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  • Hi, I live in New Jersey and I am almost 16 years old. I turn this December and I am planning on moving out or running away however you’d like to call it. I am considering staying with my boyfriend which my mom has no clue I have, nor does she know where he lives, she only knows his name from prior incidents. I want to runaway because something really bad happened that ended up involving Child Services/DYFS and now my mom has to choose between me or my sister because we are not allowed to be near each other, my mom is blaming me and keeps saying I cause trouble for the family so I just want to leave and take all my belongings too.. My boyfriend says he can take care of me and I trust him with everything so if I do go, will he or his family get in trouble for keeping me? They live twenty minutes away from where I live and my mom doesn’t even know I’m still dating him, I just don’t want to be a burden to my family anymore so please help me with some insight on what could happen.

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      Hi,
      Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a really stressful situation. Regardless of what happened with DYFS, it’s still hurtful and cruel for your mom to blame you. You deserve to be loved and supported, especially by your family. It sounds like you have a safe place to stay if you do decide to run away, which is great and shows a lot of forethought. You asked what could happen if you left. We aren’t legal experts, but generally if you run away your mom could file a runaway report and if the police are able to find you they may return you home. Any adult that you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway.
      We hope this response was helpful! If you have further questions or need help finding resources, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. If you have a moment, please consider answering a quick survey. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

      --NRS

  • Can my mom call the police on me if I'm 21 and she my guardian

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      Hi, in most states, the age of majority is 18 so no, your mom can't report you as a runaway.

      --NRS

  • What will the police do if i runaway?


    I'm not a teen or adult but i'm a kid.. I'm 11 years old and don't get along with my family very well. I've done alot of research about what it's like to be homeless, runaway, and stay in homeless shelter. My dad works with the police and that's what i'm most scared about. What will my parents do if i runaway? What will the police do? Please reply.

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      Hello there,

      Thank you for reaching out to NRS and having the strength to share your story with us. We are sorry to hear about your situation and what you’ve been dealing with. Ideally, home would be a place where people feel safe, loved, and valued. You’ve been very courageous to reach out for help and try your best despite the circumstances.

      Although NRS is not a legal agency, we can try to give a general idea of possible outcomes if you were to run away. As you are considered a minor in your state, you are still under your parents’ guardianship, therefore at any point when you are gone, they are legally within their rights to file a runaway report. Being a runaway is a status offense, and while you would not be charged with a crime, if police came across you, they would probably return you home. Guardians could also potentially press charges against people who took you into their care for “harboring a runaway;” these charges would be misdemeanors, but still criminal offenses.

      In regards to your plan, we would encourage you to consider guardianship, school enrollment, how you would take care of your needs (eating, sleeping, healthcare), and how you would care for your safety if something were to happen. If you were interested, we also offer conference-calling as an option, where we would mediate a constructive conversation between your parents and yourself in order to reach an understanding.

      If you would like to talk about other resources and support, feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat.
      We hope this information was helpful and take care.
      National Runaway Safeline
      info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

  • If the police catch me what are they gonna say?

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      Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. Our primary concern is that you remain safe and of the streets, whether you ultimately stay at home or find an alternative living situation.
      It sounds like you are experiencing problems at home and considering running away. Before you take that step, have you considered talking to a friend or relative about your situation? If you contact us by phone or chat we will be happy discuss resources that may be available to you to address the problems you are experiencing at home.
      We are not legal experts, but we can provide general information that may be helpful to you. The answers to your questions will depend on the city and state you are located in. Running away is not a crime.
      Generally speaking, if you are under the legal age of majority in your state and leave home without permission, you are considered a runaway. The police usually do not actively search for runaways. However if you are listed as a runaway and come into contact with the police, chances are they will contact your parents/guardians to make arrangements for your return home.
      If a runaway report is filed and you are living with someone else, it is possible that charges could be filed against them for harboring a runaway.
      We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be reached by dialing 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Our hotline is confidential, anonymous, and toll-free. In addition to our hotline, you can receive live assistance via CHAT 24/7 as well.

  • I’m 17 and I live in West Virginia. My boyfriend is 22 years old but my parents don’t know they don’t think he is but I may be pregnant and they don’t want me to see him. I’m not letting them do this so I’m thinking of moving out and moving in with him. I have transportation I will graduate and I have a job and he does to to support myself. I’m a senior and I want to file for emancipation in fact I’m talking to a lawyer just waiting for an email back. I want to know though for the time being if either of us can get into legal trouble until I’m emancipated?

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    • ccsmod3
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you’ve got a lot going on but it also sounds like you have taken a lot of steps towards the decision you want and have done your research on it all. That and the fact that you reached out to us shows a lot about who you are as a person, that is something worth being proud of.
      We are more than happy to talk this out with you however, we cannot give definitive information because things often vary state by state and sometimes even by county. However, there is such a thing called a harboring a runaway which could potentially get your boyfriend in legal trouble. When a youth, anybody under the legal age of adulthood, leaves home and is not where their legal guardian gives them permission to be, their guardian can file a runaway report which lets the police know that their child is not where they are supposed to be and that they have permission to find them and bring them back home. If a parent knows where their youth is, they are allowed to let the police know and they can go there and retrieve the youth. The parent is also allowed to charge the person the youth was staying with with harboring a runaway (if the state has it). What this is is it states that this person took in a youth knowing that they were a runaway. How this plays out can vary and it is typically not filed because costs for this are typically required to be covered entirely by the parents pressing the charges.
      For more information on this we typically suggest calling your local police department’s non-emergency line to ask them about the specifics of these laws. We hope this has helped a little bit and do encourage you to reach out to us if you need anything at all. You had mentioned that you think you might be pregnant and have a lot of other stuff going on, we are more than happy to talk with you about all of this, as well as provide any resources that might help you out while you are figuring out your next steps. You can reach us at 1(800)786-2929, we are always here for you.
      Best,
      NRS
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