My stepdad scares me

[Guest]

Hello I am 15 and I don’t feel safe in my own household I attempted to tell my mother but I’m not sure she believed me. I don’t feel safe around my step dad at home I always have a feeling he’s going to hurt me or touch me even if he says he won’t. It sad I can’t even feel safe at home when I don’t feel safe at my school either. I had the option in December to go to my grandmothers but all of a sudden my mother won’t let me I am not sure what to do as all it feels like I do anymore is cry or get upset dude to my stepdad please help me

[ccsmod1]

Hey there,

Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live with your stepdad when you are constantly on edge around him.

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. If any harm or abuse is happening at home, you have the right to report it. If you feel like this is an option you want to explore, you may find this website helpful: https://www.childhelp.org/child-abuse/. We can also help you to file a report if that’s the route you are considering.

It sounds really frustrating to have your mother reverse her approval of you staying with your grandparents. It could be a good idea to work with a local family counselor or have a conversation mediated by a school counselor/social worker, trusted friend, or family member to help clear the air. If you'd like, you can also call us directly and we can conduct a conference call with your mother so you have a safe environment where you can express yourself.

If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

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Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I feel like my step-dad is going to hurt me, he yells and screams at me a lot. He never has abused me but I feel like he will. I told my mom she doesn't care. What should I do?

[ccsmod8]

Hello there -

Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are in a very tough situation, and it’s very brave of you to reach out for help. Hopefully we can help in any way that we can. It can be frustrating not know what your next steps are going to be.

It's not okay that your step-dad bullies and/or screams and yells at you. You don't deserve that. It must be hard to pretend things are fine after dealing with him. Our number one priority is to make sure you are safe. It's good to have a plan of where you can go if you ever feel in danger. That could be to a trusted neighbor or friends house, or it could be a room in your house you can lock and get away from him. If you ever feel unsafe, you can also call 911.

If you have a specific question that you can't find the answer to on any of these threads or maybe find a place to vent about what you are feeling right now, you can always call us. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on. Since it's a public forum, we can't give you a resource here, but if you connect with us via phone or online chat, we can take a look in our database and hopefully be able to locate a youth agency that can provide you local support. Please reach out via phone or even our online chat for more help.

We hope to hear from you so that we can help you further.

[Guest]

My stepdad has screamed, yelled, got in my face, called me names like b*itch, c*unt, Al Lin front of my mom. He’s also threatened me and has put hands on me but didn’t hurt me. I’m 15 years old, and my parents are split up. My dad knows most of what’s happened with my stepdad but I don’t think he understands how unsafe I feel, and therefore I don’t believe he will let me stay with him and not with my mom. I don’t know what to do. Cops was involved once because of a fight between my mom and I but that did nothing but make everything 10x worse. I don’t know what to do.

[ccsmod3]

Hi, thank you for reaching out. That sounds really scary and your stepdad should never be treating you this way. It’s also frustrating that mom sees it, but does nothing to help or stand up for you. It seems like you have told your dad about things that have happened, it could be helpful to try talking with dad again to see if he would allow you to stay with him. Even if he doesn’t fully understand how scared you are, his goal should be your safety and with stepdad, that does not sound guaranteed. We want to help as best as we can, so if you would like to talk more about what you are going through or some possible options to help, please reach out to our hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat us online at 1800runaway.org. We hope to hear from you soon.
Be safe,
NRS