctor). I told him he didn't understand the situation and he argued with me. Then finally he told me "You wouldn't have so many Goddamn issues if you'd close your ********ing legs." I freaked and pushed him out of my room and locked the door. He told me to get my ******** and get out or he was calling the cops and having them remove a disrespectful teenager. So I packed and left. I went to my grandparents.
I have been living with my grandparents for a few months now and they are very strict, and me being a teenager, I want to go out and see my friends a lot, and they don't allow it. They still allow my mom to make all decisions for me, even though I'm not living with her.
More recently my mom and I spent the day together & went shopping so I could have some shorts for summer, all I had were pants, then we (Me, my mother, her boyfriend, her boyfriends son, my boyfriend, and two other friends) had a campout on my grandparents private property. My moms boyfriend provided alcohol for all of us and then his son flipped out, told us he was going to kill us all. My mom and her boyfriend were asleep. I woke them up and her boyfriend (who is a severe alcoholic&was 3 sheets to the wind) was forcing everyone to leave. I told him no, and went to my boyfriends truck. He came from behind me and threw me away from his truck. He screamed to my boyfriend and our friends to leace or he was calling the cops. I slapped him and then there was a full on fight; slapping and punching eachother. My mother just watched. His son finally came behind me and held my arms behind my back, I kicked at him to keep him away. He came at me and put his hand around my throat. I got one arm free while his son was trying to keep him off of me. I was going in and out because I couldnt breathe- I was scratching at his hand and he wouldnt let go. I started swinging behind me. I was about to pass out when his son started screaming your hands on her throat! You're choking her! He let me go and I slapped him and screamed at my mom for letting that happen. He grabbed me by my jacket and threw me, I lost my balance and fell into the dirt. I got up and started walking to the main road. My boyfriend and friends were waiting for me. Then my boyfriend drove me to my grandparents house.
I told my counselor what happened and then it got reported to the state troopers. My mom was at my grandparents when I got home from school, and told me that I needed to lie otherwise she would go to jail and my grandparents would lose their land. I told her that I would because I didn't want anyone going to jail (her boyfriend is on probation already). I told her that I needed clothes for school the next day- it was going to be 90 degrees and I only had pants. She gave me one outfit and told me that I would only get the other clothes after I went and told the cops the fake story we made up. I went to the station with her and she said if you stick to the story I have a surprise. I told them the lie we created, then my mom gave me my clothes and also gave me a phone (that was my surprise).
I haven't talked to or lived with them since any of this. I want to move out of my grandparents house because I'm not their responsibility. My mom informed me that they are putting me in a program that is like probation, I want nothing to do with them & definitely do not want to be forced to live with them. I have a friend who has an apartment and will let me live there, once I turn 16 I have 2 job interviews set up. If I just go to my friends house is there anything that my mom can have done to force me to come back to her house? I live in New York if this helps any. I would really appreciate any help I can get at this point!

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I am 19 years old since may and graduated from high school but i still feel like im 16 mentally. I was kicked out of my job for my nervous breakdowns and my dad has gotten progressively worse and worse through the years to the point where he has nearly forced me to join the military. I've been conditioned to obey what he says and to not say no if i dont want to get in trouble, but i got the word that if i go to the MEPS again i will end up getting sworn in and it's not what i want. I know that i am legally able to go about my own kind of life but i'm resorting to gathering money for a plane ticket to utah where i can stay with a friend and her family, who is willing to take me in until we can get an apt. But i worry about my dad, since he says its military or the street and im not sure if he is able to send cops after me if i am 19 and in a different state and being cared for by a willing participant.
i cant stay in my own home for many reasons, but the environment is toxic and i have considered suicide many times mainly because there was nowhere to go but down. THis is a very good chance, but it's dangerous and im very worried of what could happen.

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RE: I am 15 will be 16 in a month. What can I do?

Hi,

Thanks for posting here today. Wow, it sounds like you’ve been through so much in the past few months. You are incredibly brave for having put with all of that. You absolutely don’t deserve that kind of treatment from your mom’s boyfriend. He is wrong to do those things to you and you were right to reach out for some support. It sounds like you’re trying to find a way to not have to live with your mom and her boyfriend. That is completely understandable. So let’s see how we can help you out tonight.

So we aren’t legal experts here, but we are able to talk through what generally happens. If you decide to leave your parent’s house without their permission, then they are able to file a runaway report with the police. If you interact with the police, or they find you, they would return you back home. Now, it is not illegal to runaway in New York. If you are not on probation, all that would happen is that you would be returned back home. That means you would not be arrested and would not go to jail. Your friend’s parents may be charged with something called “harboring a runaway.” That would be up to your mom to charge them with that. The consequences range from a fine to some jail time.

Now, if you are worried about the potential legal consequences of running away another option that you have is to move forward with the report. The outcomes of that vary, but it may be a way to get out of your house without so many potential legal consequences to you or your friend.

If you’d like to talk through these options, be provided with some referrals or if you have any questions about anything that I talked about, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are available 24 hours a day and are completely confidential and anonymous. If you aren’t able to call in, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Standard Time.

We look forward to your call or chat.

Best of luck to you,

NRS

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RE: 19 year old moving to Utah

Hi there,

Thanks for reaching out to us today. Thanks for sharing your story with us. It’s clear that you’ve been going through a lot. But that you are also interested in getting a better life. That’s admirable and it’s smart of you to plan and be prepared.

First of all, you mentioned that you have considered suicide before. We want to give you a number to the National Suicide Hotline. Even if you aren’t feeling immediately suicidal, they are able to talk through with you about how you are feeling and maybe provide you with some resources. Their number is 1-800-273-8255.

And to answer your question about if your dad can send cops to you. No he cannot. You are 19 years old and you are a legal adult. That means you have the right to live wherever you want to live.

If you want to talk through more options or if you have any questions, you can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) at anytime. We are here 24/7 and are completely confidential and anonymous.

Good luck to you as you prepare to move,

NRS

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trouble with my mom

I am 15 years of age and i have lived with my mom for my whole life. My parents are seperated, but for the past 2 years ive been wanting to live with my dad. I want to live with him because my mom makes me feel like she hates me or doesnt want me here with her. But she wont let me live with my dad. All she does is yell and i hate it. I just want to be happy and move with my dad. I see my dad every 2 weeks. Its court ordered. But im wondering if i stay with my dad without going back to my moms and she calls the cops will the cops make me go back with my mom? Please let me know