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    Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We at NRS are glad that you were brave enough to contact us and ask for help.
    You don’t deserve to be treated this way. It sounds like you were living in a difficult situation and leaving home can be quite scary, where you may need additional supports. Maybe you could reach out to other family members and friends for those supports.

    Your safety is our top priority and we do not want you to be unsafe, so if you feel like speaking with someone about the abuse, you could contact Child Help USA at (800) 422-4453 or www.childhelp.org/. Dealing with physical abuse is incredibly difficult and painful, and you do not have to face this alone.

    If you would like to talk more about this situation and be provided with shelter resources, please feel free to reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat (if services appear available to use).

    Thank you again for contacting us.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

    National Runaway Safeline
    info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
    Tell us what you think about your experience!
    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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    • If I'm 17 and I'm 18 in 1 month and my mom has gave me permission to live on my own for 6 months can she still call me in as a run away

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      • ccsmod7
        ccsmod7 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to us at NRS.

        It sounds like you’re wanting to leave home but want to make sure you won’t get in trouble for it, and it’s great that you’re thinking through these things. Different states sometimes have different laws, but generally you are able to live with someone other than your legal guardian so long as your legal guardian has given you permission to do so. If you’re afraid your mom might go back on her word, you could also see if your mom would be willing to put a statement in writing confirming that she is permitting you to live on your own. It might also be helpful to contact your police department to see how they would handle your situation.

        You are always welcome to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you’d like to discuss your situation further and explore your options. It’s hard to go through all of this alone, and we’re happy to help.

        Best of luck to you!

        -NRS

    • I'm 15 and I recently moved to Texas with my mom after my dad got deported from Alabama. I had no choice and really didn't wanna come. I left my closest friends, and family. I hate it here I always get blamed for everything my sisters do the only thing to do here is clean. Is there any ways I can move back to Alabama without my moms permission at 16 I know I might not be able to but I just want all of this to dissapear.

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        Hello,

        Thank you, so much, for writing. Your situation sounds extremely difficult and it’s understandable to want what is happening now to disappear – it seems unimaginable to be uprooted from what you know and be put into a situation you hate.

        We would probably need a few more detail to better be able to discuss your options, but could speak in general terms. It seems that you could potentially move back to Alabama legally if there was someone there who would be able and willing to take custody/guardianship of you (of course you mom would need to be okay with this). If you left home without your mom’s permission, at 16, you would be considered a runaway and your mom would have the right to file a runaway report. Being a runaway is considered a status offense, so not a felony or misdemeanor or anything that would go on your record.

        Please know we are here to listen and here to help. Our mission is to make sure people are safe an off the street, so, if you have any questions, or would like to talk about your situation further, or would want resources to shelters please do not hesitate to reach out.

    • What happens if my brother slaps my ass non stop and I decide to run away. Please answer quickly

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      • Can I leave home if I'm 16 and turning 17 in 3 months legally

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

          Typically the legal age you can leave home without parental consent is 18. So if you leave any time before you turn 18, your parents can attempt to file a runaway report for you with your local police. Each police department had their own protocol. Generally, if your parents file a report for you and you are found by police, you would be returned home. The easiest way you can legal leave home at 16 or 17, is with your parent's permission.

          Sounds like there is something going on at home that is making you want to leave. We are here 24/7 to support you if you ever want to give us a call or you can also live chat us during chat hours. We can provide you with support, help brainstorm your options, and possibly provide you with helpful resources. We truly want to help you through this.

          Best of luck,

          NRS

      • Can I leave my parents house if I'm 16 and about to turn 17 in 3 months legally

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Please see the #485 response:

          "Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

          Typically the legal age you can leave home without parental consent is 18. So if you leave any time before you turn 18, your parents can attempt to file a runaway report for you with your local police. Each police department had their own protocol. Generally, if your parents file a report for you and you are found by police, you would be returned home. The easiest way you can legal leave home at 16 or 17, is with your parent's permission.

          Sounds like there is something going on at home that is making you want to leave. We are here 24/7 to support you if you ever want to give us a call or you can also live chat us during chat hours. We can provide you with support, help brainstorm your options, and possibly provide you with helpful resources. We truly want to help you through this.

          Best of luck,

          NRS"

      • Can I legally leave my parents home if I'm 16 about to turn 17 in 3 months

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Please see the #485 response:

          "Hello there, thanks for reaching out today.

          Typically the legal age you can leave home without parental consent is 18. So if you leave any time before you turn 18, your parents can attempt to file a runaway report for you with your local police. Each police department had their own protocol. Generally, if your parents file a report for you and you are found by police, you would be returned home. The easiest way you can legal leave home at 16 or 17, is with your parent's permission.

          Sounds like there is something going on at home that is making you want to leave. We are here 24/7 to support you if you ever want to give us a call or you can also live chat us during chat hours. We can provide you with support, help brainstorm your options, and possibly provide you with helpful resources. We truly want to help you through this.

          Best of luck,

          NRS"

      • Hello, My friend needs help, and I can't be there to help her. She's in the other side of the country and I feel useless. She has been verbally abused by her father for years, and she's at her breaking point. She has even developed eating disorders and she doesn't know what to do. Blamed for everything, and almost even being physically abused, all she ever thinks about is running away. I always try to help her cope with it, but she said something really scary today. "I don't know anymore." I have a feeling she is contemplating suicide and I'm very scared, I can't lose her and she shouldn't lose her life like this. All she wants to do is run away and I am offering her a place to stay but legal problems are left and right. Is it ok for her to runaway from home to me? We are in entirely different states (Florida and California)

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hi there,

          You seem to be really concerned for your friend who is having a really tough time at home. That is understandable to want to offer help even though you are so far away. That sounds like you're trying to be a good friend! Unfortunately we are not legal experts so we don't know if there is a way to help her without having some legal issues come up at some point. It might be helpful to talk with her about resources that she can reach out to for support when she feels suicidal and her urges in regards to her eating disorder. She can always reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They do also have a chat service on their website which is www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org. There is also the National Eating Disorders Association that she can try. The number is 1-800-931-2237 and website is www.nationaleatingdisorders.org. She can reach out to us if she has questions or concerns as well. As far as running away, that might cause a number of difficulties for her if she has no place to go, any idea of how to support herself on her own, and no way to get around. If there is any way you feel that we can help, we are available 24/7.

          Take care,
          NRS

      • If I runaway till I'm 19 what will happen to me than ?

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        • ccsmod0
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          Hello,
          Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
          We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you reaching out. It sounds as if you are questioning if you can leave home at the age of 19. We want you to know that we are not legal experts but in most states the age or majority is 18. (Nebraska 19, Alabama 20) This means that you are legally responsible for yourself and your parents/ guardians can no longer control what you do and where you go. On the other hand your parents/guardians are no longer required to provide you with food, shelter, or financial assistance anymore. We understand that becoming an adult is a big step and we want to make sure that you know that you are supported during this time. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
          If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
          We hope to hear from you soon.
          Be safe,
          NRS

      • I ran away from home. I have messages from my mom saying I could stay with my friend and her family. Now she has changed her mind and said she wanted me to come home. Can I still stay with my friend or do I have to return home. She threatened to call the cops on my friends parents saying she was going to file charges. Can she do that even though I have messages of her saying that's okay?

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. We are here to provide non-judgmental support 24/7 and offer resources, if necessary. It sounds like you just want to make the right decision and nobody can fault you for that. You should be commended for making sure you do the right thing.

          Unfortunately, we don’t provide legal advice but if you call 1-800-RUNAWAY we can do our best to put you in touch with legal experts. While your mom gave you permission saying you could stay with a friend, unfortunately she can go back on that permission if she does want you home. Those messages might be helpful in your situation to hold on to, but unfortunately they would not have much legal standing. It is also our understanding that your friend and/or friend’s family could possibly get charged with harboring a runaway. If the police are able to find you they will reunite you with your mom as running away is not a crime in and of itself. It might be best to consider working things out at home. It sounds like your mom is worried about you so the fact that she would like for you to come home is a good sign.

          We are here to offer you support in any way possible so if you would like to share a little more about what is going on you can call us or do a live chat. Maybe it will help to have a neutral third party listen to your concerns and come up with a game plan. Best of luck and if there is anything else you need please do not hesitate to contact us.

          Hang in there!

          -NRS

      • Hello I'm 17 and turn 18 in seven months what would happen if I ran away and my legal guardian called me in as a run away? Please reply.

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        • Reply: Hello I'm 17 #492




          Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

          While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission.
          If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home.
          Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway.
          For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

          If you would like to speak more about your situation NRS is here to listen and here to help.
          You are welcome to contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org to talk and explore possible options.

          We hope to hear from you soon.


          Take Care,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat which is open every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST and can be accessed here:

          National Runaway Safeline
          info@1800runaway.org (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

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          • im 16 years old...my mother verbally abuses me everyday since i can remember...she has hit me before as well, i have walked in on her doing drugs, she leave my younger 2 siblings home alone all the time, she lets her boyfriend bring drugs into and out of the house, when i tell her she makes me feel like dieing she encourages me to do it, she's made me watch my younger sibling since age 6, she tears me down and tell me I'm pathetic, she kicked me out about a week ago an told me to never come back, the next day she threaten to call the cops on me...so i went home...and the arguments and verbal abuse hasn't stopped...my mom refuses to let me stay anywhere but home...ive had other adults try to convince her to let me stay with them because i have many other adults that see how she is and feel like i need to get out of there as well. and she says no...my father is not legally qualified to become my main gaurdian (I've researched it as well)..my other family members have suggested on me leaving and seeing if she would really call the cops on me because of all the things she does could get her in trouble..is it smart to leave and if she does call the cops i would be able to tell them everything? and they could help? i live in texas and i know at the age of 17 if i were to leave the cops would not return me home...but i can not wait that long because i do not feel safe there...and she makes me feel so bad to where i worry about my own mental health...do i have to i wait it out till I'm 17...? or should i try explaining this to the cops? cps has also been an option but I'm afraid if that doesn't work..my mom would treat me even worse for calling them. i need serious help..ive ran out of options. she has sent me away with my grandpa and she even refuses to let me stay with him. i plan on still attending school no matter what happens as well. my grandpa has to return me home to her tomorrow and i am scared..please help.

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            • ccsmod2
              ccsmod2 commented
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              Hello,

              You don't deserve to have to go through a stressful environment at home with your mom. You do have a right to reach out for help, so you can try reaching to CPS or police to see if someone can help you with your situation. It might be helpful to have an adult you trust to help you with getting authorities involved. Unfortunately, because of your age, your mom can file a runaway report for you and possibly make you come back if you do decide to leave. In most states you need permission from your parent/guardian in order to live with someone else legally. Child Help is a great resource if you need some ideas on what you can do to stay safe. Their number is 1-800-422-4453. If you need anything else you can always reach out to us, we are open 24/7.

              Best of luck to you,
              NRS

          • I'm 16 but I live in Saudi Arabia, I have dual citizenship so i have both Saudi and American citizenship, and I'm coming to visit in June. If I don't run away while I'm there I'll be forced to go back to Saudi Arabia and I don't think I could handle any more of that as a gender queer, gay, atheist with un-accepting parents. I just need to know if I can be forced to come back at age 16 in Cincinnati or Washington, Seattle. I have arrangements with people that would allow me to sty there until I can get on my feet (couple of years) but I really really need to know if they can force me to come back. This is my only shot, can it be done?

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            • ccsmod2
              ccsmod2 commented
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              Hi,

              Because you are 16, you might not be able to stay here in the U.S. without your parents. We don't know for sure what will happen to you since we are not legal experts. From what you shared, it is understandable to not want to go back to Saudi Arabia where you won't be comfortable or accepted. As a minor there are most likely a lot of things that you need your parents for until you are 18 years old. For example, enrolling in school or getting healthcare insurance. That being said, there is still a chance you could be sent back to your country if you decide to runaway while you are here.

              NRS

          • my dad is always drunk he through me around and he has hurt me. i lied for him when DHS came and i wanted to say what really happens but i didn't. i have tried to run away but it got harder and harder every time. i have bags packed and ready to go almost every day. im scared but dont want to live with my dad anymore.

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            • ccsmod7
              ccsmod7 commented
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              Thank you for reaching out to us at NRS. It sounds like you’re in a really scary situation, despite DHS previously getting involved, and it is understandable that you want to leave home because of it. If you are in imminent danger, please know that you can always call 911.

              It sounds like you have tried to run away, and you have tried to file an abuse report, but neither options have worked out, which must be devastating. What has happened when you have run away in the past, and what are some options that you haven’t tried yet? Is there anyone else who knows about the abuse, or an adult at school/in the community who you could talk to about it? Something that victims of abuse can do to support their case is keep a record of the abuse (pictures of injuries, bruising, written accounts of every time it has happened). Childhelp.org might also be a helpful resource for you in dealing with your situation. No one deserves to be abused, and there are supports out there.

              Our hotline is open 24/7 and is completely confidential if you want to explore options, get referrals to shelters, safety plan, or call DHS together: 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Please do not hesitate to reach out at any time; we are here to help.
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