I am sorry for spelling mistakes etc. English is not my mother tongue.
So basically I am 15 and my parents are separated. I live at my mother's for a week and then at my dad's for a week.
My mother is a really complicated person, who was addicted to alcohol for a long time and is still addicted to nicotine. She always displays herself as the victim and you cant discuss anything with her, it's like talking against a wall. For example, I have a few mental illnesses, like a special form of ADHD, and my therapist says a dog would really help me and I wanted a dog since ever. My mother just says no. Without a real reason. Also, I just changed my name, because I don't identify with the gender that my old name resembled. She pressures me into telling everyone, even though I might not be ready and feel safe. When I don't she always screams at me and tells me that it's almost impossible for her because she has to concentrate on using my old name. And when my physiotherapist told me that I should start weight training for my back, she straight up told me, that money is tight right now and we can't afford it. Those weights cost 10$. She smokes at least one package of cigarettes every day, which costs around 7$. I told her that and she screamed at me, told me that I am ungrateful. I can't live here anymore. It breaks me. I can't relax here, it's not a home, its a prison.
Please tell me, how I should tell her that I am moving to my father.
Also, my pronouns are they/he.
Thanks beforehand.
So basically I am 15 and my parents are separated. I live at my mother's for a week and then at my dad's for a week.
My mother is a really complicated person, who was addicted to alcohol for a long time and is still addicted to nicotine. She always displays herself as the victim and you cant discuss anything with her, it's like talking against a wall. For example, I have a few mental illnesses, like a special form of ADHD, and my therapist says a dog would really help me and I wanted a dog since ever. My mother just says no. Without a real reason. Also, I just changed my name, because I don't identify with the gender that my old name resembled. She pressures me into telling everyone, even though I might not be ready and feel safe. When I don't she always screams at me and tells me that it's almost impossible for her because she has to concentrate on using my old name. And when my physiotherapist told me that I should start weight training for my back, she straight up told me, that money is tight right now and we can't afford it. Those weights cost 10$. She smokes at least one package of cigarettes every day, which costs around 7$. I told her that and she screamed at me, told me that I am ungrateful. I can't live here anymore. It breaks me. I can't relax here, it's not a home, its a prison.
Please tell me, how I should tell her that I am moving to my father.
Also, my pronouns are they/he.
Thanks beforehand.
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