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  • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

    I am having the same issue but my story is, my dad has anger issues and he got so mad that he actually made my step mom and step sis leave the house, she couldn't take me with her because my dad has full custody. He has been mentally abusing me and my sis, always yelling and screaming at us at little things and I want to run away but I'm scared that I will get found by the police. First its mental abuse, he's messing with my emotions and soon I'm scared it will turn into physical abuse, please reply to me. I need to know if I just book it or stay. If I do run away I have friends I can stay with but I've been researching that if someone who is helping me run away can be sued by my parents and I don't want that. I will talk to my counselor tomorrow, maybe even Chief MacAfee (The police officer that protects our school grounds). All I want is to not live with my dad anymore, like a restraining order, please help me. I didn't mention that I'm 16 and this has been going on since 5th grade. I'm in 10th grade now.

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    • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

      Hey there,

      Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline, it sounds like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help in the best way that we can. From what you shared, it sounds like home is not somewhere you want to be and are ready to leave. We want you to know that we are here to listen and to help in the best way that we can.

      We want to start off by letting you know that we are not legal experts here, meaning that we are only able to speak in general terms. In most states, at 17, you are still considered a minor, meaning that if you were to leave, typically you would be forced to come back home. It sounds like you are looking for advice as to what to do and how to go about the situation. While we are not here for advice, we are here to explore some options with you and to support you. If you are able to give us a call to give us more of an insight of your situation, perhaps we can help you come up with a plan.

      It would be great to start off by talking to your counselor and talking to a police officer at your school about this. As we mentioned, we are not legal experts here, meaning that they may have better answers than the ones that we would be able to provide you with.

      Our lines are available 24/7, this is the fastest method you would be able to get in touch with us. We are more than willing to listen to your situation and help in the best way that we can. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), we also have a live chat program, it seems like that would work best since you are unable to get to a phone. As we mentioned, we would be more than happy to talk about your situation and see what the best way that we can help you is. We wish you the best of luck and hope to get your call or chat soon.

      Stay strong,

      NRS
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      • can I runaway from my dad's girlfriends house?

        Hi, I'm 15. Last year and this year my life has been horrible, I got arrested for accidentally kicking my mom trying to get her off me while she was beating me up. When I came back from my grandma's everything was okay, cps was over and didn't have a problem with me being there, they just said to keep her crazy "boyfriend" away from me and my sister since he hit me before, and makes me and my mom fight. It wasn't until she brought him over again, that she got mad at me again and tried to beat me AGAIN for saying stuff to him. (He gets to call me ugly and other names and she doesn't do anything about it) so I call my dad and tell him everything that's happened and to pick me up. I'm now staying with my dad and his girlfriend (keep in mind this was my choice) but now I truly hate it here! I starve when my dad is gone at work all week, and just sit in the same spot all day staring at the walls, and she acts like she hates me, her and her son, and she yells at me. The hunger was soo bad one day that I just HAD to go home JUST to eat.. That must of been really bad because I was SOO angry with my mom. So I got to go home the day after, and I've been visiting since then. But anyways I can't stand it here any longer, I tried to come back home but my mom says that CPS says that I can't (which I think is a lie) so I wanna leave this place. can she call the cops if I leave? She's not my parent or guardian, and my dad isn't here. So if she calls the cops can they do anything? I want to go to my grandmas and I've asked my mom, but she keeps trying to only fight with me.

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        • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

          Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out through out online forum. It sounds like there has been a lot going on the past several years. You mentioned tension and fighting with your mom and some issues when you were staying with your dad. We are sorry you had to go through all of the hurt and struggle. It seems you just want to stay with your grandma which seems to be a safe place for you. You ask a really good question that we unfortunately can only answer generally because we are not experts on legal matters.If you go to your grandma's your current legal parent/guardian can file you as a runaway. However, if you stay with a family member sometimes police will try to search for and locate a minor and make sure they are in a safe place. They may not necessarily make you leave home.The way police respond to runaway minor cases varies across state to state and even county to county. The best way to find out specifics is by contacting local non-emergency police.

          If you would like to talk more about what's going on, explore options and solutions, or obtain referrals such as legal aid or counseling we would be happy to help. Please consider reaching out by phone or chat 1-800-786-2929 www.1800runaway.org.

          We wish you well and hope you stay safe.

          Best,
          NRS
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          • Thinking about running away

            I'm 16 thinking about running away .. I live with my mom and brother . My dad is a whole other story ....but I just want to worry about the stress I have outside of home rather than in it and better myself as a person and my life ....Practically every single day my mom and I get into an argument and she ends up calling me a ********** , ***, dumb*** , retarded , fat , worthless , pig and the list goes on . it usually doesnt get to me because she always tells me but i caught myself being sad because i felt like maybe it is true .I felt like just giving up in school the whole day i was thinking of what she said and almost started crying i felt like im so stupid and started feeling very insecure but one thing that keeps me going is living for myself since noone else is going to make me happy . i think maybe i should give myself everything I ever wanted .She screams at me too and gets in my face and a lot of the times she does end up hurting me like a few minutes ago where she grabs my wrists extremely tight tries twisting my arm and gives me bruises and it hurts...last time in the car it was like I wasn't even her child ... She had attacked me like if I was someone on the streets pulling my hair so hard and socking me on my head then grabbed my drink and dumped it on me which got all on my pants and got it soaked .. Its very degrading...I haven't ever hit her but I want to. I don't think I would forgive myself if I did though so I hold on to any little reason not to . She has thrown things at me and broken things before . I remember when I was in 7th grade on the computer chair and she grabbed me by my hair and threw me to the floor . I was on her bed one time to fall asleep because its a comfortable queen sized bed and she didn't want me there so she got pans from the kitchen and started banging them together loudly . She is nice at times but she always has an attitude towards me . & I'm not a saint either I do say things back when she tells me things because im tired of people thinking i am their ***** and can push me around . I tried to stop because I don't want to disrespect my mom its just that it really gets to me because she will keep on going . She tells me that other moms are worse and that their child still loves them and shows respect so as should I . honestly I don't think she even really likes me and wants me out of the house ... I don't even feel loved but I guess that's ok ... Because I love myself even if nobody does . it does hurt though that my dad and mom don't seem to really want to be in my life and could careless if I'm gone my dad said it himself even that he disowned me but like I said he's another story but I'm just really sad & there's a lot more to the story ... I don't want to be where im not wanted my brother even tells me nobody wants me here not even my own mom or dad .. I don't know why he says my dad though because he doesn't want him either or I don't know but I don't want fake love it just makes me depressed and I'm trying to be happy . I guess I just need to face the fact my mom doesn't care about me I just try to find any reason possible to believe she does . i keep giving excuses for her actions . so I just want to run away and clear my mind I have some friends who do drugs & etc but I don't want to use that as an excuse for my problems they will only get worst . I know I can find happiness if I'm on my own that may not be an option though ... Everyone claims to have it worst but that doesn't take how I feel away . it really sucks I have to deal with this kind of negativity each day and I'm tired of it
            Last edited by ccsmod6; 02-03-2016, 05:53 AM.

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            • Re: Thinking about running away

              Hi there,

              Thank you for writing on the forum at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like things have been stressful and overwhelming for you for quite some time now. From what you shared, it seems your mom has hurt you physically and emotionally. We can only imagine how pained you are by hearing those words from your mom. Regardless of what seems to be a stormy relationship between you and your mom, you do not deserve to be mistreated or harmed in any way. Your safety is important, and you have the right to file a report with local authorities (police or child protective services) to ensure your safety and well-being. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 (www.childhelp.org) is a national organization that works hard to ensure that minors are safe. The counselors there can speak with you about the way your mom treats you, and they can provide further support and information about reporting. We are here to listen and provide support to you as well.

              You mentioned being tired of dealing with the negativity everyday, and many would agree if in your same situation. It seems you are at your breaking point and may need help finding a way to get some help. If you needed help exploring safe options or alternatives to your current situation, we are here to be support to you in any way we are able to. If you even needed help making a child protective services report, we can help with that.

              We hope to receive a call or chat from you soon! 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

              Best,
              NRS
              Last edited by ccsmod6; 02-21-2016, 01:59 AM.
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              • Running away from verbally abusive home

                I am 16 years old, I turn 17 in August. My mother was deemed an unfit parent 4 years ago by the court system which forced me to move in with my father. My father has always wanted a son, and he has 3 boys. I am his only daughter. My life is liked a remade screwed up version of Cinderella. My dad and stepmother love their 3 boys and do everything for them. The boys are 9, 11, and 13 years of age. My stepmother is an over the road truck driver who is only home once a month, and my dad refuses to get a job. We live on an income of almost exactly $25,000 a year. My dad does nothing but smoke pot, cigarettes, drink, and play videogames. He has me cook, clean, and babysit, as well as pay gas money to go anywhere and he takes money out of my account for no reason. He is always telling me how much he can't stand me, and that he wants me out as soon as he can legally kick me out. Recently he has cussed me out and forcibly made me quit my job. I was using the job to save money for a place to go when I graduate next June. Now I have no job, and he is still taking the money out, so soon my account will be empty. I wanted to go for emancipation but he made me quit my job so now that is out of the question. My other option is to runaway and stay with a friend but, I don't want my friend to get in trouble for harboring a runaway if my father reported it. What should I do?

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                • re: Running away from verbally abusive home

                  Hey there,

                  You seem to be looking for advice on what to do about your situation at home. We want to try our best to help, but we are not able to give advice here. We are non directive here at NRS so we can't tell you what you should or should not do. From what you shared, you have been going through a lot at home living with your dad. It seems like it's been pretty stressful and you are feeling unhappy there. You are right, your friend (or anyone) could get into trouble for harboring a runaway. Your dad can file a report for you as long as you are a minor under 18. If would like to talk more about your situation, you are welcome to call us. Again, we can't tell you what to do, but we can help you think through things.

                  Best,
                  NRS
                  Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                  • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                    Originally posted by ;146
                    Im planning on running away. and i know where i am going and i will be taken care of.
                    But all i was wondering was if i do run away. Can my mom call the cops on me...will they hunt me down and find where im staying at and force me to go home?
                    If so then i pretty much wont have any freedom at all till im 18.
                    Answer this question for me. Please
                    Hey if I run away and stay with a friend will my friends parents get in trouble for keeping me

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                    • RE: re: Running away from verbally abusive home

                      Thanks for reaching out. It sounds like you hoping to move in with friends and want to know what to expect if you run away. It was smart for you to reach out to us. If you are under the age of 18, if you leave home you could be considered a runaway. This means that your parent or guardian could call the police, who might force you to return home. Running away is not a crime, however anyone who allows you to stay with them could risk criminal charges for harboring a runaway. This means your friends could get into trouble and the police can search for you and make you go back home.
                      We are not legal experts, and laws vary depending on your location. One way to find out more about the laws in your area is to call your local police non-emergency number and ask. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, so if you have further questions or you just want to talk about the situation that is leading you to want to run away, please don’t hesitate to give us a call. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.
                      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                      • what if I ask the cops if I can leave my house

                        My parents have been not letting me live my life. They don't want me to follow my dreams they are to strict (protective) and it was been lasting for 3 years and I can't take it anymore. So I was thinking of going to the cops without my parents knowing and asking the cops. If I can live with a friend for a while to do what I need to do follow my dreams.

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                        • Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                          Thank you for posting to our bulletin service.

                          It sounds like you’re having a tough time getting your parents to support your dreams. We really appreciate you writing to us to explore options with you.

                          Going to the cops is an excellent idea. They would know best about how they handle situations like yours. If you need resources getting in contact with your local police department you can give us a call and we would be more than happy to point you in the right direction.

                          If you have questions or concerns about anything, give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Someone is always here. We can talk to you more in depth about what’s been going on, what you want to see happen and your different options. Call anytime.
                          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                          • Runaway

                            Hey I'm 16 about to be 17 in a week or two and I wanted to know what's the worst that can happen if I runaway,I lived with my grandmother who hit me so I ran away to my girlfriends house and my mother is making me go to Miami where I hate being and I'd have to sleep on the couch.but here my girlfriends prints gab accepted me as one of there own given me a room,a bed, food etc..my grandmother isn't my legal Gaurdian so can she call the cops on me?

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                            • RE: Runaway

                              Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to finding the help and information that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a difficult to being at home. You are such a strong person for having gone through so much already. We are not legal experts here, but typically being under the age of what your state considers to an adult (usually 1, you would need permission from your parents to leave. It is not illegal to runaway or leave home without permission, but it would mean that your parents or whom you were living with could file a runaway report. The police would then be required to return you home. However, being so close to 18 some districts handle these reports differently by possibly no actively searching for youth. You could find this out by calling your local police district’s non-emergency number. You would not have to give them specific information. If you feel uncomfortable doing so, you can call us at 1800-RUNAWAY and we could call on your behalf. It is great that you have the support of your girlfriend and her family. Would it be possible that your mother, grandmother, and girlfriend can talk about possible living arrangements that would work best for you?

                              We hope this information was helpful
                              If you ever need any other help, resources, information, or want to talk
                              do not hesitate to call us or utilize our chat service.

                              Best of Luck,
                              NRS
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                              • Please Answer Asap!

                                Hi, im 14 years old and i have been thinking about running away for a long time now. I have no freedom and im barely even allowed to watch tv. They took everything i had but my best friend gave me her tablet and thats how im able to write this. She knows about everything and has been a witness to abuse. Things have gotten really bad at my house and my parents deny that they have hit me yet they have. I have been molested 5 times and raped once. My parents dont believe me. My dad is an alchoholic and my mom is depressed and has anger issues. I dont want to call the cops or cps on them because i dont want to get them in trouble. I simply want to leave. I am always blamed for everything and i get in trouble even when i have done nothing wrong. I try to be a good kid and get good grades but still, I get cussed at and have things thrown at me and ive been hit and drug down the stairs by my hair. My dad threatens to call the cops on me yet i ask him what he could call the cops on me for and he just says he will think of something meaning he would lie to the cops to get me in trouble. My boyfriend is 17 and we have been best friends for 3 years. My parents met him but they hate him and said i could never see him or talk to him again and they said that if they find out ive been talking to him they will call the cops on him and tell them we had sex so that he would get in trouble. My boyfriend and i plan on leaving together but the only reason i havent left is because my parents know where my boyfriend lives and would try to get him in trouble. We would be staying somewhere that they dont know but im scared that the cops could still find us. I live 6 hours away from Seattle and that is where id be leaving to because i dont think that the cops would search all the way in Seattle just to find a runaway. However, we would come back. It is really expensive to live in seattle so we would only stay until the cops stopped looking for us. My boyfriend lives almost 2 hours away from my house so we would be safe but could we still get in trouble if we came back? How long would the cops search for us? What would happen if i dont go to school? At the end of the day i do love my family but i know i will never truly be happy or welcomed here and i need to leave. I have scars all over from times i cut myself and the last time there was blood dripping out of my arm really bad so i stopped. I have suicidal thoughts all the time but i know that i shouldnt just end my life when i can make it better. I want to be able to have a happy life. I know i will miss them but i cant stay here anymore. Too much has happened and nothing will ever be the same again. I have so much stress that its affecting my body and my mom said she can notice it. My hair is falling out and getting thinner. We were in a huge fight a few days ago and i was yelling for a few seconds and i almost passed out. They wouldnt stop yelling it was too loud and i had to sit down or i wouldve fainted. I barely eat and i cant sleep well. Anyways, my parents could get arrested if im not at school because of the law. I dont want them to get arrested but if i ran away i dont think they could get in trouble because they arent allowing me to skip school. I would be gone. Do you know if they would get in trouble?
                                Please Answer fast! This is the only place i can get real answers. Thank you for your time.

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