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  • Immediate help

    I'm 17 I moved out a year ago from my moms with her consent. Now she is trying to make me move back. What legally can she do.

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    • Re: Immediate help

      Hello and thanks for reaching out on our forum. It sounds like your mom has gone back on her word which we imagine is quite frustrating. Unfortunately, that can be a risk of moving out as a minor with permission vs. having your parent/guardian transfer over guardianship or going through the emancipation process. We can't speak for your local law enforcement; however, it is possible your mom would be able to file you as a runaway if she no longer gives you permission to be away from home.

      Please know we're here if you'd like to discuss your situation further. Feel free to try out our Live Chat if you prefer to keep talking online. Best of luck!
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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      • What's the worst legal thing that could happen to me?

        Okay, so I'm 15 about to turn 16 in a couple of months and in the summer my older sister will be helping me "run away" it's technically called running away but my mother doesn't like to really be my mother (she doesn't like the responsibility of being one). She likes to be in control at all times but when i need something, like food,clothing,etc. She doesn't want to do anything except telling me that i'm worth nothing and i'm just a burden. She's emotionally abusive, she's threat my life multiple times over the littlest things like coughing when i'm sick. (i understand getting my life threaten is not okay for any reason.) I'm an easy kid to take care of, i don't fight,i don't talk back or give attitude, and i'm an honors student with A's and B's. I know i could call cps but one of my older sisters has done that when they were my age (my mother was abusive to all of my sisters except one) they didn't do much because my mom manipulated the situation to fall in her favor. Plus i don't want to be taken away. I would get emancipated but that's to much money. My sister is 15 years older than me but she doesn't live in the country. She's planing on getting a house or townhouse in the same city and county as me and wants me to move in there this summer with another one of my older sisters. She's willing to pay for any of my needs (food,clothes,insurance, etc.) The only thing holding me back is the legal trouble. Could i get in legal trouble if i pursuit in this?
        Thanks for reading, hope someone could respond soon.

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        • re: What's the worst legal thing that could happen to me?

          Hi there,

          Thanks for reaching out today and sharing your story with us. It sounds like you’re dealing with so much right now at home. You never deserve to be treated that way by your mom – and you know this. You sound like an independent person who is looking to be in a safe place. It makes sense that you want to leave home to protect yourself. It sounds like your sisters are there to support you through whatever you decide to do. That’s good to hear. So let’s see how we can help you out.

          We aren’t legal experts here, but we are able to speak generally about all of this. If you decide to leave home before you are 18, and without your mom’s permission, then your mom has the right to file a runaway report with the police and bring you back home. It’s not illegal for you to be filed as a runaway, but you could be brought back home all the way until you turn 18. The runaway report goes away as soon as you turn 18 or as soon as you return home – whichever is sooner.

          If you decide to leave home, you could potentially be brought back home. You wouldn’t be arrested. Now, you can still leave home – it is an option for you. The potential risk is that you would be brought back home. Sometimes what people try to do in a situation like this is to get permission from their guardian to move out.

          We hope that this is a helpful start for you. If you’d like to talk more about any of this, please feel free to call or chat with us through this. You can call or chat with us by calling 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our website (www.1800runaway.org).

          We look forward to your call or chat.

          Best of luck to you,

          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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          • Thanks for the fast reply

            Originally posted by ccsmod0 View Post
            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out today and sharing your story with us. It sounds like you’re dealing with so much right now at home. You never deserve to be treated that way by your mom – and you know this. You sound like an independent person who is looking to be in a safe place. It makes sense that you want to leave home to protect yourself. It sounds like your sisters are there to support you through whatever you decide to do. That’s good to hear. So let’s see how we can help you out.

            We aren’t legal experts here, but we are able to speak generally about all of this. If you decide to leave home before you are 18, and without your mom’s permission, then your mom has the right to file a runaway report with the police and bring you back home. It’s not illegal for you to be filed as a runaway, but you could be brought back home all the way until you turn 18. The runaway report goes away as soon as you turn 18 or as soon as you return home – whichever is sooner.

            If you decide to leave home, you could potentially be brought back home. You wouldn’t be arrested. Now, you can still leave home – it is an option for you. The potential risk is that you would be brought back home. Sometimes what people try to do in a situation like this is to get permission from their guardian to move out.

            We hope that this is a helpful start for you. If you’d like to talk more about any of this, please feel free to call or chat with us through this. You can call or chat with us by calling 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our website (www.1800runaway.org).

            We look forward to your call or chat.

            Best of luck to you,

            NRS
            Thank you so much for the reply, it's very helpful! I think i'll take my chances. If i have any further question i'll call, thank you again!

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            • Re: Thanks for the fast reply

              Hello there,

              You are very welcome. We are always happy to talk through safe options and resources with you. Feel free to contact us anytime if you need any further assistance. Be safe and best of luck!

              Best,

              NRS
              Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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              • runaway

                HI i live in iowa and im 17 i have a 1 year old daughter my feionce is 18 i live in a house were my parents call me and my daughter names and my dad threats me and tells me to get out when he gets mad or he yells at me in front of my daughter. My step mom will tap my daughter n the mouth or on her but and scare her my step sister she is 13 and she smacked my daughter on the but with a hair brush. My big brother blows up on my dad and fights with him when my daughter is there and if me n my daughter can leaves we will be safe warm and healthy and much happier so if i do leave would i lose my daughter to dhs cause im not sure cause of my age

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                • re: runaway

                  Hi there,

                  We are glad you reached out to us, it sounds like you are in a difficult situation and we are here to support you. We are sorry to hear that your dad threatens you and yells at you in front of your daughter. You don’t deserve to be threatened or yelled at, and we are sorry that you family scares your daughter. It is understandable you would want to be in a safe, warm and healthy environment and we are here to support you.

                  It sounds like you are in a tough situation, and we want to let you know we are mandated reporters at the National Runaway Safeline. What that means is if you were to provide us with any identifying information, such as your full name, phone number, your parents’ names, or an address we would be obligated to make an abuse report. However we do not have any of this information, so we will not be making a report and will always be your decision.

                  While we are not legal experts we can try to speak generally on your situation. Generally, you have to be 18 to leave home, and if you leave home without your parents’ permission they have the option to file a runaway report. Running away is a status offense, meaning it is illegal to do because of your age but you cannot be arrested or charged for it. However, whoever you are staying with could be charged with harboring a runaway which is a misdemeanor offence. How police departments react on these situations can vary, at age 17 some states do not take runaway reports anymore however some do. The best way to find out how your police department would react would be to call the non-emergency number and speak generally on your situation.

                  We cannot say if this would impact your daughter with DHS or not, so we want to provide you with a phone number for an information hotline for child abuse. It is called Child Help USA, and the phone number is 1-800-422-4453. They provide information on child abuse reporting, and they may be able to answer your questions on how leaving home could impact your daughter. They also can answer some questions if you wanted to talk about what you are experiencing at home if you were wanting to make a report for yourself and your daughter.

                  We are always here to support you, and we are sorry to hear that you are experiencing this with your family. It is understandable you would want to be in a safe, warm and healthy environment and we are here to support you during this time. We are available on online chat from 4:30PM to 11:30PM, and the best way to reach us to talk more in depth on your situation would be to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY where you can remain anonymous and we are available 24/7.

                  Good luck to you,

                  NRS
                  Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                  National Runaway Safeline
                  [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                  1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                  Tell us what you think about your experience!
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                  • Me and my friend NEED to leave

                    Me and my friend both have bad lives. But I'm 13 and she's 20. My reason for wanting too leave is my mom's a bishop and believes that we should pretend that everything it's ok. My step dad lets everything slid. Aslo my little brother is the Angel so nothing will happen to him. Last time i was going too leave me and my mom got into a fist fight again. She sprained my back so to get her off i pushed her which resulted I her spraining her knee. My friend has no sense anymore because her mom knocked her in the head. Everytime she tries to leave her mom beats her and locks her in her room. Besides that both of our parents are mentally and emotionally abusive. I've been in foster care before which made things worse because my brother was token out and i was molested. To top it off when they placed us back home my mom blamed me and it got 10x worse. My mom let me live Philly for the summer leaving voicemails saying don't come back and she changed her and my brothers number them shows up with cops to have me arrested. Me and the girl we're going to runaway but would we get in trouble?

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                    • re: Me and my friend NEED to leave

                      Hi, thank you reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. From what you shared with us, it seems that things at home have become very difficult and that you are considering running away. You don’t deserve to be emotionally, mentally, and physically abused and none of this is your fault. No type of abuse is ok.

                      If at any point you or your friend feel unsafe in your home, please remember that you are always allowed to call 911 to report the abuse to the police. We can potentially help you with this. You can call us at our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), to help you file an abuse report. If you need help with the decision to report abuse, Child Help USA hotline 1-800-422-4453 has counselors available there 24/7 to talk to you about the abuse and would be able to give you more information about filing a report and what that looks like.

                      So we are not legal experts here, which means that we are only able to speak in generally about your situation. At the age of 13, you are considered a minor. Meaning that if you were to leave home without permission, your mom would be able to file a runaway report. If a report is filed, you could potentially be forced to return home. Running away is not necessarily illegal, but it is a status offense, which means that you are not allowed to do it at your age. The only way you would be arrested is if you were on some type of parole or probation. As we mentioned, we are not legal experts here, which means that if you wanted more accurate answers, we would highly encourage you to reach out to your local police department and ask some more general questions.

                      If you feel that being at home is no longer an option because you don’t feel safe, we are able to explore some safe options with you. We have a database of resources for shelter and other helpful services. A helpful resource is The National Safe Place Network (http://nationalsafeplace.org/), which helps locate a local safe place where you can go (oftentimes, it may be the fire station, a local gas station, and some schools). What generally happens is the designated safe place will call the nearest safe place shelter and a youth crisis worker would come out to meet you and take to a shelter.

                      We are here to listen, here to help. You can call us at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Our live chat service is available from 4:30 PM to 11:30 PM CST and could be accessed through our website, http://www.1800runaway.org/. We hope to hear from you soon. Please be safe.
                      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                      National Runaway Safeline
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                      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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                      • Need help

                        Hi I'm 16 and I want to run away. All me and my mom ever do is argue she never believes me she always treat me like craps and yelling into my face every time I do something she do t like. I really am tired of all the argueing and fighting with her. If she does call the cops on me and let's say they never find Me can they do somethj g to me if I decide to come back when I'm 18. I mean I will be 18 but can they still get me in trouble?

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                        • Re: Need help

                          Hello and thanks for reaching out on our forum. It really sounds like you're going through a rough time at home and are seriously considering running away. You don't deserve to be yelled at so much or treated unfairly. Although we aren't legal experts, we can tell you our general understanding of what happens in run away situations including if you're able to stay under wraps until you're 18 or are picked up as a runaway. Running away is typically considered a status offense, so if you are picked up police will most often just take you back home (if no other crime has been committed of course.) If you manage to stay away until you are 18, you might still need to notify the police you're okay so they no longer consider you a missing person. Hopefully that helps answer your questions and please know we'll be here if you'd like to talk further. Best of luck!
                          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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                          • i wanna run away to get away from my mom.

                            Im about to be 14 and i wann leave my house because every time my mom is on her phone i try talking to her to ask a question and she never responds and during the year 2012 i was waiting outside for the bus for school and i woke up a little earlier me and my friend were bored so we i took his backpack and ran with it and some random guy yelled at me and my mom was laughing when he yelled and when i forgot my key i went back inside to get it she pushed me up against the wall and put her arm where my neck is and started to put pressurei didnt want to tell anyone so she wouldnt get into trouble i already have a place ready to go to and my friend said i could stay with him until this gets sorted out

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                            • Reply: I wanna run away to get away from my mom.

                              Hello,
                              Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline.

                              It sounds like there are some things going on at home with you and your mom that have you thinking about running away. It also sounds like you possibly have a place to stay with a friend. It’s good that you are thinking about being safe. While it might seem like the only option is to run away there might be something else to explore. That’s where we would like to help.

                              By calling or chatting 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org you can express your feelings and any plans you might have in dealing with your situation.

                              We look forward to speaking with you soon.

                              Take Care,
                              NRS
                              Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                              National Runaway Safeline
                              [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                              1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                              Tell us what you think about your experience!
                              https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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                              • scared

                                hi im 15 years old and my family blames me for everything i have ran away 3 times and wanting to leave for good would i go to juevie if i ran away agin i ran away last night and they said i was bc of assault but i havnt went yet i dont want to be home at all im tierd of feeling this way and no one beliving me
                                Last edited by ccsmod1; 11-05-2015, 02:54 PM.

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