if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

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RE: runaway

Hi again,

Thanks for passing on a little but more information. It definitely seems like you are in an immediate situation and need some advice. It’s smart of you to reach out for some support.

So, in California, the age of adulthood is 18. That means when you turn 18 you will have different set of rights than you do as a minor. One of which is choosing where you want to live. Since you’re 17, however, one thing that might happen is that your mom will file a runaway report with the local police department. If that happens, and then you interact with the police, they may bring you back to your mom. Again, whether or not police take action (or even accept the runaway report) depends completely on the individual police department. The best way to know for sure would be to contact your local police department and ask them what they might do for a 17 year old who has runaway. You can google their non emergency number to find out how to contact them.

If you’d like, we’d love to talk through some options with you. You can call us at anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 430pm-1130pm Central Standard Time.

Best of luck to you!

NRS

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runaway

Hi I'm 13 and I was wondering could someone answer this question for me I ran away not long ago and the police couldn't remove me from my fathers house but no my mum is keeping me away from my dad but what would happen if I run away again?

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Re: runaway

Hey,

Thanks for reaching out to us. Sounds like you're going through an intense time.

It sounds like you are considering doing something similar to what happened before. Do you think if you left mom would call the police? If that happened before it is possible that your mom would do that again.

This sounds like a complicated situation and it might be good to explore your options over the phone. We are a 24 hour crisis hotline. We're anonymous and confidential. We could talk about some scenarios depending on what you or your mom would do. Please call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If that doesn't work you could also try our live chat from 430p-1130p (central standard time).

Hope to hear from you soon,
NRS.

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Help?!?!

Hi i'm 15 years old and i want to move away far away from this house. ive been depressed for 3 years ive had a cutting problem for the last 3 years. My parents got me the help i needed but during that time they would always called these names that haunt me till this day. there has been some physical abuse in my house to the extent where i cant even talk without my parents thinking im talking back when all i do is explain myself. ive gotten choked, punched cross the face, slapped, slammed to the ground. I have had bruises on my face but i no longer have the evidence. But my friends have seen the scars on my face. Im just so miserable and thats why i have such bad habits because they created their son into it, my mom and dad dont ever sit down an talk to me about anything they dont understand me emotionally. i was wondering if my friends mom could adopt me or try to get custody of me. if not ill have to think of a way to run away and get away

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Re: Help!?

Hello,

Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. It sounds like you are going through some extremely intense problems and we thank you for sharing this information with us. Nobody deserves to be abused or feel unsafe in their own home. We are sorry to hear that you feel scared even talking to them.

Just to let you know, we are mandated reporters when it comes to child abuse. This means that although we are confidential and anonymous, we are required by law to report to law enforcement when we hear of a minor being abused. If you wanted to report this abuse through us, we would be more than happy to help. Your local counselor or teacher would also be able to help you report to child protective services.

You also mentioned that you’ve been self-harming for the last three years. The National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) would be happy to talk to you about the cutting. You also asked about having someone else adopt you. Although we are not legal experts and cannot tell you what would or would not happen, we are here to offer resources that would be better able to answer that question. Justice for Children at 1-800-733-0059 is a legal agency that may be able to help you gain emancipation, or help you navigate the justice system.

If you did run away, do you have somewhere safe you could go? Here at the National Runaway Safeline we can help you find shelters, alternative living programs and advocate on your behalf to get into the programs you need. We do not give advice or tell you what you should or shouldn’t do, but we can help you explore options and offer any resources that may be of use.
We can be reached 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We hope to hear from you soon and wish you the best of luck. We are here to listen, here to help.

-NRS

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My mom said "Leave" but legally can I ?

Me and my mom hate each other and she told me to "leave" I called a local shelter But I need her permission to go there I figured since she said leave she'd agree but when I asked her to tell the guy it was okay she snapped , yelled , and hit me some more . So i said forget it called my friends they're on their way to come get me but I feel like when my mom comes home she will call the cops can she do that?

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RE: My mom said "Leave" but legally can I ?

Hi there,

Wow, it seems like you are going through a lot of things right now. We’re sorry that you mom is hurting you and treating you that way. It’s really not fair and you deserve to feel safe in your own home. You’re so brave to reach out for so much support.

So it looks like you’ve tried to contact a bunch of different support systems (friends, local resources). That’s a great first step! There’s one thing that we wanted to mention. Have you considered making an abuse report? If the police do decide to intervene, they might take you out of your home, or provide resources to help you and your mom out. And, they might do nothing with the report. We know that that can seem overwhelming. If you want, you can give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we can make the report with you. So that’s one option.

In terms of your question, if you are a minor (which we assume because you needed mom’s permission), your mom has the right to file a runaway report with the police. Now police respond to these differently. Sometimes they might go search for you (at school, where your mom thinks you are, etc.) and then return you home. Sometimes they will only return you home if you interact with the police (get arrested, pulled over, etc). We’re not legal experts here so it can be tough for us to get too specific. If you want to talk through some more options, or get some clarification, feel free to call us. We are confidential and anonymous and open 24/7.

If calling isn’t your thing, you can chat with us at our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Standard Time.

We look forward to hearing from you. Keep your head up, you’ve done some great things already.

Best of luck,

NRS

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Help me!!!

My mom kicked me out of my house I don't know what to do how will I survive this is sent from my IPhone 4 I need someone to help me

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Re: Help me!!!

My mom kicked me out of my house I don't know what to do how will I survive this is sent from my IPhone 4 I need someone to help me

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us. Sounds like you’re going through an intense time right now and we’re glad you contacted us to get some help.

Sounds like you need some help right away. If you’re mom kicked you out you’re probably going to need a safe place to stay. Is there someone you can call and rely on to give you a place to stay for the night? If you can’t find anyone to help you can call us.

We’re anonymous, confidential and available 24/7. You can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and speak to someone. If you tell us a little bit more about your story we can explore any options that might be available to you.

Hope to hear from you soon,
NRS

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Escape plan

I dont know what to do how will i get out of my parents house i tryed this 2 years ago but they found me and i said next time i will escape i need a big escape plan (:

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RE: Escape Plan

Hi there,

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time at home right now. It was smart of you to reach out for some support.

So there might be some things that you want to consider before you leave.
1. A place to stay.
2. How you might be able to get food and shelter.
3. Consider how you may continue your education.

We understand that these are pretty general things to think about, but they may be important to solidify before you leave.
We’d love to talk through some options that you have and resources that are available to you. We are here 24/7 to talk at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). If calling isn’t your thing, you can chat with us through our webiste (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Standard Time. There are a lot of options out there for you!

We look forward to hearing from you.

Best of luck,

NRS

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I want to leave

I am 16 and i want to leave all me and my dad do is fight and i cant do it anymore its killing me, i want to leave i want to get out of this house i cant be here anymore im not happy, my friend said i can come live with her and they will raise me as there own ill be 17 soon, the problem is my dad's a cop and he's saying he will call the cops if i leave... :/

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re: I want to leave

Thanks for reaching out to us, that takes a lot of courage and is a great first step. It sounds like you are in a very tough and frustrating situation and we want to try and provide assistance to you. First off, it sounds like a central issue you are facing is the consequences of running away while you are still 16. Unfortunately, we are not legal experts here and cannot give out legal advice. Talking to the police through the non-emergency number for your area can be a place to start to answer legal questions about your area. If your father is your legal guardian than generally speaking living with another person without his permission could potentially cause problems for that person who is letting you stay with them. Again, though you may want to consider talking to the police in your area to know more about the laws in your area.

It sounds like this has been going on for a while and is really taking a toll on you. Have you thought about counseling or talking to a therapist either with or without your father? That could also potentially be a starting to point to help resolve some of problems you have been experiencing. Here at the National Runaway Safeline we are a 24/7 confidential and anonymous hotline so you can feel to call us at 1-800-786-2929 and to talk directly to one of our liners and we could get some more information from you to try and give you some more specific suggestions for your situation. You can also chat with us from 4:30-11:30pm CST if you feel more comfortable reaching out that way. We hope to hear from you,

-NRS

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Can my boyfrine get in trouble if I leave with him??? He's 20 on to 21 & im 17 goin to be 18....... In california law can he get arresred if I leave before I turn 18...... Even though my mom knows with who & where im going ....... Can she still call the cops & make me go back & I am goin to be taken care of very will

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Hello,

Thank you for contacting us. Its sounds like you are concerned about being able to leave legally without getting your boyfriend in trouble. Technically, it is not against the law to run away. In most places it’s considered a status offence. However, anyone that you would be caught staying with could possibly be charged with harboring a runaway. Do you think your mom would press charges against you boyfriend if you left together?

If the police are called, they may ask you questions such as do you feel safe there? Although they may force you to return home, they We are glad to hear that you have somewhere safe to go. If you wanted to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or by live chat at www.1800ruanway.org open from 4:30pm-11:30 pm Central Standard Time, we would be more than happy to talk to you about your situation. We wish you the best of luck and hope to hear from you soon!

-NRS