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  • Re: Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are having a tough time at home and we are sorry to hear about this. We’re glad you reached out and shared a bit about your situation.

    We’re not legal experts here, but generally speaking if you leave without permission from your legal guardian before the age of 18, they would have the right to make a runaway report. If a report is made and the police find you, they typically would just bring you back home. However, anyone that you stay with could potentially be charged for harboring.

    If a legal guardian kicks you out of the home, without providing a safe alternative place to stay, this could be considered neglect. It sounds like your nana does have an alternative place for you to stay, so this would likely not be considered neglect.

    We’re here to help you 24/7 in any way that we can. If you are willing to go elsewhere and feel we may be able to facilitate a conversation between you and your nana, please do give a call at (800) RUNAWAY (786 2929). There’s always someone here to listen and to help.

    Best,
    NRS
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    • If I runaway, can my call the cops and force me home?

      I Don't want to be home anymore because my mom is isolating me from my friends and only letting me leave for school. She always gets mad at me for slight mistakes made and has threatend to kick me out multiple times. If I ran away, could she force me back home??

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      • Re: If I runaway, can my call the cops and force me home?

        Hello there,

        Thanks for reaching out today. It sounds like your mom won’t let you see your friends and threatens to kick you out of the house. That sounds really unfair, we are sorry you are going through that. If she does ever kick you out that is considered neglect and you could possibly file an abuse report against her with child protective services.

        Typically, if you are under 18 and you run away or leave home without permission, your mom could make a runaway report with the police. If the police find you, they would usually return you home. So, yes, if she gets police involved you could be forced back to your house.

        We strongly encourage you to call or chat if you would like to have a talk about your situation and help with brainstorming your options.

        We look forward to hearing from you and we wish you the best,

        -NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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        • I cant take it anymore

          Hey there i need help my whole family is agaisnt me when a cousin tried to touch me i have a boyfriend that is willing to do everything to get me out but i told him i cant because i want to finish school im a freshman in highschool my parents believed my cousin because he told them that i was trying to get with him and that didnt happen at all i cried for many days my dad beat me so bad that he left bruses all over my body later that month he got drunk and trued to touch me my mom also beat me when i told her saying i was trying to get eith him, they later got a renter and he has an alcohol issue he always touches me wgen i get back from school im suck of it and i want to be in a safe place therapy has been given to me and my parents but it didnt help at all im still attending the therapist but she doesnt help at all i almost got raped by the renter and my family didnt do anything about it it seems that they are all against me my dad gave me a nife and told me to do them all a favor and commit suicide i almost did but then i met a guy and he is the only one that has my back only thing he is a senior and he is 18 so he cant do anything because he doesnt want to get in trouble with the law my parents tell me to leave the house but they always end up going to get me and i end up in the same place and the same things happen all over so i cant leave my parents are very manipulative so no one believes me.. im at the point where i just want to die and my friend is the only one that makes me feel better without him i would honestly killed myself already please help my parents wont sign anything so i could go to a shelter or anything my dad has cops that he knows so i called the cops and it didnt help at all please help

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          • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

            Hello,
            Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. First off we want to say that abuse whether its physical, sexual, emotional or verbal, it is never okay and you do not deserve it and do have the right to report it. We want you to know that you do have the right to make a report with Child Protective Services. Child Help USA is an information and referral line that can connect you with your local CPS abuse hotline. That number is 1-800-422-4453. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support.
            It sounds like you have been dealing with a lot at home that no one should have to go through. You have been so strong and brave so far and we want you to know that you do not have to do this alone anymore. We are here to help you. You deserve to be somewhere where you feel safe. You mentioned that your family makes you leave. One option that you do have since you mentioned that there is abuse in the home then you might be able to stay at youth shelter. Another option is if you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need of a safe place to stay. You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 69866. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You are not alone, just give us a call and one of our trained liners will be happy to assist you.1-800-RUNAWAY
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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            • how long until my parents can call the police

              So I've been going through a lot at home and I'm going to leave but I don't want to go back for a little. I think we both need to compose ourselves and I don't want them to invent some sob story about my mental illness and get me back to them in a day. So how long until they can call the cops on me?

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              • RE: how long until my parents can call the police

                Hello There!

                Thanks for reaching out to us. It is a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you have been such a strong person with having to go through everything that you mentioned.
                We are not legal experts here, but generally parents can call police at any point in time when their youth leaves home without permission to file a runaway report. As far has how soon the police search for youth once they take a report can vary. One way to know more specifically of this answer is to call out to the local police via their non-emergency number. You do not have to give descriptive information or anything that identifies you. You can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY so that we could call out for you or with you.
                Remember that we are here to listen and to help as best as we can.

                Best Wishes,
                NRS
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                • running away till im 18

                  What if I run away from home for a year till I'm 18 and come home just they know I'm okay what could happen? Could I get into any trouble or would I be able to leave still but get to see her as well and not live with them after then .

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                  • Re: running away till im 18

                    Hi,

                    Thank you so much for reaching out to us. It was a very brave thing to do.

                    You asked about leaving home for a year and thing coming back. If you were to run away, your parents/legal guardians could file a police report. We are not legal experts, but it generally means police will not actively look for you. If the police do find you, what usually happens is they would just return you home. Running away is a status offense so there is no jail time involved. Again, we are not legal experts, but usually at the age of 18, a runaway report would be changed to a missing persons report. To make this go away, you could notify the police you are safe.
                    You mentioned having to live with someone after you runaway. In most states, the age of majority is 18. This means you would be considered an adult. At that time, you would not have to live with anyone; however, if you are still considered a minor in your state, you would most likely have to listen to your parent/guardian and stay where they tell you to.
                    Thank you so much for reaching out to us. If you have any more questions, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

                    NRS
                    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                    National Runaway Safeline
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                    • 14 year old

                      Most of my life my dad has yelled at me and calling me names that he says he doesn't mean, I'm tired of being yelled at for 14 years and I need to runaway, according the police department, they will take you back home if you're in poor health (in California) but my question is, if you're in perfect health, with a roof over your head, food in your stomach, and still in school, can the police still take you back?? And is being yelled at everyday (practically) emotional abuse? He doesn't call me any bad names, he just makes me feel terrible about my life, and I just want to know if that's emotional abuse or not.I really want to leave, and my friend told me that if the cops were to take me home and I begged them to stay, he said that it is a violation of basic human rights, although I don't think that is true, I still want to leave, and I only have 4 more years till I'm 18 anyways, my dad constantly tells me its not me that makes him yell, but he still continues to do it anyways.

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                      • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                        Hello,
                        Thanks for reaching out during this difficult time. It sounds like you have had a lot going on in your life. We are sorry to hear that your dad yells at you, we cannot imagine who defeated this must make you feel. We want you to know that you are not alone and that we are here to help in whatever way we can. It sounds like you have already done a lot of the foot work with contacting your local police to get some answers. It is great that you have already done this because this is normally something that we do as well. You questioned since the police basically told you that you would be taken back if you are in poor health if this means that if you are well and healthy can you stay where you are. We want you to know that we are not legal experts but from what we know healthy or unhealthy it is the police’s job to return you home if you are found. Despite your living situation at the time if your legal guardians want you back they are supposed to return you to them unless there is some reported evidence of abuse. Since you questioned what could be considered abuse we wanted to provide you with https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/ this site provides definitions as to what is considered abuse, because we cannot tell you what you are experiencing is or is not abuse. This site also can show you what goes into reporting and how to get in contact with someone to help you report.
                        You sound like a really smart and resourceful person for having already taken the time to reach out to the police and us. We want you to know that you are important to us and you do not deserve to be treated the way that you have been. If you feel comfortable you can give us a call and one of our trained liners will be happy to talk to you further about your situation. 1-800-RUNAWAY We provide free, confidential, and nonjudgmental services. Everyone deserves to be respected and loved.
                        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                        National Runaway Safeline
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                        • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                          Last time i runaway mom told me to go to a friends house like right now iam really think adout this so can u help me?

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                          • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                            Hi, Thanks for getting in touch with us through the NRS forum. You want to know whether your mom can call the cops if you run away, and whether your mom can tell you to go to a friend’s house.
                            We will try to answer some of the questions you raise, but understand that while we can tell you the general legal situation we cannot give very specific legal advice. In most states the age of majority is 18 (a few states are different), so if you are under 18 your parent can tell you where to live. That doesn’t mean you have to live with your parent if they agree that you can live somewhere else, it’s just that they get to say where you live.
                            So if you are a minor and do run away your mom can call the cops and make a runaway report, even though running away is not a crime and you would not go to juvi. If your mom did make a runaway report this would get posted on a national database, and if you came into contact with cops they might check this database and if they find you take you back to live with your mom. You don’t say how old you are, and usually if you are close to 18 the cops don’t look for you very actively. But it you are much younger, they might.
                            You mention that your mom told you to go to a friend’s house last time you ran away. Is this something you want? Is this something you would want to explore?
                            If you want to talk this through in more detail you could call us at 1 800 RUNAWAY (1 800 786 2929). We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and would be able to talk through your options with you. We are confidential and anonymous, so you can feel safe in contacting us.
                            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                            National Runaway Safeline
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                            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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