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    So reading some questions on here i definitely don't think my mom is as neglectful and abusive as some but she still gives me a lot of trouble. Im 14 years old and my mom is 50. She is good at keeping us fed but only because of food stamps. She spends most of the actual money on unnecessary things like paint, furniture, and basically anything to cover up the fact that our house is falling apart. She recently got credit cards for various stores which cost more to have than the things she is buying because we never actually go to anywhere but walmart. In the past my dad was an abusive alcoholic to my mom and brother but not me and my sister. We ended up kicking him out when I was maybe 4-5. After a few years he started to come visit us again to drop off money for my mom and to feed us. This went on for about five years until I was about 9 or 10. During these five years my mom became addicted to Xanax, Percocet, and other persciption drugs which she would get from meth heads and crack heads. I ended up having to take care of my mother in these years because she was always passing out. So I missed school because I was scared my mother woulde die or get hurt in the shower or making food or something. She'd spend a of time asleep or as she liked to call them "having seizures" but when she tried to walk around she would always end up on the floor or slouched over like you were checking for scoliosis. When my dad moved back in with us he still drank and my mom still popped pills but everyone was better off because at this point we got xboxs and playstations to distract us while our drunk father passed out with our high mother. Umfortunately, they both ended up off of pills and not drinking but thats when things got bad. My mom always used to pick fights with my dad and they would stop after she passed out but now she doesnt pass out anymore. So fights started getting worse. My dad, having no where to live if he got kicked oit again, doesnt partake in the fights anymore. My mother however loves to mentally screw us all over. She loves fighting with my dad about how he doesn't make love to her if its not quick and ******** like that. Also my mom is completely insane. She believes in vortexes and portal to other dimensions all over our city and all over the world. She spends most of the time making us late for school or other activities because she takes pictures of clouds. She isn't metally stable enough to take care of us but my dad doesnt have the money to take us from her so we are all just stuck here. If someone could please contact me about who to go to in a court of law to help my father get a divorce with my mother and end up with custody of me and my brother that would be amazing. He wont be able to take our sister though because she isnt his biological daughter and he never got rights to her.

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    Re: Should I call CPS on my mother?

    Thanks for reaching out the National Runaway Safeline Forum. Your family situation you have described sounds very challenging. You appear to have a strong handle on what drives your parent’s challenges and how it is negatively impacting both you and your brother and sister. You mentioned that there is no physical abuse happening in your home presently but there is a large amount of verbal abuse between your parents and neglect to the point where you do not safe in your home. Your main issue – Should I call CPS on my mother – is a very good question to ask at this point. Let’s try and brainstorm some Pro’s and Con’s here to help you consider your next steps:

    Pro’s:
    • By filing a report with CPS – you will put your parents on guard that may force some changes in behaviors.
    • You will get outside eyes involved with your family situation that may offer help such as addiction counseling and parenting support in helping make better household financial decisions
    • By you taking action, it may help you feel more empowered because you are doing your best to make positive changes in the situation

    Con’s:
    • Typically CPS is motivated to try to keep families together. There is no way to know if what they suggest will be in line with what you want to have happen to support custody for your father.
    • It may cause your parents to treat you with distrust and may have negative implications on how you and your brother and sister are treated.
    • By you taking this step, it puts spot light on you to tell your family’s story. If there is no physical evidence or other adult family members that will back up what you are saying, it may be challenging to be heard and understood by a CPS caseworker.

    We know that this is a very difficult step for you, There are some resources we can suggest to help you through this decision process.
    * Child Help USA – 800-422-4453 – This agency focuses on youth who are dealing with family abuse issue and can help suggest local resources.
    * Families Anonymous -800-736-9805 - This agency focuses on families impacted by substance abuse issues.
    * SAMHSA –Substance Abuse & Mental Health Resources Administration – 877-726-4727 – This service links up callers with family counseling resources

    We hope we can support you further if you wish to discuss these options further or perhaps find legal aid resources in your area. The best way to get this information quickly is to contact us directly. You can confidentially call us 24 a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929). Another option is contact us through our chat line from 4PM-11PM accessed through our website www.1800runaway.org.

    Thank you for sharing your situation on the National Runaway Safeline Forum. Hopefully other youth will benefit from you sharing your story. We hope the information above will help you find the steps to feel safer in home. Best of luck!
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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    • #3
      [I][B]sup, i'm 16 and my situation isn't as bad as it was. in the past my mom let her husband (whom she didn't know very well and let move in) sexually abuse my sister and i for about a year before my sister told her school. since then my mom is still married to him but he is incarcerated. my mom lost two of her jobs and none of our dads pay child support except mine and it's $250 every two weeks, so she uses my money and i have no idea where it goes ??? when i need things or my sister needs things it's always like pulling teeth but she had no problem going to get her nails done! she brings over guys she barely knows (while we are all awake) after we tell her it makes us feel unsafe,and if she's not bringing them here, she stays out! sometimes doesn't come home for a weekend and there will be no food! she constantly ignores our mental health ,pushed me and my sister into taking anti-depressants, and my sister told me that she showed her pictures of grown men's private parts. i'm done. i'm tired of feeling unsafe in my own house and i'm tired of this affecting my sister, what can i do ?

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      • ccsmod5
        ccsmod5 commented
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        Thank you for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you and your sister have been through a lot over the last few years. Your situation is very difficult and serious. Everyone deserves to feel safe and loved in their own home. You are doing the right thing by advocating for yourself and looking for help. It’s good that your abuser is no longer in your house but it seems like you feel your mother is still making decisions that are negatively impacting you and your sister. Some options to think about are reaching out to your school counselor or another trusted adult in your community such as a relative or family friend. You could also consider letting dad know what kind of things you are dealing with in the home and that his child support is not reaching you. Something to think about is whether you and your sister would be open to filing a report with child services regarding neglect or endangerment. This might mean child services would visit and follow up with your mother regarding your welfare, safety and living situation. If you feel this would be an option for you, we can help you file that report.
        If you call our crisis hotline at (800) 786-2929 one of our trained volunteers would be happy to discuss what you are going through and help you think about what kind of options you might have to change you and your sister’s circumstances. Our hotline is staffed 24/7 and completely confidential. You can also chat online with a volunteer at our website www.1800runaway.org. There are a couple of other hotlines that might be a good resource for you as well.
        National Domestic Violence Hotline (800) 799-7233 www.thehotline.org
        Child Help – National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 www.childhelp.org
        RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network) (800) 656-4673 www.rainn.org
        You are taking the right steps to take care of yourself and your sister. Please call us to discuss what resources and help we might be able to offer you.

    • #4
      Hi I’m 14 and I feel I have an abusive dad. He says this is discipline though. I told dad to calm down because he always gets mad for little stuff like me and My sisters are bad children, but, we always listen to Dad and Mom. He never changes he always gets mad and he always screams. I know now that is what made me call him mean...I wasn’t being annoying but I was expressing myself in a plain and specific way saying he was mean. Dad thinks I said the f word, and both of my siblings and my friend know I don’t curse.I didn’t say the f word. And he beat me so much for that , it was like child abuse. Not even discipline. I was screaming “please Dad, please Dad” for mercy while he almost whipped every part of my body, and all because of 2 words. And he wonders why I asked him to calm down. I know me screaming is what saved me or I would’ve started bleeding. I would have to go to school and lie or drown in my thoughts about my abusive father. And my siblings had to just watch. It’s just sad, as his daughter I feel like he doesn’t love me. This type of stuff makes you depressed. I don’t wanna be depressed in Jesus name. This doesn’t happen everyday to other kids, and he’s always threatening to beat me and I’m just scared of him tbh(to be honest) should I call cps even though he’s only mean like this when he’s mad? I have everything else a good home food and water, and I go to an okay school plus I have a bed to sleep in. It’s just when he gets mad it doesn’t matter if we obeyed and we’re good for 5 months he would still whoop you and it’s like why do you have to beat your children there’s other discipline.

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      • ccsmod1
        ccsmod1 commented
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        Hey there,

        Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension; it's not fair that you are so severely punished for speaking your mind and are being accused of swearing when that's not something that you do.

        The "discipline" that you mentioned raises a lot of concern for your safety as it sounds like abuse. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

        If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

        All the best,
        NRS

    • #5
      Hello i'm 12 should i call cps on my mother? my mother ignores my emotional health since birth, I have depression and anxiety for 2 years and I want to go to therapy but my mom says that i'm faking my "illness". my brother is in therapy and not the both of us. My mom has one-on-one talks with my sibling and not me i'm very excluded in my family's fun time, Whenever i want time to cool down before I have a breakdown, my mom get's mad at me because I think stupidly. Whenever i want to spend time with my mom she pushes me away or buys me stuff to distract me.
      I'm slowly getting scared everywhere i go and whenever i tell my mother "I don't want to go" or " I don't want to do that" she yells at me or it's me.
      Should I call cps on my mother?

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
        Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe, NRS

    • #6
      Hello i’m 12 should i call cps on my mother?

      I want to leave my mother’s house she emotionally neglects me since i was small i have depression and anxiety and my mother is doing nothing but saying “suck it up” or getting angry at me because i’m sensitive.

      Yesterday i was having a breakdown in a building’s bathroom. I took a long time and when my mother went to the bathroom to get me, i was a balling mess, instead of my mom talking to me are calming me down she made me go out of the bathroom and got angry at me for “thinking so stupidly”.

      My mother spends money on me so i could shut up, i had depression for i think 3-ish years and all my mom could tell me is suck it up, When i told my mom if i can go to talk to someone about my problems she said no. When i wanted to talk to her she ignored me.

      When i want to have time with my mom she sends me something to do, When i say something like “i don’t want to do that” or “i don’t want to go” she gets mad at me.

      She has these one-on-ones with my sibling but never with me, She reads stories to my brother, but never to me, She says “good night” to everyone but one. I want someone to be there for me and my mom is not there. Should i call cps?

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
        If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #7
      Hello, I'm 16. I honestly have no idea if I should call CPS or not at this point. My mother constantly complains about how "I behave" and calls me abusive and manipulative even though I have no idea what I'm doing in the first place. More than half of the time I can't even think straight because she's yelling at the top of her lungs about something. She looses control of her temper at times and throws things or hits me. She did this when I was younger as well. She doesn't think what she's doing is bad, nor does she think that she needs to stop. The condition of our house isn't the best. It's messy, with the fact that the house is literally falling apart. Most of the time I'm blamed for our house being in the condition that it is as she says that I don't do anything around the house. My mother completely ignores my mental health even though my doctor has referred me to multiple therapist and psychiatrist. And no one in my family believes that she acts the way she does because she constantly lies about it. At this point I have no idea whether I'm a part of the issue of why she acts the way she does. I argue back with her, and loose my temper as well. But never to the extreme of physical violence. She usually over exaggerates what I do, saying that I tell her that she's dumb, stupid, and that she doesn't know anything on a daily basis. But yeah, I have no idea what to do at this point.

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      • ccsmod1
        ccsmod1 commented
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        Hey there,

        Thanks so much for contacting us, it takes a lot of courage to reach out and share your story. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. You should be able to go home to a place where you feel safe, secure, and comfortable. You mentioned some things about your mother's behavior that raise concern for your safety and well-being. Absolutely no one deserves to be abused. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering. It could be helpful to take pictures/video of any abusive actions taken by your mother or injuries caused by her. It may also be a good idea to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.

        If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

        All the best,
        NRS

    • #8
      My mom does drugs and calls me a bum and hates the way I dress. She also blames everything on me without her taking fault. I feel so depressed and upset she makes me very mad with her poor life decisions. I have gotten bad behavior over the years but I feel like its because of the way my mom treats me I'm just so angry at her for not caring. I have attempted to cut myself but never could because I know it's wrong. I know she loves me and cares but she also makes me very mad. Doing drugs even after I caught her 3 times. I cant decide if I should call 911 or cps or not call at all I dont wanna live with her because she makes my life so hard and I just dont wanna be here. She is probably not gonna believe me and think I'm making it up cause I have told her before but I just wanna better life. I cant go to my grandma cause she makes it 2x more hard but bringing up all the bad things I've done in the past. My grandma is the best loving person but I think I won't make it out alive of this hell with her and I don't know what to do. My mom cares and loves me I can tell that she also works very hard but I dont wanna he with a emotional abuser/drug addict I want to know what it's like to not fake a smile I want to be happy but I know if I don't get a case from cps it's going to make things worse. What should I do?

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      • ccsmod2
        ccsmod2 commented
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        Hello There,
        Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline we are here to help and here to listen. Wow it seems like you are going through a really difficult time right now. Doing drugs at home and from what you’re describing could be an unsafe situation. We are not here to tell you what not to do or what to do, as you know your situation the best.
        You always have the right to file an abuse report. You can always call The Child Help Line at:1800-422-4453. We know that sometimes making a report can be scary if you would like our help you may call us at any time. You also always have the right to call 911, if you ever feel like you are in danger. Another option for you could be talking to a counselor, sometimes talking to a professional can help us feel better.
        We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore your options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support to you. We wish you the best of luck!
        NRS

    • #9
      Look I feel like I've been driven into a corner. My parents are super tough. They come from this culture in which the parents (especially the father) are infallible and deserve the ultimate respect. Almost every day I get yelled at for the smallest things. Ex: yesterday what happened is that i was downstairs and was time for dinner. My mom screamed "its time for supper" but i had headphones so i didn't hear her. Eventually i heard her and came running up the stairs out of fear that she would get mad because she had to yell to many times but it was too late. She kept telling me how much her throat hurt from yelling so much and saying that all my fault. I told her "Im sorry. I didnt hear you." And she instantly screamed "DONT TALK BACK TO ME!!!" Another event that happened was today. So my report card came in today. They told me beforehand that no matter what grade i get there going to be happy and proud of me because they saw how much i studied for my final exams (which is true i studied my ass off) So yea let's just say my grades weren't great(I passed in all my subjects mind you except for one). They were so disappointed and mad at me. Naturally i felt lied to. I said "So you lied to me about being happy for me" In which my mom proceeded to slap me and say scream that she doesn't lie. Things like these happen on a regular basis. This my situation. I don't know if this abuse. I cry almost every day because of them. I dont know what to do any more. I need help.

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Hi there,
        Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
        If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe,
        NRS

    • #10
      I 15 and should I call cps on my mom? My mom is a single mom and she is taking care of me, a physical disable girl and my brother who is near his 40's and is mentally disabled. I know she is very stress with the both of us, but she will always threatened my brother when he eats something that he not supposed to with "Do you want me to throw this in your face" and other physical threats like that and is always saying he is eating himself to death (he is) when she is not trying very hard to stop it and she even made a remark on if my brother die "we cry for a bit, then buried him and then that's it" like she doesn't care at all. When my mom is mad at me she will go on to rants how my father was right to leave me, that when I go to college I better not come back, and recently she told me "even if you dying, I won't answer your call" when i feel like i was in danger and that it "doesn't matter." I know she just very stressed and maybe I just making a huge fuss over nothing but that really scares me.

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Hello,

        You mentioned some things that raise concern for your safety and well-being. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. We are not experts on the issue, but generally once it's been reported, social services will either decide whether or not to take the case and further investigate. If they do take the case, they will send out someone from child protective services to do an investigation (interviewing people in the household) and from there they will decide the level of danger within the household. It generally ranges from no danger (the youth stays in the home, some services are given, and the case is closed), moderate danger (they will provide family services with possible temporary displacement) and high danger (they will remove the youth from the home and offer certain services).

        If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

        Please be safe and reach out soon by phone or chat so that we may help.
        Take care,
        NRS

    • #11
      I'm twelve years old, and I'm wondering what i should do, I'm not brave at all, But here it goes..My mother is denial and delusional this is just an idea what she she's like. My mother lies for the stupidist reasons and to my dad, my dad is selfish though. But I'm not sure what to do in this situation, because i don't live or i mean not close to my family, and i don't have much family.

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      • ccsmod13
        ccsmod13 commented
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        Hi, thanks for reaching out to us at NRS.

        You mentioned that you’re not brave, but we want to acknowledge that it takes bravery just in the act of reaching out to us, so you deserve more credit than you’re giving yourself. It sounds like things have been really frustrating living with your parents at home. You asked in the subject if you should call CPS on your mother. It is hard to say based on what we know about your situation, but if you believe you are being physically, emotionally, and/or sexually abused or neglected, it is possible that it is worth notifying CPS and trying to get help. One website that might be useful in learning more about Child Abuse and options for help is: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. You are also more than welcome to give us a call at (800) 786-2929 to talk more about your situation, and we can help you decide your mom’s behavior qualifies as abuse. If it does, we can either call to make the report ourselves or call with you. If you are interested, you could also call the National Child Abuse Hotline (800) 422-4453 yourself to share with them your situation and see if they might be able to help. If you have access to a healthcare provider, school staff, counselor, or other professional person who you trust, they can also assist you in making a report or providing you with the support you need. Nobody deserves to be abused, and you do not have to go through this alone.

        Best of luck,
        NRS

    • #12
      I've been very unsure for some time on whether or not I should get outside help with my family situation. I'm 14, and have one older sister who's unable to walk and has severe allergies, an another older sister with emotional issues, and two parents that are fairly old to have a child my age.
      Ever since I can remember, my sister with emotional issues was emotionally and physically abusive to me. She'd belittle me daily, kick me down stairs, hit me, and push me. (When this was happening, I wasn't even four, and she was in her early twenties.) . At the time, I didn't tell my parents because of my age and not knowing that this abuse wasn't normal, and fearing that if I did tell my sister would lie and say it didn't happen. She would often be told to babysit me, and when we were home alone, her boyfriend would come over. I specifically remember her changing my diaper one day and him looking at me inappropriately without her knowing. She looked up following my gaze, and told him to get out. Even after this event took place, she still invited her boyfriend over. Although I was young, I knew what he did was wrong, and I was most definitely afraid of him. After the age of four, she moved out and later broke up with her boyfriend. Once again, I know I was very young, but memories like these stick with you.
      My other sister with physical and allergy issues was also in her early twenties at the time. She has had a lot of surgeries and health issues in the past, and most of my earliest memories were in the hospital, waiting on her to be released. Seeing my sister, who I viewed to be a role model at the time, constantly in life threatening condition, was very traumatic and impossible to forget.
      My parents were very hard on me when I was little. If I refused to eat something, I would be spanked by my mother or father many times in a row with wooden spatulas, paddles, you name it. I'm aware this fairly common for punishment, but it was pretty extreme considering they started this very young. I would be put in "time out" for two to five hours on end multiple times a day when I was little. I didn't have any friends, and I didn't even know how to socialize with anyone my age. This strongly affected my school years, and I didn't have even one friend until I reached fourth grade. I had never learned to be social and interact, and this caused bullying. After I began school, the physical violence coming from my parents got more extreme, less and less what one would consider normal. I would be drug by my hair up the stairs, slapped and/or punched in the face, etc. This decreased around the age of 11 or 12, and even though it's been a few years, I'm still afraid of them. My parents would threaten to take me to a mental hospital and practically brainwashed me into thinking I was the worst child out there. I was constantly made to feel not good enough, compared to my sisters, and made to feel like I was a mistake. Saying all of this would come to a shock of anyone who has known my parents. They go to church, they seem all nice to everyone else, etc. My parents buy me nice things, they feed me, give me clothes, shelter, medical care, etc. All of these things are very generous of them and I'm very thankful for the stuff they do for me. Because of these things, it's hard to talk to someone about what goes on. They just think that I'm not appreciative and that I'm bratty. I know I've done things, as everyone has, but nothing I have done deserves the emotional and physical abuse I've received from my parents, and I know that this is true.
      Because of these events, I have struggled and still struggle with severe disassociation (a common ptsd symptom), anxiety, suicidal thoughts, and depression. I've never felt there's a way out, and this has caused me to feel the only option was ending my life, and I have tried in the past. The emotional abuse has recently started getting worse again, and I'm feeling as though calling someone is my last resort. I question my decisions in telling people, I question whether I deserve it, and I'm just completely unsure of what to do.

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      • ccsmod15
        ccsmod15 commented
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        Thank you for reaching out to us here, it can take a lot of bravery to put something like this out there. It seems like you have gone through a lot since a young age, and have persevered. It is understandable to feel a sense of guilt when considering to report abusive behavior, especially of a close loved one. But physical and emotional abuse are never ok. You should be able to live in a safe and healthy environment and it seems like you think the one you are in now does not meet that standard.
        If you are having suicidal thoughts please don’t hesitate to call the National Suicide Prevent Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. Life can be hard at times but you seem to have gotten through a lot and you can persevere again.
        We are also totally willing to listen to your story on our hotline at 1-800-786-2929, often getting something so serious off your chest can feel like a giant relief. We try to be as non-judgemental and non-directional as possible so you won’t feel pressure from us to make a decision in one way or another. We can provide a safe space to talk to someone who doesn’t have a preconceived notion of who you or your parents are.
        If you are looking to talk face-to-face with another person you might consider a counselor. It could be a private one, a family-counselor, or your school counselor. They are there to listen to you and try and help you through issues you may be having.
        If you have other questions or need more help you can always email us, chat online through our website, or call our hotline at 1-800-786-2929.

    • #13
      So I’m not sure what to do here guess I have to start from the begging win I was around 2 my dad left me and my mom for another women which I don’t blame him because my mom has extreme bipolar disorder an she didn’t have help back then so she would lash out and yell I don’t Remember it all that well since I was 2 but soon after my mother left me to for drugs and my grandmother took me my mom came back into my life after about 2 years but would never let my dad see me she finally let him see me when I was around 5 but barley an she would always be dating a new guy every week an I’d be passed around with her from one boyfriend to another she met my step dad when I was about 8 and they got married so long story a little shorter I have a step mom and step dad I’m now 14 an see my mom a week then my dad a week but I have a little brother who is 6 and a sister who is 3 at my mothers an I’ve been raising both of them since I was about 11 my moms has been into marijuana well I’m not sure how long but I’ve know since I was 10 and she still does it she lies to everyone about it tho and my step dad has always made me uncomfortable giving me more attention as I got older and grew up and he is a major alcoholic and my mother again is bipolar and goes crazy in everyone my little brother has a bit of a behavior problem and my mother and step dad always seem to be a little to physical with him once my mother has even dragged him up the stairs by his throat because he wouldn’t take a picture my mother has recently gotten fired from he teaching job for doing inappropriate things and this has cause her to lash out more and more daily she’s either screaming and cussing out at me and my brother and sister (sometimes it even gets physical) or in her room smoking while I watch the kids she’s currently waiting to go to court due to her issues with her teaching job and everything just keeps getting worse I’m not sure what to do anymore because I can’t be around all the time to protect my brother and sister from her and she won’t let me grandmother come in and see them either I don’t feel like there safe there and I don’t know what I should do please give me some advice

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        Hello,

        Thank you for reaching out to NRS! From what you shared it sounds like you have been dealing with a lot and are not sure what you can do to change the situation. Home is supposed to be safe and it seems like your mom has been making you feel very unsafe which is not okay. You deserve to feel loved and supported.

        If you are not feeling safe at home, you can always call 911 for emergency services. Additionally, you have the option of filing an abuse report. Child Help is available to help you at 1-800-422-4453 for more information and help filing an abuse report. NRS is available 24/7 if you ever need someone to listen or you want to talk more about options. There might also be people around you who could offer some support in your situation. We encourage you to reach out to a friend or an adult at school you trust for support. An adult at school will also be able to help you file an abuse report if that’s what you want.

        Please feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat with us at 1800runaway.org.

        Stay strong,
        NRS

    • #14
      Hi I'm 15 and I don't know whether to call CPS on my mother.

      I apologize if this a bit scrambled its late and I'm definitely panicking about this subject ​​​​​​I came out to my mom as gay in July earlier this year and her behavior quickly became aggressive. She is a born again Christian and WILL NOT tolerate having a gay child under her roof. While I have tried convincing her to allow me to simply stay with other family she is convinced she can 'fix me.' she sends me to Christian therapy as well as forces me to go to every church event I could possibly go to, she constantly harasses me about the subject, whether it's invasive questioning, insulting me or straight up screaming and threatening to hurt me. She has had church members watch me around town when I'm out with any girl, if I'm seem having any physical contact with another girl (I'm talking like even the slightest such as sitting 'too close together') I am screamed at, I have all devices taken away, including my school issued laptop which I need to do homework and I am put under house arrest. In addition to my sexuality she is very focused on my appearance, more specifically my weight. I'm not overweight but I'm definitely not a twig, but my mom believes I need to lose a large amount of weight, even encouraging me to start an eating disorder. She loves to publicly humiliate me if I stand even a bit out of line, she has screamed at me in a car full of my friends, loudly ridiculed me for my weight in the middle of a mall and even grabbed me by the hair in a store. She refuses to take me to a doctor even for yearly checkups claiming that it's too expensive even though I very clearly have areas of concern. She believes mental health is a giant performance to get the attention of others. She makes fun of my anxiety attacks and yells at me for saying I'm depressed. I even came to her saying I have considered suicide but she simply told me I was an attention w*ore my mother doesn't have a mobile phone, she refuses to get anything more than a home phone. She has left me stranded places such as empty parking lots and closing coffee shops until and I have had no way of contacting her, but if I am to call someone else to pick me up she threatens to press kidnapping charges. I'm starting to really question calling CPS on my mother but I fear if my case falls through that the aggressive behavior will only get worse.

      Last edited by ccsmod4; 12-05-2019, 07:57 AM.

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        Hi,
        Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. You made a great first step to finding the help that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a lot and we understand how not having a supportive parent can be frustrating. You deserve to be treated with respect, to experience acceptance and to feel safe. You are in no way at fault for her reaction and treatment.

        We want you to know that you are strong for having gone through so much already. It is perfectly okay to deviate from what others or the common population believe to be “normal”. Your bravery and resilience is so admirable. You are so strong for having gone through so much without having the acceptance that you do deserve for just being you. Remember that you are not alone. If you ever want to talk more about what you are experiencing or get additional support we are here 24/7 at 1800-RUNAWAY or our live chat service. The GLBT National Hotline at 1-888-843-4564 is another option to gain great support from those that are familiar with the issues and experiences of those that are also a part of the LGBTQ community. You can access their website link bellow to utilize all the other possibly useful resources they have to offer: http://www.glbthotline.org/

        You mentioned that you were considering the options that may be best for you. By all means, if you do fear for your safety either now or in the future, do not hesitate to take the necessary steps to regain your safety. This may mean calling the authorities (child services) and possibly reporting the things you may be experiencing. Other options to think about may be other family members, friends, or a trusted adults that would be able to provide you with support or a safe place to stay. It is great that you thinking ahead
        If you can would like to give us a call at 1-800-RUNAWAY or live chat www.1800runaway.org we can hear your thoughts about what you think is best for your situation and even explore some options with you. If you feel unsafe and or at risk we encourage you to reach out for help with emergency services by dialing 9-1-1. To report any form of child abuse you can do so at school by explaining your situation to a teacher, counselor or social worker. They are mandated to file a child abuse report on your behalf. If you would like to file a report contact Child Help at: 1-800-422-4453

        Stay Strong and be safe,
        NRS
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