Should I call CPS on my mother?

[Guest]

Hey, I’m 11 and I don’t know wether or not i should call cps on my mom.

The reason I am asking this is because she hits me, and slaps me. She really hurts me. She also cusses a lot when she is mad at me. I am sort of scared of her when she is mad at me. When she is around other people, she is fine, but she gets really mad at me and cusses for the rudest and stupidest reasons. I live in an Indian household, so my grades are really important. I am an A student, but sometimes I get Bs, and my mom goes psycho. When my dad tries to protect me, she threatens to hurt him as well. I have asked my dad about calling cps, but he says that I will have to live in a foster home, which I don’t want, because my parents are normally both really fun people. Lately, she has been favoring my 5 year old brother, because even though I got all As this grading period, she is so proud of him because he got 5th in the kindergarten spelling bee. She also slapped me for not joining other education clubs. She also slaps my brother when he screws up. He is only 5! Currently, she has taken my iPhone because of this. She hurts me a lot, and right now I have wrist fracture, and is threatening to break my other wrist if I don’t get an A on my math test. Please help me, for I have no idea what to do. If this gets worse, I might think about calling cps, but I love my dad and my brother, and I don’t want to go to a foster home.

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Thank you for telling us your story and reaching out. It can be difficult telling others what has happened to you and you are very brave for doing so. It can be difficult to manage situations like this and you don’t have to do it alone. If you haven’t already, you could consider reporting the abuse you and your brother have been experiencing. If you want more information about abuse reporting or if you want to file a report, you could call Child Help at 1-800-422-4453. In some cases CPS might not slit you up from your other family but recommend other solutions like counseling.

If you don’t feel safe and feel like you need to get away Nationalsafeplace.org provides a safe location for you to meet a staff member who can take you to a designated place where you can discuss all options about how to stay safe. You can text 44357 the word “safe,” and your location to find a safe location in your area. Once you arrive let someone who works there know you need help connecting with a staff member.

Again, thank you for contacting us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really hard time, but you’ve shown a lot of strength by working through these challenges and reaching out for help. If you ever need anything in the future, please feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re always here to listen and here to help.

[Guest]

Hey I’m 16. It’s been rough with my family my dad got mad started shooting his gun in the back yard cuz he was mad. My mom goes insane over little things like I didn’t take the trash out once I got thrown to the floor she pulled my hair ripped my shirt and I had to run away for a little. My mom tells me she doesn’t love me and I’m not the kid she wanted me to be. I’m not doing well in school at all but still managing to pass some classes with a 1.8 gpa, but I wanna stay in high school and finish and she keeps saying she’s gonna take me out of school completely cuz she thinks I don’t even try. She says I’m not allowed to have friends or talk to people so I got everything taken from me now I’m using a school iPad. But I’m pretty sure it’s because last time I called the cops and tried to get cps when she started getting aggressive with me again and would grab my arm when I would try to call the cops then she act like nothings happens when they come. She’s really good at lying and I wish I could just get proof of her doing these things. The cops said she’s allowed to hit me cuz I’m a big guy and if she needs to get my under control she’s allowed to use force. My parents sent me to the ER and told them I have mental problems I told them what the cops told me and they said she’s not allowed to use force so the cops don’t even know the law. I’m only 16 so I feel like I have no power over anything cuz apparently my parents can do what they want with me cuz I’m a minor. If I call cps my mom will even take more away from me like lock me in my room again or take me out of high school so I’m to scared to call anyone. She tells me she’s just gonna take me out school cuz I have no future and it’s already ruined. I can’t call the cops cuz they believe her not me and all because I called the cops she takes my phone texts my friends on it and also says I can’t talk to anyone anymore. I’m just scared I don’t even know what to say there’s to much to explain I don’t even know if I explained any of this well. She’s just taking my life away from me and the only reason I’m even trying anymore is cuz of one girl I’ve been talking to for years... now she trying to get rid of her once I lose her I have nothing to lose anymore and ima just give up and take my moms advise about me not having a future and just end it all. And I have a little brother I don’t want him to go through what’s going on and I don’t want him to go though what i am when he’s older.

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are going through so much at home, and your mom's hurtful words and actions are making you feel like you should just end it all. You and your safety are incredibly important and here at NRS we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help, and we are so glad that you did. Your life has worth and our top priority is your safety. If you feel this is an emergency you could consider calling 911 for emergency assistance. We are here to listen and support you in any way that we can, and we can help you find resources that can help you cope with these feelings. You do not have to face this alone, and there is so much help out there for you. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, the National Suicide Hotline could be a good resource for you. You can check them out at www.youmatter.suicidepreventionlifeline.org, or you can call 1-800-273-8255 for help and support any time. You can also call us 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) if you need to talk.

You mentioned reaching out to police and CPS and them not being helpful. That has to be so frustrating that police said it was okay for you to be harmed. It is true that in some states there are laws around appropriate forms of discipline. However, it is not okay that she is throwing you to the floor. It also seems really scary that she is threatening you about reaching out to help when they are harming you. If you haven't already, you might try to tell a teacher or a counselor at school about what is going on. So that they could report to CPS and be an advocate for you if your mom tries to lie more. If you can call or chat us, we can try to brainstorm your options and look for local resources that might be able to help.

Please do not hesitate to call or chat us so we can best help. Be safe,

NRS

[Guest]

She hits me

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Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 16 and my mom is heavily addicted to alcohol and is verbally and physically abusive. Almost every night we get into physical and verbal fights over stupid stuff that she starts. Tonight she was upset and started a fight because she wanted her dinner and when we didn’t get it she got very mad. I’m adopted from China and she always tells me “I could have had any other child but I got stuck with you” “I wish I could return you you’re a waste of money” and is very selfish. When we don’t have enough food she makes sure to only feed herself and not me. I’ve gone a week without eating because she was more important to me. She also spends all of our money on alcohol. On weekdays she drinks about 192 oz and over the weekend she drinks about 388oz. Her addiction is so bad she is an insomniac and Lost the only good job she had because she showed up to work drunk and crashed her car. She blames everything on me and is bipolar but will not admit it. What should I do?

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Hello There,
Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through an incredibly difficult time and we hope we are able to help.
First off, we want to let you know that you do not deserve to be abused in any type of way. You are not alone in this, and you have every right to make a report. One option to consider is to contact Child Help, they can be reached at 1800-422-4453. Another option to consider is contacting us at NRS and we would be happy to help you with making an abuse report. If you are ever in immediate danger please contact the local police.
Also what you have described seems like it is neglect, as you should have your basic needs met. You can also file a report for this by doing the above options. Also this may be something you might want to talk about with a trusted adult.
Living with someone with an addiction can be extremely difficult especially when the addicted individual is being neglectful. There are support groups for those who have a loved one with an addiction, it is called Al-Anon or AlAteen. You can find these support groups in your city by going to this website: https://al-anon.org/for-members/grou...urces/alateen/, and clicking meetings. If there are none in your area they also have online meetings. Sometimes support groups help because you can talk to those who may going through similar things. Another good resource that may be SAMHSA (substance abuse and mental illnesses association). They can be reached at 877-7264727.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support. Remember you are not alone in this. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I’m 16, and I am not sure how to explain my situation. Ever since I was little I have watched my dad verbally abuse my mom when he would drink. Every time we had a family gathering that involved drinks, he'd hoard all of it and drink it to him self throughout the week. My brother is 9 years older then me but when I was about 6 or 7, my dad would physically hurt my brother and throw him across rooms when he was only 15/16. I’d hear my brother scream and scream and my mom couldn’t do anything. I used to sleep in the car with my mom sometimes when I was little because that was the only way to get away from my dad. It was almost an every other day thing and still is to this day. I’ve never seen my dad touch my mom until a couple weeks ago. I’d hear it happen and hear her scream for help but I could never run up stairs fast enough in time to witness. I’d always hear her say he did in their fights but I had never seen it happen. My mom has many health conditions such as, diabetes, asthma, pituitary diseases, thyroid diseases, vertigo, anxiety, and I’m even worried if she has depression. And my dad knows all of this and still continues to scream and spit in her face, break her stuff, throw and push her. Now that I’m old enough to understand, I’ve grown to get very upset and sick of this situation so I’ve been involving myself trying to calmly tell my dad that what he’s doing to my mom isn’t okay. He puts his hands on me and throws stuff at me. He would always say sorry but it would just happen all over again. It has never gotten better, it actually has been getting worse, hense the reason my 24 year old brother moved out recently due to the fact of his own issues and the reasons for my dad treating him bad through out the years. When he drinks I will be doing my own thing and he thinks I will give him a bad look or that I’m being disrespectful just because i am trying to leave him alone when he drinks.. he then starts screaming in my face and telling me that he wishes I’d pack my sh*t up and go. Last night when I tried to go to sleep, he was purposely yelling and stomping on the ceiling over my head walking around and making noises. I texted him very nicely that I couldn’t sleep and that I’m trying to go to bed, he then said “good for you” and obviously doesn’t care about my feelings and let alone my moms. I am scared everyday and I constant worry about my mom. It is just me in the house with my mom and dad. All my mom does is try to explain how she feels and he somehow gets very upset and starts to get violent. He has taken her stuff, such as her phone and would threaten to break it and threaten to hurt her when she would speak. I’m sure there are so many incidents that I can not recall but this has been going on for 10 years. I have never reached out or called the police because he is the only income we have in the house because my mom has been out of work from her ailments. I don’t know what to do with my situation. Any advice or resources would be helpful. Thankyou.

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Thank you for contacting us. We are deeply sorry to hear about all that you (and your mom) are going through at home. Your dad's behavior is absolutely unacceptable and he has no right to threaten or hurt his own family. That must be extraordinarily difficult to see. You have every right to be upset. Fortunately, you (and your mom) don't have to face this alone. We are here to listen and help as best as we can.

One option would be for you to file an abuse report on your dad's behavior, which clearly includes both physical and emotional abuse. We realize that you may not want to do this because it sounds like your dad is your family's only source of income, but we just want to share with you the process in case you decide you do want to file. An abuse report can be made through your state's child abuse reporting hotline, with the organization Child Help (www.childhelp.org; 1-800-422-4453), or through us here at the National Runaway Safeline at 1-800-RUNAWAY. Of course, if you are in immediate danger you can always dial 911 or even just leave the house immediately if you feel seriously threatened.

If you file an abuse report you may want to include specific details, including dates and times, for the incidents that happen. If you have any marks or bruises you can photograph these (perhaps with your phone) as evidence of abuse. But you don't need physical evidence to make a report, just so you know. If your older brother wants to file a report or be used as a witness on your report, he can also do that. The more specific you can be, the better.

What happens when an abuse report is filed? We can't say for sure exactly what would happen but, frequently, a Child Protective Services investigator will come to your home and inquire as to what's going on, perhaps interviewing you and your parents. An
investigation doesn't automatically mean you are separated from your dad, however. It might result in other methods being taken to make the situation better, such as requiring your dad to get help for his drinking, having family counseling, or the like. Again, we cannot say for sure what would happen, but these are just some possibilities. We honor whatever decision you make with regard to report or not.

Another option might be to see if you could live elsewhere where you would feel safe. Perhaps that's with your older brother or some other relative. Ideally, you would get permission from your parents to do this. Of course, this does not solve the abuse your mom is undergoing by your dad. We hope she gets whatever support she can as well. One organization that might provide helpto both you and your mom is the National Domestic Violence Hotline (www.thehotline.org; 1-800-799-7233). They can provide both support as well as practical ideas on how to stay safe or reduce harm when someone in the house is prone to engaging in violence.

Building a support network is a good idea. If you can express yourself about what's going on to a trusted adult, that would be ideal. Maybe that's a teacher, counselor, religious figure, or even another relative. You can share what you feel comfortable with, even if it's not the whole story all at once. Even friends your age may be able to build you up to deal with things. Since your dad is drinking too much, Al-Anon might be a resource for you and your mom. They are a support group for people whose family members are alcoholics. Their website is www.al-anon.org.

Most of all, staying safe is a big priority. If you can avoid your dad at times when he might be drinking or violent, that would be a good idea. If you have a lock on your bedroom door, that can come in handy. If things get bad perhaps giving your brother a call might help, or even going to spend the night at his place if that's an option for you. Maybe you can write down a list of ways you can try to stay safe when things get bad.

We hope this helps. You truly are in a difficult spot and we know it's not easy. If you'd like to discuss more potential options for you we are here 24/7 at 1-800-RUNAWAY or via chat at the portal at www.1800ruanway.org. We also have a large database of resources and we can possibly connect you with other people and organizations that might help: for instance, counseling agencies. We hope to hear from you soon!

Best wishes,
NRS

[Guest]

My name Is Iyanna and I'm 15 and my dad and mom have split custody over me, Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday half of Thursday with my mom the rest with my dad. My dad is very financially unstable and we live in a 1 bedroom log cabin I sleep in a loft with my brother eating cereal every day, my mom is financially stable. I'm scared of my mom every day I'm always on edge to either be yelled at or maybe slapped or something like that. My mom has always had a thing against me starting when I think I was 6, I would get in trouble for not having matching clothes or having messy hair and I always had to get my outfit approved. This caused me to become severely insecure and start to over eat and under eat. When my mom was able to texts me she would sometimes send paragraphs cussing me out for something as simple as food missing. I would often wear her clothes because none of mine would fit and this caused her to become even more aggressive if that's the word. She would often tear my room apart dumping everything on the ground trash bags, clothes, makeup. I have or am pretty sure) depression and severe anxiety but I haven’t been open enough or trust anyone enough to seek help. So I would often stay upstairs as much as I can eat secretly and self-harm still to this day. I wrote down how my mother made me feel and how badly I wanted to off myself, this resulted in her going ballistic grounding me, tearing my room apart, breaking my fan, most of my makeup, glass pictures, and everything was on the floor. This happens often so one day when she tore my room up after I was cleaning I went downstairs waiting for my dad to pick me up, my mom opened the door as soon as I did and she immediately asked for my phone and to get my a** back upstairs I begged to go to my dad’s because I was scared and I kept begging until finally she snapped after slapping me a few times and threw me to the ground her boyfriend had to pull her off of me, I ran to the town square and she threatened to call the cops if I didn’t come back, she found me driving around in her car and she told me to pack my things and never come back, she didn’t want me, I'm ignorant, I'm useless, she wishes she never had me and something I'll remember to this day "you think you want to kill yourself I want to crash this car into a tree because I'm living with a bunch of assholes". She never apologizes for anything she says... there's a lot of hurtful things she says that I'm leaving out but I don’t want to talk about them. I've self-harmed since I was 9 because of her, I have problems eating food and going to bed. I don’t feel safe here or at my dad’s (my dad’s has a history with alcohol and drugs and having random people at the house and relationship violence). My mom isn’t as bad as she used to be but I still hate it here and still suffering I do everything she asks and am horrified of her. What I'm horrified of is cps coming to my house investigating and leaving, I know she will hurt me once they leave or if I don’t get taken out of the house, and I can’t be at my dad’s for longer than 4 days. I'm stuck.

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Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).
We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. The way you are being treated by your mother is deplorable. You don’t deserve to be abused and made to feel afraid. It’s not your fault that this is going on. It does not sound like you feel staying with your father is a better option. Your safety is important and there are services that you might consider contacting if you would like help.

If you’re feeling unsafe and need a safe place to go and talk to someone, you may wish to visit The National Safeplace website (www.nationalsafeplace.org). This organization provides access to immediate help and supportive resources for youth in need. You can look up your city and state to see if there are any safe places near you listed. So that is always an option if you feel like talking to someone in person about what has been going on or if you just need a safe place to stay.

You also may use your phone to text the word “safe” and your current location (city/state/zip) to 44357. If there are safe places and shelters nearby, a list of those will be sent to your phone and you may have the option to text back and forth with a trained counselor as well.

You can also file an abuse report with CPS. And if you have saved the messages from your mother they may serve as evidence for your case. To file an abuse report contact Child Help 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org

NRS is here to listen and here to help. If you would like to talk more about your situation contact us at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org (Live chat).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to:
9-1-1 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am 15 years old. I am wondering if this is a situation to call CPS. I am going to start from the beginning when things started getting a a little out of hand.

So when I was younger I had severe anxiety, They would tell me that I am a crybaby or a wimp. Constantly yelling at me for crying which I have no control because of anxiety. They thought that I did this for attention so they didn’t really do anything about it. I would have mental break downs at school so I finally went to the counselors and I took a test to find out that I do have anxiety, they didn’t believe it and thought it was fake.

They would punish me for worrying about and crying about small things. It got to the point Where I would shut myself out and not talk, because I was so afraid of my parents. They thought I was mental so they threatened to either throw me out because I was annoying or threatened me to a mental hospital to lock me up.

I never felt like I had any privacy or I was good enough for them. I was always over worked with school as they wanted perfect grades (have been a straight A student and still not good enough). I have never had time to myself because once I had, they would give me more things to do. When I am relaxing, they tell me I am useless and compare me to my sibling. I never have time to myself as I am physically and mentally tired. As I share a room with my brother, I can never get away in peace.

I am constantly being watched and monitored of whatever I’m doing. When I am out with my friends, they stalk me, check my location, and even find their way to look at my texts with people. they have a control app and monitor everything on my phone so I have no privacy. If they have a chance, they stalk my friends as well to find out what they are doing. I constantly get punished and yelled at for the smallest things, especially my dad because of his drinking habits as he is always tipsy.

Things have been gradually getting worse by time as I’m getting older, making more friends or being in a relationship. Recently, I got my first boyfriend and it has changed so many things how my parents act. My dad has threatened me to break up or he will take my stuff, he has also told me about he hates my boyfriend so much like he wants to shoot him with his gun. (My dad had never met him and not willing to) I am constantly being accused for sneaking out or doing drugs (which I never do, I stay away from things as much as possible, as I have never snuck out as well).

They constantly threaten to send me off to a military school or throw me out. My parents tell other family members how horrible I am so I am constantly being shamed by everyone. They also have put me down for my appearance as well, telling me to lose weight or I shouldn’t wear a certain clothes. I have never been physically abused severely, sometimes I would get slapped or pushed, or even spanked, flicked or stuff being thrown at me. All of the stress has caused me to lose appetite and I have lost 15 to 20 pounds, I have gained more acne and have dark circles from lack of sleep. I can go on and on about more things similar to these situations. I am done dealing with this, is this something that I can report to CPS?

[Guest]

My mother threaten too kill herself while she was driving on the freeway at night with me (adult child) and her two younger kids

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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline at this tough time. We hope to help.
It sounds like recently your Mom displayed suicidal behavior in front of you and your siblings. This concerns you for your siblings’ safety and you now want to know if you should report this to CPS. We do not offer advice here because you know your situation best, not us, but it is important you know that if you feel your siblings are being abused, there are resources. No one deserves emotional abuse from a parent. You can report this abuse to CPS at any time and they will investigate it. If you want help with abuse reporting, you can always reach out to Child Help. They are an organization staffed with people trained in abuse reporting and discussing through surrounding options and can be reached at 1-800-422-4453. Of course, if ever you, your Mom, or your siblings are in immediate danger you can always reach out to 911.
Feelings of suicide can be difficult to hold. Perhaps you can keep on hand the number for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. They can reached at any time at 1-800-246-7743, and are available to talk through some of your Mom’s toughest moments with her.
We hope you find this information helpful. You are also always welcome to reach out to us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for more information, resources, or just to talk. We wish you the best of luck out there.
Sincerely,
NRS

[Guest]

Ok so I’m 16 and ever since I was little I remember my mom has been treating very badly she would tell me I’m a mistake and calling me out of my names and put her hands on me to where she is physically hurting me but mostly she uses her words I’ve been through ups and downs with her she is bi polar but she doesn’t want help . She puts all of her girlfriends first and puts me last and everytime she is having a bad day she comes home and takes it out on me and recently she moved with her girlfriend and forced me to live with my dad when I’ve told me I rather stay with a family member but she is lying to people and making me stay away. I really want to get emancipated and I even talked to my dad but he said no and I can’t get a job because my mom won’t give me my social and my dad doesn’t have one he says . It’s like I’m so tired of all of this I just want to be with my family and she won’t let me.

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Hi there,

Thank you reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. It takes a lot of courage to ask for help. Please know that it’s not okay for anyone to physically or verbally hurt you. You deserve to be treated with love and kindness. You mentioned that your mom has hurt you with her hands and her words. We care about you and want to help you stay safe. If you are in immediate danger, calling 911 is an option. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is another resource that may help you to stay safe. Their website is: https://www.childhelp.org/childhelp-hotline/ and their hotline is 1-800-422-4453. They are available by calling or texting 24 hours/day & 7 days/week.

You also mentioned that you are thinking about emancipation. The rules for emancipation vary by state. If you able to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY or instant message us, we will be able to provide more information that is specific to your situation. Our website is https://www.1800runaway.org/ and we are here 24/7. We are proud of you for reaching out to us for help. Your safety is important to us, and we care about you. We are here 24/7, so please do not hesitate to call or chat with us.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

Hey, i am a 16 year old girl who has been having issues at home i have 3 brother 2 live with my grandpa and one lives with our father. They al have illegally been living in separate house besides me. My mother won’t let me go live with my grandpa who had been taking care of my brother for years. My mother is barley home we live in a trailer park that is filled with drugs i don’t feel safe living here and very paranoid staying here. I say that because my mom is barley here she will go to work and then won’t come home till later the next day i will have no idea where she is. When she is here she brings different men over and that makes me feel unsafe i have been sexually abuse but one of her exes a few years back and i’m scared it’s going to happen again. She has a decent job but i don’t get the things i need such as pads or toothpaste ect...i ask her where her money goes and i don’t get a response she smokes a lot a lot of weed and that is ill i gal and makes me feel unsafe. She gets food when she feels like it.she calls me names and makes me feel worthless i do a lot for her i have to buy my own food sometimes. I would love to live with my grandpa he supports my brothers and i feel the need my menatal health would be better and i would feel safe.Should i call cps to go live with my grandfather?

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Hello There,

Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and we are so glad that you have decided to reach out to us.
It seems like you have been going through a really difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone. From what you have described it seems like your environment is unsafe and that you are being neglected. You also do not deserve to be called names and we are sorry you are dealing with that.
You do have every right to make a report to CPS but we want you to know that does not guarantee placement with your grandfather but it is possible. You can make a report by calling Child Help at 1800-422-4453. You can also speak to a school counselor and they would be able to help with making a report. Lastly, you can call or chat with us and we would be able to help you with making a report.
We hope that this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore more options please give us a call. We are available to you 24/7, best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

Idk if i should call cps on my mom. She drinks every other night sometimes until 7am and tells me things like "I hate you" and "you do ur hair ugly everyday" And YELLS at my brother who is 7 (its illegal to drink when in charge of someone who is 7) And my dad drinks once a week and knows her problem but doesnt do anything but yell at her about it. And it puts me in a really bad position because im scared that if i tell cps that then my mom would know i was the one that told them and it would make her be way more mean to me. And it makes me feel guilty bc i love her but at the same time i feel abused

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Thank you for contacting NRS,

We are sorry to hear that your mom has been having drinking issues. From the sounds of it, it sounds like your mom is treating both you and your brother unfairly. Please know that if you feel in immediate danger do not hesitate to contact the police. (911) Some other options you can try is maybe see if your mom would consider letting you go live with another family member who you feel more safe around. Another option is to call Child Help. Child Help (800-422-4453) is a child abuse reporting agency that can help report alongside you and talk through reporting with you. Another option you have is to report with us as well. We can guide you through reporting through our chat and hotline options if thats something you wish to pursue. Please know that you do not deserve to be treated in any bad manner. We would love to help assist you in conituing conversations about what other options we can explore.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and stay strong,
NRS

[Guest]

Hi I am. 14 and I struggle with addiction I recently got in a pickle I stole a dap pen from my aunts friend and got caught and when I came home my parents called me a screw up and a disappointment to the family and it rlly dose hurt so what should I do?....

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. You don’t deserve to be called things like that for something you acknowledge as a mistake when your family could be supportive and help you find healthier ways to cope and heal. A possible resource for help with substance abuse is www.samhsa.gov if you are not getting support from your family they might be able to help.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

should i call cos ? hey i am 17 my parents have been divorced for abt 3 yrs now i and abt almost every day my mom txt me saying mean and hatful comments she tells my sister and brother whom don’t live with me bc i live with my father that i hate them and never want to see them and tells my brother and sister i have a drug problem and that’s the reason why i’m like this i have major agrophobia symptoms bc of her and how she treated me as a kid .

[ccsmod9]

Hi, thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing your story. You are very strong and brave.

In terms of your mental health, it could be helpful to reach out to a professional like a school counselor or therapist. You could also try reaching out to NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) by giving them a call at 1-800-950-6264 or texting NAMI to 741741. It is good to hear that you are living in a safer home with your father. We are so sorry to hear about how your mom is treating you. You do not deserve to be texted hurtful comments or have your relationship with your siblings damaged. To help repair that relationship you could try talking directly to your siblings if you feel comfortable. It could also be helpful to talk to your parents if you feel comfortable about how your mom’s texts make you feel. If you wanted to file a CPS report about your mom you could give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or chat with us at our website, and we’d be happy to help you file it or file it for you. You could also file the CPS report on your own through www.childhelp.org.

Thank you again for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. You are very brave. Feel free to reach out again anytime as we are available 24/7 and are completely confidential. Best of luck!

[Guest]

I don't know where to start this but I've been seriously considering contacting cps, I'm 13 and my mother is mentally ill. it's hard to tell which condition she has but I feel like it's bipolar, she gets mad at me for the simplest things like being late for school, watching a movie when I'm doing homework, or having a "b" in my grade book. when that happens, she gets abusive and starts to repeatedly hit me. it feels like a demon was unleashed at this moment. there have been instances where she has found out about my sexuality and ridiculed me for " just keeping up with the trends". she is extremely homophobic and will not choose to accept me. she repeated;y takes my devices and always uses anything she can find against me so she can make a scene. she smokes a lot and denies it when I found packs of cigarettes and multiple juuls , and disposable vape bars in her bag. when I was 10, she physically sat on top of me and hit me so hard on and on again until I had bruises all over and my lip was bleeding, she threatened to kick me out and even had me pack my clothes in garbage bags later she drove me to the police station and made me get out, but she made me get back in the car because she realized she would get in legal trouble if someone found out. every time she manipulates me and tries to guilt-trip me into saying I make her do this. she frequently changes moods and acts as the perfect mother when she needs to, when I piss her off for something dumb she lashes out and acts like a complete nutjob. screaming, hitting, yelling...she is not okay, i really think she should seek medical attention. what should I do? she currently has taken my phone and I don't know if next time she tries to hit me if I should call cps...

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Hi there,
Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. They can tell you more about how CPS could respond to your situation. If you ever need assistance calling out to CPS to make an abuse or neglect report please call is at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS