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  • So my Mom has been tsking up for my step dad alot, and ever since i got a job she's been taking money away from me for herself. I work so I can make my own money for me not for anyone else. So I went in her room andnasked her if I could leave and she told me " Yeah, don't come back." By the way im 16 but im about to be 17 in 8 more days. So would i get in trouble for leaving, even though she gave me permission?

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      Hi,
      Thanks for reaching out. We are not legal experts, but generally speaking you are able to leave if you have permission. However, it might be a good idea to double check if your mom truly meant that she is fine with your leaving. Otherwise, she may file a runaway report and if the police are able to find you they may return you home.
      Thank you again for reaching out. We hope this was helpful and we encourage you to reach out by phone if you need additional resources or need help figuring out your options. Our number is 1-800-786-2929 and our lines are always open. If you have a moment, we'd appreciate your feedback of our crisis services at the following link:
      https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
      Stay safe!

  • Me and my mom got into it and I WAS TOLD to leave
    even though I didn’t right then and there, the next day at school nobody had came to pick me up so I called my aunt (immediate family) and I’ve been staying with her for a week now. My grandmother knows who I am with but my mother does not. She says she is going to file a report on me and I will get sent to Juvenile Detention for running away. I don’t know what to do

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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you're in a difficult situation, but your mother isn't exactly being the most supportive parent right now. We can help you reach out to your non-emergency local police department to determine what the penalties for running away are in your area. To our knowledge (though we're not lawyers), it's not super likely you would go to juvenile detention. Additionally, if your mom is telling you to leave and is not picking you up from school, the police may be less motivated to get you in trouble for leaving home. Just call us at 1-800-786-2929.

      Best,
      NRS

  • im 16 now and my mom and i have not gotten along the past 3 years. ive ran away twice and each time i come back im reminded why i left in the first place. im on probation now, and my mom is trying to get me sent to a detention for having like vape parts around my room.

    i live in arizona but if i go to california and staying w a friend out there until im 18. once im 18 will any charge i have be dropped and ill be fine after that or will i still have cops looking for me and still have charges on my record.

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      Hi there, thanks for posting today. Sounds like things are stressful at home and we are here to help.

      18 years old is generally the age that an individual may leave home without permission from their parent or legal guardian. We are not legal experts here but we can speak in general terms. If you are under 18 and leave home without permission, your parent/guardian may file a runaway report with the police and your name would be in a national database. What actions the police take once you are filed as a runaway can vary a lot from state to state and even city to city so we cannot predict exactly what would happen in your case. Generally speaking, if you encounter a police officer while reported as a runaway (even if you are in a different state), you will likely be returned home. However, in that case there may be services (family counseling, etc.) available to you as a youth in crisis/runaway but again, police procedures related to offering those services can be different based on your location or the details of your situation. Another thing to consider is that while running away is not a crime, a legal adult who allows you to stay with them may be putting themselves at risk for being charged with harboring a runaway so if your friend is 18 or lives with a parent, they are at risk of getting in trouble

      In regards to being on probation, again, we are not legal experts. Generally speaking, if you runaway on probation, you will likely still have to report to your probation officer upon return. Whether or not your slate is wiped clean when you turn 18 in regards to what caused you to be on probation to begin with is a question for your probation officer.


      Thanks for reaching out. We are here 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929. Call us anytime!

  • this the Im 12 and I want to runaway I know where im going and already told really close friend about it my dad takes his anger on me pulls my hair puchs me in jaw and hits me i really dont want to be in this family anymoer i cant take it

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      Hi there,

      Thanks so much for reaching out to NRS. It’s really good that you asked for advice. Let’s see what we can do.

      Nobody deserves to be hit by their parents ever. It’s completely understandable that you wouldn’t want to be a part of that family anymore. It is important to think through running away to make sure you stay in a safe situation. You should make sure that if you choose to go somewhere, you’re around people you trust, and your needs (food, shelter, etc.) are met. We’d really encourage you to make a call to us at 1-800-786-2929 to talk through your plan to make sure you stay safe.

      A good first step for helping with your dad might be to call Child Help – it’s a hotline (like us), but specifically for people in your situation. You can reach them at 1-800-422-4453. Beyond that, your state also has a system to try to keep children in your situation safe. That system is usually called Child Protective Services or something similar. If you google child protective services for your state, you should be able to find their number. You can also reach them by calling 911 and explaining that your dad punches and hits you. If you do this, they will come to your house and try their best to make your home situation safer. They might try to get your dad to stop hitting you, or if that doesn’t work they might have you live someplace else.

      Either way we’d love to hear from you more. You can keep posting on the forum, chat us by going to our website 1800runaway.org, or give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

      Thank you and good luck!
      -NRS

  • If I go on a trip out of state with out my parents knowing can they call the cops. Even if they don’t know where I am?

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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out. We're not legal experts, but yes your parents can call the police in this circumstance. Many parents of runaway youth don't know where their children are, and runaway reports are nationally-recognized documents among police officials. You can read more on these forums about legal consequences for running away, as we have covered that topic quite extensively.

      Best,
      NRS

  • Hi, so I am running away tonight with my boyfriend and I am going to live at Indiana and I already know his family and him and his family will take good care of me and I am leaving a note to my family on my bed. But I wanna know how my family will feel and that they will not call the cops cause I want them to understand me and I am 19 years old.

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      Hi there,
      thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. Sounds like you have a safe place to go to. We aren’t legal experts, but in most states the legal adult age is 18. It’s unclear what state you are running away from but if you are running from at state where the legal age is 18, you are an adult and have the right to choose where you live, unless your parents have extended custody for any purpose. Your parents can call the police and file a missing person’s report, but since you are not a runaway being an adult, the police may call to confirm that you aren’t missing, but they cannot take any action to return you back home. You can also reach out the local police department your parents would file to and inform them that you are not missing and the case can be closed.
      It is hard to say how your family would feel as you know your family better than we do. But what we hear is that families have concerns of safety, usually want answers to why, and may take measures to connect with you in various forms. You hope that they will understand and leaving a note will give them some answers and understanding.
      If you want to talk further or have any questions you can reach out to us directly at 1-800 RUNAWAY, we are 24/7.

      Best of luck,
      NRS

  • My 11 year old grandson and his mother got in a fight and started yelling and hitting each other to a point that she told him to get out and he did and seen a neighbor and asked to use his phone which the grandson called us his grandparents and told us what happened and if we would pick him up which we did and was like 11 at night. We went back to the house but his mother was gone and we drove around but didnt see her. So I called the live in boyfriend who was out of town and told him we had our grandson. He had talked to the mother and was furious with us for taking our grandson and threatened us. The mother and son both hit each other and I want to know if I should report this or take the grandson back and they to talk things out I want my grandson safe and he doesnt want to go back but wants to stay with us. Of course I hear alot of crap from other relatives that we are spoiling him and need to take him home but I worry about him. Please advice me what to do. Thanks

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      Hi there,
      Thank you for reaching out to us here at NRS. It sounds like you have a tough situation going on right now. Just as a disclaimer we are a non-directive service which means that we cannot say specifically what you should or should not do but we can talk through possible options and offer some resources. In this case, it sounds like the local police department might be an option if you are comfortable. Your grandson is lucky to have somebody in his life who wants to help during a tough time but it is also important to make sure that everyone involved in the situation is doing so in a manner that will not turn around negatively later. You had mentioned that your son and his mother had hit each other and she told him to leave, those sound like they could be considered abuse and neglect. Those are some pretty serious situations to deal with and the local police department would be able to answer any legal questions you may have regarding reporting abuse or neglect, as well as seeing what can be done about changing custody or simply navigating the situation.
      We can also speak with your grandson over the phone about the situation. This can be a tough situation to go through and sometimes talking it through can help. We are more than happy to talk with you or your grandson about everything that is going on to be a listening ear and a should to lean on, as well as provide other resources such as legal, shelters, etc if they are needed.
      We wish you the best of luck,
      NRS

  • I want to run away so bad my parents have a dirty house and I can't take it anymore I'm almost 18 and I don't know if I should call the cops or run

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      Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes courage to seek help. We are sorry to hear that your parents have a dirty house. If you don't feel safe at home you could call the police or CPS. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to stay with another family member or close friend. Since you are almost 18, you could contact your local police through their non emergency number to ask about their runaway police. Some police do not accept runaway reports for 17 year old's. We hope that you've found this information to be helpful, if you have any other questions or just want to talk please contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat.

  • Hi I'm17 turning 18 in 3 months I want to runaway & am planning to tomorrow . my family is very judgmental . my mother dosent even livewith me & she lives with her boyfriend . I live with my grandmother and auntes and uncles . I'm tired of getting treated the way I do & I stay home 24/7 not even allowed to go to public school . if I runaway its with my boyfriend also . I'm pregnant & nobody knows . except his family . I don't know what will happen if my mom or grandmother calls the cops I'm almost 18 so it shouldn't br that big I just want to know what they can do & what they can't & If I will be forced to leave . please reply .

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      Hi there,

      Thank you so much for reaching out to us and sharing your situation, it sounds like there is a lot going on right now at home and you are in a difficult situation with your family. Some people in your similar situation have found it difficult to find a safe place to stay for an extended amount of time and regular resources for food and clothing as well as support with regard to the pregnancy, have you and your boyfriend discussed what resources are available to you and how you would make sure you have access to these necessities? We at the National Runaway Safeline are here 24/7 to talk about these options and resources with you and provide support in any way we can.

      With regard to your question specifically about leaving home at 17, unfortunately we are not legal experts here so I cannot speak to your situation specifically but generally speaking if you are under 18 years old and leave home without the permission of your legal guardian your legal guardian can file whats called a runaway report, this would mean that if the police located you they would be able to bring you back home to your legal guardians. Additionally this could also have legal consequences for anyone over the age of 18 who provides you with shelter or support called harboring a runaway. Since we are not legal experts, we are also happy to provide you with legal resources for your area if helpful.

      We are available 24/7 online or over the phone at 1-800-786-2929 and here to provide support, resources, as well as someone to talk to. It seems like you have been through a lot and are in a difficult situation and we are here to help in any way we can! Hope to hear from you soon.

      Best of Luck,
      NRS

  • I wanna run away with my boyfriend and I’m only if what if my mom calls the cops what will happen

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      Hello,
      Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission.
      If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway.
      For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

      We are here as support to help through this challenging time.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

      Be safe,
      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • I am 17 and will be 18 in 6 months. I tried waiting to leave my parents home but I can no longer stand the way my stepmother treats me. She has called me many names and said very offensive things and I have a few pictures of text messages she has sent as well. I have saved up money to leave but I am worried about the college savings my dad put away for me from child support that my mom has access too. I am also worried about running away with a friend because I will still be attending school and going to work so I am worried about them showing up and checking me out of school or making a scene at my work, but I can no longer stay with my mom's wife. I have tried talking to the both of them but it just ends up in an argument where my stepmother is screaming and I'm hiding. What is my best option here?

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          Hi,
          Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a very stressful and complicated situation, but it shows a lot of maturity and courage to look at your options. We’re sorry to hear about how your stepmother has been treating you—you deserve to be in a home that feels loving and supportive. Before going further, we want to let you know that we are not legal experts, so we cannot give legal advice. We can give some general information, though.
          It sounds like you’ve been thinking of options for how you might leave home. In most states, you would need to be 18 to leave without complication. If you leave before that, your mom would have the right to file a runaway report; as you mentioned, it is a possibility that your mom or the police could find you at school or at work. On the other side of that, there is also a possibility that your local police would decide you’re close enough to 18 to decide where you live—if you’d like to see how your local police would handle your situation, you might consider calling their nonemergency line. As far as the savings that your dad put aside for you, we cannot speak to that—it might be a good option to get a lawyer involved if you’re concerned about those savings.
          You ask what your best option is, which is a good question. You know your situation much better than we ever could, so ultimately you must decide which option seems like the best fit. We can say the easiest option is to leave with permission. You might consider asking your mom for permission to stay with a friend or another family member in the months before you turn 18. We know this can be a difficult conversation to have; if you need assistance having that conversation, we do offer conference calling. One of our trained liners would be happy to help you have a fair and respectful conversation with your mom.
          Thank you again for reaching out. If you need any resources or just need someone to listen, please feel free to call us at 1-800-786-2929. Our lines are open 24/7 so someone will always be here to listen and to help. Take care,
          National Runaway Safeline

      • I want to runaway but idk if I will get in trouble. It doesn’t seem like my mom cares about my depression. She knows I wanna see my sister but every time I ask her she says no and I get really upset and then my niece and nephew ask me to cuddle with them and then I say no bc I can’t go over there and it really upsets me. My counselor and therapist have both told me and my mom I should visit my sister more often but she won’t listen to them. So I basically have a counselor and therapist for no reason. My mom and her parents are controlling me by saying I can only meet my sister on their terms and I don’t want to be controlled so I am thinking about running away but idk if I will get in trouble for it

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          Hi,
          Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like you’re in a pretty frustrating situation, especially because you have a counselor and therapist that your family won’t listen to. You mention wanting to run away but are concerned about what might happen. While we’re not legal experts, we can say that you would generally need to be 18 to leave home without permission. Otherwise, your family would have the right to file a runaway report and if the police are able to locate you they will return you home. Generally there aren’t legal repercussions for running away for the first time (running away is considered a status offense in most states and is not punishable by jail time). If you would like to speak specifically about your situation and your options, or if you need help finding resources, please feel free to call us at 1-800-786-2929. Our lines are always open so someone will always be here to listen and help.

          Sincerely,

          NRS

      • How can I get some help to bring my daughter home from Runaway

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          Hi,
          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that your daughter has run away and that you are looking for ways to bring her back home. This is a very difficult situation to be in, and reaching out for help is a great step. Depending on how old she is, reaching out to the Police to file a Runaway Report might be a good idea. When police find a minor who has a runaway report, they are obligated to bring him/her back to his/her legal guardians. Another option you have is to call the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (1-800-843-5678 or missingkids.com). They have plenty of resources to help parents in your position. Another organization that might be useful in bringing your daughter back home is Child Find of America (1-800-426-5678 or childfindofamerica.org). Finally, you could reach out to the families of your daughter’s friends to see if they have any information.
          We wish you the best and please feel free to call our hotline (1-800-RUNAWAY) as we are 24/7, toll-free, and confidential.
          NRS

      • Hey I stay in st.louis I was thinking about running away lately it’s been hard at home I can’t talk to my pearents about anything and if I do I will always get yelled at and cussed out lately I have been seeing my boyfriend and we did something that she didn’t like so she told me that if I’m late to school or something she’s ganna beat me when I get home and when she found out that I was still talking to my boyfriend she screamed at me and beat me smacked me all different types of ways and she basically abused me This has happened more than once and I can’t stand to stay in this house anymore I know if I run away she’s going to call the police but will they make me go back to the house? I don’t wanna take her to court though what did I do ??

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          Hi there, Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline and sharing a little bit about what is going. It takes a lot of courage to reach out and especially in a time where you have a really tough and complex situation at home. We are sorry you are experiencing abuse, no one ever deserves to go through that. You do have the right to report the abuse to Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. You can either do it yourself or call into us directly and we can support you through it. It is hard to say the result of reporting, but if you call in you can ask what the process might look like.
          We aren’t legal experts, but we have general knowledge about running away. In most states, running away isn’t illegal, but what is called a status offense. You can’t get arrested for it but it will mostly likely go on your record until you are 18. The police will only know if you have runaway if your parents/guardians file a police report. We can’t say for sure how the police will respond, but we hear a lot that police will take potential places you might be and will actively search for you. If they come across you, the most likely will return you home to your parents. Sometimes we hear that if you are staying with someone who knows you are a runaway and are not actively trying to return you or finding shelter for you, your guardians/or police can press charges against the people who are housing you, with something that is called harboring. One of our main goals is to make sure you are safe, so if you ever seriously decide to run away and need shelter, resources, or a safe place to go you can find safe locations at nationalsafeplace.org or reach out to us directly and we can find local resources in your area.
          It can be difficult to know how to talk to your parents and express your feelings about how you are feeling. We would encourage you to reach out to a trusted adult, teacher, relative, and friend that you can talk to and potentially help you mediate a conversation with your parents about your current situation. At NRS, we do offer a service call conference calling, where you can call into our hotline and then we would reach out to your guardian and help advocate for you, help you express the needs of to your parents.
          We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Stay strong and you are not alone in this! Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.
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