if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

[Unregistered]

Hello well first of all i am 19 years old and i have been planning on leaving home since i turned 18 but i think now its the right time the only reason i am doing it without my parents knowing is because i have tried talking to them before and they just dont understand im tired of them making choices for me im tired of being stuck here i cant live my life how i want to i need out i already have a plan i am also leaving a letter!! And i jus wanna know they cant do anything about this right pls help im leaving friday out of my city

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Re: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

Hello,

If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.

-NRS

[Worried mother]

My 15 yr old ran away.

My daughter ran away this early morning. In her words she's taking a break. She wrote me a letter saying sorry about her behavior how it's consistent and how it hurts us. Bottom line she's trying to play the victim here. Deep down I know she is sorry but her actions today is not acceptable. She can not just leave and say I'll be back in a week or so or sooner and think it'll be ok. Is this considered as a runaway? Can I call the police?

[ccsmod11]

re: My 15 yr old ran away.

Hello,

Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear that your daughter ran away , it must be hard to have her leave for an indefinite period of time. It sounds like she feels bad about leaving and causing you pain.

How old is your daughter? A runaway is a minor (under the age of 18, usually, but that varies by each state) who leaves home without the permission of a legal guardian. If your daughter is a minor, then you can file a runaway report with the police. If you need the non-emergency number to your local police department, we can help you find that number. Filing a runaway report with the police ensures that you won't get in trouble for neglect if your daughter is found by the police somewhere she isn't supposed to be.

A good resource for parents of runaways is Team HOPE, a hotline staffed by parents of runaway and missing children; that number is 1-866-305-HOPE (4673). The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children also has resources for parents, and that number is 24/7 and is 1-800-843-5678.

We are open 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), and we have a chat service open from 4:30 pm to 11:30 pm central time at www.1800runaway.org.

We wish you luck, and hope your daughter returns home safely,
NRS

[Unregistered]

Concerned Parent

Ok I think thisbis a good resource for kids who may be in a troubled or abusive home, but let me ask a serious question to all of the teens or kids here. If you had a parent who isn't perfect but loves you and supports you and even though they don't totally get you they always have your back. Would you still runaway? I am the first to say im not perfect I haven't been the best parent but one thing I can say is that Im growing and learning everyday and I can relate to all of your kids here because I was a teen to once upon a time living in a home with a parent whobi felt hated me; However as I got older I saw for myself what my parent had to go thru to try to raise me and I thank them tremendously now. Right now my daughter is gone...she ranaway 4 days ago. I don't have a clue where she is and its killing me to not know WHY or what is causing her to do this. She is only 14 years old and I would give anything to understand her and what she is going thru but she isn't receptive to my help. I get so frustrated with her because she is so closed off and at one point she use to tell me everything. I just want to say give your parents a chance if they sound anything like me. Because we were you guys once upon a time and there isn't a manual for raising a kid or being a parent. Communication is key talk to them so they can better understand what you need from them....bless you all

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RE: Concerned Parent

Hello,

Thank you for sharing. We are here to support parents and families of runaway or missing youth. We are sorry to hear that your daughter is missing. This must be a really difficult time for you, and we understand how scary it can be to not know where your child is. If you want someone to talk to, or if you need resources and options that might be able to help you find your daughter. You can reach us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). Please do not hesitate to give us a call or chat with us online. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

[Unregistered]

Should I runaway?

Hey! Am 13 and I want to leave. I have been through abuse, my brother going through drugs, I had a drinking problem, self harmed, people hurting me are losing them, verbal abuse, and not having a dad. After this I want to leave and go to Texas. I don't know if I should though. Thanks for listening and answering.

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re: Should I runaway?

Hi

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear about the things that you have been through. It sounds like you have experienced a lot of terrible things and at such a young age. It seems that you are thinking of going to Texas but is a little unsure. The following are some questions that we often ask a youth who is contemplating running away. We don’t necessarily need the answers to the following but they may helpful to think about when trying to determine whether running the is the best option for you.

• What else can I do to improve my home situation before I leave?
• What would make me stay at home?
• How will I survive?
• Is running away safe?
• Who can I count on to help me?
• Am I being realistic?
• Have I given this enough thought?
• What are my other options?
• If I end up in trouble, who will I call?
• When I return home, what will happen?

you are welcome and we thank you for reaching out. If you would like to discuss things in more depth, please feel free to contact us. Our hotline number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); it is confidential, anonymous, toll-free, and available 24/7. We are also available via live chat between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST. We would like to hear from you so that we can provide whatever assistance we can.

Best Wishes
~NRS

[Unregistered]

RE: If I Run Away Can My Mom Call The Cops

Hi I'm 15 and things at home are just bad. My mom doesn't abuse me, but she always puts her boyfriend first and doesn't listen to me and her boyfriend lives with us and he yells at me and threatens to hit me all the time and my mother doesn't do anything about it. So I was wondering what would happen if you ran away, but your parents didn't all the cops? They just let you go? I would have a place to stay with my friend and his grandma in a different state and they are willing to come get me. What would happen with school and everything because I don't want anyone to get in legal trouble because of me, like for harboring or my mom for me not going to school, but if she doesn't call the cops, what happens?

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RE: if i runaway can my mom call the cops?

Hello there,

Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. It sounds like things are difficult for you at home. Just to let you know, nobody deserves to be threatened or abused in their own home. It sounds like you have a safe place to go. If your legal guardian gave you permission to stay with someone permanently, you would most likely not be in any trouble. Although we are not legal experts, we can explain what we know about the runaway laws. Technically it’s not against the law for you to run away from home. In most places it’s considered a status offence. However, anyone you would be caught staying with could possibly be charged with ‘harboring a runaway’.

You do have the right to go to school regardless of your living situation. You also have the right to feel safe in your own home. Here at the National Runaway Safeline we cannot tell you what you should or should not do. We can however help you come up with some options and look up some legal aid in your area. We can be reached at any time at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) or by live chat at www.1800runaway.org from 4:30pm-11:30pm Central Standard Time. We wish you the best of luck and look forward to hearing from you.

-NRS

[Unregistered]

Help

I want to runaway but my mom called the cops already and I'm locked in my room how can I runaway with out getting in trouble and mad at I really need help fast and quick thanks

[ccsmod1]

RE: Help

Thanks for reaching out for help. It sounds like you ran away and were caught, and now you want to run away again. It sounds like you have seen first hand what can happen when your parents call the cops. If you run away again, you can expect the same thing to happen. The police can make you return home. If you want to talk to us about your options, you can give us a call 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us every day between 4:30pm and 11:30pm CST through our website, www.1800RUNAWAY.org. We are here to listen and support you however we can, and all of our services are anonymous and confidential. We are looking forward to your call and wish you the best of luck.

[Unregistered]

parent problems

Im 17 years old. I live with my mom.. My dad has visitation every other weekend. My dad asked me to come this weekend for a night even though it is my moms weekend. Can i still go? Can the cops do anything?

[ccsmod7]

Re: Parent Problems

Thanks for reaching out with your questions and concerns. It sounds like you would like to go and stay with your dad for a night but you are unsure if it would be a problem because it is your mom's visitation weekend. This certainly sounds like a frustrating situation to be in. We are not lawyers here and it sounds like this is more of a custody/visitation rights question so it is difficult for us to say what may happen. If you are only going for one night it seems that may not be a big issue but it is probably more dependent on how your mom may react. Have you spoken with her about this or think she would be okay with you going? Obviously if both of your parents are okay with it that would be ideal.

If you leave home and your mom doesn't know where you are she may call the police and it is a possibility they could file you as a runaway/missing persons. One thing to consider is even if the police do not get involved or make you return home at that time that could still put your dad in a tough spot if your mom tries to get his custody/visitation revoked. It may be good for him to talk with a lawyer and just see if there are any possible consequences on that end.

Please feel free to reach out to us if you would like to discuss this further. You can always call us at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have a live chat available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST. All of our services are confidential and anonymous and there is always someone available to provide support and discuss options and resources. Feel free to contact us anytime. Take care.

[sabina]

Helppp pleace

i am 16 teen years old me and my mom had problems for years every since i got older and she was beating on my even little i have other brothers and sisters but she treat me different because of my dad and i called dcfs and they placed me with my grandma and my grnadma had cancer and i didnt wont to be there because i didnt wont to be the reason she go to her gave ealier and i got into it with my grandad and they wontd me gone and i wonted to leave and the next day i went to go with my sister she is 19 finna be 20 with a baby girl thats 1 and she got into it with my granddad onmy mom side and she called the police came and my uncle came to get her things to take us to her stepmom house and we went and when we got there she told me that i was going to have to go back with my grandma so my uncle said get in the car and i did and i thought going to live with him would be good but its not caus ehes putting his ahnds on me blacking my eye to times and his wife try to keep things go good but i keep getting in trouble because i dont wont to be here and my mom gave him temporary custody over me and i dont wont to be with him and i wont to run away to my stepmom ...my stepmom really wonts me and they dont wont me to go with my stepmom and my mom move with my 2 sisters and and brother and she live in mississippi and i stay in chicago and i wont to move with my stepmom my mom dont wont to give me up becuase she wil have to pay child support its all about money with her im leaveing to night because i cant do this and my uncle ust had got out of jail the being on 2013 i really wont to get away from him but im scared that the police will send me to the audihome and my dad get out of jail decmber and he dose really wont me around my uncle becaus ehe put his hands on me i cant do this dont nobody wont me i made mistakes and lied but iv been thur alot and i really wont to get away from here because im scared im going to kill myself