Should I call CPS on my mother?

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Hello,

You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
Take care,
NRS

I 15 and should I call cps on my mom? My mom is a single mom and she is taking care of me, a physical disable girl and my brother who is near his 40's and is mentally disabled. I know she is very stress with the both of us, but she will always threatened my brother when he eats something that he not supposed to with "Do you want me to throw this in your face" and other physical threats like that and is always saying he is eating himself to death (he is) when she is not trying very hard to stop it and she even made a remark on if my brother die "we cry for a bit, then buried him and then that's it" like she doesn't care at all. When my mom is mad at me she will go on to rants how my father was right to leave me, that when I go to college I better not come back, and recently she told me "even if you dying, I won't answer your call" when i feel like i was in danger and that it "doesn't matter." I know she just very stressed and maybe I just making a huge fuss over nothing but that really scares me.

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Look I feel like I've been driven into a corner. My parents are super tough. They come from this culture in which the parents (especially the father) are infallible and deserve the ultimate respect. Almost every day I get yelled at for the smallest things. Ex: yesterday what happened is that i was downstairs and was time for dinner. My mom screamed "its time for supper" but i had headphones so i didn't hear her. Eventually i heard her and came running up the stairs out of fear that she would get mad because she had to yell to many times but it was too late. She kept telling me how much her throat hurt from yelling so much and saying that all my fault. I told her "Im sorry. I didnt hear you." And she instantly screamed "DONT TALK BACK TO ME!!!" Another event that happened was today. So my report card came in today. They told me beforehand that no matter what grade i get there going to be happy and proud of me because they saw how much i studied for my final exams (which is true i studied my ass off) So yea let's just say my grades weren't great(I passed in all my subjects mind you except for one). They were so disappointed and mad at me. Naturally i felt lied to. I said "So you lied to me about being happy for me" In which my mom proceeded to slap me and say scream that she doesn't lie. Things like these happen on a regular basis. This my situation. I don't know if this abuse. I cry almost every day because of them. I dont know what to do any more. I need help.

[ccsmod2]

Hello There,
Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it seems like you are going through a really difficult time right now. Doing drugs at home and from what you’re describing could be an unsafe situation. We are not here to tell you what not to do or what to do, as you know your situation the best.
You always have the right to file an abuse report. You can always call The Child Help Line at:1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making a report can be scary if you would like our help you may call us at any time. You also always have the right to call 911, if you ever feel like you are in danger. Another option for you could be talking to a counselor, sometimes talking to a professional can help us feel better.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
NRS

My mom does drugs and calls me a bum and hates the way I dress. She also blames everything on me without her taking fault. I feel so depressed and upset she makes me very mad with her poor life decisions. I have gotten bad behavior over the years but I feel like its because of the way my mom treats me I'm just so angry at her for not caring. I have attempted to cut myself but never could because I know it's wrong. I know she loves me and cares but she also makes me very mad. Doing drugs even after I caught her 3 times. I cant decide if I should call 911 or cps or not call at all I dont wanna live with her because she makes my life so hard and I just dont wanna be here. She is probably not gonna believe me and think I'm making it up cause I have told her before but I just wanna better life. I cant go to my grandma cause she makes it 2x more hard but bringing up all the bad things I've done in the past. My grandma is the best loving person but I think I won't make it out alive of this hell with her and I don't know what to do. My mom cares and loves me I can tell that she also works very hard but I dont wanna he with a emotional abuser/drug addict I want to know what it's like to not fake a smile I want to be happy but I know if I don't get a case from cps it's going to make things worse. What should I do?

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You should be able to go home to a place where you feel safe, secure, and comfortable. You mentioned some things about your mother's behavior that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It could be helpful to take pictures/video of any abusive actions taken by your mother or injuries caused by her. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

Hello, I'm 16. I honestly have no idea if I should call CPS or not at this point. My mother constantly complains about how "I behave" and calls me abusive and manipulative even though I have no idea what I'm doing in the first place. More than half of the time I can't even think straight because she's yelling at the top of her lungs about something. She looses control of her temper at times and throws things or hits me. She did this when I was younger as well. She doesn't think what she's doing is bad, nor does she think that she needs to stop. The condition of our house isn't the best. It's messy, with the fact that the house is literally falling apart. Most of the time I'm blamed for our house being in the condition that it is as she says that I don't do anything around the house. My mother completely ignores my mental health even though my doctor has referred me to multiple therapist and psychiatrist. And no one in my family believes that she acts the way she does because she constantly lies about it. At this point I have no idea whether I'm a part of the issue of why she acts the way she does. I argue back with her, and loose my temper as well. But never to the extreme of physical violence. She usually over exaggerates what I do, saying that I tell her that she's dumb, stupid, and that she doesn't know anything on a daily basis. But yeah, I have no idea what to do at this point.

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[ccsmod9]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS

Hello i’m 12 should i call cps on my mother?

I want to leave my mother’s house she emotionally neglects me since i was small i have depression and anxiety and my mother is doing nothing but saying “suck it up” or getting angry at me because i’m sensitive.

Yesterday i was having a breakdown in a building’s bathroom. I took a long time and when my mother went to the bathroom to get me, i was a balling mess, instead of my mom talking to me are calming me down she made me go out of the bathroom and got angry at me for “thinking so stupidly”.

My mother spends money on me so i could shut up, i had depression for i think 3-ish years and all my mom could tell me is suck it up, When i told my mom if i can go to talk to someone about my problems she said no. When i wanted to talk to her she ignored me.

When i want to have time with my mom she sends me something to do, When i say something like “i don’t want to do that” or “i don’t want to go” she gets mad at me.

She has these one-on-ones with my sibling but never with me, She reads stories to my brother, but never to me, She says “good night” to everyone but one. I want someone to be there for me and my mom is not there. Should i call cps?

Hello i'm 12 should i call cps on my mother? my mother ignores my emotional health since birth, I have depression and anxiety for 2 years and I want to go to therapy but my mom says that i'm faking my "illness". my brother is in therapy and not the both of us. My mom has one-on-one talks with my sibling and not me i'm very excluded in my family's fun time, Whenever i want time to cool down before I have a breakdown, my mom get's mad at me because I think stupidly. Whenever i want to spend time with my mom she pushes me away or buys me stuff to distract me.
I'm slowly getting scared everywhere i go and whenever i tell my mother "I don't want to go" or " I don't want to do that" she yells at me or it's me.
Should I call cps on my mother?

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension; it's not fair that you are so severely punished for speaking your mind and are being accused of swearing when that's not something that you do.

The "discipline" that you mentioned raises a lot of concern for your safety as it sounds like abuse. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

All the best,
NRS

Hi I’m 14 and I feel I have an abusive dad. He says this is discipline though. I told dad to calm down because he always gets mad for little stuff like me and My sisters are bad children, but, we always listen to Dad and Mom. He never changes he always gets mad and he always screams. I know now that is what made me call him mean...I wasn’t being annoying but I was expressing myself in a plain and specific way saying he was mean. Dad thinks I said the f word, and both of my siblings and my friend know I don’t curse.I didn’t say the f word. And he beat me so much for that , it was like child abuse. Not even discipline. I was screaming “please Dad, please Dad” for mercy while he almost whipped every part of my body, and all because of 2 words. And he wonders why I asked him to calm down. I know me screaming is what saved me or I would’ve started bleeding. I would have to go to school and lie or drown in my thoughts about my abusive father. And my siblings had to just watch. It’s just sad, as his daughter I feel like he doesn’t love me. This type of stuff makes you depressed. I don’t wanna be depressed in Jesus name. This doesn’t happen everyday to other kids, and he’s always threatening to beat me and I’m just scared of him tbh(to be honest) should I call cps even though he’s only mean like this when he’s mad? I have everything else a good home food and water, and I go to an okay school plus I have a bed to sleep in. It’s just when he gets mad it doesn’t matter if we obeyed and we’re good for 5 months he would still whoop you and it’s like why do you have to beat your children there’s other discipline.

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Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you and your sister have been through a lot over the last few years. Your situation is very difficult and serious. Everyone deserves to feel safe and loved in their own home. You are doing the right thing by advocating for yourself and looking for help. It’s good that your abuser is no longer in your house but it seems like you feel your mother is still making decisions that are negatively impacting you and your sister. Some options to think about are reaching out to your school counselor or another trusted adult in your community such as a relative or family friend. You could also consider letting dad know what kind of things you are dealing with in the home and that his child support is not reaching you. Something to think about is whether you and your sister would be open to filing a report with child services regarding neglect or endangerment. This might mean child services would visit and follow up with your mother regarding your welfare, safety and living situation. If you feel this would be an option for you, we can help you file that report.
If you call our crisis hotline at (800) 786-2929 one of our trained volunteers would be happy to discuss what you are going through and help you think about what kind of options you might have to change you and your sister’s circumstances. Our hotline is staffed 24/7 and completely confidential. You can also chat online with a volunteer at our website www.1800runaway.org. There are a couple of other hotlines that might be a good resource for you as well.
National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233 www.thehotline.org
Child Help – National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 www.childhelp.org
RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) (800) 656-4673 www.rainn.org
You are taking the right steps to take care of yourself and your sister. Please call us to discuss what resources and help we might be able to offer you.