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  • I need to get away from my mother.

    Please, I need info on what I can do in this situation.
    My mother is a single mom and I am currently 14 years old. My mother in recent years has changed for the worst.
    When I was little, my mother did have a drinking problem but did resolve this issue and never did harm me because of the drinking. Other than this, she had been a great mom and I loved her.
    Now, recently, she's had what I feel is her going nutty with religion.
    When my mother started going to a new church, she quickly became very VERY biased about religion and tells me so many insane things.
    She tells me she's seen hell, heaven, that she's had encounters with aliens, and all kinds of other things.
    It's gotten to the point I can't take this anymore. She's extremely biased for her religion, and says awful things about religions like Islam and anything other than Christianity. My mom has become manipulative and emotionally abusive towards me. She will change the subject when I'm angry or in need of help, she'll use her power in the house against me, she'll take everything I have away because we have differing views on religion, and she even tells me things like I'm not gay and refuses to actually support me. I told her I was gay months ago, and she was fine with it, but now it's all she can talk about.
    What can I do in this situation? I know my mom isn't physically abusing me, but she's putting a mental toll on my life and I need to get away.
    I've considered going with my father, since I do still see him now and then, but he lives in a different town and I feel changing schools and losing all my friends would just worsen my mental health as of right now.
    What can I do about this? My mom is very close minded, and won't hear me out even if I tell her how I really feel.

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    Re: I need to get away from my mother.

    Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that you mother has changed and become biased about religion, we cannot imagine how difficult this must make living at home. Unfortunately there is not going to be much that can be done in the way of changing your mother’s beliefs but since you did mention that she has been focusing on the face that you are gay. One resource that you might find useful is GLBT National Hotline 1-88-843-4564 GLBT National Hotline volunteer one-to-one online chat that helps both youth and adults with coming-out issues, safer-sex information, school bullying, family concerns, relationship problems and a lot more.
    You mentioned that you were thinking about going to stay with your father but are having reservations because he lives in a different part of town. If moving in with him is not an option for you maybe you can get him to talk to your mother. He could possibly explain to her that her behavior is affecting you.
    Also perhaps you can consider using our conference calling service, this is a service where you would call us and we would hold a conference call between you and your parents to talk about how both sides are feeling. We would serve as mediators, we are not here to necessarily choose sides but rather help come up with a solution that would make the situation at home better. This might be helpful to you if you have concerns about your mother not listening or not being open to hear what you have to say. If you feel like this is a service that you would find useful you can give us a call and one of our trained liner will be happy to assist you.
    We are here to listen and help however we can. 1-800-RUNAWAY
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