I am trans and i want to runaway

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I am a 13-year-old trans male I have been feeling like this since puberty started (About 3 years ago) and my parents don't love me anymore since I came out to them. I came out by accident in a fit of rage. I snapped and told my parents "I'm not a girl" I got shouted out of about 2hrs and was told I was useless and this was just a phase. Throughout my life, I have been yelled and cursed at and received physical harm from my father on multiple instances (Punching me, Pulling my hair) I want to run away but I'm scared and don't know how to do it. I purchased a book called How to disappear and I feel as If I want to do this. Should I? I live in upstate NY if that helps.

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You deserve to have your pronouns and gender identity honored and respected by everyone. Running away is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

You mentioned some things about punching and hair-pulling that raise quite a bit of concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

Coming out before you're fully prepared to do so can be really scary since it requires a certain degree of vulnerability and holds a lot of uncertainty. Your bravery and resilience throughout this process is so admirable. You are not alone in this and the LGBT National Youth Talkline is a great resource that offers support for young people in similar situations to your own. The hotline is run by those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can reach them by calling 1-800-246-7743 or you can check out their website at gltbhotline.org. You can also check out the Trevor Project, an organization dedicated to helping LGBT teens, by calling 866-488-7386 or by going to thetrevorproject.org.

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Stay safe,
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