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  • Want to leave

    Basically my dad is saying that i can leave.... Cause police told him that already... And i want to leave amd not come back...... My dads saying i ca. leave if i want but if i come back he wont let me in... I want to leave and not come back ever.... Is it possible?????!!

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    • RE: Want to leave

      Hello,
      Thanks for reaching out to us today.

      If your father and the police are both saying that you can leave, it looks like you might be able to do just that. Keep in mind he might be able to change his mind and call the police to bring you home, but generally if a parent says you can go then you have permission to leave.
      It sounds like there a lot going on between you and dad. Do you think you’re prepared to leave, even if he’s saying you’re not welcome back if you do? If you’d like to talk about that or where you’re going to go, we’d love to hear from you. Our number one concern is your safety, we want to help you with coming up with a plan. Feel free to call in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

      Stay strong,

      NRS
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      • Running away

        Im 15 and last year me and my mom never got along.in the summer she basically told me to call in the morning so she lnows im not dead(i was never at her house and stayed with friemds and family)I have pictures of what my face looked like after she hit me.She no longer hits me but is emotionally abusive.I struggle hard with mental illness,Have a therapist and am trying to recover but lving with my mom and dad is causing me great mental pain and is taking a toll on me and my life.I have a job,Am finishing school(I do outreach)And have plans to move out when im sixteen(in 7 months)My question is can i runaway now or move out and what are my legal rights given my situation?If the cops were involved what would they most likely do and would i be forced to come back to my parents?Is there any way i can apply for emancipation now?Im a mature teen who is very serious about gaining my independance.My parents have a history of mental abuse starting with not believing me when i said i was molested by my dads best friend and continuing to stay friends with him for a year.That has left a big mental scar.On top of those things my moms brother is verbally abusive(every time i see him)And my parents do nothing about it they just let it happen.

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        • Running away

          Hello,
          We appreciate you contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

          It sounds like you are in what must feel like a nightmarish situation.
          You do not deserve to be abused by anyone. This is something that is most unfortunate and through no fault of your own.
          We understand that running away may seem like your most viable option.
          Your safety is most important and there are laws to protect you against child abuse.

          If you are interested in finding out how or where you might file a child abuse report your therapist might be able to help you with doing so. We at NRS are also mandated reporters and as such we can assist you with filing a child abuse report.

          We are not legal experts meaning we can only give you some general answers to your questions.
          Since you are under the age of 18 your parents are legally responsible for you.
          Most states require parental consent to move out of the home.
          Emancipation usually requires the parent’s cooperation with this process.
          This means they would probably have to sign any documentation before emancipation can go forward.

          You are very brave and you did a good job by reaching out tonight.
          Give us a call at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org (live chat) to discuss your situation. Perhaps we can explore more options that might help to keep you safe.
          How does that sound?

          In the meantime try to stay safe and continue to advocate for yourself.
          If you would like information as to where you can file a child abuse report in your area call:

          Child help USA 1-800-422-4453
          https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/

          Take care,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
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          • Move Homes

            Hello,

            Im 16 and I would like to live with my brother. My brother is 23 and has his own house child and businesses. My brother is very fit and promotes success and models successful behavior. I dont want to get in too much of what i deal with at home but i live with my dad. My mom is fighting for custody of me and my 13 year old brother and sister. Right now im being mistreated at my dads house and towrn between two parents. It gets to the point to where i dont even know what to do. I want to go love with my brother amd my moms ok with it. If im there i will be working, going to school, and training. But the only problem is i live with my dad. Can i just leave and go to my brothers house in Florida while im with my mom on her visitation time of the joint custody and just not come back. If so, what would be the consequences that i could get? Let alone my brother?

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            • RE: Move Homes

              Hello there,

              Thanks for reaching out to us today. It sounds like there’s a lot going on at home and you’re looking to get away from it all. It also sounds like you’re caught in the middle of your parents fight for custody. That must be really frustrating. We’re glad you came to us.

              You’re very lucky to have such a great role model like your brother. It seems like you’re right, he would make a great person to live with. Have you tried talking to him about living there? Since you’re under 18, generally you’d need to be 18 to move out without a parent’s permission. And if mom doesn’t have custody, it sounds like it would be your dad that would need to give this permission. Do you think your dad would be open to this idea? Do you think it might help if your brother was the one to ask him?

              If you left without permission, your father could report you to the police as a runaway. It sounds like you’d be out of state if you stayed with your brother. That might carry some significant problems for your brother if he knew you ran away and you were staying there with him. He could be charged with “harboring a runaway”, which isn’t always the case but sometimes the police will pursue this. It can be anywhere between a fine and jail time for him. If you wanted to know for sure, you could call the police non-emergency phone number in your brother’s town and yours to see what kinds of consequences might be brought on your brother.

              We want to invite you to call in here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re 24/7 and confidential, we’re here to listen to you if you’d like to open up about what is happening at home. It’s not clear to us what exactly is going on, but we might be able to explore some options available to you if we had a little more information. Please consider calling or trying our Live Chat here on our website.

              NRS
              Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

              National Runaway Safeline
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              1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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              • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                so I am 16 almost 17 and I do not want to be with my adopted mother anymore I have no life because I have been going through a lot
                when I was kid and I can not do anything about until I am 18 years old. I thought about running away but I do not want to get in trouble
                is there away I can find my real mom and live with her instead.

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                • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                  Hello There,

                  Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline today.
                  It sounds like there’s a lot of frustration in your life at the moment. We’re really sorry to hear that things at home aren’t going so well. However, it’s great that you’re asking for help. Sometimes that can be the hardest thing to do when you’re feeling stuck.

                  We need to tell you that here at NRS, we are not legal experts. Generally speaking, you need to be 18 before you are legally an adult and can leave home without your guardian’s consent. Doing so without their permission could result in them filing a runaway report with the police. This would mean that the police would be looking for you, and if you made contact with them, they’d likely bring you back home. Sometimes, whoever you stay with could be charged with “Harboring a Runaway”, which is a misdemeanor offense.

                  Having said that, it may be that your birth mother could get in some trouble for taking you in. Would you feel comfortable talking to your adoptive parents about seeking out your birth mother and living with her?

                  We’re not sure if we’d have any way to assist you in finding your birth mom, but if you wanted, you could call in here to brainstorm some ways that you might go about doing that. We can be reached here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you could try our Live Chat right here on our website.

                  Best of luck,

                  NRS
                  Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                  National Runaway Safeline
                  [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                  1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                  Tell us what you think about your experience!
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                  • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                    My mom has been emotionally and physically abusive since I was little. I'm 15 now. I am convinced my mother is bipolar. My dad agrees. It's common for my mom to beat me over small issues but yesterday was pretty bad. I came home from the pool, and even though I had done it a week ago my mom noticed I had dyed my hair. She flipped. She started yelling and screaming at me and she went up to my room and threw everything everywhere. She then grabbed a hangar and started beating me with it, she cut me with the metal hook of the hangar and I have bruises in multiple places and a bump on my arm from her hitting me. She even hit me with a guitar and tried throwing a piano/keyboard at me. This may sound unbelievable but I swear it's all true. Then today she got mad at me again, she started calling me a slut, whore, prostitute and accused me of being on drugs. Then she hit me with a towel and bit my arm so hard and now there's a bruise there too. My friend told me to take pictures of all the bruises and cuts, so I did. My dad told me that if I was actually a good person, he would defend me, and he said I brought this upon myself. Which maybe I did. I don't know. I've tried to tell an adult about what goes on at home, and they try to talk to my mom, but then she lies and tells them that I beat her and call her names and give her attitude, when I never have!! I'm afraid if I tell CPS they'll believe my mom and think I'm lying! Also, last week, I didn't make my bed and while I was at school, my mom took almost all my clothes out of my drawers and gave them to Good Will, leaving me with barely anything! I really do want to call CPS but I have a little sister who never gets beat because my parents think she's the perfect child. She's skinny, sweet, she gets good grades, she's an angel to them. I don't want to get her put into the system because of me. If I was an only child I would've called CPS a long time ago. I got my mom on video saying that I'm allowed to leave. And my friend said I could stay with her but I'm afraid to get her into legal trouble but technically my mom said I could leave. I'm confused and I don't know what to do. I live in Montgomery County, Maryland if that makes any difference. I don't want to live with my mom anymore, I want to live with my friend. I don't know what to do. Help me please.

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                    • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                      Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline – we’re glad you found us. It takes a lot of strength to share what you’re going though and to seek support in exploring your options. It’s definitely not ok for your mom to treat you as you’ve described; everyone deserves to feel safe in their homes and no one deserves to be abused. You’ve shown so much courage, resourcefulness, and compassion (your selflessness in regards to your sister – wow!) in spite of everything you’ve been through. It’s understandable that you’d be exploring your options for a living arrangement outside the home in an effort to keep yourself safe and healthy.

                      It sounds like you’ve put a lot of thought into ways you can stay safe and have already tried reaching out to adults in the past. We’re sorry to hear that your mom was able to convince them otherwise. It’s also extremely smart of you to have documented evidence of physical abuse. That will come in handy if you do decide to report. It sounds like you have some valid concerns about what could happen if you were to file an abuse report with CPS. A lot depends on the worker who leads the investigation, but it’s not necessarily the case that your sister would enter the system as well. CPS agencies prioritize keeping youth safe but also keeping families together when possible, so if there was a relative or family friend who has already offered to take you in, they may consider placing you there. If you’d ever like to talk through what reporting would be like, you could always call the national child abuse reporting hotline, Child Help USA, at 1-800-422-4453. They can talk you through some of those unknowns that may be holding you back from reporting. If you wanted support in reporting, many adults who work with youth are mandated reporters, and legally have to report abuse to CPS if they are made aware of it. Would you feel comfortable talking with a school counselor or social worker about what’s been going on?

                      It’s awesome that you have a friend willing to take you in – those supports are so important in tough times like these. We aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but we can speak in general terms about some of the legal considerations around leaving home. Having parental permission is one of the three legal ways you can live outside the home before you reach the age of majority (which is 18 in Maryland). It is possible, however, that your mom could withdraw that permission at any time and involve the police to bring you home. There is a lot of variation state to state in what constitutes permission. You may consider calling the local police on their non-emergency number to see if the video you took would stand up as permission. If you wanted support in making this call, you could always call NRS and we could call together to make sure your questions are being answered, while preserving your anonymity. You could also talk to local legal aid who are more familiar with laws in your area. The number for Montgomery County Legal Aid is (855) 880-9487. They’ve also got walk-in and telephone intake hours listed here on their website: http://www.mdlab.org/contact/montgomery-county.

                      If you ever need a listening ear, we’re here to support you 24/7 by phone and or through our live chat service. Don’t hesitate to reach out as you’re exploring your options. We’re on your team and will support you in making the best plan for you to stay safe. Stay strong!

                      Best of luck,
                      NRS
                      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                      National Runaway Safeline
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                      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)
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                      • can my mom call the cops if she kicks me out?

                        I was wondering because my mom has told me if I don't get my grades up she'll kick me out which I'm cool with I just want to know if she can call the cops after She has kicked me out?

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                        • RE: can my mom call the cops if she kicks me out?

                          Hello,
                          Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

                          Sounds like you are having some issues with your mom about school and she has made threats to put you out if they don’t change for the better. That’s tough.

                          Legally if you are a minor it is unlawful for her to put you out on the street.
                          It sounds like you would like to know that if she was to do this could she call the police.
                          Calling the police is her decision to make but what do you think she might tell them?

                          You have the option of calling the police or child protective services for assistance with locating a place to stay if this should happen. It is considered neglect for a parent or guardian to put out their child with nowhere to go. Does that make sense?

                          You may call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or visit www.1800Runaway.org to get information for emergency shelter services etc.

                          We hope that things get better for you at school and at home.

                          Take Care,
                          NRS
                          Last edited by ccsmod6; 06-09-2016, 06:47 AM.
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                          • Planning on running away

                            So my mom has 5 kids and I'm the oldest. I'm going to be 15 on July 4th. And I have a boyfriend whom I've been dating for 4 months now. My brother who is 13 doesn't like him but I don't really care. I love my siblings but I want to leave the house because my mom has hit me. She left me bruises twice and the last time she left me serious bruises on both of my thighs. I had to hide them from my pe teacher. The thing this that it's only toward me and not my siblings so I know their safe. I want to know what can my mom do if I run away. Can the cops send me to those places where they educate kids themselves ? Or help me leave my house? Or do something to my mom and send all the kids away ?

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                            • Re: Planning on running away

                              Hi there,

                              First of all, thank you very much for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a very brave person to ask questions and reveal things that have been going on at home. You do not deserve to be treated that way. You deserve to feel and be safe.

                              We are not legal experts here, but we can answer your questions generally. Because you are a minor, your mom could file a runaway report if you ran away from home. Running away isn’t illegal but it is considered a status offense; that means you can’t do it because you are not 18. If the police find you, they will return you home. The police may be able to help you, though. If you would like assistance from the police to leave home, you will likely have to explain the situation at home. Just know that police are mandatory reporters to Child Protective Services if they hear you’re unsafe. You can either go into your police station or call you town’s non-emergency police number if you would like their assistance. If you would like to file a report without going through the police, you can talk with a teacher or counselor from your school or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

                              We can also try to help you find a safe place to go, such as a shelter. We can also call shelters and advocate for you by asking if they have a bed available and what their procedures are with regards to notifying parents. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

                              We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

                              -The National Runaway Safeline
                              Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                              National Runaway Safeline
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                              • Last Resort

                                Ive been committing self harm since i was 10. Ive ran away 2 times. Once when i was. 7 and then last year. I dont like my living conditions. My mother died when i was 10, thats when my suicidal thoughts and self harming came in. I got separated from my mothers family and came to live with my father. Hes married now. I have two step sisters. Ive been hit to the ground before. But my dad takes medicine that makes him forget a lot so he didnt remember what he had done. Im willing to run away again. I need advice, so please..

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