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  • RE: runaway

    Hello,
    Thank you for reaching out to us. It seems like something pretty traumatic has happened at your house and you aren’t comfortable there. It is great that you feel comfortable with your brother. He seems like a good resources for you. Have you thought about telling anyone about what has happened? We aren’t legal experts but we can speak generally. If you are a minor he can file a runaway report and you may be returned home if you had a run in with law enforcement or if he had an idea of where you were. We aren’t sure about what is going on but hopefully this would all be case specific. If you would like to talk more about what is going on you can contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or utilize our live chat, which is open from 4:30pm-11:30pm. We hope to hear from you soon. Good luck.
    NRS
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    • Originally posted by Unregistered View Post
      I understand what your saying I'm just completely aware that my mom would call the police once she realised I was gone and everytime I look up the exact procedure police take for runaways under the age of 18 nothing really comes up but thanks for answeing my question in general. But just wondering my dad would probably ask them if they could track my phone(he was raised to pay attention and was a marine so he's quite strict and observant) could they actually track my phone? Would I have to get rid of my phone?

      I'm just wondering I literally have no idea. I watch a lot of cop and detective shows and I see how much they investigate murder cases and stuff and wanted to know if it would be all out like that?
      I'm a Concerned mother!!! at the age of 13 you are a child and thinking or running away can be the biggest mistake you can do. Just think about this little things: you don't really know how to cook, you probably just learned to wash your clothes, you don't work, you have probably started your menstruation and is just adjusting to the cramps you might get and have to stay in bed all day. Your mother is the only one that understands you in this moments. Do you really think that a person that you met in the internet will care how you feel? This person is most likely a predator and only intentions are to abuse of you or us you as a prostitute to make profit from an innocent child. Please rethink the friendship of this person as I consider it not to be a healthy friendship. Also since your father has background in the service / marines it is most likely that you already have a GPS in your body. I would instead just stop talking to that "friend" an adult just don't make friendship with a child just because it always has a hidden thing behind it. This person can even be killer so please be smarter than you think you are and rethink things over. People that have a back ground in the marines have connections to resources including computers internet accounts, and can easily track everything done online even pictures and locations sent too.
      I only ask that you rethink everything and find friends your age. take care.
      A concerned Mother.

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        Hi there,

        Thank you so much for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It looks like you have been reading our bulletin board and have become concerned with some of the posts, which is understandable. We’re really glad that you have shared your input here.

        Every individual has a different story, every person has a different background and experiences. It sounds like you feel that 13 year olds are not capable of taking care of themselves, which is a valid concern to have. You brought up a lot of real possibilities in running away and we thank you for bringing those to light on this bulletin board. We want to be clear that not every story turns out in the ways that you have shared, just as not every 13 year old has had the support of a mother or family.

        It is clear that you are a very caring and supportive mother, and you are coming from a good place in your concerns. We want to recognize that and thank you for sharing your thoughts. If you ever want to talk further through some of your concerns, please do not hesitate to call or chat with us here at NRS. We’re here 24/7.

        Good luck and stay safe,
        NRS
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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        • runaway

          Hey ...I'm 15 years old.ii dnt plan on runin away ...ii thgt of doing iit to improve my relationship with mom thou(like jus for two days so she can be worried nd we can go back to loving eachother)... We never actually had big fights ...since she has been d8 her new bf we've had loadz !iits nt tht ii dnt like hiim ii jus dnt like the way he acts!! She on his side thou...she takes my mom nd says mean things tht realy hurt...nt like calling me names she jus talk in a way ii dnt like!! Most of its my fault anyway ... But both of thm are so not innocent ...ii have asked her to move and she doesn't agreeii realy love my mom and ii do wnna fix things!!#PLZ HELP ME FIX THINGS (ANONYMOUS)

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          • re:runaway

            Hi there,

            Thanks for reaching out today. It seems like you are having a really difficult time with your mom right and with her new boyfriend. It seems like she’s just not understanding what you’re trying to talk with her about and that you’re having a tough time hearing what she’s saying too. It’s great that you reached out to get a sense as to what to do about this situation. So let’s see how we can help you out.

            It sounds like you really want to improve your relationship with your mom, which is great. Sometimes it’s important for you and your mom to be on the same page and have the same understanding of how each other are feeling – this can help improve the situation. So some tips for that conversation:
            1. Writing down everything that you want to say to your mom so that you make sure you say everything that you want to say. It can also be good because it can help to stop things from getting escalated.
            2. Having a third person who you both trust in the room when this conversation is happening. That way that person can make sure that both your voices are heard. We can help to have a conference call too. If you called us, we would be able to do an out going call to your mom and have a three way conversation.
            3. Making sure you have a list of things that you are willing to compromise with. That list can be helpful, because if you are asking for something from your mom, she may also ask things of you.

            We hope that this is a helpful start for you. If you’d like to talk more about anything else, please feel free to call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm central time.

            We look forward to your call or chat.

            Best of luck to you,

            NRS
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

            National Runaway Safeline
            [email protected] (Crisis Email)
            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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            • frusterated

              hi i'm 16 years old turning 17 in September. my mother never hits me or anything like that but she favors my siblings over me and doesn't have a real job. as is i am basically being forced to get a job to pay part of the bills at home. she is controlling. i was told that part of my paycheck goes to bills and she will monitor the amount every day and will know how much i have everyday. i'm trying to run away to avoid the pressure. she is constantly telling me that i need to get on my schoolwork and keep doing it,but at the same time she is over killing me with chores. i have to feed my pets and clean my room and clean the living room and the kitchen and both bathrooms. on top of these chores she makes me help my little brother clean his room. my little sister has been faking a leg injury for months and my mom still believes her. i have considered emancipation but my mother told me no. is that legal for her to do? i'm basically raising my little brother. my mom always argues with me and i get into huge trouble when i get frustrated when i yell back. she is forcing me to go to college when i'm older and gave me the options to either live with her or in the dorm at college. i don't want to live it the dorms and i definitely don't want to live with her. i recently bought a vapor pen to help with the stress, and the smoking temptation that started when i was 9. i bought it to keep me from smoking illegal or more harmful substances. i bought it from a friend and there is no law saying that a person under 18 cant own one. there is a law stating that a person under 18 cannot purchase any tobacco products from a store. but since i bought it from a friend it was completely legal. my mother took my vapor pen from me and told me i couldn't have it back until i was 18. is it illegal for her to do so? isn't that stealing? she doesn't listen when it comes to views about my life and when i try to talk to her i get yelled at. she currently does not have a stable job. she is working at home where there is no guarantee that she will have a job that week so we can pay bills and buy food. she is constantly yelling at me to get the house clean fast before visitors come because she doesn't want them to call DHS. she kept me from my real father until i was 12 and lied to me about him. she told me he was abusive and did drugs and an all out asshole. excuse my language. he is neither. i do want to be successful in life but i feel as if she is going to try to control my whole life. how can i get out of this household and get emancipated without her knowledge until after the emancipation process is complete? she never lets me go anywhere or do anything which is even more frustrating because i am home schooled an the only human interaction i ever get is online or her. sorry for the long paragraph but i need these questions answered soon. thanks in advance.

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              • if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

                Hello, Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

                It sounds like you have been going through a lot at home and the situation has you thinking about running away from home.
                Is that right?
                We understand how stressful your situation has made you feel and we would like to assist you any way we can. We appreciate your openness about your situation and it sounds like you have stepped up to care for your siblings as well as try to maintain the many chores your mom has delegated.
                Good for you in taking a stance to reach out and look for help. Unfortunately NRS does not have the legal expertise to tell you what is legal in the area of your mother confiscating personal property.
                When it comes to emancipation most states require parental consent for the process to be complete.

                You don’t deserve to be yelled and mistreated. It’s too bad that your mom has chosen to behave this way towards you.
                Sometimes it might help to talk with someone about what you are feeling. Do you have anyone you feel comfortable with talking too? NRS Has a national data base you are welcome to call 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) to look for counseling services in your area. How does that sound?
                We also have live chat via our website www.1800Runaway.org

                Please feel free to give us a call if you would like to speak more on your situation.
                We hope that things get better for you and we thank you again for reaching out to NRS.

                Take Care
                Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                National Runaway Safeline
                [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                Tell us what you think about your experience!
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                • help

                  hello i am 17 years old and i have runaway 13+ times now and they keep bringing me back to where i do not want to be. my aunt who was my legal gardian but is now my adopted mother wich i did not approve is where i am living and i would like to be with my mother my real mom and it is a better enviourment for me than my aunts house my aunt constantly mentally abusies me and its a horrible living conditions for children and she is just not a good parent but im not a parent so i cant say much on that part. but my question is what can i do if i runaway to my moms and i want to stay there and what can i do so i dont have to come back to my aunts. and what will the police do? if i run away so many times will the police give up?

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                  • re: help

                    Hi there,

                    Thanks for reaching out today and sharing a bit about what is going on with us. It sounds like you’re going through a really tough time with your aunt. It seems like it’s just an exhausting place to live. It’s got to be so frustrating to have been returned there so many times – especially since you’ve made it clear that you don’t want to live with her. It’s great that you’re reaching out for guidance and asking these questions. So let’s see how we can help you out.

                    We aren’t legal experts here, but we are able to speak generally. Since you are under 18, if you leave home without your legal guardian’s permission (your aunt’s permission), then your aunt has the right to file a runaway report and bring you back home. That could happen all the way until you turn 18. The reason that the police would bring you back is because your aunt is legally responsible for anything that happens to you until you turn 18. Unfortunately, this could continue to happen no matter how many times you’re filed as a runaway.

                    Legally, there’s not many options that you have to be able to stay at your mom’s house. If you go to your mom’s and then your aunt files a runaway report and then you are found there, your aunt could charge your mom with something called “harboring a runaway”. The consequences for that range from fines to jail time. It’s not illegal for you to be filed as a runaway, but the person that you stay with could face some charges.

                    Now, since you are 17, in some places across the United States, if you are 17, the police will still take a runaway report, but will not make you go back home. If you want to know if you live in a place like that, you can confidentially call your local police department and ask them questions like “How would you respond to a 17 year old who leaves home without their guardian’s permission? Would you take a runaway report? Would you bring the 17 year old back home?”

                    If you’re looking to get your guardianship changed, then the first step for that would be to contact a lawyer. Your mom would have to apply for guardianship and usually that process can take a bit of time. A lawyer would be able to speak more specifically about that process.

                    We hope that this is helpful information for you. If you’d like to talk more about anything at all or have any questions, please feel free to call or chat with us. You can call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) 24 hours a day. You can also chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm central time.

                    We look forward to your call or chat.

                    Best of luck to you,

                    NRS
                    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                    National Runaway Safeline
                    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                    Tell us what you think about your experience!
                    https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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                    • yes she has all right but at the end of the day it makes no sense to run away

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                      • re: help

                        Hi again,

                        It sounds like you’ve made a decision not to leave. If you ever change your mind or want support with staying with your aunt, please call or chat with us. We’re here to support you no matter what you decide.

                        Good luck with everything,

                        NRS
                        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                        National Runaway Safeline
                        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                        Tell us what you think about your experience!
                        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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                        • runaway questions

                          Hi I was going to run away because my mom has been treating really bad , she punches me in face and in the stomach just because she doesn't want me to be with my ex boyfriend . If I leave and they go to his house and I'm not there and he has no idea were I am and we're not even together , is there anything she could to him?

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                          • re: runaway questions

                            Hi there,

                            Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. Asking for help can be difficult but we are here to help. It sounds like you are going through a tough time at home with your mom. Your mom is treating you badly and you do not deserve to be punched and it is not okay for your mom to hurt you. It was very brave of you to contact us.

                            It sounds like you are making a plan to leave home and are concerned about your ex-boyfriends safety. We aren't legal experts, but we are able to speak generally. If someone runs away and is found by police at someone’s home they could be charged with harboring a runaway. However, if you are not found there the person has nothing to be charged with.

                            From what you shared with us it also sounds like you may be interested in some resources on healthy relationships, a few great websites are www.sexetc.org and www.loveisrespect.org. If you have any other questions or concerns or if you wanted to talk about your plan to run away please do not hesitate to contact us via calling or chat. You can call us 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm-11.30pm central time. We’re so glad you decided to contact us and are always here to listen and help.

                            We look forward to your call or chat.

                            Best of luck to you,

                            NRS
                            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

                            National Runaway Safeline
                            [email protected] (Crisis Email)
                            1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

                            Tell us what you think about your experience!
                            https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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                            • jj

                              I ran away to my aunts house what do I do. And she doesn't want to mess things up with my mother but she also doesn't thing that I should go back to my home

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                              • jj

                                I ran away from home and afraid to go home
                                Last edited by ccsmod8; 05-17-2015, 03:50 PM.

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