I need some advices...

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I am a 20 year-old girl from an half middle-easter country...I am in depression...I am abused in my childhood, my life wasn't easy so far. Now, I am in college and I hate the department I am studying...This department is not my interest, my family chose it for me... I like nature and aesthetic thing. My family doesn't let me leave the college or change the department, so I want to get a course like baking, drawing, sports, but my family doesn't let me take a course... My dreams are getting career what I love, helping people and share and living in abroad... Will I destroy my dreams? I don't want to destroy my dreams... I cry everynight and I use medicine... Secondly, my family and relatives are strict. They don't respect my beliefs, opinions and they want me to find a partner to marry... But I don't want to marry... I want to run away abroad. All day I am researching different countries...But our financial situation is very bad... I am planning to get a course secretly and find a job and save money to run away... Can you give me some advice? What shoukd I do? Can they find me? I really feel lonely... I have few friends at all...
Thanks for reading...

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Re: I need some advices...

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. We’re here to support you and help you. We want you to know that no one deserves to be abused and treated that way. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really tough time in the past and currently with school and your family.

It must be difficult to feel forced into doing things you don’t want to do and feeling like it’s hard to follow your dreams. We want you to know that you are worth it and that there is hope for you. If you haven’t already, you could consider telling someone about the abuse you’ve experienced. No one should have to go through abuse. You could also consider finding coping mechanisms for your depression or getting help for your depression, if you haven’t already. It sounds like you and your parents don’t see eye to eye on some things; that must be frustrating. If you haven’t already, you could consider talking to your parents about your goals and feelings, or have someone help you talk to your parents. It sounds like you’re trying to save up money to get away from your family. You asked if your family could find you. We’re not legal experts here at NRS, but since you are a legal adult, generally your parents are not able to legally control you, would not be able to file a runaway report, and the police would not be able to bring you home.

It sounds like you have a lot of interests and dreams and desire to accomplish these goals. That takes a lot of strength to go after these goals and seek out help. It sounds like you have some ideas about what you might like to study in school. You could consider talking to advisors or counselors at school about your goals, if you haven’t already. Or you could get involved in groups or clubs at school to build a community.

It sounds like you’re feeling really worried about the future and reaching your dreams. There are many resources out there to help you talk through your goals, talk with your family, cope with depression, and help you deal with anything else you may be struggling with. If you would like more information about any specific resources, feel free to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (1-800-786-2929) or chat with us online.

Again, thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’ve been going through a really tough time, but it sounds like you have strong goals for the future. It takes a lot of strength to reach out for help. If there is anything else we can help you with in the future, feel free to call us or chat with us online. We’re here to listen and here to help.

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Re: I need some advices...

Hello. Thanks for answering... Your answer made me happier... I want to talk to you but I don't live in USA, Australia, UK or Canada, so phone call and live chat is not avaliable for me. How can I send an e-mail to you?

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Re: I need some advices...

Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: http://www.childhelplineinternationa...where-we-work/
We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.