My mom might be an alcoholic and my dad is an enabler.

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Ever since 2014 when my mom's mother committed suicide, my mother has been extremely hysterical. She's had episodes of drinking that'll start at three in the afternoon and will end around one or two in the morning. I never really had a good relationship with her and we always butt heads.

I personally don't think I'm mentally stable, but my parents don't necessarily think that mental disorders are an actual thing.

My mother has continually called me names, harassed me, told me I'm the cause of her unhappiness and tore down my self-esteem. My father is only good for standing by her in anything and everything she says. He allows her to call me a "b*tch," and he allows her to get uncontrollably drunk around 5/7 nights a week, he just won't do anything to upset her; even if it means that I'm in danger.

My parents don't know that I used to be suicidal, and my friends never took it seriously. It has always been an option in the back of my mind, but now I'm thinking that I want to live a full life. Running away seems to be my only way out of this and I don't have a plan. I want to leave tonight but I don't know where to go, who to call, what to do, or if I get caught what to do.

I don't know if my mother's actions could be considered abuse, but to me it's exactly what it feels like. I know it's not physical, but it hurts a lot more than I would ever expect it to.

I don't know what to do. All I know is that I can't spend another day in the house of people who don't care what happens to me.

Please help me.

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Re: My mom might be an alcoholic and my dad is an enabler.

Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like ever since your grandmother committed suicide your mother’s behavior has become out of control. We cannot imagine how all of this must be wearing on you, you sound like such a strong and mature individual. We want you to know that we here at NRS care about you and want you to be happy. It sounds like your mother is having a hard time processing the death of her mother and her grieving is having negative effects on you. While we want you to understand that we cannot change your mother’s behavior what we can do is provide you with some tools that can help you manage living with her more effectively. One resource that we would like to provide for you today is http://www.familiesanonymous.org/ Families Anonymous is a 12 Step fellowship for the families and friends who have known a feeling of desperation concerning the destructive behavior of someone very near to them, whether caused by drugs, alcohol, or related behavioral problems.
Although we cannot tell you what you are experiencing is abuse https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/ has more information about what Child Protective Services considerer’s abuse and what you can do to keep yourself safe and possibly was that you can report it. If you ever felt like making a report or needed help, we are here to assist with that. We understand that making an abuse report can be intimidating so if you like we can call together to provide support.
We are glad to hear that you now understand the full value of your life and that it is not something that you want to give up on. Since you mentioned that you feel right now that your only option is to runaway we want you to know that we support you 100%. We are here to try to provide you with support and resources so that if you do decide to leave home, you are doing it intelligently and safely. We cannot tell you what to do because no one knows what’s best for you than you. So if running away is something that you really want to do then you are more than welcome to give us a call and we can talk about all of your options and help you come up with a safety plan.
If you feel comfortable you can give us a call 1-800-RUNAWAY