if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

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RE: scared

Thanks for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like you are in a really tough situation. It sounds stressful for your family to blame you for things. We are so sorry to hear that. It sounds like you are thinking about running away again. One thing to keep in mind is, if you have been sentenced to time in juvenile detention and you run away or don't show up, you could get in bigger trouble or sentenced to more time. We can't imagine how frustrating it must be to feel that nobody believes you or wants to help you. We are here to listen and help you in any way that we can, so if you need to talk don't hesitate to give us a call. We can help you come up with a plan for how to deal with your situation or stay safe if you decide to run. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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Can I Call the police?

If I Run Away Can I call the police && Tell them not to look for me, Before my parents call?

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RE: Can I Call the police?

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us today at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). It sounds like you are thinking of running away due to some issues going on at home. You asked a really good question about contacting the police, but we cannot give a specific answer on that. You calling the police, unfortunately, does not void the call your parents make especially if you are a minor (under 18 years of age). You may be able to report that you are safe, but if/when your parents make a report, the police may still try to search for you. It seems you may benefit from speaking to someone about what is going on. We are here to listen and provide support to you to help you through what you may be going through. We can explore some options and resources as well as gather some information for you if you called our crisis line at 1-800-786-2929.

Whatever your decision is, we hope you choose to make one that prioritizes your safety.

We wish you the best and look forward to talking with you soon.

Take care and be safe,

NRS

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what should i do

Ok so I'm 20 and my friend is 17 her dad sell drugs out of their house and last night threatened to hit her if she tried to hangout with me he also had been threating to call the cops for stupid things that I dodon't think the cops would even care but last night he said if she went outside bed beat her and kill her...today I have a family thing and they said she can come...can I have her for a couple hours to get it out of the abusive house even if her dad says no??
Please write back fast and help me the lunch is in 2 hours

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RE: what should i do

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out. Sounds like you have a lot going on with your friend. We are sorry that you are experiencing and witnessing these things. Sounds like your friend is an abusive situation and that you are trying to help. You are being very supportive for your friend and we notice your concerns.
Again, we are sorry for what is going on. You have asked if you can take your friend with you to a family event without her father’s consent. This sounds like it may cause trouble in your friend’s household. Thinking about possible outcomes for your friend can be helpful in making this decision. Her father sounds like he would be angry that she left without his consent. It sounds like there's importance in thinking about your friend's safety because of the history you've shared. With that being said, reporting abusive situations can be a possible option for your friend. If she is comfortable she can make an abuse report. You can also make a report for her with what you know. We can also help if your friend wishes to make a report. We can create a three way call to report the incident and support your friend the entire way through. The number we would call in case you or she wanted to call on your/her own would be Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453. We understand the sensitive situation and overwhelming feelings it can create and offer to be there for your friend and/or you.
In terms of your question, if she can come with you to your family event, we see your concerns for her. She is in a risky situation and it could be possible that going against what her father said can create worse situation yet, she is in a really bad situation already and you feel it will be helpful for her to leave the house for a little while. Thinking about the pros and cons of this and talking with your friend as to what she is comfortable with can be beneficial to making a decision.
Thank you for reaching out. This is a stressful situation for you and your friend. We are here 24/7 to discuss more things with you and/or your friend. You can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us at 1800RUNAWAY.org. We are sorry that this is happening and hope for things to get better.
Best,
NRS

[Runaway81265]

I dont want to be home

Hello, i was wondering if it would be considered running away if you go to your dads house without permission from your mother? I dont want to be home because my family makes me feel worthless.. my mom told me i was a dissapointment last night and it wasn't the first time. I want to live with my dad but i dont know how that works im 15 and i know that im the legal age to decide where i want to live but my mother is stubborn. My mom dont like my dad because his an ex drug addict but his been clean for sometime now. And yea so will someone please help me?

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re: I dont want to be home

Hey there,

Thank you for being able to reach out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It seems like you are going through a pretty tough time at this point in your life and we want you to know that we are here to listen and to help you in the best way that we can. From what you shared, it sounds like you are ready to leave your home and start your own life.

We want you to know that we are not legal experts here, which means that we are only able to speak about your situation in general terms. In most states, you would still be considered a minor which means that if you were to leave, your parents are allowed to contact the local police department and file a runaway report. If a report is filed and you are found, typically you would be forced to return home. Another factor you may want to keep in mind is that the person allowing you to live with them could potentially be charged with harboring a runaway, the charges for that can vary from fines to jail time. You mentioned that you mother is allowing you to leave, but your father is not, as your guardian, typically he is able to make a runaway report. As we mentioned, we are not legal experts here. If you wanted more accurate answers, we would encourage you to reach out to your local police department and ask some general questions. If you wanted to know more information about what you can do, legally, we would encourage you to reach out to us and we will be able to point you in the right direction.

We hope that we were able to help you think a little more about your options and brainstorm some more with you, if you feel like you would still need some more support or go through some more options, please feel free to reach out to us here at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we are here 24/7. We also have a live chat service which is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST. We wish you the best of luck in whatever it is you decide to do and hope to hear from you soon.

Stay strong,

NRS

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Runway

Hi I want to know I'm 16 and thinking about running away with my boyfriend he has a car. I'm so tempted to do it but what happens when or if we get caught? Please help!

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re: runway

Hello,

You seem to have some questions about what could happen if you runaway to live with your boyfriend. We do want to let you know that we aren't legal experts but we can speak generally about possible consequences. In general, if you are 16 you would be considered a minor in most states. So if your parents were to file a runaway report for you, you could potentially be taken back home if you come in contact with the police. Also, if your family knows where you are (staying with your boyfriend) he could get into trouble for letting you stay with him. We don't know if these things are for certain, but they are some things you may want to consider with leaving. You might also want to think about how you would survive if you left to stay with him. And what you could do to stay safe until you leave.

For further support you can always chat with us via our website, or talk with us over the phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929)

Good luck!
NRS

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Can i leave

I don't feel safe at home my mom has made me have 2 panic attacks and told me numerous times to get out i have screen shots of her telling me to leave. Am i able to leave and what can happen if i do

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re: Can I leave?

Hello,

It sounds like your mom is giving you a hard time at home. That sounds really stressful having to go through 2 panic attacks there. If you are feeling unsafe, you can contact us to speak further about what’s happening or local police if it is an emergency.

We aren’t legal experts but we can speak generally about what would happen if you are kicked out. As far as leaving, if you are under the age of 18 your parents are legally responsible for taking care of you. So if you’re a minor your mom tells you to get out, and you have nowhere to go she could potentially be facing legal consequences. It may be a good idea to call local non-emergency police to see if they can tell you about that more. One thing to consider is that even if your mom tells you to leave and won‘t let you come back, then files a report for you stating that you ran away, you could potentially be taken back home. It is something that is really unfair that happens to youth, but it can be a reality for some people.

There may be shelters in the area if you leave. It is a good idea to consider how you would survive if you leave. Do you have family/friends that can help? Is this something you are considering long term?

For further support, you are welcome to contact us directly at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and look forward to your call. Lastly, please note that we offer a live chat via our website at www.1800runaway.org every day from 4:30p to 11:30p CST.

Stay safe,
NRS

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Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

hi i want to run a way but im scared becasue they are going to kick me out of there house and i dont want to live with my step gradmother becasue they are going to kick me out becasue last week they found out that i was smokeing pot and bye the way im only 12 but i know if i run a way i know where i can go but he is 24 and he is right around the block what should i do

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Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

Hi there,

Thank you for posting your story on our online forum. We’re sorry to hear that you are in a situation in which your parents may not allow you to live at home anymore. It sounds like you really don’t want to live with your step grandmother. That must be really stressful to be dealing with. As your parents they are required to provide you with a safe place to stay.

You mentioned that you're thinking about leaving home and staying with a neighbor. That’s great that you have someone who is willing to support you in that way. If you leave home without permission, your parents could report you as a runaway and the police would be authorized to return you home. If you are reported as a runaway it’s typically just a status offense; however, sometimes people helping runaways are at risk for charges such as harboring a runaway. This charge is often considered a misdemeanor, but might be something to explore if you or whoever you would be staying with are concerned.

There's definitely a lot to think about if you were to go live with this neighbor. How long you would be living with him, how you would get to school, and paying for things like food might be something to consider. We are happy to discuss with you some safe options specific to your situation if you decide to call or chat with us.

Best of luck,
NRS

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if i runaway will i make it alive

i have a question...ive run away once and my parents called the cops...now a year later ...same problem came along and now ive called my mom and she told me that its not up to her anymore if i can come home because im already reported as a 2nd time runaway...but its hasnt been 24 hours yet..i asked to come home and she said for what if you dont even want to be here anyways...i have no idea iif i can go to juvenile hall or what can happen after this can you let me know?

Ok i always want to running away from home but im scared to do it you help me Please

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Re: if i runaway will I make it alive?

Hey there,
Thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We are here to provide you help and assist you in the best possible way during this time.

It sounds like you have been really going through a lot right now that is causing you to always want to run away from home and running away a couple of time. It seem like your parents have filed a runaway report two times before and you are asking to come home. Unfortunately we are not legal experts here so we are unable to tell you if you will go to juvenile hall or not. Generally speaking, if you run away and a runaway report is made, if you are found by the police they will bring you back home. If you plan to run away again, here are few questions to think about:
• Do I have a place to stay?
• What about school? Would I continue to get an education?
• Am I going to be gone awhile or coming back in a few days?
• What would I do for money? Shelter? Food? Transportation?
• Who can I depend on if I leave home?
• Do I have a safe, solid plan?
• What is my plan b in case my first plan doesn’t work?

It seems like you are dealing with a lot of different things. Have you considered talking to someone about these feelings of running away that you have been having? It may help to talk to someone to relive some of the stress you have, as well as work through some of the issues and problems you have been having.

Thank you again for reaching out to us here. We would love to talk with your further to learn more about your situation and to see how we can best help you. We are here 24/7 and can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

Best,
NRS